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Preference Black only leaves me confused
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over a year ago
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I don't like to see any nationality, bodytype or similar being fetishised.
I think it objectifies and dehumanises the people in question.
I can only suppose they use fab to seek put what they do not already have at their disposal to enjoy within their marriage.
Isn't that the point? |
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It's not something I engage in, but...
At home someone might like to eat stew. When they go out they might like to eat kimchi, because they can't get it at home.
Different outlet, different desire. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand you are attracted to a black person but why are you married to a white person ?"
Is this directed at a particular couple who has blocked you?
I did not know that it is a requirement to be married to a white man before you can be attracted to a person from a different ethnic group..... |
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"It's not something I engage in, but...
At home someone might like to eat stew. When they go out they might like to eat kimchi, because they can't get it at home.
Different outlet, different desire."
What you need is Kimchi-jjigae, stew made with kimchi. Careful though, it can be a bit spicy! |
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"It's not something I engage in, but...
At home someone might like to eat stew. When they go out they might like to eat kimchi, because they can't get it at home.
Different outlet, different desire.
What you need is Kimchi-jjigae, stew made with kimchi. Careful though, it can be a bit spicy!"
Must not kink shame  |
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I haven’t been attracted to anyone who isn’t black for a long time. I date black men and I play with black men on here.
I understand where you’re coming from OP. White couples seeking solely black men/BBC I think it fetishising the black man. |
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"It's not something I engage in, but...
At home someone might like to eat stew. When they go out they might like to eat kimchi, because they can't get it at home.
Different outlet, different desire.
What you need is Kimchi-jjigae, stew made with kimchi. Careful though, it can be a bit spicy!
Must not kink shame "
Must not kimchi shame  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I haven’t been attracted to anyone who isn’t black for a long time. I date black men and I play with black men on here.
I understand where you’re coming from OP. White couples seeking solely black men/BBC I think it fetishising the black man. "
So you are fetishising them too.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I understand you are attracted to a black person but why are you married to a white person ?
Is this directed at a particular couple who has blocked you?
I did not know that it is a requirement to be married to a white man before you can be attracted to a person from a different ethnic group....."
This isn't personal I have been rejected it's just a question for a forum to see people's opinions |
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"I haven’t been attracted to anyone who isn’t black for a long time. I date black men and I play with black men on here.
I understand where you’re coming from OP. White couples seeking solely black men/BBC I think it fetishising the black man. "
Of course it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand you are attracted to a black person but why are you married to a white person ?"
I bet you really like Ferrari's, but I also bet you don't drive nor own one...
Why does anyone owe you an explanation as to who they are in love with and why they are in love with them? Being in love and marrying someone is completely different to having a specific attraction that is nothing more than sexual. But that being said, I'm getting subtle racist vibes with this post. Feels like you're just frustrated that a woman dares to have a specific preference that isn't you... but with black men of all people! |
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"I like to think I'm quite accomplished in the kitchen so when ever I go out for dinner I tend not to order food I think I can make easily and readily at home
Exactly my point "
Me and hubby both find darker skinned people attractive though neither of us have ever been with anyone darker than ourselves. We live in a country where 99.9% of people look like milk bottles so it's unsurprising that we find more exotic looking people attractive |
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"I haven’t been attracted to anyone who isn’t black for a long time. I date black men and I play with black men on here.
I understand where you’re coming from OP. White couples seeking solely black men/BBC I think it fetishising the black man.
So you are fetishising them too. "
How? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I haven’t been attracted to anyone who isn’t black for a long time. I date black men and I play with black men on here.
I understand where you’re coming from OP. White couples seeking solely black men/BBC I think it fetishising the black man. "
So couples seeking single bisexual ladies, the so-called lesser spotted unicorn, are fetishising that grouping of the community? |
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"I haven’t been attracted to anyone who isn’t black for a long time. I date black men and I play with black men on here.
I understand where you’re coming from OP. White couples seeking solely black men/BBC I think it fetishising the black man.
So couples seeking single bisexual ladies, the so-called lesser spotted unicorn, are fetishising that grouping of the community?"
Maybe, but I don’t think so. To me that’s not the same. Being bisexual is a thing. I understand couples who are bi looking to fulfill that desire outside of their relationship because their partner can’t provide that experience.
But a man is a man. If you’re married to a white man and you’re looking for additional man to have sex with why does he need to be black if not for fetish? Throw in the BBC and QOS terns that are so popular and it leans even further that way.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I haven’t been attracted to anyone who isn’t black for a long time. I date black men and I play with black men on here.
I understand where you’re coming from OP. White couples seeking solely black men/BBC I think it fetishising the black man.
So couples seeking single bisexual ladies, the so-called lesser spotted unicorn, are fetishising that grouping of the community?
Maybe, but I don’t think so. To me that’s not the same. Being bisexual is a thing. I understand couples who are bi looking to fulfill that desire outside of their relationship because their partner can’t provide that experience.
But a man is a man. If you’re married to a white man and you’re looking for additional man to have sex with why does he need to be black if not for fetish? Throw in the BBC and QOS terns that are so popular and it leans even further that way.
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This recreational sex lark is so complicated! |
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"I understand you are attracted to a black person but why are you married to a white person ?"
what difference does it make ..its personal choice we put no bi men and no smokers only ..others put black cock only ..we did once put white men only and was warned by admin of suspension lol .amazing ..we now just put no gingers and wait for the response .however its personal choice and quite right too
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex partner was attracted to chaps who had large penis glans, the so called mushroom effect. I don’t possess such a feature but we were together for a considerable length of time.
However I do wince sometimes when I see profiles that see certain sections of this community as a commodity. |
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"I understand you are attracted to a black person but why are you married to a white person ?what difference does it make ..its personal choice we put no bi men and no smokers only ..others put black cock only ..we did once put white men only and was warned by admin of suspension lol .amazing ..we now just put no gingers and wait for the response .however its personal choice and quite right too"
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There are loads of profiles stating 'white men only', it may have been the way you expressed your preference that caused the issue? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I understand you are attracted to a black person but why are you married to a white person ?what difference does it make ..its personal choice we put no bi men and no smokers only ..others put black cock only ..we did once put white men only and was warned by admin of suspension lol .amazing ..we now just put no gingers and wait for the response .however its personal choice and quite right too"
No gingers dear me! |
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"Throw in the BBC and QOS terns that are so popular and it leans even further that way.
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People are entitled to express a preference, that's fine but using terms like this is when motives might be questionable. |
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Sometimes it’s attraction, sometimes it’s wanting something different from what they have had long term and sometimes maybe they want what they believe is a stereotype. You can only find out the true andwer by asking them but I’d be surprised if they answered |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I understand you are attracted to a black person but why are you married to a white person ?
Maybe the person they are married to them was for reasons other than the colour of their skin."
Size of his wallet.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just don't get this post,it's like saying your attracted to men and women but you married a man????"
Well I am glad you sorted this out without making it anymore confusing as it was  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My partner is male but I like having sex with women.
I don’t want to have a relationship with a woman but I don’t find that confusing.
It’s choice."
I understand why you wouldn't want a relationship with a woman because of the moaning and neither of you would pay for the meal lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like to see any nationality, bodytype or similar being fetishised.
I think it objectifies and dehumanises the people in question.
I can only suppose they use fab to seek put what they do not already have at their disposal to enjoy within their marriage.
Isn't that the point?"
I a million percent agree with you on this x |
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"My partner is male but I like having sex with women.
I don’t want to have a relationship with a woman but I don’t find that confusing.
It’s choice."
That is how i feel bisexually. I love sex with women but i am not after a relationship with one. |
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By *icknHMan
over a year ago
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"I understand you are attracted to a black person but why are you married to a white person ?"
Husband explained it to me once. She has a hamburger at home….why go out to get a hamburger.
Later realised that im a hamburger of course.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often think this when I see certain couples on here and their status and pics, but maybe some black guys enjoy the objectification etc. Thankfully my other half doesn’t fetishise me and he isn’t black either. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Is everyone you've ever dated or fucked all like a Robert Palmer video?
I haven't watched the Robert Palmer video sorry "
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"Is everyone you've ever dated or fucked all like a Robert Palmer video?
I haven't watched the Robert Palmer video sorry all white women musicians guitar players red shoes sexy as hell "
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They weren't playing the instruments!  |
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"You’ve got to luv the those arguing it is not objectification and using food and car analogies to explain why it is not  "
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You're quite right, I came across a couples profile recently, they were proclaiming they wanted to be treated as human beings, not objects, yet were seeking "BBCs", the irony obviously escaping them! |
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"You’ve got to luv the those arguing it is not objectification and using food and car analogies to explain why it is not
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You're quite right, I came across a couples profile recently, they were proclaiming they wanted to be treated as human beings, not objects, yet were seeking "BBCs", the irony obviously escaping them!"
You couldn’t make shit like this up could you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I haven’t been attracted to anyone who isn’t black for a long time. I date black men and I play with black men on here.
I understand where you’re coming from OP. White couples seeking solely black men/BBC I think it fetishising the black man.
So couples seeking single bisexual ladies, the so-called lesser spotted unicorn, are fetishising that grouping of the community?
Maybe, but I don’t think so. To me that’s not the same. Being bisexual is a thing. I understand couples who are bi looking to fulfill that desire outside of their relationship because their partner can’t provide that experience.
But a man is a man. If you’re married to a white man and you’re looking for additional man to have sex with why does he need to be black if not for fetish? Throw in the BBC and QOS terns that are so popular and it leans even further that way.
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Gotta say, she does make a point.
If I was to put black women only on my profile...no one would give a shit obviously BUT it would beg the question, why only black women?
Sure I find alot of black women hot, but why would I single them out?
Of course everyones's entitled to look for whatever they wanna look for but I see her point that it is fetishized. Cause otherwise you'd be open to all who fit your looks/age/sexuality.
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"Is everyone you've ever dated or fucked all like a Robert Palmer video?
I haven't watched the Robert Palmer video sorry"
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I wholeheartedly recommend it. Once you've seen it you'll be addicted to love. |
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I agree, with some being objectified on here and its not fair, being seen as just a piece of meat to be used. Maybe when you're 20 but when you get a bit older and realise, it's a bit demoralising. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is everyone you've ever dated or fucked all like a Robert Palmer video?
I haven't watched the Robert Palmer video sorry
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I wholeheartedly recommend it. Once you've seen it you'll be addicted to love."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is everyone you've ever dated or fucked all like a Robert Palmer video?
I haven't watched the Robert Palmer video sorry
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I wholeheartedly recommend it. Once you've seen it you'll be addicted to love."
Think I’ve watched that on blacked.com |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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"I understand you are attracted to a black person but why are you married to a white person ?"
The answer to this question is pretty obvious. People are too scared to admit it. Women marry primarily based on status and income and secondarily on physical attractiveness (height, face, body etc).
White men on average earn more than black men — and they are the majority male population in this country — so the probability of a white woman encountering a black man with a higher status/income than all of the white men in her social circle is very small.
Also, interracial marriage is just as taboo as interracial sex, but it is much easier to keep your sexual escapades secret than it is a marriage.
In conclusion, the reason why a woman may marry a man of one race yet have a sexual preference for men of a different race is because marriage compatibility and sexual compatibility depend on two completely different sets of criteria.
Also, stereotypes do play a role: black men are stereotypically from low socioeconomic backgrounds and have high rates of father abandonment (which are both unattractive traits in a potential husband) and stereotypically have high sexual prowess (which is an attractive trait for hookups). |
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By *959femxCouple 26 weeks ago
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"Is everyone you've ever dated or fucked all like a Robert Palmer video?
I haven't watched the Robert Palmer video sorry
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I wholeheartedly recommend it. Once you've seen it you'll be addicted to love."
funniest thing I’ve heard this week! |
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