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By *rof_cpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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Just trying to work out how many other couples (not single guys) would be put off meeting another couple if the male was bi-curious?
We put it on our profile because, well... it's true, but can absolutely take it or leave it when around straight guys so wouldn't have thought it would be an issue, but it's be interesting to find out. |
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By *i de BiCouple
over a year ago
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Not a problem for us, as we are a bi couple.But to be honest its still an issue with alot of Bi fem couples and not unusual to read a profile saying `no bi guys`
I like the fact you are been honest about been bi curious and if you explain what you are looking for or have experienced so far, then perspective play mates can make their own mind up.
Our pet hate is straight profiles , that say they are bi or `open minded` . |
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That's a very interesting topic, I (Male Half) am bi and like yourselves it's something we put on our profile. We are regulars at a club and know many couples that go there and we know for fact a few couples avoid us because I'm bi.
We have also had situations where other couples where the guy is straight go out of their way to mention and keep saying they're straight, it's like they're indirectly telling me hands off the bloke.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn't, but as I'm not bi, there wouldn't really be any scope for bi male play. However, if the guy is cool with that, then it doesn't bother me. What I have noticed on some profiles is somewhat the opposite where a couple states that they're not interested in meeting couples if the guy is not bi. We respect this. It's just a matter of preference like anything else on here.
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"Just trying to work out how many other couples (not single guys) would be put off meeting another couple if the male was bi-curious?
We put it on our profile because, well... it's true, but can absolutely take it or leave it when around straight guys so wouldn't have thought it would be an issue, but it's be interesting to find out."
Wouldn't put us off . Same here too as male not fully bi so can easily play straight if needed |
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Never been an issue for either of us. To be fair a lot of couples we know and have been with the guy is bi or has some bi intrest (there's quite a spectrum out there). They know Mr is straight and they also know he is perfectly comfortable around bi guys. |
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I (Mr Bakewell) am straight and wouldn't wish to experiment but if we ever got into a mmf situation the other guy being bi wouldn't bother me.
Someone's personality is more important than a label to us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just trying to work out how many other couples (not single guys) would be put off meeting another couple if the male was bi-curious?
We put it on our profile because, well... it's true, but can absolutely take it or leave it when around straight guys so wouldn't have thought it would be an issue, but it's be interesting to find out." Personal choices matter. Can't have fun if someone out of their comfort zone. |
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"We will not meet bi men or people who meet tv/ts been lied to before I know it's a little small-minded but doesn't take much to turn an evening bad and we have no time for that.
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Is it not worth a brief but politely worded mention in your profile? Until such time as the search function gets updated to make it a bit more useful? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Such an interesting topic...
I've found that 99% of couples run for the hills, "it's a no from us" and in extreme cases, actually block me because they think I'll jump on the guy, kiss him, snog him and fuck him - which as we all (sorry!) Most of us all know, just isn't the case at all!!!
Being bi, or curious just means that your much more open minded, relaxed to various situations, opportunities often making for a much more enjoyable experience for everyone involved - think oral (I don't kiss men!) but like to share cock/pussy together...
Straight is ok but personally always find the experience cold, awkward and uncomfortable whereas bi 'open' couples thoroughly enjoy sex - which at the end of the day is exactly that, sex, pleasure!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Such an interesting topic...
I've found that 99% of couples run for the hills, "it's a no from us" and in extreme cases, actually block me because they think I'll jump on the guy, kiss him, snog him and fuck him - which as we all (sorry!) Most of us all know, just isn't the case at all!!!
Being bi, or curious just means that your much more open minded, relaxed to various situations, opportunities often making for a much more enjoyable experience for everyone involved - think oral (I don't kiss men!) but like to share cock/pussy together...
Straight is ok but personally always find the experience cold, awkward and uncomfortable whereas bi 'open' couples thoroughly enjoy sex - which at the end of the day is exactly that, sex, pleasure!!! " But it's still thier choice. You can't pressure them into doing it just because your upset that they don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Such an interesting topic...
I've found that 99% of couples run for the hills, "it's a no from us" and in extreme cases, actually block me because they think I'll jump on the guy, kiss him, snog him and fuck him - which as we all (sorry!) Most of us all know, just isn't the case at all!!!
Being bi, or curious just means that your much more open minded, relaxed to various situations, opportunities often making for a much more enjoyable experience for everyone involved - think oral (I don't kiss men!) but like to share cock/pussy together...
Straight is ok but personally always find the experience cold, awkward and uncomfortable whereas bi 'open' couples thoroughly enjoy sex - which at the end of the day is exactly that, sex, pleasure!!! But it's still thier choice. You can't pressure them into doing it just because your upset that they don't. "
No, ha, not at all...
I love sex
I hate labels |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It always surprises me that people seem to think if the guy is bi he’s going to make a play for any male within his radius.
Not so, anymore than me jumping on any woman because I’m bi.
There had to be an attraction, exactly the same as with straight people. We’re no different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It always surprises me that people seem to think if the guy is bi he’s going to make a play for any male within his radius.
Not so, anymore than me jumping on any woman because I’m bi.
There had to be an attraction, exactly the same as with straight people. We’re no different." But yet it's a " personal choice" . I tried a woman going down on me . I didn't like it. Why subject your significant other to those thoughts? Trying to justify others opinion doesn't make your needs a priority. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol I mean seriously just because a couple says no to bi. They just do not like the concept of it. But yet some try to pressure others to their to lifestyle why is that ? |
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Wouldnt bother us. Im straight but just because a guy is bi, doesnt mean i have to put my ass againt the wall or "cover up in case he fancies me"! Generally, people are respectful of bounderies and if theres an accidental crossing of swords, i aint squeamish and i aint running into dark corner to cry! Its about communication before the meet! If i were to do any sexual activity with bloke, C would love it anyway!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" But yet it's a " personal choice" . I tried a woman going down on me . I didn't like it. Why subject your significant other to those thoughts? Trying to justify others opinion doesn't make your needs a priority."
I think you have misunderstood the point I was trying to make. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" But yet it's a " personal choice" . I tried a woman going down on me . I didn't like it. Why subject your significant other to those thoughts? Trying to justify others opinion doesn't make your needs a priority.
I think you have misunderstood the point I was trying to make." but yet getting upset on others choices is horrible. In your eyes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just trying to work out how many other couples (not single guys) would be put off meeting another couple if the male was bi-curious? Isn't that a personal choice or do we need society to dictate ...just asking no offense you were curious.
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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No problem, as long as the guy is willing to play totally straight. Guy on guy is an instant turn off for both of us. Unfortunately, though, we have had a few negative experiences where, despite reassurances, a bi guy has tried it on. We've never been sure whether it's because of lack of self control, or because some guys believe the Fab myth that everyone is a bit bi. Whatever the reason it's ended any play instantly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No problem, as long as the guy is willing to play totally straight. Guy on guy is an instant turn off for both of us. Unfortunately, though, we have had a few negative experiences where, despite reassurances, a bi guy has tried it on. We've never been sure whether it's because of lack of self control, or because some guys believe the Fab myth that everyone is a bit bi. Whatever the reason it's ended any play instantly." I agree the same experience.
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Bi profiles are fine, just as long as they are honest about things like safe sex, etc.
My husband is a former journalist, and puts his skills to good use when a profile doesn't seem right, cross-referencing the details through other sites.
It's rather alarming/depressing how many of the very same people who have approached us as bi-curious guys who practice safe sex have been found on gay sites presenting themselves as fully bi and into bareback.
You can call it snooping or even scummy, but I'd rather not put our health at risk from someone unconcerned about honesty when it really counts. |
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Have met and played with couples where the male was bi but boundaries were kept so that was fine, if like others have stated those were ignored then it would have been an instant end to the fun.
It's the people who lie about it then push their luck that get me, or those who would say they respect the boundaries and then cross them |
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We've found it an issue, had a few nasty messages in our time on here about it too. It is what it is, just coz he's bi doesn't mean he's gonna go straight for the other guys arse anymore than it means I'm going straight for the womans fanny. |
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"Just trying to work out how many other couples (not single guys) would be put off meeting another couple if the male was bi-curious? Isn't that a personal choice or do we need society to dictate ...just asking no offense you were curious.
" Some people are quite Bi phobic, especially when it comes to bi-men!!!! Yes of course its their choice. . But I find or slightly hypocritical, In one breath there looking to meet a Bi-female. But won't meet bi-males. Hubby only come out as Bi in the last few months after 7yrs in the lifestyle. Says its more fun. But doesn't get the urge to randomly grab every cock he sees. |
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We haven’t found it has been an issue with getting or during meets, boundaries always discussed beforehand and we both enjoy straight or bi experiences. Clearly states on our profile (for those that read profiles obvs). |
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Everyone has the right to their own likes and dislikes on here. Same as we wont play with bi guys who only do oral. Some are fab bi and only suck to get to fuck the female. Not for us at all. So in same regard we know we are not for straight cpls and accept that so dont contact them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just trying to work out how many other couples (not single guys) would be put off meeting another couple if the male was bi-curious?
We put it on our profile because, well... it's true, but can absolutely take it or leave it when around straight guys so wouldn't have thought it would be an issue, but it's be interesting to find out."
it’s an absolute turn on for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just trying to work out how many other couples (not single guys) would be put off meeting another couple if the male was bi-curious? Isn't that a personal choice or do we need society to dictate ...just asking no offense you were curious.
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That's like saying I'll always order steak in the restaurant because I love steak... Er, no!?
99% of the time I fancy pasta!
Bi = openess, freedom, relaxed!
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Not for us, neither of us like the idea we once played with a couple who changed their profile fromstraight to bi the next day that was dirty trick.
Its simply not a preference for us. It's rather like forcing a blindfolded vegan to eat meat.
Be and do who you are, but allow others to do the same. We are all seeking pleasure and we all different views of what that is. |
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We met a couple in our early days on fab. Got on really well, had a social or two and shared a bed with them on a few club visits over two years or so. Never played with them as we all preferred to watch / be watched. We felt like they were genuine friends.
Rob then realised he was bi so updated our profile accordingly. We got blocked by the couple a few days later |
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"We met a couple in our early days on fab. Got on really well, had a social or two and shared a bed with them on a few club visits over two years or so. Never played with them as we all preferred to watch / be watched. We felt like they were genuine friends.
Rob then realised he was bi so updated our profile accordingly. We got blocked by the couple a few days later "
Their loss, your gain, you opened a whole new avenue of opportunity |
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"We met a couple in our early days on fab. Got on really well, had a social or two and shared a bed with them on a few club visits over two years or so. Never played with them as we all preferred to watch / be watched. We felt like they were genuine friends.
Rob then realised he was bi so updated our profile accordingly. We got blocked by the couple a few days later "
That's really sad and all too familiar. We met a couple socially a good number of times, all got on great, even got together as families for some days out. When Fumble opened up about being bi to me and changed his status on here they blocked us on everything within a day. That hurt! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're both bi, so it doesn't put us off seeing it on others' profiles.
Being bi, means we are perfectly happy around; and with, straight couples too. We're not about to pounce on you if you're not bi. If you are though, we'll only do what you're happy with. We'll never push for more. |
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"We will not meet bi men or people who meet tv/ts been lied to before I know it's a little small-minded but doesn't take much to turn an evening bad and we have no time for that.
Is it not worth a brief but politely worded mention in your profile? Until such time as the search function gets updated to make it a bit more useful? "
No, having straight as a gender should be enough.
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"We will not meet bi men or people who meet tv/ts been lied to before I know it's a little small-minded but doesn't take much to turn an evening bad and we have no time for that.
Is it not worth a brief but politely worded mention in your profile? Until such time as the search function gets updated to make it a bit more useful?
No, having straight as a gender should be enough.
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A lot of it is respecting whatever dynamic they have, I am bi but if I was invited to play with a straight couple and we got out communication sorted at the beginning, I should be able to focus mainly on Miss, and let Mr be not messed with by me. It's no different than any other part of ongoing consent. |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"We met a couple in our early days on fab. Got on really well, had a social or two and shared a bed with them on a few club visits over two years or so. Never played with them as we all preferred to watch / be watched. We felt like they were genuine friends.
Rob then realised he was bi so updated our profile accordingly. We got blocked by the couple a few days later
That's really sad and all too familiar. We met a couple socially a good number of times, all got on great, even got together as families for some days out. When Fumble opened up about being bi to me and changed his status on here they blocked us on everything within a day. That hurt! "
That is a crappy thing to do, their loss though
and I'm sure you guys make lots of better friends |
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A question for all the straight guys. How do you react if during a session with another couple the male accidently touches you. Not talking about grabbing your cock but inadvertedly touching your back or worse your bum.
Had this once when there was so much tension caused by the guy going on and on about being straight and not wanting to be touched it totally spoiled the evening. |
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Theres quite a lot of Male biphobia on here, ironica as Bi Fems are actively seeked out.
My favourite experience of a couple being weird about me being bi was when they kept stressing that the man was straight. I told them not to worry as he's not my type and happy to focus on the lady. Then all of a sudden it was like I had offended him and they were questioning why I didn't want to fuck him and was he not hot enough and why I dont find him hot.
Generally most people can read and are pretty chill about it, though I definitely get less response since I changed it from straight to bi
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" A question for all the straight guys. How do you react if during a session with another couple the male accidently touches you. Not talking about grabbing your cock but inadvertedly touching your back or worse your bum.
Had this once when there was so much tension caused by the guy going on and on about being straight and not wanting to be touched it totally spoiled the evening."
No real problem here. It happens when all in close proximity. And if at some point the two men are giving one of the women lots of attention, then in some situations even more likely. I mean if someone wants DP or DVP… |
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"We met a couple in our early days on fab. Got on really well, had a social or two and shared a bed with them on a few club visits over two years or so. Never played with them as we all preferred to watch / be watched. We felt like they were genuine friends.
Rob then realised he was bi so updated our profile accordingly. We got blocked by the couple a few days later
That's really sad and all too familiar. We met a couple socially a good number of times, all got on great, even got together as families for some days out. When Fumble opened up about being bi to me and changed his status on here they blocked us on everything within a day. That hurt! "
Disgusting. Sorry you both went through that.
Personally I won't meet straight couples, even though I know there's plenty of couples that are chill. The risk of being shamed or treated as though I'm some kind of risk is too great, I've no interest in being made to feel like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m so sorry to hear of all the sad stories on here when bi men come out, I long for the day when bi men are seen as special as bi women are. You are all fab in my book |
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" A question for all the straight guys. How do you react if during a session with another couple the male accidently touches you. Not talking about grabbing your cock but inadvertedly touching your back or worse your bum.
Had this once when there was so much tension caused by the guy going on and on about being straight and not wanting to be touched it totally spoiled the evening." In the 7yrs I was straight we mainly attended group parties. crossing swords, being touched was just one of those things. You just appoligesd and carried on. Even now I would never intentional touch some unless it was a Bi meet. |
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"Just trying to work out how many other couples (not single guys) would be put off meeting another couple if the male was bi-curious?
" It would put us off meeting another couple if the male wasn’t bi. |
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