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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Im probably over thinking this and making nothing into something

A guy I met a few months ago usually has all his verifications on show - including mine, he has about 5/6

I've noticed today that he has hidden mine but the rest of them are on show?

Would you be offended in this situation or and I being unnecessarily sensitive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't think anything of it. He's maybe been messing on with his settings and hidden yours by accident

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get what you mean. I truly do and honestly the best way to settle this down is either to ask him directly so you’d know (and it is playing on your mind, I think you should)

Or leave as northern said. He may have done it by mistake.

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By *merican WomanWoman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"Im probably over thinking this and making nothing into something

A guy I met a few months ago usually has all his verifications on show - including mine, he has about 5/6

I've noticed today that he has hidden mine but the rest of them are on show?

Would you be offended in this situation or and I being unnecessarily sensitive "

Hid his and message him saying he's a fuckboy with no willy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It honestly wouldn't bother me; I have a good friend on here and he doesn't show the one I gave him. If it bothers you though I would ask him directly at least you will know the reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not something to worry bout! But you can always ask!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im probably over thinking this and making nothing into something

A guy I met a few months ago usually has all his verifications on show - including mine, he has about 5/6

I've noticed today that he has hidden mine but the rest of them are on show?

Would you be offended in this situation or and I being unnecessarily sensitive

Hid his and message him saying he's a fuckboy with no willy "

Yes do that, it will show your mature side

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It honestly wouldn't bother me; I have a good friend on here and he doesn't show the one I gave him. If it bothers you though I would ask him directly at least you will know the reason."

It's more the issue that he did show it and has now hidden it but not hidden others

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

Only ask him if you're prepared for an answer you don't really like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im probably over thinking this and making nothing into something

A guy I met a few months ago usually has all his verifications on show - including mine, he has about 5/6

I've noticed today that he has hidden mine but the rest of them are on show?

Would you be offended in this situation or and I being unnecessarily sensitive "

It could be that someone else he's involved with is insecure or has an issue over it. I would just leave it. There's lots of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I had no intention of asking him.

I just wanted to see how others would feel in this situation

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

Wouldn't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had no intention of asking him.

I just wanted to see how others would feel in this situation "

Depending on how close I was with that person, I would be offended or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why verifications fail. Someone else he is chatting too will have picked up on his veris and viewed those people as many do on here linking up people who've been with some one else and then someone else and so on .. and made some kind of negative comment.. he'll bluff and bullshit an answer if you ask him. Best thing you can do is forget about it and him and move on. Don't do veris .. they are the equivalent of the 2 wee green ticks on WhatsApp.. folk get obsessed with them as some kind of proof of disingenuous behaviour and it then feeds those people's anxiety. Not conducive to an enjoyable time.

Might not be the answer you want but I bet I've nailed what you are thinking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This is why verifications fail. Someone else he is chatting too will have picked up on his veris and viewed those people as many do on here linking up people who've been with some one else and then someone else and so on .. and made some kind of negative comment.. he'll bluff and bullshit an answer if you ask him. Best thing you can do is forget about it and him and move on. Don't do veris .. they are the equivalent of the 2 wee green ticks on WhatsApp.. folk get obsessed with them as some kind of proof of disingenuous behaviour and it then feeds those people's anxiety. Not conducive to an enjoyable time.

Might not be the answer you want but I bet I've nailed what you are thinking. "

Exactly the reason I don't show mine because people (including myself) can get be really weird about them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Might not be the answer you want but I bet I've nailed what you are thinking. "

I agree the veri thing is all very weird! I had someone who asked if I'd met someone, as they knew someone I'd met?

All very silly

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Might not be the answer you want but I bet I've nailed what you are thinking.

I agree the veri thing is all very weird! I had someone who asked if I'd met someone, as they knew someone I'd met?

All very silly "

I used to show them on an old account and one of them told me that some random guy messaged him to ask what I was like and how it was having sex with me!

Very strange behaviour

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By *ady23Woman over a year ago

Coventry

"Im probably over thinking this and making nothing into something

A guy I met a few months ago usually has all his verifications on show - including mine, he has about 5/6

I've noticed today that he has hidden mine but the rest of them are on show?

Would you be offended in this situation or and I being unnecessarily sensitive "

We had this and asked the question

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I wouldn't think anything at all about it.

I have had people message me to ask about mine and that has made the hide one or two on occasion.

(Messages like "I really would like to meet this person have you got any tips to help me out")

I wouldn't give it any further thought, it's more likely to not be anything whatsoever about how he feels about your time together

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Im probably over thinking this and making nothing into something

A guy I met a few months ago usually has all his verifications on show - including mine, he has about 5/6

I've noticed today that he has hidden mine but the rest of them are on show?

Would you be offended in this situation or and I being unnecessarily sensitive

We had this and asked the question "

What did they say?

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By *oxy jWoman over a year ago

somerset

i know some guys ive met who had to hide my veris to them because they were getting shitty messages as to why i met them but not them throwing the shit ...

i hide all my veris because to many like to play silly mind games

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By *ady23Woman over a year ago

Coventry

"Im probably over thinking this and making nothing into something

A guy I met a few months ago usually has all his verifications on show - including mine, he has about 5/6

I've noticed today that he has hidden mine but the rest of them are on show?

Would you be offended in this situation or and I being unnecessarily sensitive

We had this and asked the question

What did they say?"
they said they hadn't realised and put it on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be a bit upset to be honest.

Maybe it's a genuine mistake, but I'd think he's trying to hide me in some sort of way as if I'm not good enough.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it was everyone he was hiding then it wouldn't be an issue. But having others on display, and not you... dunno, seems very shitty.

But I do like to feel special.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"i know some guys ive met who had to hide my veris to them because they were getting shitty messages as to why i met them but not them throwing the shit ...

i hide all my veris because to many like to play silly mind games"

I've never hidden any for this reason but have done when people I've verified turned out to extremely untrustworthy and used our friendship as currency to gain the trust of others.

I have also had both men and women contact others I have verified asking for my personal details.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"i know some guys ive met who had to hide my veris to them because they were getting shitty messages as to why i met them but not them throwing the shit ...

i hide all my veris because to many like to play silly mind games

I've never hidden any for this reason but have done when people I've verified turned out to extremely untrustworthy and used our friendship as currency to gain the trust of others.

I have also had both men and women contact others I have verified asking for my personal details."

Back to the ops question. I have hidden verifications from people I meet regularly due to a stalker issue and I didn't want them getting abuse. Unfortunately it was during lockdown and site rules at the time meant I couldn't display them again until restrictions were lifted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps your verification sounded too negative

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By *hors fantasyCouple over a year ago

Blackpool

Perhaps your not his usual type and he feels a meet from you would hold him back, as harsh as that sounds we know men lie on fab to try get action, we get more offers from “straight” men than bi ones for example

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By *ixenandhoundCouple over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

We show veris and then take them off again if theyre a bit older, we only show a couple at a time so maybe that's it? Just a page tidy up? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It happened to me on fabguys a couple of times

Just brush it off - either accidental or clearing older veris

Or if you haven't met since maybe it just wasn't for them?

Just chalk it up as a loss and carry on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Might not be the answer you want but I bet I've nailed what you are thinking. "

Exactly this….

People are obsessed with ensuring they are on your profile. Imagine walking upto someone in a Bar and asking for a cerication to prove they are a worthy fuck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had no intention of asking him.

I just wanted to see how others would feel in this situation "

I would feel a bit unsettled and puzzled by it tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There could be so many reasons and many of them dont involve a criticism of you. I wouldnt worry about it sweetie

. Just let it go if you can.

Get yourself a bowl of icecream or something else nice and remind yourself of all the things you like about yourself. And then watch something that will make you giggle.

Fay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it were me I'd take it as deliberate and definitely done for a reason.

Only he can tell you what the reason is, it might not be the obvious.

A few examples given above are fairly common.

I use veris and the veris of the veris to judge if a person is a good match to my preferences. Profile bios and texts can be complete fiction to reel you in. Veris that a fabber endorses by choosing to post them on their profile often paint a VERY different picture of the true likes of the fabber.

A useful tool for filtering