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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all I am married and my wife and I play as a couple and single. we have single profiles as well as our couples one but I do get a lot of replies saying its weird the way we do things... ergo the two profiles. would love your opinions.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as you are open and honest with people you meet then I really don't see anything wrong with doing things the way you do. Its your life and profile so do what makes you happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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INB4 someone on their horse saying the man is just a single male with the added angle of a 'make believe' wife just to get the ladies interested.
I give it 10 replies.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As long as you are open and honest with people you meet then I really don't see anything wrong with doing things the way you do. Its your life and profile so do what makes you happy. "
that's exactly how we see it. I just get all the messages saying its wrong but I am 100% upfront everytime. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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I don't have a problem with the way other people lead their lives; I have a choice whether I meet them or not. I would meet married people if the other partner is aware. At the end of the day I dont think we are genuinely designed to be monogamous - and expecting all needs to be met one person in life is a bit unrealistic in my world. But htat is just me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as you are open and honest with people you meet then I really don't see anything wrong with doing things the way you do. Its your life and profile so do what makes you happy.
that's exactly how we see it. I just get all the messages saying its wrong but I am 100% upfront everytime. "
Just looked and it states it on your profile so I really can't see why anyone can criticise you for it at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't have a problem with the way other people lead their lives; I have a choice whether I meet them or not. I would meet married people if the other partner is aware. At the end of the day I dont think we are genuinely designed to be monogamous - and expecting all needs to be met one person in life is a bit unrealistic in my world. But htat is just me"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't think it's weird or wrong if you have a couples profile and singles profile , your entitled to do as you wish, if your both happy what does it matter what the odd reply says? ( you need to have fairly thick skin to be on sites anyway) just ignore them and do what makes you happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An honest approach is always best.
Your marital status may be offputting to some and not an issue to others.
There may also be some that lie between the two extremes.
These may want to clarify the situation with your wife - either via mail and/or by phone.
So you may want to sound her out on such eventualities, unless of course you are expecting that all prospective interests will take your word for things. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As long as you are open and honest with people you meet then I really don't see anything wrong with doing things the way you do. Its your life and profile so do what makes you happy.
that's exactly how we see it. I just get all the messages saying its wrong but I am 100% upfront everytime.
Just looked and it states it on your profile so I really can't see why anyone can criticise you for it at all."
Oh they do,  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"An honest approach is always best.
Your marital status may be offputting to some and not an issue to others.
There may also be some that lie between the two extremes.
These may want to clarify the situation with your wife - either via mail and/or by phone.
So you may want to sound her out on such eventualities, unless of course you are expecting that all prospective interests will take your word for things."
I always put in messages wife happy to confirm.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Playing devils advocate but surely anyone on here cannot critisize any others sexual choices as the vanilla world would say whatever we're doing is wrong to someone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"An honest approach is always best.
Your marital status may be offputting to some and not an issue to others.
There may also be some that lie between the two extremes.
These may want to clarify the situation with your wife - either via mail and/or by phone.
So you may want to sound her out on such eventualities, unless of course you are expecting that all prospective interests will take your word for things.
I always put in messages wife happy to confirm.. "
What about those who may be looking at you without the benefit of an initial message ?
I haven't looked at your profile so it may well be there.
If it isn't stated and it is indeed the case, it might reduce the cyncism of the onlookers somewhat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Playing devils advocate but surely anyone on here cannot critisize any others sexual choices as the vanilla world would say whatever we're doing is wrong to someone? "
Oh how wide of the mark can one statement be ? 
Great idea, but the theory and the practice are sadly often poles apart. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Playing devils advocate but surely anyone on here cannot critisize any others sexual choices as the vanilla world would say whatever we're doing is wrong to someone?
Oh how wide of the mark can one statement be ?
Great idea, but the theory and the practice are sadly often poles apart."
I purposely made it as wide as possible because too many people ( even on a sexual liberated site) seem to think its their way or wrong
Unfortunately the last part of your post is sadly true  people all seem to have their own agendas to promote and many will hapily tear down anyone who says or feels the something different to them ( as we are a couple and don't meet alone the sad comments we can receive for declining that offer are a prime example ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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married AND have a fuckbud aint ya lucky!!!
...perhaps a cpls profile from either wouldnt be too bad an idea...
If things are working fine dont bother
oops..and no it isnt weird |
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