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over a year ago
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well i think u have to try and bring it up as a conversation. use either books movies articles internet to get her thinking. Am in Cambridge if u wanna meet.Tc
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over a year ago
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You could try having a conversation with your wife. If she likes the idea of it you may get lucky, if she doesn't you've no chance, but you need to be completely honest with eachother or it wont work. Hope it works out for you either way xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would your wife want to have sex with a stranger if shes ill, if she doesnt want to have sex with you...
And if she does have sex with a stranger how would you feel about that if she hasnt wanted to have sex with you, because of her illness?...
If you do introduce her to fab, and swinging, how do you think she would feel if she seen your profile?...
Questions you need to think long and hard about. Personally unless you are prepared to open a whole can of worms i would leave well alone...
Just sayin'.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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she suffers with confidence issues and really shouldnt, she's a good lookng girl and a great figure but feels like she's "lost it" and just thought if she had some interest and flirty men chatting her up she may start to believe in herself more |
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"she suffers with confidence issues and really shouldnt, she's a good lookng girl and a great figure but feels like she's "lost it" and just thought if she had some interest and flirty men chatting her up she may start to believe in herself more"
Or she may feel like she is only doing it to please her husband?
Think you should try and get your wife's confidence levels back up, and not worry about the sex side of things until her illness is sorted |
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"she suffers with confidence issues and really shouldnt, she's a good lookng girl and a great figure but feels like she's "lost it" and just thought if she had some interest and flirty men chatting her up she may start to believe in herself more"
How about you work together on building your wifes confidence? I honestly don't think the way you're going about this can have anything but a bad ending. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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doubtful mate tried that with my hubby we swung for years together but it did not kick start our sexual relationship, in fact it ended it! needless to say that is why I am now single lol  |
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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago
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1) You have to bring it up openly and honestly without any bias or pressure.
2) Let her play with and mull over idea for as long as she likes without any pressure.
3) answer any questions she has honestly
4) If she shows interest show her where she can find good information
5) If she says no then that's your answer. It only works when both parties are equally interested and equally interested.
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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago
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"1) You have to bring it up openly and honestly without any bias or pressure.
2) Let her play with and mull over idea for as long as she likes without any pressure.
3) answer any questions she has honestly
4) If she shows interest show her where she can find good information
5) If she says no then that's your answer. It only works when both parties are equally interested and equally interested.
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and it's very late and I'm repeating myself and I'm repeating myself LOL |
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"she suffers with confidence issues and really shouldnt, she's a good lookng girl and a great figure but feels like she's "lost it" and just thought if she had some interest and flirty men chatting her up she may start to believe in herself more"
Have you told her recently how good looking she is?
DO you flirt with her and chat her up, not try and have sex with her, just 'woo' her?
Sometimes cuddles compliments and communication are what's needed before any sexual contact. |
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"she suffers with confidence issues and really shouldnt, she's a good lookng girl and a great figure but feels like she's "lost it" and just thought if she had some interest and flirty men chatting her up she may start to believe in herself more
Have you told her recently how good looking she is?
DO you flirt with her and chat her up, not try and have sex with her, just 'woo' her?
Sometimes cuddles compliments and communication are what's needed before any sexual contact. "
  
If closeness isn't there then how can there be a healthy sexual element. It's like having air to breathe, without it, it's pointless.
The OP runs the gauntlet of alienating themselves against their partner, or being repelled by them when things backfire. Things have to be oh so solidly based to swing that if you don't have that you might as well not bother as the risks (if you value what you have) are just too high.
I'd fix the relationship first.
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By (user no longer on site)
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You cannot try to encourage someone to have sex with strangers just because you want to see it. That is really wrong, you don't own anyone elses body.
Is the reason you want her to swing really because you want to see her, or do you feel it will open up more meets for you.
Noone should ever try and persuade others to have sex. I think pressurising is really wrong |
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