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By *mMrbrightside OP Man over a year ago

wakefield

How demoralising are they! Joined last week on one of them and it’s a good job Iv got a thick skin. Thought I’d try and search for a relationship but defo going to be deleting it after the end of the week, not like anyone will notice lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS over a year ago

Cornwall

"The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex-starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single. "

Yep pretty much

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By *pslad99Man over a year ago

colchester

It’s worse the fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex-starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single.

Yep pretty much "

I guess this description refers to me too though. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Last time I was on Tinder I ended up with a FWB who caught feelings for me

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

Not my experience, it’s not dissimilar to being on here. Met plenty of women a couple of decent dates and one relationship that I finished.

Due to what I’ve written on my profile I tend to only match with someone I’d get along with anyway.

Admittedly they’re not for everyone, but I’d give them longer than a few days.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

Actually I enjoy the single dating thing. I didn't seem to find it too hard to find dates and it was fun getting to meet lots of different ladies. Although didn't find the right one. I don't think it's anymore difficult than dating the old fashioned way.

Also when I wasn't looking for love, just hook ups dating sites I found great success with women looking for the same.

In my experience different dating sites tended to cater for different types of women and needs. Never used a dating site cost money though but that's probably the Yorkshire/Scottish in me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

After initially joining for a laugh, it can quickly become demoralising for guys on apps like Tinder or Bumble.

I had an account on Tinder for 4 months and didn't get a single like or match. Not one.

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By *ust Us TogetherWoman over a year ago

Newport

Joined one in 1999 and in the first week I had a meeting with a woman and we ended up getting married.......Still together after 22 years and 14 yrs of swinging as a couple.

Think they were a little less sex based back then, as the internet was just getting started as mainstream.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am on POF , whenever I say anything slightly kinky I get blocked !

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

My work colleague who is very handsome met his gorgeous girlfriend on a dating site and my financial advisor met her husband. Never been on one myself as read about too many murders of females who met males that way.

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By *hekaiserMan over a year ago

Glasgow

"The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single. "

This...

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By *igGs19Woman over a year ago

Castle Douglas

Maybe I was born on the wrong decade, but dating is just weird now. I've done the PoF bit, and the Tinder bit, with little success. Like I've had matches, yes I've had dates and even a couple of relationships that have ended for one reason or another. The whole concept of dating now though, everyone seems to have a dozen folk on the go at once, nothing is "exclusive". Maybe a weird concept when on Fab, but if I'm dating someone, I ain't shagging them on day one, and when the relationship progresses to that point, I'd kinda have hoped they weren't shagging three other folk that same week? Even if there was in interest as a couple to start swinging, shouldn't the relationship be solid before inviting other people into bed or consensually playing away? Nah, fuck that. It's bloody lonely at times, but I'll stick to being single and having my dog for company.

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By *mMrbrightside OP Man over a year ago

wakefield

Definitely can relate to people’s experiences. I didn’t think I was that bad looking “no Tom Cruise but defo not Sloth from the goonies” since joining haven’t had one match. Think I might be better just staying on here and getting a dog for company lol

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By *lackFun69Man over a year ago

East Anglia

I think the problem is that there are serial dates on many different site at the same time always keeping their options open, so it's hard to know if it's a genuine relasonship

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By *unforyou73Man over a year ago

worcester weekend in exmouth

I’ve been on them and never get a match or a like the joys of not being an oil painting

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

We met on a dating site

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By *bw44DDWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

I’ve been on most of the dating sites and I last a couple of hours at most. I thought there was something wrong with me for actually preferring fab to them but this thread has made me feel somewhat normal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Imo they went downhill once covid came along and haven't recovered

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By *mMrbrightside OP Man over a year ago

wakefield

Maybe I should sit on the bonnet of my lambo with a hand full of cash and use that as my profile pic? Wonder if I’d get any messages then lol

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple over a year ago

liverpool

We met on a dating site but God they're awful, we both agree Wouldn't recommend!

Think we just got lucky I was the only date she had from it and it worked out. We still go on them from time to time as we're poly now but neither of us have much luck.

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Last time I was on Tinder I ended up with a FWB who caught feelings for me

They're not a disease

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By *ingeringfunMan over a year ago

Edinburgh

Every time I feel lonely I join one again and regret it within a day or two. And back to FAB I go ... at least here theres true honesty about what you want and need... Been on most of the dating sites by now and all been the same posturing and faking it

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By *elaninMaverickWoman over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"How demoralising are they! Joined last week on one of them and it’s a good job Iv got a thick skin. Thought I’d try and search for a relationship but defo going to be deleting it after the end of the week, not like anyone will notice lol"

They want sex but they pretend like they want a relationship.

They want a relationship but they have no idea how to get and keep a relationship.

They want you to do relationship things for them but they are not willing to reciprocate.

Fab is the only place where I can talk about my low libido.

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

I’m on Bumble and Tinder. I get quite a lot of matches on Bumble. I’m honest about what I’m looking for. A FWBs.

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By *ames-77Man over a year ago

milton keynes

Sorry to hear that mate . Just out of interest what did you find demoralising ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m on Bumble and Tinder. I get quite a lot of matches on Bumble. I’m honest about what I’m looking for. A FWBs. "

Any tips on what you did? I didn't get a single like or match after 4 months on Tinder

Was on bumble for 2 months with the same result

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been on Tinder on and off for a while. It is abit demoralising, but again like fab I guess it's mostly down to the vast number of male members compared to much fewer female members. I've had quite afew matches but I tend to find they ghost completely and don't reply, or take offence when I'm honest straight off and say I'm interested in fwb only, not a serious relationship!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Had some good fun on them.

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By *ittycock400Couple over a year ago

Bristol

We met on a dating website so they aren't all bad.

Much like here though the women will get swamped with messages from men.

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dora and I met on Match 4 years ago and we got married recently.

We talked about and then started swinging last year.

We’re blissfully happy.

It can work!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m on Bumble and Tinder. I get quite a lot of matches on Bumble. I’m honest about what I’m looking for. A FWBs.

Any tips on what you did? I didn't get a single like or match after 4 months on Tinder

Was on bumble for 2 months with the same result"

Did you mention the size of your penis much?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look."

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m on Bumble and Tinder. I get quite a lot of matches on Bumble. I’m honest about what I’m looking for. A FWBs.

Any tips on what you did? I didn't get a single like or match after 4 months on Tinder

Was on bumble for 2 months with the same result

Did you mention the size of your penis much? "

Obviously not :D. But seriously, 4 months and no likes at all is pretty terrible

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By *ausage1970Man over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Tough to find someone at the best of times I keep getting people introducing me to what they think is my ideal partner!!

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I really like Tinder, I rarely switch it on to show my profile publicly but when I do I get quality dates. I pay the £100+ a year for gold don’t know if that helps

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By *ohn KanakaMan over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I met my partner on a dating site several years ago, though to be honest I think we were both drawn to each other based on being on a sea of crazy and weird and realising we were both comparatively normal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I so get the point here, I've used a few, lots of chat, but very quickly realised a lot of fakes, or the spamming money problems. But great to hear people who have been successful,sure there are genuine folk out there. If only I could copy and paste a message I received this morning on fb dating. Got a match, I said the usual Hi, etc. Got a jessage back saying hi, not all great here, no electric, etc, i need to borrow 30 until I get paid on Wednesday...oh dear....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really like Tinder, I rarely switch it on to show my profile publicly but when I do I get quality dates. I pay the £100+ a year for gold don’t know if that helps "

Any advice you can give or tips on what you did?

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I’ve had several dates and even some lengthy relationships from PoF, but it’s gone downhill over the last few years; it’s all about the money now, and it’s spoiled a once-decent site.

However, nothing’s lasted, and I find this site more to my taste these days.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple over a year ago

here & there

We met on bumble… it does work eventually.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I’ve just ended a 6 week subscription with the other site I use, and have 3 ladies I’m getting to know as a result, one of whom I am particularly keen on…..

The irony is; I went back in there because Fab had become so flat for me…..? We’ll see how it goes anyway

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I really like Tinder, I rarely switch it on to show my profile publicly but when I do I get quality dates. I pay the £100+ a year for gold don’t know if that helps

Any advice you can give or tips on what you did? "

Nice pictures, honest text, narrow age range, wide distance range, I always put just looking for friendship / dates etc because this attracts people looking for a type of person rather than a type of thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Reaching out to guys here: do you have any advice for getting at least some likes or matches? Was considering jumping back onto Tinder, but im not going to let it run as long as 4 months with no interest

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple over a year ago

here & there

"Reaching out to guys here: do you have any advice for getting at least some likes or matches? Was considering jumping back onto Tinder, but im not going to let it run as long as 4 months with no interest

Geographic location will be working against you, Aberdeen is not a massive city & given its remote location there is not going to be vast swathes of potential matches for you.

Have a look to see if there’s any social mixers for singletons - we’ve found a few accidentally & had a great night. You may come across better in the flesh than on paper.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

My advice (generally works for me) on this site and dating sites is be unique. Imagine being in a room in which every guy is wearing black, if you’re wearing red you’ll be seen.

Same on dating sites, a variety of photos (not holding fish or leaning on a Ferrari) wearing smart casual wear or actually doing an activity. No use saying you like to go on long walks, if all of your pictures are you at home or in a pub.

Focus on who you’re interested in meeting ideally, so that you’ll have interests in common. So be honest with your bio, if you like world of war craft, car boot sales, classical music etc…add them. A woman who’s not sure if she likes your picture, but knows you’d go to see a Quartet playing Beethoven will probably match as it’s unique to other guys who probably wouldn’t take her.

Do research there’s plenty of advice on the internet on how to improve your Tinder, Bumble etc..profile. But one bit of advice is hide your profile for at least a week and then change the photos or bio around. Then you look new and more interesting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Geographic location will be working against you, Aberdeen is not a massive city & given its remote location there is not going to be vast swathes of potential matches for you.

That's the excuse I leaned on for a while, until someone on another thread mentioned that they visited Aberdeen a few times a year for work and often got a dozen or so matches when he came up.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

Just be yourself in your profile. I've never used Tinder, but I would approach setting up a profile on any site, in a similar way

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple over a year ago

here & there

Geographic location will be working against you, Aberdeen is not a massive city & given its remote location there is not going to be vast swathes of potential matches for you.

That's the excuse I leaned on for a while, until someone on another thread mentioned that they visited Aberdeen a few times a year for work and often got a dozen or so matches when he came up."

That will be the new face effect - our messages always spike whenever we visit a new area.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just be yourself in your profile. I've never used Tinder, but I would approach setting up a profile on any site, in a similar way

Yeah thats how I approached it too. Pointed out my good qualities, mentioned I was looking to meet someone nice. I didn't mention my penis size either (before someone chimes in

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Used fairly decent photos, including some of the face ones from here. Still, no joy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Geographic location will be working against you, Aberdeen is not a massive city & given its remote location there is not going to be vast swathes of potential matches for you.

That's the excuse I leaned on for a while, until someone on another thread mentioned that they visited Aberdeen a few times a year for work and often got a dozen or so matches when he came up.

That will be the new face effect - our messages always spike whenever we visit a new area."

I changed my location to Glasgow for a few weeks - still got nothing

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I’ve given up on them totally

Rather be single

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Which one did you use? Please don't say tinder.Tinder isn't what it's all cracked up to be. It's full of insta wannabees who just plug themselves(no pun intended) for exposure.

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By *ilverfox for youMan over a year ago

Hull

i think in an ideal world all the guys on here including me want a free site where its easy to get sex! maybe call it the carlsberg for sex !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents! "

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male. "

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating"

I’d imagine your negativity comes across and that’s putting women off. Even my ex who’s in his 40s did well on dating sites! And most men I know do fine on proper dating sites.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

I’d imagine your negativity comes across and that’s putting women off. Even my ex who’s in his 40s did well on dating sites! And most men I know do fine on proper dating sites. "

To be honest, I'm very positive on my profile. I never put anything negative on there. And no one liked or matched with me, so its not like I was negative in chat lol.

Sounding more and more like its just me that's experiencing this. Doesn't say much about my appearance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who wants a date?