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Maybe you should put a line in your profile saying that although you are bi you are happy to respect straight couples wishes that you do not interact with the fem. or something like that. But if you are chatting with a couple first surely this would come up in the conversation and you could clarify it then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are losing meets with straight couples because i'm on as bi curious. I enjoy playing with ladies but not essential. Does it bother really?"
The size of your ears or feet will bother some so I wouldn't let it bother you and meet the people who accept you for who you are. |
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I am completely straight (F) not interested in women at all so yes it would put us off as we would both feel that you wouldn't be getting what you wanted from meeting us. As for us it's a two way thing that would be the deciding factor. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"I am completely straight (F) not interested in women at all so yes it would put us off as we would both feel that you wouldn't be getting what you wanted from meeting us. As for us it's a two way thing that would be the deciding factor. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op you are outrageously beautiful in a really classy way, just be what you are and meet the people you want rather than what they want.
Hardly a butch lesbian with a strap on,
but the 'be warned' bit may be a bit intimidating to the fairer sex. |
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over a year ago
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"I am completely straight (F) not interested in women at all so yes it would put us off as we would both feel that you wouldn't be getting what you wanted from meeting us. As for us it's a two way thing that would be the deciding factor. "
I don't really understand this. I'm bi but would be happy to play straight if that's what was agreed. I wouldn't agree to play if I wasn't happy, so if I've agreed, it can be taken as read that I'd be happy with the arrangements.
I enjoy playing with women but it's not something I want, or have to do, every time.
Would you expect me not to want to meet single men, or single ladies, and to only meet couples since as I'm bi I must have both a man and a woman?
I wouldn't enjoy playing with a woman who wasn't enjoying playing with me, so I can happily play straight without feeling I am missing out in any way. |
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"I am completely straight (F) not interested in women at all so yes it would put us off as we would both feel that you wouldn't be getting what you wanted from meeting us. As for us it's a two way thing that would be the deciding factor.
I don't really understand this. I'm bi but would be happy to play straight if that's what was agreed. I wouldn't agree to play if I wasn't happy, so if I've agreed, it can be taken as read that I'd be happy with the arrangements.
I enjoy playing with women but it's not something I want, or have to do, every time.
Would you expect me not to want to meet single men, or single ladies, and to only meet couples since as I'm bi I must have both a man and a woman?
I wouldn't enjoy playing with a woman who wasn't enjoying playing with me, so I can happily play straight without feeling I am missing out in any way."
sorry you don't understand but all we are saying is that we want our meets to be mutually enjoyable and if someone is bi-curious that element of their personality wouldn't be being fulfilled. However if they messaged us and said they were interested in meeting we wouldn't discount them just because they had said they were bi-curious.
I wouldn't expect anything of you but if you put bi-curious in your profile it is an indication of what your preferences are surely. |
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"We are losing meets with straight couples because i'm on as bi curious. I enjoy playing with ladies but not essential. Does it bother really?"
Your profile doesn't say it isn't essential though, maybe that would help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am completely straight (F) not interested in women at all so yes it would put us off as we would both feel that you wouldn't be getting what you wanted from meeting us. As for us it's a two way thing that would be the deciding factor.
I don't really understand this. I'm bi but would be happy to play straight if that's what was agreed. I wouldn't agree to play if I wasn't happy, so if I've agreed, it can be taken as read that I'd be happy with the arrangements.
I enjoy playing with women but it's not something I want, or have to do, every time.
Would you expect me not to want to meet single men, or single ladies, and to only meet couples since as I'm bi I must have both a man and a woman?
I wouldn't enjoy playing with a woman who wasn't enjoying playing with me, so I can happily play straight without feeling I am missing out in any way.
sorry you don't understand but all we are saying is that we want our meets to be mutually enjoyable and if someone is bi-curious that element of their personality wouldn't be being fulfilled. However if they messaged us and said they were interested in meeting we wouldn't discount them just because they had said they were bi-curious.
I wouldn't expect anything of you but if you put bi-curious in your profile it is an indication of what your preferences are surely. "
Not everything I enjoy has to be included in every meet though. In fact, certain interests are things I only want occasionally.
If I agree to a meet with a straight couple, I'm agreeing that I think we can all have a mutually good time without the lady and I playing together, so why would I be disappointed when I'm getting what I've agreed to?
Bi-, to me, means I can enjoy playing with women. It's an option, not a requirement. |
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"I am completely straight (F) not interested in women at all so yes it would put us off as we would both feel that you wouldn't be getting what you wanted from meeting us. As for us it's a two way thing that would be the deciding factor.
I don't really understand this. I'm bi but would be happy to play straight if that's what was agreed. I wouldn't agree to play if I wasn't happy, so if I've agreed, it can be taken as read that I'd be happy with the arrangements.
I enjoy playing with women but it's not something I want, or have to do, every time.
Would you expect me not to want to meet single men, or single ladies, and to only meet couples since as I'm bi I must have both a man and a woman?
I wouldn't enjoy playing with a woman who wasn't enjoying playing with me, so I can happily play straight without feeling I am missing out in any way.
sorry you don't understand but all we are saying is that we want our meets to be mutually enjoyable and if someone is bi-curious that element of their personality wouldn't be being fulfilled. However if they messaged us and said they were interested in meeting we wouldn't discount them just because they had said they were bi-curious.
I wouldn't expect anything of you but if you put bi-curious in your profile it is an indication of what your preferences are surely.
Not everything I enjoy has to be included in every meet though. In fact, certain interests are things I only want occasionally.
If I agree to a meet with a straight couple, I'm agreeing that I think we can all have a mutually good time without the lady and I playing together, so why would I be disappointed when I'm getting what I've agreed to?
Bi-, to me, means I can enjoy playing with women. It's an option, not a requirement."
totally with you on this. Plying with women is not a necessity, I can have as much fun playing straight.
Just becaude I'm bi, doesn't mean I want to have every woman going!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am completely straight (F) not interested in women at all so yes it would put us off as we would both feel that you wouldn't be getting what you wanted from meeting us. As for us it's a two way thing that would be the deciding factor.
I don't really understand this. I'm bi but would be happy to play straight if that's what was agreed. I wouldn't agree to play if I wasn't happy, so if I've agreed, it can be taken as read that I'd be happy with the arrangements.
I enjoy playing with women but it's not something I want, or have to do, every time.
Would you expect me not to want to meet single men, or single ladies, and to only meet couples since as I'm bi I must have both a man and a woman?
I wouldn't enjoy playing with a woman who wasn't enjoying playing with me, so I can happily play straight without feeling I am missing out in any way.
sorry you don't understand but all we are saying is that we want our meets to be mutually enjoyable and if someone is bi-curious that element of their personality wouldn't be being fulfilled. However if they messaged us and said they were interested in meeting we wouldn't discount them just because they had said they were bi-curious.
I wouldn't expect anything of you but if you put bi-curious in your profile it is an indication of what your preferences are surely.
Not everything I enjoy has to be included in every meet though. In fact, certain interests are things I only want occasionally.
If I agree to a meet with a straight couple, I'm agreeing that I think we can all have a mutually good time without the lady and I playing together, so why would I be disappointed when I'm getting what I've agreed to?
Bi-, to me, means I can enjoy playing with women. It's an option, not a requirement."
i think a flexible attitude like this shows respect for others wishes.
and more likely to get meets and respect in return |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same problem as we've got. Both bi which must read like "avoid like the plague!" To others. Just because we're bi doesn't mean we're gonna just jump on them! Way we see it is we've had meets and we're still gonna get meets. If we're not someones type we'll move on to someone that will accept us. Be them bi or straight |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I enjoy playing with women but it's not something I want, or have to do, every time.
Would you expect me not to want to meet single men, or single ladies, and to only meet couples since as I'm bi I must have both a man and a woman?
I wouldn't enjoy playing with a woman who wasn't enjoying playing with me, so I can happily play straight without feeling I am missing out in any way.
sorry you don't understand but all we are saying is that we want our meets to be mutually enjoyable and if someone is bi-curious that element of their personality wouldn't be being fulfilled. However if they messaged us and said they were interested in meeting we wouldn't discount them just because they had said they were bi-curious.
I wouldn't expect anything of you but if you put bi-curious in your profile it is an indication of what your preferences are surely.
Not everything I enjoy has to be included in every meet though. In fact, certain interests are things I only want occasionally.
If I agree to a meet with a straight couple, I'm agreeing that I think we can all have a mutually good time without the lady and I playing together, so why would I be disappointed when I'm getting what I've agreed to?
Bi-, to me, means I can enjoy playing with women. It's an option, not a requirement.
totally with you on this. Plying with women is not a necessity, I can have as much fun playing straight.
Just becaude I'm bi, doesn't mean I want to have every woman going! "
It's that kind of assumption that amuses me. If you're bi you will be 'missing out' if you don't play with the woman?! I like chocolate and cakes but I don't eat them every day. Sometimes I have them together, but if not, I'm not missing out. Just an option.
It's a bit like saying a straight woman will be missing out if she doesn't shag every man. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I am completely straight (F) not interested in women at all so yes it would put us off as we would both feel that you wouldn't be getting what you wanted from meeting us. As for us it's a two way thing that would be the deciding factor.
I don't really understand this. I'm bi but would be happy to play straight if that's what was agreed. I wouldn't agree to play if I wasn't happy, so if I've agreed, it can be taken as read that I'd be happy with the arrangements.
I enjoy playing with women but it's not something I want, or have to do, every time.
Would you expect me not to want to meet single men, or single ladies, and to only meet couples since as I'm bi I must have both a man and a woman?
I wouldn't enjoy playing with a woman who wasn't enjoying playing with me, so I can happily play straight without feeling I am missing out in any way.
sorry you don't understand but all we are saying is that we want our meets to be mutually enjoyable and if someone is bi-curious that element of their personality wouldn't be being fulfilled. However if they messaged us and said they were interested in meeting we wouldn't discount them just because they had said they were bi-curious.
I wouldn't expect anything of you but if you put bi-curious in your profile it is an indication of what your preferences are surely.
Not everything I enjoy has to be included in every meet though. In fact, certain interests are things I only want occasionally.
If I agree to a meet with a straight couple, I'm agreeing that I think we can all have a mutually good time without the lady and I playing together, so why would I be disappointed when I'm getting what I've agreed to?
Bi-, to me, means I can enjoy playing with women. It's an option, not a requirement."
100% agree - Very well put
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"I am completely straight (F) not interested in women at all so yes it would put us off as we would both feel that you wouldn't be getting what you wanted from meeting us. As for us it's a two way thing that would be the deciding factor.
I don't really understand this. I'm bI but would be happy to play straight if that's what was agreed. I wouldn't agree to play if I wasn't happy, so if I've agreed, it can be taken as read that I'd be happy with the arrangements.
I enjoy playing with women but it's not something I want, or have to do, every time.
Would you expect me not to want to meet single men, or single ladies, and to only meet couples since as I'm bi I must have both a man and a woman?
I wouldn't enjoy playing with a woman who wasn't enjoying playing with me, so I can happily play straight without feeling I am missing out in any way.
sorry you don't understand but all we are saying is that we want our meets to be mutually enjoyable and if someone is bi-curious that element of their personality wouldn't be being fulfilled. However if they messaged us and said they were interested in meeting we wouldn't discount them just because they had said they were bi-curious.
I wouldn't expect anything of you but if you put bi-curious in your profile it is an indication of what your preferences are surely.
Not everything I enjoy has to be included in every meet though. In fact, certain interests are things I only want occasionally.
If I agree to a meet with a straight couple, I'm agreeing that I think we can all have a mutually good time without the lady and I playing together, so why would I be disappointed when I'm getting what I've agreed to?
Bi-, to me, means I can enjoy playing with women. It's an option, not a requirement.
100% agree - Very well put
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The OP asked if this was putting people off and we said that it would for us and explained why, nowhere in her post does she say it isn't necessary. I thought the point of the thread was to help her understand the position was  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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lovely to see it from the bi female side rather than the bi male...
my answer is the same, if straight females don't want to play with bi curious/sexual females, so be it.
Respect the decision, no one more than me knows that bi people can play straight and not cross a boundary but I would not enjoy sex if I thought the other person may feel the slightest bit uncomfortable.
I wont touch a straight guys cock unless asked but I will fucking look  and that may make some guy uncomfortable and that is cool |
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
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When you state you loosing meets because you bi-curious,do you mean you asked straight cpls for a meet who state on their profile:wont meet bi-curious fems?No point asking when its clearly stated!
Or did you fancy a cpl so much but can't message because they clearly state what they want?i think we all have come across profiles were we fancy what we see in the pics but don't fit in what they looking for!Just enjoy the pics + keep looking.There are so many great fabsters out there that everybody can find a match were everybody involved has a fantastic time.
Enjoy the search for fun (susie) |
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I suppose it COULD put some people off. When I see that a guys bi I must admit it makes me think twice... MAYBE a straight woman thinks the same as me. I do respect what people are saying that they can take it or leave it.
I was chatting to this couple and the guy was bi. I asked the f who would be in the middle and she said she would be. Which Id have been happy with Ive not got a prob with a guy being there.
Ive just got out of a relationship with a single bi fem and I said on a few occasions "I feel like your missing out because youre not having women in your life" her responce was "although Im bi Im quite happy with a guy I only play with women when Im in the mood" So I undrstand now...... Maybe |
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"We are losing meets with straight couples because i'm on as bi curious. I enjoy playing with ladies but not essential. Does it bother really?"
Have they said that's why they turned you down?
Been thinking about my earlier comment. Just wsnt to clarify- I think some straight people would be uncomfortable playing with a bi person of the same sex in case the bi person was 'checking them out' during the fun. It would make them feel uncomfortable.
Not to say the bi person would be checking them out of course.
I'm bi but I'm actually on the side of the straight person in this case. I would feel uncomfortable if someone I really didn't fancy was 'checking me out' in a play situation. To me, it's the same thing. A straight person wouldn't fancy someone of the same sex...
Not sure if that all makes sense, sorry.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm down as bi although i'm bi playful..(mrs)
Have no idea if it puts people off don't care really.
I don't play with straight women.
Never used to bother me if they were straight or bi.
Then one day we met a couple she was straight fair enough...
Made it clear i wasn't to go near her...
No probs.
It was the fact i was then petrified to move just in case i put my hand any where near her 
Even now unless we have played before i will not make the first move |
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"We are losing meets with straight couples because i'm on as bi curious. I enjoy playing with ladies but not essential. Does it bother really?"
I like straight couples, bicurious couples and bisexual couples. However, there needs to be a spark and quality within those subdivisions. Making me laugh gets people a long way with me. My clothes just faaaallllll off!  |
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"We are losing meets with straight couples because i'm on as bi curious. I enjoy playing with ladies but not essential. Does it bother really?"
Why do you feel the need to compromise, instead why not only look to meet Bi fem couples?
There are hundreds on the site, so you should have more than enough choice and, looking like you do, you should get plenty of interest too. 
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"lovely to see it from the bi female side rather than the bi male...
my answer is the same, if straight females don't want to play with bi curious/sexual females, so be it.
Respect the decision, no one more than me knows that bi people can play straight and not cross a boundary but I would not enjoy sex if I thought the other person may feel the slightest bit uncomfortable.
I wont touch a straight guys cock unless asked but I will fucking look and that may make some guy uncomfortable and that is cool"
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