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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who’s into this?
I’d love to have my first experience of being a genuine bull but not having much luck.
Any advice? "
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"Who’s into this?
I’d love to have my first experience of being a genuine bull but not having much luck.
Any advice?
Perhaps remove the pointless disclaimers? Fab isn’t a publicly traded entity. "
Would I have more luck if I did that? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been looking for a bull who is local and that can accommodate who is into cuckold for over 3 years
Belive me it's hard to find the right one
Can't believe your struggling your full profile looks very good
Don't give up and good luck
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You need to change your mindset. You don't just 'Bull' the wife. Cuckolding the husband equally important!
Most Cuckold couples are in it together and the psychology of the relationship is as important as the sex, if not more.
Unless you can get into their heads, and satisfy both of their needs you're not going to have much luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need to change your mindset. You don't just 'Bull' the wife. Cuckolding the husband equally important!
Most Cuckold couples are in it together and the psychology of the relationship is as important as the sex, if not more.
Unless you can get into their heads, and satisfy both of their needs you're not going to have much luck."
This makes so much sense
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Many years ago I was a bull to a couple,
It was an amazing experience however, it was emotionally and psychologically draining.
The dynamics and the understanding of the husband was a major factor.
With a lot of roles Sub/dom Bull/Cuck it's not who is in control that has the power.
E.g sub/dom - dom trains and masters his sub, BUT 1 word from the sub (safe word) and it all ends,
Bull/cuck - Bull is with wife, and suddenly cuck has a change of mind - tells wife he wants her to stop, I guarantee she will.
All this needs to be understood before even thinking of going there.
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"Many years ago I was a bull to a couple,
It was an amazing experience however, it was emotionally and psychologically draining.
The dynamics and the understanding of the husband was a major factor.
With a lot of roles Sub/dom Bull/Cuck it's not who is in control that has the power.
E.g sub/dom - dom trains and masters his sub, BUT 1 word from the sub (safe word) and it all ends,
Bull/cuck - Bull is with wife, and suddenly cuck has a change of mind - tells wife he wants her to stop, I guarantee she will.
All this needs to be understood before even thinking of going there.
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With experience with both I second this
Awesome description to be aware of.
It can keep you grounded. The exhaustion is real as well. |
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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago
wirral |
This is something we are currently doing and each couple want it in their own way.
Just listen to what they are looking for and see if that matches up to what works for you.
There are always couples looking on here just keep at it and stay confident. |
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It is interesting to see all the different ways that people interpret the terms bull and cuckold (and sub/Dom for that matter)
We are approached fairly regularly by single men keen to explain how they are a bull or a Dom and what they would like to do to me while Mr Honeycakes watches. It is a massive turn off for me, I favour power equality.. a big tangled mess of bodies and no-one is in charge - adding someone that gives off Dom vibes would ruin that. |
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"Reality is most couples don’t want a real bull. They want a puppet. Do this do that , this position that position , cum here cum there. Bulls do what they want
Lol. The fuck they do! "
I your world maybe. Not in mine |
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"Who’s into this?
I’d love to have my first experience of being a genuine bull but not having much luck.
Any advice? "
What do you mean by bull ? Are you thinking the whole cuck thing or just that you want an mfm ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need to change your mindset. You don't just 'Bull' the wife. Cuckolding the husband equally important!
Most Cuckold couples are in it together and the psychology of the relationship is as important as the sex, if not more.
Unless you can get into their heads, and satisfy both of their needs you're not going to have much luck."
This is spot on. We get so many messages from guys who just want to fuck her without any thought for our relationship or what we’re looking for.
Finding a genuine bull is tough but stick with it and show respect and understanding to their relationship, as that’s what it is at the end of the day - you’re being invited into someone else’s relationship. |
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"In my experience definitely seems to be different interpretations of what a Bull is."
Understanding and acceptance of this is paramount, we are all different after all and what might work for one couple will be a damp squib for another.. 
Sadly some blokes get their ideas from porn and don't have a scooby, they come across badly .. |
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"Reality is most couples don’t want a real bull. They want a puppet. Do this do that , this position that position , cum here cum there. Bulls do what they want
What about what the woman wants?"
In my opinion there’s got to be an understanding from both the man and woman who’s inviting the bull into the relationship |
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"You need to change your mindset. You don't just 'Bull' the wife. Cuckolding the husband equally important!
Most Cuckold couples are in it together and the psychology of the relationship is as important as the sex, if not more.
Unless you can get into their heads, and satisfy both of their needs you're not going to have much luck."
great answer |
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By *9alMan
over a year ago
Bridgend |
"Reality is most couples don’t want a real bull. They want a puppet. Do this do that , this position that position , cum here cum there. Bulls do what they want
What about what the woman wants?"
I used to work with real bulls on farms it was all over in seconds |
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"Reality is most couples don’t want a real bull. They want a puppet. Do this do that , this position that position , cum here cum there. Bulls do what they want
Lol. The fuck they do!
I your world maybe. Not in mine "
I'm referring to the general understanding of the word 'bull' when used in the context of swinging.
It has absolutely nothing to do with the bull doing whatever they want. If a couple like a dom/sub dynamic, they can play that way, but that would be an additional feature. And even then wouldn't be able the dom doing 'whatever they want.' |
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Completely agree. What sort of man wants to dominate another man they don’t really know by having sex with their partner? What kind of man needs his ego stroking so much and what is missing in this person’s life? What can the connection or understanding be from someone so undeveloped and needing to prove their masculinity they clearly know within themselves they don’t have? In addition what sort of partner wants to control, degrade, humiliate and emotionally bully their significant other. What’s lacking in their personality? I don’t understand this behaviour nor understand how anyone in this dynamic gets moral pleasure. All I see is red flags from all involved |
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good luck,it varies with every couple what they both want. I have met some and its been ok but never lasted more that the odd few meets tbh. Found I was being perhaps too considerate when speaking with some couples that wanted some more Bull-ish! then others were saying the opposite. don't give up as it can be good fun but you may find finding the right people to suit you all isn't very easy though. I tried looking for regulars but then distance can be an issue too. Sometimes on fab you hit off with a couple and has lasted many many years meeting them regular, then you hit a dry spell  the best experiences were one offs though which was agreed prior - often this time of year people meet more often though |
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"Completely agree. What sort of man wants to dominate another man they don’t really know by having sex with their partner? What kind of man needs his ego stroking so much and what is missing in this person’s life? What can the connection or understanding be from someone so undeveloped and needing to prove their masculinity they clearly know within themselves they don’t have? In addition what sort of partner wants to control, degrade, humiliate and emotionally bully their significant other. What’s lacking in their personality? I don’t understand this behaviour nor understand how anyone in this dynamic gets moral pleasure. All I see is red flags from all involved "
What gives you the right to undermine other people’s kinks and what other people are into? Just because you’re not into it doesn’t make it wrong or ‘red flags’
What are your kinks? Let’s be negative about your kinks shall we?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who’s into this?
I’d love to have my first experience of being a genuine bull but not having much luck.
Any advice?
Perhaps remove the pointless disclaimers? Fab isn’t a publicly traded entity. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is interesting to see all the different ways that people interpret the terms bull and cuckold (and sub/Dom for that matter)
We are approached fairly regularly by single men keen to explain how they are a bull or a Dom and what they would like to do to me while Mr Honeycakes watches. It is a massive turn off for me, I favour power equality.. a big tangled mess of bodies and no-one is in charge - adding someone that gives off Dom vibes would ruin that. "
totally agree |
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By *unCuriousHarryMan
over a year ago
somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire |
"We are struggling to find a local genuine bull who mrs also is attracted to. They are a very rare breed although most men will claim to be a bull for a quick leg over."
Hello, can i ask what you would expect from a bull?
Happy Monday to you both |
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By *DCoupleCouple
over a year ago
Herefordshire |
Well you’re not talking cuckold are you. Just swingers
"It is interesting to see all the different ways that people interpret the terms bull and cuckold (and sub/Dom for that matter)
We are approached fairly regularly by single men keen to explain how they are a bull or a Dom and what they would like to do to me while Mr Honeycakes watches. It is a massive turn off for me, I favour power equality.. a big tangled mess of bodies and no-one is in charge - adding someone that gives off Dom vibes would ruin that. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need to change your mindset. You don't just 'Bull' the wife. Cuckolding the husband equally important!
Most Cuckold couples are in it together and the psychology of the relationship is as important as the sex, if not more.
Unless you can get into their heads, and satisfy both of their needs you're not going to have much luck.
This makes so much sense
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This is so true   |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
bulls here bulls there bulls everywhere the problem is very few of them are bulls..
bull are not just for cuckold couple a bull can fit it anywhere from single woman to hotwife to stag vixen and cuckold.. and then you have to work out whos doing it for fantasy and whos doing it for real... take cuckolding very few cuckold couples do it for real most are fantasy nothing wrong with that as its a massive spectrum anyway but it point to there no such thing as a off the shelf bull every couple woman man will be different play different want different ..
and of course the other problem is the bull...shitters and to a degree the wannabes who think they want to be bulls but cant ... and they are on here in the zillions ...
so as a hotwife couple for the best part of 25 years and the last 5ish as a real cuckold couple we no long look for bulls we just look for guys with a assertive streak who end up being regulars who then become bulls .... a bull fits one couple a bull does not fit all ...
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
"Completely agree. What sort of man wants to dominate another man they don’t really know by having sex with their partner? What kind of man needs his ego stroking so much and what is missing in this person’s life? What can the connection or understanding be from someone so undeveloped and needing to prove their masculinity they clearly know within themselves they don’t have? In addition what sort of partner wants to control, degrade, humiliate and emotionally bully their significant other. What’s lacking in their personality? I don’t understand this behaviour nor understand how anyone in this dynamic gets moral pleasure. All I see is red flags from all involved "
you have every rights to not agree with it but please dont kink shame cuckold couples are very very together couples who know what they want and are willing to get .... kink shaming is not cool |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Completely agree. What sort of man wants to dominate another man they don’t really know by having sex with their partner? What kind of man needs his ego stroking so much and what is missing in this person’s life? What can the connection or understanding be from someone so undeveloped and needing to prove their masculinity they clearly know within themselves they don’t have? In addition what sort of partner wants to control, degrade, humiliate and emotionally bully their significant other. What’s lacking in their personality? I don’t understand this behaviour nor understand how anyone in this dynamic gets moral pleasure. All I see is red flags from all involved
you have every rights to not agree with it but please dont kink shame cuckold couples are very very together couples who know what they want and are willing to get .... kink shaming is not cool"
Mg god are we twins
Ha ha
Couldn't of put it better if I tried |
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"Completely agree. What sort of man wants to dominate another man they don’t really know by having sex with their partner? What kind of man needs his ego stroking so much and what is missing in this person’s life? What can the connection or understanding be from someone so undeveloped and needing to prove their masculinity they clearly know within themselves they don’t have? In addition what sort of partner wants to control, degrade, humiliate and emotionally bully their significant other. What’s lacking in their personality? I don’t understand this behaviour nor understand how anyone in this dynamic gets moral pleasure. All I see is red flags from all involved
What gives you the right to undermine other people’s kinks and what other people are into? Just because you’re not into it doesn’t make it wrong or ‘red flags’
What are your kinks? Let’s be negative about your kinks shall we?!"
I was only looking to be educated on how this practice could possibly be beneficial for all involved. I understand beneficial for two but that’s it. It’s interesting that nobody as of yet has provided any evidence of the contrary to my simple yet inexperienced observation . Even more interesting how the “Bulls” feel attacked and shamed and don’t like it lmfao |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my experience definitely seems to be different interpretations of what a Bull is."
exactly that's why communication is key to any meeting up with a mf couple,knowing what they actually want, people get all hung up on names for everything imo.
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