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swinging becomes an obsession
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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would you think someone is obsessed with swinging..
They check emails morning, noon and night
Chat for hours in chat room, text all day every day etc.
can't go a day without signing on or is it just me...
just wondered as a good friend of mine his misses does all the above all the time.. he has asked her to calm it down but she refuses and I think it is affecting there relationship.
(and no not mine...lol) knew you would think it.
I personally think she is, but its not like they have a boring life either.
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i log on and off throughout the day when at work but i am able to leave it alone when the situation requires.
Its not that i am addicted to swinging as at the momet i am not meeting anyone but i do enjoy seeing what is going on in the forums  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"he says she spends so much time online I suppose he is feeling neglected. I don't think he is into it as much as her. "
See when I was a couple we would use the site together. If I had a nice man at home with me I can certainly think of better things to do than log on here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"he says she spends so much time online I suppose he is feeling neglected. I don't think he is into it as much as her.
See when I was a couple we would use the site together. If I had a nice man at home with me I can certainly think of better things to do than log on here "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sounds like she is, maybe because its something new to her.
i like to meet someone at least once a week and am on here a lot but dont like to chat with people much or send text messages as i find it boring. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unless she is meeting guys morning noon and night I would suggest that she is not addicted to swinging (or sex) but that fab is an escape or a hobby she enjoys frequently! "
from what he has told me she has met quite a few chaps whenever she can but its never enough.. she is always pestering him to go out so she can meet alone..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i know of 2 men one still on here and one that used to be. both became addicted to meeting ... one wud meet anywhere anuytime with anyone . and i mean anyone . he ended up avin a brekdown and losing his job ( a gud one at that) . his wife has stood by him an dhe now having treatment .has had to get new phone number and movinhouse cos he had ladies n men n gang bangs there so wife cant deal with that part of it the other man is sstill on here , his veris show he has at least one meet a day then club and parties evry weekend, he marrie d2 small kids he a rep so stays in hotels all ova giving him chance to get away with it.he admitted that he cant give it up even if his wife found out .i would say that swinging is /can be addictive . you make your choices as an adult and deal with your conscience . |
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"Unless she is meeting guys morning noon and night I would suggest that she is not addicted to swinging (or sex) but that fab is an escape or a hobby she enjoys frequently!
from what he has told me she has met quite a few chaps whenever she can but its never enough.. she is always pestering him to go out so she can meet alone..
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Ok, that is different, she is meeting alone and he has asked her to stop. Like you I see serious problems in that relationship...as I'm sure many others will agree. Time for them to talk and compromise or split if they are not happy together. How sad.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would their relationship warrant advise from you?
Surely if "your friend" wanted advice about his problems with his partner he would be on here asking for advice himself?
Would have thought if he has confided in you about this he wouldn't want it broadcasted across the forums? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why would their relationship warrant advise from you?
Surely if "your friend" wanted advice about his problems with his partner he would be on here asking for advice himself?
Would have thought if he has confided in you about this he wouldn't want it broadcasted across the forums?"
he asked me to post as he didn't want people to see his profile that's all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I log in every day, sometimes twice a day.
It's only for the forum though. We haven't met anyone for 2yrs now, and to be honest, don't really know if we'll ever play again.
So I'd say you can use the site every day without being addicted to swinging. Someone else may see it differently.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (Mr) wake up, switch the pc on, have a piss, scratch my balls, fart, have a wash, brush my teeth, come back to the pc and look a Fab Swingers, check out the messages and the forum - then I take the dogs for a walk, have a bite to eat and go to work. Mr's Red does pretty much the same thing, except farting and scratching her balls, but to be serious, we take this site, and swinging with a pinch of salt. We both enjoy what it has to offer, but if we have a meet once or twice a year, we are more than happy with that - if we don't - so fuck it's no big deal.
But ..... if swinging, or spending too much time looking at messages, checking the site etc is causing problems within a relationship, then maybe it's time for a rethink, ie, "is this really for me/us?" It's s simple question which requires a yes or no answer but no way should it be the be all and end all of life and no way should it be allowed to impact on a relationship in a detrimental way - it simply isn't worth it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok coz you say personally you think she is but not like they have boring lives...
Are you there 24/7
Also if he asked you to post this do you not think she would see this?? |
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There's no doubt about it - swinging can very addictive, especially these websites - like being in a sweetie shop!
I was quoted, a few years ago 'it can be a mind f**k', as in it can play with your head and your heart.
As with most things in life, its best to take your time, set some rules and be careful - easier said than done sometimes!
Best of all enjoy the banter and the craic /crack! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok coz you say personally you think she is but not like they have boring lives...
Are you there 24/7
Also if he asked you to post this do you not think she would see this??"
no not there 24/7 but been friends since school and I don't have to be there to know. she doesn't look a forums and she is other sites too. |
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There are some people who are prone to addition, it can be drink, drugs, gambling, golf, football and many more things. If your personality is wired this way then you could become addicted to this site or sex generally. For the majority of people they can manage all things in moderation without any problem. |
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