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By *euve4usCouple
over a year ago
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We did when we first joined the scene in 2013 as we felt that was more between us. Moving on we have become more discerning so when we feel a connection we like the intimacy of fun and now we do kiss others. |
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"Do any swinging couples here go by the 'no kissing' rule with people they meet? And if so, why?"
I don't have a rule... if I'm in a couple I like my partner to kiss but I very rarely do as it can and does make me feel very uncomfortable and turn me off.. as someone may get quite offended if I stopped playing after someone kissed me.. I tend to avoid kissing where possible. Easy in gangbang play. Xx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I know of some that do. I think some find it too intimate. Each to their own. I love kissing  "
I get that but as someone above said, I personally think it's so key to have hot intimate sex personally.
Also I used to love watching my ex kiss hard with other people. In some ways it's more sexy than sex itself haha! |
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It always amuses me how many say kissing is a must. Yet in over 20 years of not kissing guys on meets its only been an issue a handful of times. ..to be fair it's rare people even seem to notice.
I'll kiss cheeks, throat, neck, shoulders, back etc...and other parts... just not a proper kiss |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
If someone won't kiss me then nothing else happens as far as I'm concerned. Kissing is what let's me know we have chemistry it's a big turn on for me and without kissing I won't want anything else to happen. |
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Kissing elevates the whole experience. Sure a good time can be had without but kissing is the direct connection that really triggers all the other pleasure receptors to a higher level.
No guessing which side of the fence I sit on then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing or not kissing distinguishes those looking for superficial sex that is purely for the novelty orgasm, from those looking for sex that is part of seeking a deeper connection.
Some couples seem to have 3rds as a human sex toy (in the nicest possible sense) and others describe people they have as a 3rd as a fwb type connection.
Not something to take lightly either way, whether you are in the couple or the 3rd.
Feelings + sex is messy business |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pointless. Lips are intimate and the arse, mouth, pussy aren't. Stupid!"
 true that said like that it sound ridiculous.
But I do get what some ppl means by being more intimate that the rest.
To some kissing connects all the sense as well as the soul, so not that extent they prefer keeping the soul to some reserved individuals.
I do love kissing mouth, neck, ears, pussy and ass, well basically any exposed flesh. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Do any swinging couples here go by the 'no kissing' rule with people they meet? And if so, why?"
its the intimacy thing, they see kissing as too intimate...... They want shag n go  |
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"Kissing or not kissing distinguishes those looking for superficial sex that is purely for the novelty orgasm, from those looking for sex that is part of seeking a deeper connection.
Some couples seem to have 3rds as a human sex toy (in the nicest possible sense) and others describe people they have as a 3rd as a fwb type connection.
Not something to take lightly either way, whether you are in the couple or the 3rd.
Feelings + sex is messy business"
I would disagree with your opinion |
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For us, we wouldn’t feel comfortable with MF kissing this would be both ways with, however FF would be fine.
This might seem daft or strange, but it’s what we personally feel comfortable with. Just something about the intimacy of it. Again strange as that might seem as we would literally be having full sex with another person.
But each to their own as they say!! It’s all good! |
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Our first meet was no kissing, since then every meets involved kissing.
We found kissing helps ease me into the meet and its always the start of being turned on before hands and mouths start wandering x |
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Still always the same. People getting quite rude about those of us that don't like to kiss during sexual encounters. I didn't even used to kiss my ex husband.
You see the same things about it being mechanical or passionless... something that has never been said to me during or after meets. As I've said most don't even notice that I dont. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Critical for us. Its what drives passion and intimacy. But each to there own. We have met people who don't kiss in the past and not enjoyed it. So now kissing is a must do xxxx |
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"Still always the same. People getting quite rude about those of us that don't like to kiss during sexual encounters. I didn't even used to kiss my ex husband.
You see the same things about it being mechanical or passionless... something that has never been said to me during or after meets. As I've said most don't even notice that I dont. "
I don't know why I respond on these threads really. I wouldn't dream of being rude or saying bad things about people who seek intimate connections vis casual sex because I genuinely understand that people have different ideas of what intimacy is and different ways of expressing it.
I only want to kiss people I love. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses |
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"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses "
No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.
I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's. |
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"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses
No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.
I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's. "
That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks. |
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"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses
No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.
I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.
That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks."
Because I'm speaking from personal experience. I've never chatted to a single woman with a no kissing rule but I have to a number of couples.
I have no issue at all if that is their preference but we won't be meeting because we won't be compatible.
The cock comment is a reference to what I have been told by those couples.
"We have a no kissing rule so don't make any attempt to kiss the missus. She's only interested in your cock".
If that was a one off I would dismiss it but when it has been said a number of times it's difficult to separate the link.
I need kissing to gauge and adjust the intensity so without it sex becomes nothing more than functional. |
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"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses
No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.
I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.
That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks.
Because I'm speaking from personal experience. I've never chatted to a single woman with a no kissing rule but I have to a number of couples.
I have no issue at all if that is their preference but we won't be meeting because we won't be compatible.
The cock comment is a reference to what I have been told by those couples.
"We have a no kissing rule so don't make any attempt to kiss the missus. She's only interested in your cock".
If that was a one off I would dismiss it but when it has been said a number of times it's difficult to separate the link.
I need kissing to gauge and adjust the intensity so without it sex becomes nothing more than functional. "
I'm a single woman and I don't kiss as it can and has turned my stomach and sent me off into a blind panic. It got that bad that I no longer will do 121 and just do group play where my choice won't be questioned or me accused of being functional or robotic ... x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing is a super intimate & emotional experience for us, so we keep the intense affectionate kissing to just us, but equally we don't limit ourselves on meets with no kissing, just go light with what's natural. |
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"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses
No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.
I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.
That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks.
Because I'm speaking from personal experience. I've never chatted to a single woman with a no kissing rule but I have to a number of couples.
I have no issue at all if that is their preference but we won't be meeting because we won't be compatible.
The cock comment is a reference to what I have been told by those couples.
"We have a no kissing rule so don't make any attempt to kiss the missus. She's only interested in your cock".
If that was a one off I would dismiss it but when it has been said a number of times it's difficult to separate the link.
I need kissing to gauge and adjust the intensity so without it sex becomes nothing more than functional. "
As I said I respect your choices and decisions. I think the comments made to you are disrespectful, imagine if similar was said to a woman by a couple. |
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"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses
No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.
I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.
That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks.
Because I'm speaking from personal experience. I've never chatted to a single woman with a no kissing rule but I have to a number of couples.
I have no issue at all if that is their preference but we won't be meeting because we won't be compatible.
The cock comment is a reference to what I have been told by those couples.
"We have a no kissing rule so don't make any attempt to kiss the missus. She's only interested in your cock".
If that was a one off I would dismiss it but when it has been said a number of times it's difficult to separate the link.
I need kissing to gauge and adjust the intensity so without it sex becomes nothing more than functional.
As I said I respect your choices and decisions. I think the comments made to you are disrespectful, imagine if similar was said to a woman by a couple. "
I'm sure they would get a similar response to mine from the woman. |
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"I doubt men here would turn down sex if they wasn't allowed to kiss. I don't care about kissing. Ain't essential to me . Even with my Mrs can quite easily fuck without kisses
No need to doubt it. I've already said it very clearly above. No kissing, no meet.
I'm not looking for a relationship with them but if I'm only there to provide the cock they can find someone else's.
That's absolutely your prerogative. I'm interested in why you think that it's kissing or cock and nothing else. There's such a wide range of activities that come under the heading 'erotic' I understand that for you kissing is one of the most important in that category but because it's not to us it doesn't mean we view the men we meet as disembodied cocks.
Because I'm speaking from personal experience. I've never chatted to a single woman with a no kissing rule but I have to a number of couples.
I have no issue at all if that is their preference but we won't be meeting because we won't be compatible.
The cock comment is a reference to what I have been told by those couples.
"We have a no kissing rule so don't make any attempt to kiss the missus. She's only interested in your cock".
If that was a one off I would dismiss it but when it has been said a number of times it's difficult to separate the link.
I need kissing to gauge and adjust the intensity so without it sex becomes nothing more than functional.
As I said I respect your choices and decisions. I think the comments made to you are disrespectful, imagine if similar was said to a woman by a couple.
I'm sure they would get a similar response to mine from the woman. "
I'm sure.
For the record we would never think it leave alone say it. Still won't kiss though.  |
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"Do any swinging couples here go by the 'no kissing' rule with people they meet? And if so, why?"
We did with our very first meet. Soon changed our minds!
Not only do we love kissing, but it's also a natural and easy way to kick things off. |
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Sadly, I have met this. I think it shows insecurity on the part of the husband in my 3some context. I love kidding and do think it adds a lot, so a shame when people don't allow it - they are missing out too. |
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over a year ago
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"Sadly, I have met this. I think it shows insecurity on the part of the husband in my 3some context. I love kidding and do think it adds a lot, so a shame when people don't allow it - they are missing out too."
It's got zero to do with insecurity.
It's a physical boundary linked to an emotional one. |
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"Sadly, I have met this. I think it shows insecurity on the part of the husband in my 3some context. I love kidding and do think it adds a lot, so a shame when people don't allow it - they are missing out too."
how is it missing out ?  |
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Not that it makes a great deal of difference, given that I've only had one meet here and it was for social cocktails, but I couldn't be sexually intimate without kissing. I completely accept it's possible for some, and no judgement here! Just couldn't personally do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The judgement tones, wow. In the same way those that find it a big deal on a meet for sexual intimacy, its a big deal to others as emotional intimacy. Each to their own kinks/ preferences, just because you don't get it, doesn't make it weird or wrong, as long as everyone is up front & no one is getting harmed in the process. We are somewhere in the middle with how we play, so can see both sides. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don’t have that rule. Kissing is a key part of sex for us, and we really enjoy it. Each to their own, of course."
I agree with what you say about how important kissing is ,
I would find it really hard to get turned on fully if kissing wasn't allowed. that would be frustrating I can imagine |
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There is much polarising debate about this subject, and indeed I bear no ill-will towards those who prefer not to.
For me - personally - it's a deal breaker. Sex/intimacy without kissing is hollow and meaningless.
It's intrinsic and satisfies my basorexic tendencies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think some are posting from the perspective of a single fabber.
Others are posting from the perspective of a couple.
It's hard to know until you are in a relationship exactly what the needs and wants will be of each as individuals and again as partners.
But I am sexually very possessive.
As a single I'd have one set of boundaries. Within a couple it would be very different. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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On our meets? Fox does, I don't.
Her choice who she'll kiss (male or female) and my choice entirely that I don't. I want one thing that I do to keep just between us.
Some may think that's odd given that I have no issue with her Kissing others.
My answer to that? I couldn't give a toss.
Strangley it's never been an issue on any meet. Nobody has complained. Nobody has walked away. Nobody has quizzed me on why not. They've accepted it and we've all had a good time without my lips making contact with anyone else's bar Fox.
They do make contact elsewhere of course.
Why should Kissing be seen as being different to any other physical contact? Plenty of people are soft swap and there's no PIV. Some will never entertain anal. Some have strict boundaries re bodily fluids. Some will insist on condoms for oral. It's just another personal preference folks.
You can either respect it, or not. But you're unlikely to ever change someone's mind
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"On our meets? Fox does, I don't.
Her choice who she'll kiss (male or female) and my choice entirely that I don't. I want one thing that I do to keep just between us.
Some may think that's odd given that I have no issue with her Kissing others.
My answer to that? I couldn't give a toss.
Strangley it's never been an issue on any meet. Nobody has complained. Nobody has walked away. Nobody has quizzed me on why not. They've accepted it and we've all had a good time without my lips making contact with anyone else's bar Fox.
They do make contact elsewhere of course.
Why should Kissing be seen as being different to any other physical contact? Plenty of people are soft swap and there's no PIV. Some will never entertain anal. Some have strict boundaries re bodily fluids. Some will insist on condoms for oral. It's just another personal preference folks.
You can either respect it, or not. But you're unlikely to ever change someone's mind
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In a (quite large) nutshell  |
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"Sadly, I have met this. I think it shows insecurity on the part of the husband in my 3some context."
In my experience, it cannot be blamed on the husband, or the wife. And I've never encountered it as an expression of insecurity.
I'm not sure where this statement comes from. |
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"Sadly, I have met this. I think it shows insecurity on the part of the husband in my 3some context. I love kidding and do think it adds a lot, so a shame when people don't allow it - they are missing out too."
This is a typical statement from single guys. We had this rule and still do. However recently we met a couple went for drinks and half way through the night the ladies were kissing each other and us guys much to the delight of others in the bar. But this only happened because we all shared the same values, trust and connection. A single guy who expects everything is like a man walking into a casino, playing with my chips and winning then gives nothing back. Takes his winnings and strokes his ego. Single people who expect the full experience from couples whilst risking nothing are the most entitled, cowardly, selfish, lazy, undeveloped characters I’ve ever met. Prepared to sacrifice nothing. And then complain, as if our relationship owes them something. Sit down, shut up and be respectful of people who are achieving and growing something more special than you’ve ever done.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Never been with a girl and not kissed, what can I say it's these irresistible lips of mine...
1 couple before said no kissing when I joined though and you have to respect couples wishes! I did ask them to though while she rubbed me because not seeing or kissing myself I just couldn't get through I don't think! |
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I've played both with wives where kissing was not allowed/wanted, and with those where it was, and even encouraged...
....kissing is possibly the most common thing which some couples like to 'reserve' as an act that only occurs between them...  |
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By *0IAN00Man
over a year ago
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""What's wrong with a kiss boy"?....."Before you go diving for the clitoris"
"This is for your benefit, would you kindly wake up - I have no intention of going through this all again!""
That's the one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always said no kissing at the start as we felt it was too intimate and for us to keep for ourselves. That was until our first meet with another couple, we quickly realised that it was actually an important part of that too, in fact now we couldn’t imagine not kissing others during a meet  |
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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago
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"Follow up added question to, do some couples kiss the same sex swinger, despite identifying as heterosexual?"
We do, better when everyone in a threesome can just kiss and play with each other |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We always said no kissing at the start as we felt it was too intimate and for us to keep for ourselves. That was until our first meet with another couple, we quickly realised that it was actually an important part of that too, in fact now we couldn’t imagine not kissing others during a meet "
Looking at your profile I would find it SO HARD (not in good way) to not kiss the miss in your couple! X |
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""What's wrong with a kiss boy"?....."Before you go diving for the clitoris"
"This is for your benefit, would you kindly wake up - I have no intention of going through this all again!""
Great Monty Python sketch reference here too and mightily funny n true !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We always said no kissing at the start as we felt it was too intimate and for us to keep for ourselves. That was until our first meet with another couple, we quickly realised that it was actually an important part of that too, in fact now we couldn’t imagine not kissing others during a meet
Looking at your profile I would find it SO HARD (not in good way) to not kiss the miss in your couple! X"
Thanks, that’s kind of you to say!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We always said no kissing at the start as we felt it was too intimate and for us to keep for ourselves. That was until our first meet with another couple, we quickly realised that it was actually an important part of that too, in fact now we couldn’t imagine not kissing others during a meet
Looking at your profile I would find it SO HARD (not in good way) to not kiss the miss in your couple! X Thanks, that’s kind of you to say! "
Is it kind or is it just me lusting? Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't know why I respond on these threads really. I wouldn't dream of being rude or saying bad things about people who seek intimate connections vis casual sex because I genuinely understand that people have different ideas of what intimacy is and different ways of expressing it.
I only want to kiss people I love."
Yes, I agree with you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love kissing and think it adds a lot to the eroticism of sex. Sadly, the couple I meet don't allow me to do so. I think they are missing out but can't convince them of that. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I love kissing and think it adds a lot to the eroticism of sex. Sadly, the couple I meet don't allow me to do so. I think they are missing out but can't convince them of that."
But they evidently don't think they're missing out as its a boundary they've decided between themselves.
Keep trying to convince them and they may well decide to find someone else to join them.
If its a dealbreaker for you and an essential part of any meet, then why do you meet them?
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