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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So a question.
Can you become immune to sexual attraction?
By having access to constant porn sites, even to places like here where you constantly see body parts does it kind of take the “edge” away.
It seems the more I see the less “excited” or “attracted” and maybe even “interested” I have become.
Yes you can’t beat the actual art of sex but it seems to be of less and less interest.
I’ve tried to express this the best way I can but it’s more that it’s just not “doing it” for me anymore.
Do I just need a break or a different approach? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I go through spells where I hammer porn. Then I'll have to take a break for a few weeks to renew my interest in watching it
Is that a bit like Hammer Horror? "
Yes, but with more nudity |
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"So a question.
Can you become immune to sexual attraction?
By having access to constant porn sites, even to places like here where you constantly see body parts does it kind of take the “edge” away.
It seems the more I see the less “excited” or “attracted” and maybe even “interested” I have become.
Yes you can’t beat the actual art of sex but it seems to be of less and less interest.
I’ve tried to express this the best way I can but it’s more that it’s just not “doing it” for me anymore.
Do I just need a break or a different approach?"
OP you need to ponder on what kind of thing turns you on! Sounds like you're losing your mojo  Concentrate on your own fantasies, also think if the times you've enjoyed encounters and try to pick out what made them so pleasurable or special. Then you'll have some guidelines about what you need to raise up some sexual energy. It's like baking a nice cake, some ingredients you can't go without.
Coming on fabs and browsing through all the hunks&hotties, the opening of possibilities, contacts, yes that is all very exciting to begin with. But there's also a very humdrum element to exactly the same, all the ineffectual browsing&chatting, the let-downs or mediocre experiences etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So a question.
Can you become immune to sexual attraction?
By having access to constant porn sites, even to places like here where you constantly see body parts does it kind of take the “edge” away.
It seems the more I see the less “excited” or “attracted” and maybe even “interested” I have become.
Yes you can’t beat the actual art of sex but it seems to be of less and less interest.
I’ve tried to express this the best way I can but it’s more that it’s just not “doing it” for me anymore.
Do I just need a break or a different approach?
OP you need to ponder on what kind of thing turns you on! Sounds like you're losing your mojo Concentrate on your own fantasies, also think if the times you've enjoyed encounters and try to pick out what made them so pleasurable or special. Then you'll have some guidelines about what you need to raise up some sexual energy. It's like baking a nice cake, some ingredients you can't go without.
Coming on fabs and browsing through all the hunks&hotties, the opening of possibilities, contacts, yes that is all very exciting to begin with. But there's also a very humdrum element to exactly the same, all the ineffectual browsing&chatting, the let-downs or mediocre experiences etc."
Thank you. That’s the words I was looking for!! |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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"I go through spells where I hammer porn. Then I'll have to take a break for a few weeks to renew my interest in watching it "
Me too....I definitely think that it desensitises us when we watch too much. If I don't watch any for a while, I perk right up.
On the other hand, after an absence, if I watch some, it perks me back uo for the real thing.
We're complicated creatures, but the more we expose ourselves to something, the more it affects us. |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"So a question.
Can you become immune to sexual attraction?
By having access to constant porn sites, even to places like here where you constantly see body parts does it kind of take the “edge” away.
It seems the more I see the less “excited” or “attracted” and maybe even “interested” I have become.
Yes you can’t beat the actual art of sex but it seems to be of less and less interest.
I’ve tried to express this the best way I can but it’s more that it’s just not “doing it” for me anymore.
Do I just need a break or a different approach?
OP you need to ponder on what kind of thing turns you on! Sounds like you're losing your mojo Concentrate on your own fantasies, also think if the times you've enjoyed encounters and try to pick out what made them so pleasurable or special. Then you'll have some guidelines about what you need to raise up some sexual energy. It's like baking a nice cake, some ingredients you can't go without.
Coming on fabs and browsing through all the hunks&hotties, the opening of possibilities, contacts, yes that is all very exciting to begin with. But there's also a very humdrum element to exactly the same, all the ineffectual browsing&chatting, the let-downs or mediocre experiences etc."
This is a really good answer, and makes some very valid points |
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I think it can in some ways. But being on fab For quite some time, it is good and it’s kind of the feeling for me, which is peering outside of the box slightly.
Its kind of nice from the mundane. So I wouldn’t say desensitised. I would say more open |
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There are any number of reasons.
Look at something called Anhedonia. There is a broad range of possibilities.
In my case I haven't used porn for years, rarely if ever scroll through profiles or look at pics on here, don't get excited in anticipation of new adventures,sexual or otherwise and nothing I do has any long term positive effect on my thought process or mood.
All that and I'm only on the lower end of what could be called a spectrum.
My experience of pleasure is all about being present and in the moment without all the bling. |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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"For me attraction is very visual but I love smells tastes and textures as well. These are things that you cannot get from porn. "
That's very true...and as much as we love it, porn is simply an illusion, and no substitute for the real thing  |
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"So a question.
Can you become immune to sexual attraction?
By having access to constant porn sites, even to places like here where you constantly see body parts does it kind of take the “edge” away.
It seems the more I see the less “excited” or “attracted” and maybe even “interested” I have become.
Yes you can’t beat the actual art of sex but it seems to be of less and less interest.
I’ve tried to express this the best way I can but it’s more that it’s just not “doing it” for me anymore.
Do I just need a break or a different approach?"
Omg you are totally not alone in this! |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"So a question.
Can you become immune to sexual attraction?
By having access to constant porn sites, even to places like here where you constantly see body parts does it kind of take the “edge” away.
It seems the more I see the less “excited” or “attracted” and maybe even “interested” I have become.
Yes you can’t beat the actual art of sex but it seems to be of less and less interest.
I’ve tried to express this the best way I can but it’s more that it’s just not “doing it” for me anymore.
Do I just need a break or a different approach?
Omg you are totally not alone in this! "
I think this is going to be an increasing problem in society.
Easy access to porn is a good thing in many ways...but it's also the problem. The phrase "lost your mojo" was used earlier in this topic, and this (along with various other modern day issues) can be a huge cause. |
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I think a break is good for you. I go through periods (like now) where sex is the last thing on my mind, and it's possibly not helped by this place, seeing body part after body part and the same topics recycled over and over on the forum. |
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"So a question.
Can you become immune to sexual attraction?
By having access to constant porn sites, even to places like here where you constantly see body parts does it kind of take the “edge” away.
It seems the more I see the less “excited” or “attracted” and maybe even “interested” I have become.
Yes you can’t beat the actual art of sex but it seems to be of less and less interest.
I’ve tried to express this the best way I can but it’s more that it’s just not “doing it” for me anymore.
Do I just need a break or a different approach?"
I've gotten to the point in my life where I clearly need a connection with someone to want to have any sort of sexual intimacy with them. It's not that I don't notice the sexual charm of people, it's more that it alone isn't enough for me anymore. Which isn't an issue for me for many interesting reasons I won't bore people with here.
But yeah, I get where you're coming from. It might just mean you're wanting more from sex, than just the act itself. |
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