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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I never had a fwb before from fab. I usually just meet one time only with men on fab. But this guy I really like meeting and believe he feels the same way. I was just going to leave him a good verification but saw he had a new verification. I'm not sure how to feel about this one as I always been in monogamous relationships in the past. Do I stop sleeping with him and just stick to one nighters meets? But reading the verification made me abit uneasy. How do I get over this as we do have a great time in and out of the bedroom

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By *iss KinkWoman  over a year ago

North West

You are not in a relationship so I guess he can do what he likes? I guess you need to have a chat about things

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"You are not in a relationship so I guess he can do what he likes? I guess you need to have a chat about things "

Oh course he can do what he likes and so can I but as I never had a fwb before whom I found out who else he slept with, it been abit tricky to accept. Usually I don't discuss these things. Just go with the flow and claim ignorance

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'd bin him. I don't like knowing who else they fucked. I find the verification system really creepy with zero privacy. I'd find a non Fab FWB.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I suggest a proper chat about what FWB means to you and what the boundaries are around that. If this is new to you then read something like the Ethical Slut for guidance.

Going with the flow doesn’t work without boundaries in my experience. It puts you at high risk of catching something. If there isn’t enough maturity to have that honest and open kind of conversation I would move on.

I’m the end I have found “serial monogamy” to suit me a lot better than musical chairs with partners. Happy to chat privately if you need more support x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman  over a year ago

ashford

Depends if u want exclusive? Have a chat maybe? I'm planning on meeting up with a man I met on pof few times then on here for a fwb setup! But will make it clear to him it won't b exclusive! We are going to meet for just a chat to set out what we both want from this kind of set up! Good luck! X

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan  over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"But reading the verification made me abit uneasy. How do I get over this as we do have a great time in and out of the bedroom "

I’d say that you two need to talk about it. Maybe you want different things. Or maybe he’d be into a monogamous relationship with you but has no idea you feel that way. You won’t know unless you chat it through.

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By *oodmessMan  over a year ago

yumsville

Fwb aren't like dating. It isn't a conversation along the lines of "will you be my bf", they more happen that you meet (and shag), a good number of times to the point where you find yourselves comfortable with each other. From that, you trust each other enough to either shag, go out, leave alone, call, help out or whatever.

It doesn't stop them or you meeting, they are their own person, simply you trust each other not to let the other down or mess you around.

It sounds like you met someone you liked but are jealous they meet - why can't you leave him a veri?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'd bin him. I don't like knowing who else they fucked. I find the verification system really creepy with zero privacy. I'd find a non Fab FWB. "

I think it was creepy to hear another woman describe her sexual experience exactly like mine and saying she's looking forward seeing him again etc. Lol maybe it's my ego or jealousy that's the issue here as he's super lovely to me...too lol

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By *otsossieMan  over a year ago

Chesterfield

I can see how that would get weird.

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex

It's a case of like it or lump it in my opinion. I don't know the terms of your arrangement but personally I wouldn't be putting emotional labour or working on myself for the sake of a fwb relationship. For me it's not worth it for sex.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"It's a case of like it or lump it in my opinion. I don't know the terms of your arrangement but personally I wouldn't be putting emotional labour or working on myself for the sake of a fwb relationship. For me it's not worth it for sex. "

True, I rather ride my bike than have sex. Way more exciting and less emotional lol

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"It's a case of like it or lump it in my opinion. I don't know the terms of your arrangement but personally I wouldn't be putting emotional labour or working on myself for the sake of a fwb relationship. For me it's not worth it for sex.

True, I rather ride my bike than have sex. Way more exciting and less emotional lol"

well I'm not sure I'd go quite that far but yeah lol.

I think it's great when you like someone and sex is good but I think women in particular are taught to make adjustments to themselves and the way they feel in order to make a relationship work which is fine...If it's worth it and the other person/people are putting in the graft too. Unless it's likely to develop, this relationship isn't worth it.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple  over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Fab is an unusual site, in that the default assumption is that any meet from here is non-monogamous. It sounds like your feelings have grown for this guy, so if you want to change to monogamy then you have to talk to him.

It's clear that he doesn't see your relationship as a monogamous one - or he wouldn't have published the verification. He's still "advertising". So I wouldn't get your hopes up, but I wish you luck.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Fab is an unusual site, in that the default assumption is that any meet from here is non-monogamous. It sounds like your feelings have grown for this guy, so if you want to change to monogamy then you have to talk to him.

It's clear that he doesn't see your relationship as a monogamous one - or he wouldn't have published the verification. He's still "advertising". So I wouldn't get your hopes up, but I wish you luck."

Just added info .. he posted that verification before we fucked. Not sure if that makes a difference but to read another woman saying same things that I was about to write kinda freaked me out as i never experienced this before

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By *ealitybitesMan  over a year ago

Belfast

My FWB and I have known each other 3 years and for the majority of that time haven't met anyone else due to covid restrictions, health issues and real life priorities.

It's easy to say a good fwb arrangement should be based on communication but only if both parties are open to communicating and are on the same wavelength.

On a previous profile a woman I met a few times decided she wanted us to be fwb's and I said no because it involved a 6 hour round trip and I really had no interest in that arrangement.

She already had 2 fb's or fwb's and was adamant she would continue to meet both but insisted I was to be exclusive to her.

Once again I said no.

During the time I knew her she also had a handful of casual meets while I had one coffee social with someone we both knew through a chatgroup.

We went absolutely ballistic over that coffee meet and told the others in the chatgroup how I had hurt her and had been misleading her.

Fortunately for me the others knew exactly what was going on and took my side throughout.

I hid my profile and didn't log in for a year because of the drama she created both here and offsite.

If the guidelines aren't clear from the outset or there are doubts on either side it's not worth the hassle.

I have seen too many people on here who prioritise sex over everything else and refuse to accept that others don't do the same.

I want nothing to do with anyone with that attitude but regardless the best advice is to set clear boundaries and talk directly to the man or woman rather than assume you already know their opinion.

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By *arkandlovelyWoman  over a year ago

South Derbyshire


"Fab is an unusual site, in that the default assumption is that any meet from here is non-monogamous. It sounds like your feelings have grown for this guy, so if you want to change to monogamy then you have to talk to him.

It's clear that he doesn't see your relationship as a monogamous one - or he wouldn't have published the verification. He's still "advertising". So I wouldn't get your hopes up, but I wish you luck.

Just added info .. he posted that verification before we fucked. Not sure if that makes a difference but to read another woman saying same things that I was about to write kinda freaked me out as i never experienced this before "

Is he doing this to mess with your head? Maybe this one is best left.

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By *iss DevilWoman  over a year ago

Bedford

OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple  over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women. "

have to say without wishing to upset anyone, we do agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I'd bin him. I don't like knowing who else they fucked. I find the verification system really creepy with zero privacy. I'd find a non Fab FWB.

I think it was creepy to hear another woman describe her sexual experience exactly like mine and saying she's looking forward seeing him again etc. Lol maybe it's my ego or jealousy that's the issue here as he's super lovely to me...too lol"

If he's a good fuck you could still meet him but never look at his profile again.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women. "

Not everyone is a swinger on here and it's not mandatory either.

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By *viatrixWoman  over a year ago

Redhill

I feel sick whenever I see someone I am meeting has a new verification …

But then again I get about 4 veris for every one of them they get so I can’t say anything really, lol. I have been in no position to ask for exclusivity.

Curiously enough, today I have been asked for exclusivity. And I am very seriously considering it as long as if is mutual and there is enough time for us to meet.

It is a minefield!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple  over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women.

Not everyone is a swinger on here and it's not mandatory either."

With due respect we agree not all are swingers lets face it there are 1000s of pic hunters for a start, but as was said it is a Swingers site, started by swingers for swingers and therefore the OP cannot really be surprised if someone they met on here turns out to be a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women.

Not everyone is a swinger on here and it's not mandatory either.

With due respect we agree not all are swingers lets face it there are 1000s of pic hunters for a start, but as was said it is a Swingers site, started by swingers for swingers and therefore the OP cannot really be surprised if someone they met on here turns out to be a swinger "

Fair point.

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By *lackshadow7Man  over a year ago

Toronto


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women.

Not everyone is a swinger on here and it's not mandatory either."

True, but it is literally in the name of the site, so a certain level of expectation is to be expected.

Like, this is explicitly not a traditional dating site, and approaching it as such, is a recipe for disaster.

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By *uke olovingmanMan  over a year ago

Gravesend


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women. "

Perhaps he was just practicing

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple  over a year ago

Weymouth

I've only had a FWB once when I was single, it was a D/s sort of dynamic and I remember being a bit weirded out when he randomly started reading me his fab veris!! We first met on a dating app, then continued on a site that shall not be named.

I got hurt in the end, I didn't exactly have feelings but he kept blowing me off and then raunchy photos appeared of him with someone MUCH younger than me

Mr Fox actually alerted me to this, and that was when I realised I couldn't be involved with someone who couldn't communicate!

Sorry for the ramble but I do recognise your feelings here - Xeno xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women.

Not everyone is a swinger on here and it's not mandatory either.

True, but it is literally in the name of the site, so a certain level of expectation is to be expected.

Like, this is explicitly not a traditional dating site, and approaching it as such, is a recipe for disaster."

Yeah I would never date anyone on here. I wouldn't trust them, they'd just keep fucking around.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've only had a FWB once when I was single, it was a D/s sort of dynamic and I remember being a bit weirded out when he randomly started reading me his fab veris!! We first met on a dating app, then continued on a site that shall not be named.

I got hurt in the end, I didn't exactly have feelings but he kept blowing me off and then raunchy photos appeared of him with someone MUCH younger than me

Mr Fox actually alerted me to this, and that was when I realised I couldn't be involved with someone who couldn't communicate!

Sorry for the ramble but I do recognise your feelings here - Xeno xx"

That sounds like an abusive relationship. Not swinging.

Hope you are ok now.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple  over a year ago

Weymouth


"I've only had a FWB once when I was single, it was a D/s sort of dynamic and I remember being a bit weirded out when he randomly started reading me his fab veris!! We first met on a dating app, then continued on a site that shall not be named.

I got hurt in the end, I didn't exactly have feelings but he kept blowing me off and then raunchy photos appeared of him with someone MUCH younger than me

Mr Fox actually alerted me to this, and that was when I realised I couldn't be involved with someone who couldn't communicate!

Sorry for the ramble but I do recognise your feelings here - Xeno xx

That sounds like an abusive relationship. Not swinging.

Hope you are ok now. "

Bless you love, it was a real mindfuck as my relationship prior to being single was abusive - I was looking for fun and frolics, not melon twisting

Hugs

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I just never met a swinger before and yes I'm not a swinger just into casual sex and spice up my sex life

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women.

Not everyone is a swinger on here and it's not mandatory either.

True, but it is literally in the name of the site, so a certain level of expectation is to be expected.

Like, this is explicitly not a traditional dating site, and approaching it as such, is a recipe for disaster.

Yeah I would never date anyone on here. I wouldn't trust them, they'd just keep fucking around. "

I do understand the concept of swinging. I didn't use this site to look for swingers or to date anyone. I actually was looking for mfm. Ended up making new friends, afew crud dates, went to sex club, drew afew fabbers and written afew stories. So I think fab caters for all sorts of people. I'm just saying I'm using to one night stands, flings or serious relationships. This situation is totally new to me and felt like ignorance would of been better than knowing. Maybe in hindsight, not to look on his profile would of been better. I'm not looking for a romantic relationship, just fun sex with men I feel comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

There's plenty of people on here who met each other and still going together x it's a shagging site so you shouldn't have to worry about a couple of verifications x hope that yous end up together x don't let the green eye monster to spoil it okay dokey xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

You don't need to get over it. If it bothers you just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women.

Not everyone is a swinger on here and it's not mandatory either.

True, but it is literally in the name of the site, so a certain level of expectation is to be expected.

Like, this is explicitly not a traditional dating site, and approaching it as such, is a recipe for disaster.

Yeah I would never date anyone on here. I wouldn't trust them, they'd just keep fucking around.

I do understand the concept of swinging. I didn't use this site to look for swingers or to date anyone. I actually was looking for mfm. Ended up making new friends, afew crud dates, went to sex club, drew afew fabbers and written afew stories. So I think fab caters for all sorts of people. I'm just saying I'm using to one night stands, flings or serious relationships. This situation is totally new to me and felt like ignorance would of been better than knowing. Maybe in hindsight, not to look on his profile would of been better. I'm not looking for a romantic relationship, just fun sex with men I feel comfortable with."

So what's the issue? You do sound intiallly like you'd hope for more? And maybe you need to see if they're on the same page? But if they're not you can't really hold them to that either. Hope it works out

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women.

Not everyone is a swinger on here and it's not mandatory either.

True, but it is literally in the name of the site, so a certain level of expectation is to be expected.

Like, this is explicitly not a traditional dating site, and approaching it as such, is a recipe for disaster.

Yeah I would never date anyone on here. I wouldn't trust them, they'd just keep fucking around.

I do understand the concept of swinging. I didn't use this site to look for swingers or to date anyone. I actually was looking for mfm. Ended up making new friends, afew crud dates, went to sex club, drew afew fabbers and written afew stories. So I think fab caters for all sorts of people. I'm just saying I'm using to one night stands, flings or serious relationships. This situation is totally new to me and felt like ignorance would of been better than knowing. Maybe in hindsight, not to look on his profile would of been better. I'm not looking for a romantic relationship, just fun sex with men I feel comfortable with."

Everyone is looking for different things. Just need to find someone compatible.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"OP, this is a swingers site, and as he is on this site, he considers himself a swinger, at least to some extent. It's not a "I've shagged you and you're now mine and nobody else's" site, unless that's what you agreed beforehand. If you didn't, you should not expect him to be exclusive to you, nor he should expect you to be exclusive to him. I'm sorry, OP, but from reading some of your threads, I think you struggle with grasping the concept of swinging.

And just because another lady enjoyed meeting the guy you met (afterwards), it only means (to me anyway) that he is good at what he does, a genuine person and enjoys pleasuring women.

Not everyone is a swinger on here and it's not mandatory either.

True, but it is literally in the name of the site, so a certain level of expectation is to be expected.

Like, this is explicitly not a traditional dating site, and approaching it as such, is a recipe for disaster.

Yeah I would never date anyone on here. I wouldn't trust them, they'd just keep fucking around.

I do understand the concept of swinging. I didn't use this site to look for swingers or to date anyone. I actually was looking for mfm. Ended up making new friends, afew crud dates, went to sex club, drew afew fabbers and written afew stories. So I think fab caters for all sorts of people. I'm just saying I'm using to one night stands, flings or serious relationships. This situation is totally new to me and felt like ignorance would of been better than knowing. Maybe in hindsight, not to look on his profile would of been better. I'm not looking for a romantic relationship, just fun sex with men I feel comfortable with.

So what's the issue? You do sound intiallly like you'd hope for more? And maybe you need to see if they're on the same page? But if they're not you can't really hold them to that either. Hope it works out "

No it's not hoping for more, it's just coming to terms with verifications lol it just threw me abit as he met her straight away after me and she wrote stuff I was about to write. Abit weird and creepy but I'm over it now my brain has processed it.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"There's plenty of people on here who met each other and still going together x it's a shagging site so you shouldn't have to worry about a couple of verifications x hope that yous end up together x

don't let the green eye monster to spoil it okay dokey xx "

I read lots of marriages come from meeting fab but I seen couples happy to share but mainly the women having the fun! Lol MFM seems to take place alot

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By *carlettxWoman  over a year ago

Essex


"I never had a fwb before from fab. I usually just meet one time only with men on fab. But this guy I really like meeting and believe he feels the same way. I was just going to leave him a good verification but saw he had a new verification. I'm not sure how to feel about this one as I always been in monogamous relationships in the past. Do I stop sleeping with him and just stick to one nighters meets? But reading the verification made me abit uneasy. How do I get over this as we do have a great time in and out of the bedroom "

FWB clearly means something a little more special to you than him. Insensitive for him to meet someone else and display a veri with the whole FWB thing between you

If I’m honest I’m not a fan of veris of someone’s sexual conquests - I just see the need. Social ones prove enough that someone is real etc

I would put him to the kerb and find (if that’s what you would like) someone that wants to be your FWB and you are just his FWB

Hell girl , you look amazing in your pics - his loss , someone’s gain

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

What you are experiencing, is jealousy. Simple as that.

Even FWB isn't usually 'exclusive' as it's the one thing that makes it not a relationship. They are usually messy and one usually ends up catching feelings. It sounds like you have a little already whether you want to admit that or not?

He had no idea how you felt and is entitled to play with who he likes. But speak to him about how you honestly feel. You look amazing so I'm sure he will comply haha!

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"What you are experiencing, is jealousy. Simple as that.

Even FWB isn't usually 'exclusive' as it's the one thing that makes it not a relationship. They are usually messy and one usually ends up catching feelings. It sounds like you have a little already whether you want to admit that or not?

He had no idea how you felt and is entitled to play with who he likes. But speak to him about how you honestly feel. You look amazing so I'm sure he will comply haha!"

He played with her in-between meeting me. But slept with her before me. He's been really supportive of how I felt about it and we have came to a compromise without jepodising our connection with eachother. A true gent so I'm glad I met him , thought things through with abit of help from this forum. So that's the latest outcome from this post

Thanks for all the encouragement and positive advice given

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By *ellhungvweMan  over a year ago

Cheltenham


"What you are experiencing, is jealousy. Simple as that.

Even FWB isn't usually 'exclusive' as it's the one thing that makes it not a relationship. They are usually messy and one usually ends up catching feelings. It sounds like you have a little already whether you want to admit that or not?

He had no idea how you felt and is entitled to play with who he likes. But speak to him about how you honestly feel. You look amazing so I'm sure he will comply haha!"

I don’t think it has to end with feelings. I have several friends from the site that I see reasonably regularly. I enjoy their company and they enjoy mine but that doesn’t mean that any of us are going to catch “the feelings”.

I am increasingly thinking that one of the things that defines swingers is that they are able to avoid “the feelings” and keep a swinging relationship away from a “proper” relationship.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple  over a year ago

Weymouth


"What you are experiencing, is jealousy. Simple as that.

Even FWB isn't usually 'exclusive' as it's the one thing that makes it not a relationship. They are usually messy and one usually ends up catching feelings. It sounds like you have a little already whether you want to admit that or not?

He had no idea how you felt and is entitled to play with who he likes. But speak to him about how you honestly feel. You look amazing so I'm sure he will comply haha!

He played with her in-between meeting me. But slept with her before me. He's been really supportive of how I felt about it and we have came to a compromise without jepodising our connection with eachother. A true gent so I'm glad I met him , thought things through with abit of help from this forum. So that's the latest outcome from this post

Thanks for all the encouragement and positive advice given"

This has made my morning so far!! Wonderful outcome, so pleased

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"What you are experiencing, is jealousy. Simple as that.

Even FWB isn't usually 'exclusive' as it's the one thing that makes it not a relationship. They are usually messy and one usually ends up catching feelings. It sounds like you have a little already whether you want to admit that or not?

He had no idea how you felt and is entitled to play with who he likes. But speak to him about how you honestly feel. You look amazing so I'm sure he will comply haha!

He played with her in-between meeting me. But slept with her before me. He's been really supportive of how I felt about it and we have came to a compromise without jepodising our connection with eachother. A true gent so I'm glad I met him , thought things through with abit of help from this forum. So that's the latest outcome from this post

Thanks for all the encouragement and positive advice given

This has made my morning so far!! Wonderful outcome, so pleased "

However it may take some time for me to accept he's like that with every woman he meets and I'm not as special as he makes out me to be lol fab life eh

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Maybe it's just me but unless you had the conversation about meeting others prior, it is a swinging site and other meets will happen, unless this guy has been telling you he is only seeing you etc and then goes off to have another meet.

Id like to think if I ever did get a fwb from here, I'd like open communication and we are comfortable enough to say "I've got a meet later" and vice versa, just prepares you for the verification etc.

It's not a relationship at the end of the day.

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By *mwirralMan  over a year ago

wirral

The verification could be from a mett a while back, there is no time frame on verifying

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"What you are experiencing, is jealousy. Simple as that.

Even FWB isn't usually 'exclusive' as it's the one thing that makes it not a relationship. They are usually messy and one usually ends up catching feelings. It sounds like you have a little already whether you want to admit that or not?

He had no idea how you felt and is entitled to play with who he likes. But speak to him about how you honestly feel. You look amazing so I'm sure he will comply haha!

I don’t think it has to end with feelings. I have several friends from the site that I see reasonably regularly. I enjoy their company and they enjoy mine but that doesn’t mean that any of us are going to catch “the feelings”.

I am increasingly thinking that one of the things that defines swingers is that they are able to avoid “the feelings” and keep a swinging relationship away from a “proper” relationship."

No but in her case it sounds like that might have got involved. We are still human beings capable of emotion, can't turn off the crush switch!

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By *etcplCouple  over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"However it may take some time for me to accept he's like that with every woman he meets and I'm not as special as he makes out me to be lol fab life eh "

We all like to think or feel that we are special, so I don’t see anything wrong with how you have reacted.

Its more how you behave going forward.

Can you get past it, or will it be a blocker?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"What you are experiencing, is jealousy. Simple as that.

Even FWB isn't usually 'exclusive' as it's the one thing that makes it not a relationship. They are usually messy and one usually ends up catching feelings. It sounds like you have a little already whether you want to admit that or not?

He had no idea how you felt and is entitled to play with who he likes. But speak to him about how you honestly feel. You look amazing so I'm sure he will comply haha!

He played with her in-between meeting me. But slept with her before me. He's been really supportive of how I felt about it and we have came to a compromise without jepodising our connection with eachother. A true gent so I'm glad I met him , thought things through with abit of help from this forum. So that's the latest outcome from this post

Thanks for all the encouragement and positive advice given

This has made my morning so far!! Wonderful outcome, so pleased

However it may take some time for me to accept he's like that with every woman he meets and I'm not as special as he makes out me to be lol fab life eh "

He might act like that for every woman, it's kind of a bit of a game sometimes to get what you want isn't it? We are all selfish creatures deep inside!

But he might actually like you alot more and not have brought it up. Some people get freaked out if emotions get brought into things after all and maybe he worried bringing it up with you might have caused you to cut ties off!

You just never know!

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By *oodmessMan  over a year ago

yumsville

If guys read veris the same way, we'd either be disappointed we didn't get the world best bj or we'd be trying to constantly out-do their previous meets in order to write something new. It doesn't work like that, you meet to enjoy yourself - as you do with one nighters.

It doesn't sound like he was a fb or fwb just someone you'd met a couple of times. You can't have expectations or be protective of him when you're here for the same thing in different quantities.

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By *erfectman122Man  over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I bin him why would you want to know who else he’s fucked

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I bin him why would you want to know who else he’s fucked "

Loads of people do- they happily show their veris.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I bin him why would you want to know who else he’s fucked "

People use veri to prove they're genuine, reliable etc. I don't show my meets for their privacy and tbf i only like meeting men who have verifications. It just threw me seeing a meet veri straight after mine like i was in some competition in others which threw me abit. I'm ok about things now, ok

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I bin him why would you want to know who else he’s fucked

People use veri to prove they're genuine, reliable etc. I don't show my meets for their privacy and tbf i only like meeting men who have verifications. It just threw me seeing a meet veri straight after mine like i was in some competition in others which threw me abit. I'm ok about things now, ok "

I think you are trying to convince yourself. There are some gorgeous guys on Fab but they can meet women anywhere. If they are on Fab they are either in a marriage/relationship and use women here for extra sex or if they are genuinely single then they are here for no strings fun and sex.

I think you should stick to one night stands or club visits only and forget about an fwb.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This is when we dip

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By *orny PTMan  over a year ago

Peterborough

Fab is a bit like a time share, when it's your turn, it's your private palace, but seeing a different family having their holiday photos posted on Trust Pilot or something, in the very same balcony and kitchen/ pool area, can feel a bit freaky.

How would you react to that; as we can get emotionally attached and very territorial, without realising it?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Can anyone commit to having a monogamous relationship and be on a swingers site? Maybe a dating site would better suit if looking for someone to be monogamous.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Fab is a bit like a time share, when it's your turn, it's your private palace, but seeing a different family having their holiday photos posted on Trust Pilot or something, in the very same balcony and kitchen/ pool area, can feel a bit freaky.

How would you react to that; as we can get emotionally attached and very territorial, without realising it?"

I love this, its such a good way of thinking!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I bin him why would you want to know who else he’s fucked

People use veri to prove they're genuine, reliable etc. I don't show my meets for their privacy and tbf i only like meeting men who have verifications. It just threw me seeing a meet veri straight after mine like i was in some competition in others which threw me abit. I'm ok about things now, ok "

Perhaps write a story about it?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I would find being fwb ok but would still need honesty, but I guess ideally it would be a more hotwife situation, but I don’t think they could be honest enough for it to work and everyone have fun

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By *icknHMan  over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Personally, I couldn’t be monogamous with anyone unless I was in love…..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Personally, I couldn’t be monogamous with anyone unless I was in love….. "

What’s love got to do with it?

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By *unmatt888Man  over a year ago

Duns

Just a thought - if you’re not expecting monogamy, but just don’t want to hear about him with other women why not just tell him that, agree to communicate through other means than here (mobile, etc) and then block him on the site?

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By *ohnroy22Man  over a year ago

ennis

Tell him how u feel hopeful he might feel the same

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Fab is a bit like a time share, when it's your turn, it's your private palace, but seeing a different family having their holiday photos posted on Trust Pilot or something, in the very same balcony and kitchen/ pool area, can feel a bit freaky.

How would you react to that; as we can get emotionally attached and very territorial, without realising it?"

It's like this more than what other people saying it's because I want mono relationship. I actually didn't want a relationship with him. Just freaked out reading about a woman whom he met after me saying exactly the same words as i was going to write. Yes I don't want to hear about his present sex life, it just turns me off than on. Like i wouldn't talk to a single guy on fab if he had loads of action shot photos with other women. But maybe forward thinking, block any guy I met in person and stick to one night stands.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Tell him how u feel hopeful he might feel the same "

No it didn't work out like that in the end. We came to a good resolution and still friends

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By *orny PTMan  over a year ago

Peterborough

Sharing your spouse is more akin to Air BnB, where what's yours is open to others to sample and enjoy: for everybody's .

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By *orny PTMan  over a year ago

Peterborough


"Fab is a bit like a time share, when it's your turn, it's your private palace, but seeing a different family having their holiday photos posted on Trust Pilot or something, in the very same balcony and kitchen/ pool area, can feel a bit freaky.

How would you react to that; as we can get emotionally attached and very territorial, without realising it?

It's like this more than what other people saying it's because I want mono relationship. I actually didn't want a relationship with him. Just freaked out reading about a woman whom he met after me saying exactly the same words as i was going to write. Yes I don't want to hear about his present sex life, it just turns me off than on. Like i wouldn't talk to a single guy on fab if he had loads of action shot photos with other women. But maybe forward thinking, block any guy I met in person and stick to one night stands. "

Are you the jealous type? If you slept with someone famous and saw their kiss and tell (think News of the World exclusives or Love Island interviews, how would it affect you?

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