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"Is sending winks a complete waste of time ? "
Depends what you do with them. We like winks - if someone winks at us then we delete it if they're not our type, or if they are then we wink back as a "yes, please message us".
So often though, we get a wink, we wink back and then......nothing. We then message after a few days and generally don't get a reply.
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By *..WillowCouple
over a year ago
East Lincs |
"Is sending winks a complete waste of time ?
Depends what you do with them. We like winks - if someone winks at us then we delete it if they're not our type, or if they are then we wink back as a "yes, please message us".
So often though, we get a wink, we wink back and then......nothing. We then message after a few days and generally don't get a reply.
(Bry)"
This is why we gave up on winks. |
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"Ive sent you a well thought message a couple of times and you jut simply delete.
Maybe after the first one, you might have thought that they didn't fancy you?
(Bry)"
I get that Bry but i think its polite to reply. Do you get replies all the time??? |
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"I get that Bry but i think its polite to reply. Do you get replies all the time???"
That chestnut is done to death many, many times. Fab's own FAQ says that "no reply = no thanks" and people telling us we're rude for not replying just gets them blocked.
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"Ive sent you a well thought message a couple of times and you jut simply delete.
Maybe after the first one, you might have thought that they didn't fancy you?
(Bry)"
He hasn't messaged at all, it says on someone's profile if they've messaged, there's been no messages. We wouldn't reply to a Man's profile which has photos of a Woman anyway. |
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By *rogalCouple
over a year ago
Falkirk |
We like winks, we wink, get a wink back and then message. Saves wasting time on a personalised message when there was no chance in the first place.
It was why the wink was included on the site  |
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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago
A Galaxy far far away |
Not that I message or wink much but I would use winks to show appreciation/ declare but acknowledge I might not tick each and every box being looked for.
Good feature but as women get 100's of messages a day, I doubt maybe women / couples bother you check them |
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"We never look at winks.
If you can't be bothered to send a message then we can't be bothered to respond to a wink.
Other opinions are available
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This for us too, even worse sending us friend invites without a message |
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"Winks are good as it can show the other person you like them without having the brain melt of the first message lol   "
Also good for those of us with anxiety issues as we don't have to worry about the "you're not really our type" message coming back
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Winks are good as it can show the other person you like them without having the brain melt of the first message lol
Also good for those of us with anxiety issues as we don't have to worry about the "you're not really our type" message coming back
(Bry)"
Yeah exactly that,as I the Mrs Do actually suffer from bad anxiety and that would definitely be a bummer lol |
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"Yeah exactly that,as I the Mrs Do actually suffer from bad anxiety and that would definitely be a bummer"
If you were closer we'd definitely add you to our "not really a hotlist but a list of people we'd desperately love to meet but are too shy to message so we might send them wink one day list"
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If you were closer we'd definitely add you to our "not really a hotlist but a list of people we'd desperately love to meet but are too shy to message
(Bry)"
I'm always surprised when couples who seem (from the outside) confident are actually quite shy. Not sure why that should be.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is sending winks a complete waste of time ?
Depends what you do with them. We like winks - if someone winks at us then we delete it if they're not our type, or if they are then we wink back as a "yes, please message us".
So often though, we get a wink, we wink back and then......nothing. We then message after a few days and generally don't get a reply.
(Bry)"
Yes, same for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t like generic copy paste messages, prefer to make some effort after reading a profile but this takes a long time and normally never gets a response so I assumed winks were to gauge interest before dropping a nice long message. Hmm. Maybe I’ve got this wrong! |
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By *MCMan
over a year ago
London/EA |
"I like winks, I use them n I get them, its just a way of saying there's an interest. If nothing comes of it it's not exactly end of world stuff  "
Use them for exactly the same purpose, if I wink first I’ll follow up with a message if it’s reciprocated… some people appear to believe it is the end of the world tho unfortunately  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often wink when I don’t think I really stand a chance of a reply but would still like to show appreciation of the person in the profile,. Same with gabbing pictures..
I love winks, just don’t get enough from those who I’d like too… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is sending winks a complete waste of time ?
Depends what you do with them. We like winks - if someone winks at us then we delete it if they're not our type, or if they are then we wink back as a "yes, please message us".
So often though, we get a wink, we wink back and then......nothing. We then message after a few days and generally don't get a reply.
(Bry)"
Yeah we quite like winks as well - it’s a “we like your profile” sign for us…equivalent to your eyes meeting in a bar and smiling at each other, I think. If we don’t get a wink back, then we generally just leave it. If we get a wink back, we will message (in general)
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As others have commented above, a wink is a general sign of interest…if I receive a wink back I will message…to me there’s a mutual interest/attraction from photos and so I’ll engage
I get the message if you like us approach too though
Ladies/couples feel free to wink away |
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By *andJDubaiCouple
over a year ago
Dubai, with visits to Glasgow, Edinburgh and London |
We like a wink, we treat it as a compliment about our or the other parties profile and like a little
“hello, we are interested in you do you want to have a look at us and if you feel the same?”
If the answer is yes then we try to put some time and effort into a message. |
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"We like winks, we wink, get a wink back and then message. Saves wasting time on a personalised message when there was no chance in the first place.
I'd agree with you, i use winks and a few fabbed photos if I get 1 back I would follow up with a message. A conversation starter and sign of interest. If I dont get one back no problem keep winking haha
It was why the wink was included on the site "
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We like winks, If we like a profile we'll wink, if they wink back we'll message.
Sometimes we do skip the winking part and just message if it's clear we match what there looking for.
We've had some good meets that have started from a wink |
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"As others have commented above, a wink is a general sign of interest…if I receive a wink back I will message…to me there’s a mutual interest/attraction from photos and so I’ll engage
I get the message if you like us approach too though
Ladies/couples feel free to wink away "
That said, I read the profile and if they don’t meet single guys or im not within their age range (give a year or 2) then I don’t. |
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I like a wink and send them too. As said, if the wink is recipricated then a well thought message will follow and hopefully the message will not become lost in the many messages that ladies and couples recieve, as the recipiant will recognise the name from the wink.
At least thats how i see it, not always the way however ! |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I have met people are they have sent me a wink or I have sent them one at the very start. So no they can work.
In saying that I don't look at mine anymore I think I just got out of the habit especially because at the moment I'm not doing any new meets. |
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Winks are nice between couples who can show interest without risking no reply to a message if low on confidence or new..
Complete waste of everyone's time from a single, guy who needs to work much harder. |
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