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By *orny1-4u OP Man
over a year ago
newcastle |
Not a sexist post how many men have had a woman message them 1st im just being curious ive had abt 3 in the time I've been a member 2 turned into great meets and still chat and meet for some fun the 3rd was a chat and was not for me.
Not forgetting you women what are your views on it |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
A few.
Two of them evolved in to brilliant D/s relationships for P.
And one (just L) was very intense, yet rather short lived.
A number have grown with us being approached in clubs.
Confidence in all parties is paramount. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had 2 message me first since the dawn of my time on here. Many TV/TS and a handful of guys.
But let's face it, it rarely happens because they are swamped going through their own horrendous inboxes |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
It's rare but when it happens you at least know you're off to a good start as they have chosen to contact you and remain in charge, I've had better connections with people who contacted me first, not many but it's always worked out better. |
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As the female half of the couple.
It is actually bizarrely more difficult approaching first on here than in real life. Because men outnumber women so much, and because we receive a fair few messages - I just assumed that if we weren’t approached first is was due to lack of interest.
That said - I have I initiated contact twice. And it was terrifying  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had my 1st today off young lady m/f she wants good seeing to whilst hubby watches don’t mind if i do "
Be careful. Might just be a man wanking and his wife doesn't exist. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've learned that women get so inundated and completely overwhelmed with messages on here, that its next to pointless sending out that first message yourself.
From the 4 women who have taken the initiative and messaged me first, I've ended up meeting 3 of them, and those 3 meets were really fun and I stay in touch with 2 of them as pals. Pretty good going I'd say. Now compared that to the god knows how many messages I've sent out first but haven't even had opened, let alone read or acknowledged lol.
But I guess that's to be expected when the men outnumber the women on here by a factor of something like a trillion to one haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think maybe 2 in @10 years on here. Neither came to anything..In the real World It's not uncommon for me to be approached first, usually by younger women. |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat |
You can count the number of times I have messaged guys first on one hand. Would love to be able to initiate more first contact but most guy's profiles give us so little to work with (dick pics, no bio etc). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to send out messages. Sometimes it evolves, sometimes not. Unfortunately I did have someone I ended up blocking then jump on me saying I message first in a thread. That felt a little uncomfortable as it's still not offering anything beyond a 'hello' when either sex send that intial contact out |
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Think I've had about 4/5 women message me first. No meets have come from them as they're either too far away or just wanting a chat. It makes a lovely change from all the dudes though. Wish it happened more often  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had my 1st today off young lady m/f she wants good seeing to whilst hubby watches don’t mind if i do
Be careful. Might just be a man wanking and his wife doesn't exist."
True,true very true.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m the bi fem half of us - I send messages when I find someone interesting that I/we may be keen to meet
Probably more often than my man, who says all our fun is about my needs not his |
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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago
Newferry, wirral |
on various sites over the years I have had quite a few tbh, but over 80% of these were single men pretending to be cpls or girls, trying to get me to meet the man on his own, some of these I probably would have met if they had been honest about it, a few I met for socials, and a few turned in to much more 1 was a relationship for about 18months, and another just a fuck buddy thing. |
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