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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seems to be an ongoing theme on here of people getting annoyed that they don't fit certain peoples preferences
Why do people spend so much energy focusing on those who don't want them instead of trying to get involved in those who do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree OP...seems to be a lot of people moaning about that other people's age filters ..
And couples complaining one of them is too old, and implying that other members should not have upper age limits ... |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Seems to be an ongoing theme on here of people getting annoyed that they don't fit certain peoples preferences
Why do people spend so much energy focusing on those who don't want them instead of trying to get involved in those who do?"
I do and with exactly the same results I get ignored or I get deleted.
Too few women and far too high expectations by wonen |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seems to be an ongoing theme on here of people getting annoyed that they don't fit certain peoples preferences
Why do people spend so much energy focusing on those who don't want them instead of trying to get involved in those who do?
I do and with exactly the same results I get ignored or I get deleted.
Too few women and far too high expectations by wonen"
What your definition of 'too high expectations' ?
Cause, correct me if I'm wrong, people are allowed to be picky with who they decide to share their body with, no? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree OP...seems to be a lot of people moaning about that other people's age filters ..
And couples complaining one of them is too old, and implying that other members should not have upper age limits ..."
No just age, there's been topic recently from a couple of white men complaining about 'bbc only' profiles, which are the vast minority
I hate the term 'bbc' 
However there are so many profiles that state they only prefer to meet white playmates so why not focus on them!!! |
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If i know someone's not interested in me I move on pretty quick, there's just no point wasting your time like that.
Focusing on the those who do show an interest would result in lots of meets with people I don't want to meet haha
I've yet to find someone who wants me as I want them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If i know someone's not interested in me I move on pretty quick, there's just no point wasting your time like that.
Focusing on the those who do show an interest would result in lots of meets with people I don't want to meet haha
I've yet to find someone who wants me as I want them. "
Same!
Lots of profiles on here only want slim playmates
I could imagine starting a topic saying 'how dare they don't want to meet me, it's their loss'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If i know someone's not interested in me I move on pretty quick, there's just no point wasting your time like that.
Focusing on the those who do show an interest would result in lots of meets with people I don't want to meet haha
I've yet to find someone who wants me as I want them.
Same!
Lots of profiles on here only want slim playmates
I could imagine starting a topic saying 'how dare they don't want to meet me, it's their loss' "
genuinely their loss, curvy ladies are better  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If i know someone's not interested in me I move on pretty quick, there's just no point wasting your time like that.
Focusing on the those who do show an interest would result in lots of meets with people I don't want to meet haha
I've yet to find someone who wants me as I want them.
Same!
Lots of profiles on here only want slim playmates
I could imagine starting a topic saying 'how dare they don't want to meet me, it's their loss' genuinely their loss, curvy ladies are better "
It's not their loss at all
How can it be a loss for them if its not what they like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems to be an ongoing theme on here of people getting annoyed that they don't fit certain peoples preferences
Why do people spend so much energy focusing on those who don't want them instead of trying to get involved in those who do?
I do and with exactly the same results I get ignored or I get deleted.
Too few women and far too high expectations by wonen
What your definition of 'too high expectations' ?
Cause, correct me if I'm wrong, people are allowed to be picky with who they decide to share their body with, no?"
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Part of the issue are ambiguous profiles where they don’t make it absolutely clear what they seek and what they don’t. In my first message I actually say ‘if I am of no interest please delete the message so I know’ . I then block so I don’t accidentally contact them again in the future. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Part of the issue are ambiguous profiles where they don’t make it absolutely clear what they seek and what they don’t. In my first message I actually say ‘if I am of no interest please delete the message so I know’ . I then block so I don’t accidentally contact them again in the future."
I should of been a bit clearer on my original post, I was refering to forum topics where (1) people complain about not being able to message certain profiles cause of age filters and (2) complain about profiles that state a preference such as 'slim bodies' 'bbc only' etc |
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"Part of the issue are ambiguous profiles where they don’t make it absolutely clear what they seek and what they don’t. In my first message I actually say ‘if I am of no interest please delete the message so I know’ . I then block so I don’t accidentally contact them again in the future.
I should of been a bit clearer on my original post, I was refering to forum topics where (1) people complain about not being able to message certain profiles cause of age filters and (2) complain about profiles that state a preference such as 'slim bodies' 'bbc only' etc "
Yeah that would have helped  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m a bit confused.
Someone’s preference is their preference. That doesn’t stop me looking at a profile and thinking if only I was a year older or younger. I have also looked at female profiles and thought “please be bi”.
Seems you’re dammed if you do and dammed if you don’t.
I also think that we show the photos we want. Normally a better angle. I always read the profile. Looks are one thing but I need the “chat” as well.
For me there seems a lot of people who try and belittle others sometimes in the forums and that for me, regardless of looks or preferences, is an instant nope |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its been my experience that I can be everything that a profile is looking for,every detail correct and still get no reply or interest.
I know attraction is subjective but concentrating on who wants you is no more effective than 'giving it a shot' I've found |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m a bit confused.
Someone’s preference is their preference. That doesn’t stop me looking at a profile and thinking if only I was a year older or younger. I have also looked at female profiles and thought “please be bi”.
Seems you’re dammed if you do and dammed if you don’t.
I also think that we show the photos we want. Normally a better angle. I always read the profile. Looks are one thing but I need the “chat” as well.
For me there seems a lot of people who try and belittle others sometimes in the forums and that for me, regardless of looks or preferences, is an instant nope "
There's difference between seeing a profile where you don't match their preferences but not complaining about it
Than seeing thar and then complaining, slating off the profile and becoming hostile over it |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"Part of the issue are ambiguous profiles where they don’t make it absolutely clear what they seek and what they don’t. In my first message I actually say ‘if I am of no interest please delete the message so I know’ . I then block so I don’t accidentally contact them again in the future.
I should of been a bit clearer on my original post, I was refering to forum topics where (1) people complain about not being able to message certain profiles cause of age filters and (2) complain about profiles that state a preference such as 'slim bodies' 'bbc only' etc "
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Some people just like to have a moan, cheers them up lol  |
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