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Best plan for first meets as single female
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meet in a public place.
Have someone with you (if you can). Just to be in the background.
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Exactly this, if you're not happy about something, then just leave, you have to feel comfortable with someone, have fun but be safe |
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Got a male mate who swears by going for a coffee vs a pub because if they want to leave it's perfectly OK to leave after one coffee but it's weird after one beer or glass of wine.
It's a much more defined length of time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you won't have anyone with you for the meet, make sure you've had a video call before meeting up so you know exactly who you're meeting.
Have someone ready for a message or call from you within 30 minutes of meeting the person. Someone who knows where you are and who you let know if you're going somewhere else. If they don't hear from you within 30 minutes, get them to ring you. I always tell people I'm checking in with my friend while they're here and I suggest they do the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just don’t do it!"
How is OP supposed to meet anyone then, providing she's careful, chooses a public place, tells someone where she is, she should be fine |
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"Just don’t do it!
How is OP supposed to meet anyone then, providing she's careful, chooses a public place, tells someone where she is, she should be fine"
Always an element of risk and that is part of the fun of this. In vast majority of cases have met lovely people and enjoyed. Just be careful and take advice above |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"If you won't have anyone with you for the meet, make sure you've had a video call before meeting up so you know exactly who you're meeting.
Have someone ready for a message or call from you within 30 minutes of meeting the person. Someone who knows where you are and who you let know if you're going somewhere else. If they don't hear from you within 30 minutes, get them to ring you. I always tell people I'm checking in with my friend while they're here and I suggest they do the same. "
This, every time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Best plan for first meets as single female Advice and opinions welcome "
A first social in populated public place …
Wich sometimes is not a favourite idea …
Going to someone house u don’t trust just yet , ( even after first socials )
I like to suggest to share passport photos n adress n contact to a friend u trust your discretion .
I done that before . A lady was feeling intimidated to trust herself to a stranger after the social .
I told her and her friend :
Here , take a photo of my passport , and he did
Happy New year ^^
On other hand I got myself in someone’s house for a first social with this lady .
Without having a clue who could be there .
We had a video call before meeting up ^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Best plan for first meets as single female Advice and opinions welcome
A first social in populated public place …
Wich sometimes is not a favourite idea …
Going to someone house u don’t trust just yet , ( even after first socials )
I like to suggest to share passport photos n adress n contact to a friend u trust your discretion .
I done that before . A lady was feeling intimidated to trust herself to a stranger after the social .
I told her and her friend :
Here , take a photo of my passport , and he did
Happy New year ^^
On other hand I got myself in someone’s house for a first social with this lady .
Without having a clue who could be there .
We had a video call before meeting up ^^ "
Sometimes you don't want to share addresses though if you're not meeting at a home. Surely if someone is feeling intimidated to trust themselves to a stranger, they shouldn't go with them on their own and should hold out for another public place social some time soon. |
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Clubs are nice neutral safe territory which also come with a plan B (which is great for all us with kids who don't have much free time). This is a preference as a couple too for the same reason's. It safe and neutral and keeps your privacy too. You can get to know each other and take things where they go. If there turns out to not be the right chemistry it's not a wasted night for either party as you can both go forward on your own. Also I'd say only meet them in a club going in seperately. I wouldn't agree to going in together. I think that's important for safety and to set the right boundaries first off.
Or go for a pot of tea. That was my first meet with My Girl (we met on here). The tea was terrible (tea rooms were my suggestion but she chose the tea rooms). However the terrible tea was a great excuse to move on to my car (which you probably shouldn't do unless super sure about a person) and the rest many years on is history. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As social meet in public preferably where there’s cctv, I like to go for a coffee, it’s easy to leave if you feel uncomfortable. I agree to no expectations and no pressure  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"Meet in a public place.
Have someone with you (if you can). Just to be in the background.
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Definitely meet in a public place.
The second part though I don't agree with at all.That is a bit odd and not fair on the person you are meeting if you have someone waiting in the background keeping an eye on you.
By all means have a friend phone you if you want in case you want to make excuses to leave.
Most of all only meet someone you like and are interested in. Do meet for a chat in a public place first. Don't allow any one to pressure you into meeting or doing anything you don't want to do. Most of all enjoy yourself there are lots of decent nice men on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have the conference maybe meet in a club
I think theirs a few women on her that would team up with you to go to the club together, you could both go your separate ways in the club but keep an eye on each other
And both leave together in a taxi
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