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So is it just me, or is anyone else finding that the good looking blokes on Fab, despite giving it all the talk; they can't wait to do this and that to you, can we be regular? Really wanna be regular, can't wait to meet u, etc. When it comes down to actually meeting, most either stand you up or go quiet. The odd one has the decency to fabricate an excuse. I can't believe that anyone is so busy they can't find a couple of hours at any point in their lives ever; doesn't ring true, and why join a site for meets if that's the case! Any explanations of the complicated male psychee greatly appreciated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like many of them will be married or attached and can't get an excuse to escape home without good reason. People not cheating can make a time to meet and keep to it.
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Could be they are thinking you might want a bit more than just straight forward uncomplicated sex.
Plenty of blokes just see this site as a catalogue of women or couples for them to choose from, then fuck and go, never to be seen or heard from again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So is it just me, or is anyone else finding that the good looking blokes on Fab, despite giving it all the talk; they can't wait to do this and that to you, can we be regular? Really wanna be regular, can't wait to meet u, etc. When it comes down to actually meeting, most either stand you up or go quiet. The odd one has the decency to fabricate an excuse. I can't believe that anyone is so busy they can't find a couple of hours at any point in their lives ever; doesn't ring true, and why join a site for meets if that's the case! Any explanations of the complicated male psychee greatly appreciated."
This is why going for a 4 (me) is always the safe option  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes they get off on the idea and messages about what you'll do and then bail after they finish their wank  we've had so many do this, can tell a mile off now the one handed texters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So is it just me, or is anyone else finding that the good looking blokes on Fab, despite giving it all the talk; they can't wait to do this and that to you, can we be regular? Really wanna be regular, can't wait to meet u, etc. When it comes down to actually meeting, most either stand you up or go quiet. The odd one has the decency to fabricate an excuse. I can't believe that anyone is so busy they can't find a couple of hours at any point in their lives ever; doesn't ring true, and why join a site for meets if that's the case! Any explanations of the complicated male psychee greatly appreciated."
I agree. I don't entertain "I'm gonna do this to you" etc now if meeting because it never happens |
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"Sometimes they get off on the idea and messages about what you'll do and then bail after they finish their wank we've had so many do this, can tell a mile off now the one handed texters."
Was thinking the exact same thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've noticed it happens a lot on dating apps that women will say they want to go for a drink and then just ghost you. Maybe it's a general pattern of behaviour online and not specific to men or women. |
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over a year ago
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"To be honest I’m just looking for a FWB. No one wants to give me the time to actually verify me when I’m genuine lool"
I don't give veris out now to men, I found myself always being the first and more often that not, never getting one in return, so I don't bother now |
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"I've noticed it happens a lot on dating apps that women will say they want to go for a drink and then just ghost you. Maybe it's a general pattern of behaviour online and not specific to men or women. "
Yes. totally agree with your statement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could be they have busy lives and trying to sort a time that suits you both isn't easy.
Exactly this  "
What? Repeatedly every weekend. I see the same people posting the same lines I fell for. Still no meet verifications though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've noticed it happens a lot on dating apps that women will say they want to go for a drink and then just ghost you. Maybe it's a general pattern of behaviour online and not specific to men or women. "
This |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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At the risk of victim blaming, if this is happening all too regularly for you then perhaps you might want to look at your selection process.
At a minimum set your filters to only allow verified people to contact you, and only expend effort on guys who have at least a few verifications under their belt.
Insist on webcam / vidcall or at least phone contact early on.
Genuinely single, and up for it guys won't bat an eyelid at this. |
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"So is it just me, or is anyone else finding that the good looking blokes on Fab, despite giving it all the talk; they can't wait to do this and that to you, can we be regular? Really wanna be regular, can't wait to meet u, etc. When it comes down to actually meeting, most either stand you up or go quiet. The odd one has the decency to fabricate an excuse. I can't believe that anyone is so busy they can't find a couple of hours at any point in their lives ever; doesn't ring true, and why join a site for meets if that's the case! Any explanations of the complicated male psychee greatly appreciated."
With the many good looking blockes its i want it now with you.
Then its ive moved onto the next person and so the cycle continues.
If I cant have it with that person I will then try it with the next one and so on until someone says yes.
Its also with most males as well those copy and paste guys
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Looks are irrelevant, even the average/regular guys do this... I've had 2 cancel on me this week, car trouble and not feeling great... After pursuing me. Only socials, no sex talk... It's frustrating! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I spoke to my FWB about this. He mentioned he feels that men and women feel differently about the “build up”. For me (female) the “build up” isn’t that much of a thing for me. I’m excited when we meet, not really before. For men, he reckoned the idea of fucking and meeting was as exciting as the meet itself. Not sure how much truth there is in that. |
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Life is very busy, I'm not even sure how. I look back at the week and think where did that go.
The problem can be so many fakes and profiles here just for fantasy and chat. Once they have got what they want then no reason. As for meets and dropping out, yes sometimes things happen but if it keeps happening then something is wrong.
The key is to not take it personally and is part of the site, and I hate to say life. Trying to meet regular friends is hard enough, finding a date we can all meet up is like pulling teeth.
I hope you get some better luck OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I spoke to my FWB about this. He mentioned he feels that men and women feel differently about the “build up”. For me (female) the “build up” isn’t that much of a thing for me. I’m excited when we meet, not really before. For men, he reckoned the idea of fucking and meeting was as exciting as the meet itself. Not sure how much truth there is in that. "
I love the build up! |
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"Could be they have busy lives and trying to sort a time that suits you both isn't easy.
Exactly this
What? Repeatedly every weekend. I see the same people posting the same lines I fell for. Still no meet verifications though. "
Well the OP has two points being put across the first about men giving it all the talk and then going quiet.
The second about not believing people are “so busy they can’t find a couple of hours to meet”
- Well I’m agreeing with what JustBo wrote, which is aimed at the second point made. Not everyone can find a couple of hours to meet, if one is free only on a certain day and the other isn’t then it’s hard to align diaries.
My opinion & advice about the men that go quiet or stand you up - Then sorry that it happens, but change your approach / selection process to finding men that are well verified and actually meet people.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Could be they have busy lives and trying to sort a time that suits you both isn't easy.
Exactly this
What? Repeatedly every weekend. I see the same people posting the same lines I fell for. Still no meet verifications though.
Well the OP has two points being put across the first about men giving it all the talk and then going quiet.
The second about not believing people are “so busy they can’t find a couple of hours to meet”
- Well I’m agreeing with what JustBo wrote, which is aimed at the second point made. Not everyone can find a couple of hours to meet, if one is free only on a certain day and the other isn’t then it’s hard to align diaries.
My opinion & advice about the men that go quiet or stand you up - Then sorry that it happens, but change your approach / selection process to finding men that are well verified and actually meet people.
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My only no show was someone who was well verified.
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I think that if the male is unverified you can expect a higher probability that they won’t turn up/follow through. This is because a lot of people like the idea of a meet but the reality of actually meeting is another thing.
If the male is verified then I would suggest that indicates that they are (somewhat) reliable and it is then simply a case of being able to arrange suitable diaries. I know from personal experience that is not as simple as it seems due to outside life events in both sides. |
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"My only no show was someone who was well verified.
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Sorry to hear that. With no explanation? I guess that is just bad luck. Verifications aren’t a fail safe but they do give you a good indication I’d say + Going with gut instinct, it’s just a risk we all take on here meeting someone… |
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By *MCMan
over a year ago
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"Could be they have busy lives and trying to sort a time that suits you both isn't easy.
Exactly this
What? Repeatedly every weekend. I see the same people posting the same lines I fell for. Still no meet verifications though.
Well the OP has two points being put across the first about men giving it all the talk and then going quiet.
The second about not believing people are “so busy they can’t find a couple of hours to meet”
- Well I’m agreeing with what JustBo wrote, which is aimed at the second point made. Not everyone can find a couple of hours to meet, if one is free only on a certain day and the other isn’t then it’s hard to align diaries.
My opinion & advice about the men that go quiet or stand you up - Then sorry that it happens, but change your approach / selection process to finding men that are well verified and actually meet people.
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Montana is right.. it can be tricky to align schedules.. a few times I’ve been asked to meet at the drop of a hat, only to be called a time waster because I can’t due to being at work and just having a check of fab on a break, its ridiculous..
Getting meets is the easy part for you, ing out the legit ones will be a difficult task.. hopefully you have some better luck soon and some males restore your faith in fab.. goodluck! |
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"To be honest I’m just looking for a FWB. No one wants to give me the time to actually verify me when I’m genuine lool
I don't give veris out now to men, I found myself always being the first and more often that not, never getting one in return, so I don't bother now "
That's exactly what I've found, once a guy's got a veri from you they don't want to know you anymore, |
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I imagine that the reality is that, amongst the huge number of men on here, there is only a relatively small number who are considered 'desirable'. Those men have the 'pick' and some will use that to their advantage. Fab, much like Tinder etc is still going to be a very image based environment. |
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"I think that if the male is unverified you can expect a higher probability that they won’t turn up/follow through. This is because a lot of people like the idea of a meet but the reality of actually meeting is another thing.
If the male is verified then I would suggest that indicates that they are (somewhat) reliable and it is then simply a case of being able to arrange suitable diaries. I know from personal experience that is not as simple as it seems due to outside life events in both sides. "
Verification isn't easy for a single male. Meets without verification are unlikely, there is a distinct opinion about single males at clubs (far from universal but quite strongly expressed) and unless you ate already in the know then the single male places at socials have generally gone before they are publicised.
I should point out that I'm not complaining, the reality is that it's a ratio situation but it's far from easy. |
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"I think that if the male is unverified you can expect a higher probability that they won’t turn up/follow through. This is because a lot of people like the idea of a meet but the reality of actually meeting is another thing.
If the male is verified then I would suggest that indicates that they are (somewhat) reliable and it is then simply a case of being able to arrange suitable diaries. I know from personal experience that is not as simple as it seems due to outside life events in both sides.
Verification isn't easy for a single male. Meets without verification are unlikely, there is a distinct opinion about single males at clubs (far from universal but quite strongly expressed) and unless you ate already in the know then the single male places at socials have generally gone before they are publicised.
I should point out that I'm not complaining, the reality is that it's a ratio situation but it's far from easy."
Verification gets easier if you have pics on your profile and a reasonable bio. Just saying. |
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I think too many of them are here because they're cheating on their partners. But ultimately find it physically difficult to cheat. They don't put profile photos up, they say very little on their profile, blatantly leave out they're in a relationship to be more appealing to women. If people want to argue my findings, please be my guest |
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If they go quiet or hit and miss in the evenings, they're married. Some get off on the thrill of the chase and when they get down to a meet, they know deep down they can't back it up. I find a lot of accounts disappear instead |
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