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Due to petrol and energy price increase, are people only looking for playmates in their local area?
I constantly get messages from people up north, Scotland and Wales but I'm thinking, I can't afford the petrol to meet up as it also have to be hotel meet if we met half way. I prefer social meets first. I done video chats with fabbers to save the time and effort of a social meet but prefer real life social meet. If they live over 100 miles away, it's just bit of logistical nightmare arranging meets for me. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
I do love travelling. I just seem to not get any meets locally but I don't mind travelling, especially if there is a good connection with someone. Besides, nothing like the feeling of going to somewhere you never been before too  |
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"Due to petrol and energy price increase, are people only looking for playmates in their local area?
I constantly get messages from people up north, Scotland and Wales but I'm thinking, I can't afford the petrol to meet up as it also have to be hotel meet if we met half way. I prefer social meets first. I done video chats with fabbers to save the time and effort of a social meet but prefer real life social meet. If they live over 100 miles away, it's just bit of logistical nightmare arranging meets for me."
I love travelling as drive loads for work but definitely prefer local meets and socials to build a connection.
The only thing with distance is that it’s unlikely to lead to anything more than once so it’s hard to build that understanding of the other persons desires etc. |
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We had a message from a "single woman" who lives 419 miles away, but she travels around the UK for work. So it's probably her work that pays for her petrol. We haven't replied yet, but this site is great  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see the point in meeting someone from miles away. Realistically I'm not prepared to travel that far, and if they were prepared to it'd probably be a one off which I don't see much point in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always local. The only person I'd travel to is my friend. Strangers aren't worth it, I'd rather have a wank.
This!"
Hello stranger. 
I still live by your tip for socials and I've never been stood up in 13 years.  |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
We stick to a one hour radius. Char doesn't travel well and occasionally has to cancel at last minute due to her fatigue and pain issues. It wouldn't be fair for us to cancel someone who's travelled three hours of a four hour trip.
We also find it slightly off-putting when a guy says he'll drive 300 miles for a shag.
(Bry) |
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It’s great if people are willing to meet just dont fancy going 100 miles then not feeling the vibe so relatively local is best if things don’t work out for either party
Or let’s all just have a party on the beach   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only meet people relatively local. There’s less chance of an expensive disappointment.
What I don’t get is when people wink at you from 200 miles away. What are we meant to do with that? |
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"How do you really know you going to have great connection with someone who lives over 2 hours away? I wouldn't meet anyone from my village but maybe in my county or neighbouring counties "
Sometimes you have to trust your gut and take an educated risk/ leap of faith. However my impression of you is you are quite ‘risk adverse’ or have I got that wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had a guy travel over 100 miles to meet me twice! Luckily I’m now moving to the same city he works in so future meets will be easier!
I’ve generally said local only but i made an exception and didn’t regret it. Our connection is unreal so well worth it! |
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"Due to petrol and energy price increase, are people only looking for playmates in their local area?
I constantly get messages from people up north, Scotland and Wales but I'm thinking, I can't afford the petrol to meet up as it also have to be hotel meet if we met half way. I prefer social meets first. I done video chats with fabbers to save the time and effort of a social meet but prefer real life social meet. If they live over 100 miles away, it's just bit of logistical nightmare arranging meets for me."
local obviously its handy...but never works that way unfortunately 
I would travel anywhere if there was real attraction and had previously met.more enjoyable meets if there is strong attraction/connection... |
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Over the years, I've visited women and couples who lived anywhere between a two-minute walk to five hour's drive away...
....my days of doing long-distance meets are long gone now - although under the right circumstances, an hour or two's drive might stll be feasible...
....but I've always preferred local meets - simply going across town or somewhere nearby means less time driving, and more time playing!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I got talking to someone from the forums and we got on absolutley amazingly ... after 9 weeks he came 600 miles to me (I actually offered to go to him first!) purely for a social and we're still happily dating after well over a year now!
If you don't take a punt who knows what you're missing out on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I had friends travel up to Scotland to meet me they wouldn’t be expected to pay for a hotel! Flights are cheap, I’m near the airport, I’ll pick you up and spend a weekend exploring the highlands, hiking mountains, swimming lochs and lots of orgasms in between. Travelling is good for the mind - I invite my fab friends to come up and have a long weekend break.
Re petrol, it costs more for me to get to the airport and back than an average flight from a major city. Crazy. |
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"How do you really know you going to have great connection with someone who lives over 2 hours away? I wouldn't meet anyone from my village but maybe in my county or neighbouring counties
Sometimes you have to trust your gut and take an educated risk/ leap of faith. However my impression of you is you are quite ‘risk adverse’ or have I got that wrong? "
I always have bad luck with men so yes I'm very cautious these days |
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"If I had friends travel up to Scotland to meet me they wouldn’t be expected to pay for a hotel! Flights are cheap, I’m near the airport, I’ll pick you up and spend a weekend exploring the highlands, hiking mountains, swimming lochs and lots of orgasms in between. Travelling is good for the mind - I invite my fab friends to come up and have a long weekend break.
Re petrol, it costs more for me to get to the airport and back than an average flight from a major city. Crazy. "
I just driven 9 hrs to get to Scotland. There's no way I would meet a random stranger up here |
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We’ve previously been to the North East and south end for club nights and socials. But with increasing prices it would have to be a special someone to travel that distance atm.
Some people won’t meet local people as they get scared/paranoid that they may turn up and their hot meet is someone they know! |
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I like to keep things simple, so restrict things to make them so, including travelling and effort - when there's enough of that already.
It's worth not imposing costs and efforts that are unreasonable or just very high, onto others, as it could lead to cancellations etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I travel with work but it’s never easy trying to arrange a meet last minute or when my distance shows I’m 200+ miles away. Seems to be a red flag for people |
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
Wiltshire and London |
"I travel with work but it’s never easy trying to arrange a meet last minute or when my distance shows I’m 200+ miles away. Seems to be a red flag for people "
I've had some of my best meets on a last minute basis when away from home, for example gradually chatting up a lady while she was waiting for her chap to get home and ok the meet, or a late-night invitation to another hotel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I had friends travel up to Scotland to meet me they wouldn’t be expected to pay for a hotel! Flights are cheap, I’m near the airport, I’ll pick you up and spend a weekend exploring the highlands, hiking mountains, swimming lochs and lots of orgasms in between. Travelling is good for the mind - I invite my fab friends to come up and have a long weekend break.
Re petrol, it costs more for me to get to the airport and back than an average flight from a major city. Crazy.
I just driven 9 hrs to get to Scotland. There's no way I would meet a random stranger up here "
Such a boring drive, I try my best to avoid it. Aye a total stranger would be nuts but someone you click with on fab? Depends if they give serial killer vibes haha |
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"I just driven 9 hrs to get to Scotland. There's no way I would meet a random stranger up here "
One of my five hour drives was up to Glasgow from Milton Keynes, in pre-Internet days - that was to spend an evening and night with a delightful young lady who I'd 'met' via a phone chatline the previous night...
....I arrived early evening, was given a lovely dinner, spent most of the night being devoured by her - she made a four-course meal of me - and was fed a hearty breakfast before I drove home, very tired, but very happy! |
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"Due to petrol and energy price increase, are people only looking for playmates in their local area?
I constantly get messages from people up north, Scotland and Wales but I'm thinking, I can't afford the petrol to meet up as it also have to be hotel meet if we met half way. I prefer social meets first. I done video chats with fabbers to save the time and effort of a social meet but prefer real life social meet. If they live over 100 miles away, it's just bit of logistical nightmare arranging meets for me."
Local is just more convenient. Wouldn’t travel far just for sex when it’s only temporary pleasure and it’s all around me already |
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We don’t really have any rules on distance but it’s a real bonus if you click with someone reasonably local 
