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Our profile is “new” and not an awful lot on it. But how does other couples get on here with finding single women ? We are not really messaging many but the ones we do must get so many messages everyday we just seem to get ignored. If we do get a reply back then the possibility of organising a social is seeming to be slim to none.
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"Our profile is “new” and not an awful lot on it. But how does other couples get on here with finding single women ? We are not really messaging many but the ones we do must get so many messages everyday we just seem to get ignored. If we do get a reply back then the possibility of organising a social is seeming to be slim to none.
Any help is appreciated…. "
Awful lot say they are bi and interested in couples but in reality they dont  it's just something they get turned on by...same with couples,lots dreaming about it,teasing but don't meet
I am opened to meet couples but almost impossible to find them mostly they are full of shit or expect me to Drop my knickers and please their bf or husbands...
Ain't gonna happen... |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Our profile is “new” and not an awful lot on it. But how does other couples get on here with finding single women ? We are not really messaging many but the ones we do must get so many messages everyday we just seem to get ignored. If we do get a reply back then the possibility of organising a social is seeming to be slim to none.
Any help is appreciated…. "
You are going to find it hard to meet a woman as a couple through Fab for a variety of reasons to do with numbers, geography, safety, availability etc. But from a practical viewpoint you are immediately limiting yourselves by being cautious about exchanging face pics.
Most people want to establish an attraction as early as possible so they don’t waste time conversing with people they won’t want to meet, so you will be competing with couples who are happy to do that from the outset. |
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I’m not quite there yet but it’s on my list. For me, public pics of both of you would be essential as would face pics with opening messages. Even though I’m not looking yet I get a lot of messages from couples.
There’s a lot of couples looking for single females so it’s pretty competitive. And the male half’s age will also limit options. |
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"Our profile is “new” and not an awful lot on it. But how does other couples get on here with finding single women ? We are not really messaging many but the ones we do must get so many messages everyday we just seem to get ignored. If we do get a reply back then the possibility of organising a social is seeming to be slim to none.
Any help is appreciated….
Awful lot say they are bi and interested in couples but in reality they dont it's just something they get turned on by...same with couples,lots dreaming about it,teasing but don't meet
I am opened to meet couples but almost impossible to find them mostly they are full of shit or expect me to Drop my knickers and please their bf or husbands...
Ain't gonna happen... "
We would rather have a social first and figure out the boundaries of all involved
Unfortunately as we don’t have much of an “interesting” profile we are at the bottom of the pile |
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"I’m not quite there yet but it’s on my list. For me, public pics of both of you would be essential as would face pics with opening messages. Even though I’m not looking yet I get a lot of messages from couples.
There’s a lot of couples looking for single females so it’s pretty competitive. And the male half’s age will also limit options."
How do you get the confidence to show your face on the public profiles ? We struggle to even give the slightest indication of who we are away
Also the age is an issue… some care some don’t, that’s why we like socials first as you can see for yourself what type of person you’d be engaging with |
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"Our profile is “new” and not an awful lot on it. But how does other couples get on here with finding single women ? We are not really messaging many but the ones we do must get so many messages everyday we just seem to get ignored. If we do get a reply back then the possibility of organising a social is seeming to be slim to none.
Any help is appreciated….
Awful lot say they are bi and interested in couples but in reality they dont it's just something they get turned on by...same with couples,lots dreaming about it,teasing but don't meet
I am opened to meet couples but almost impossible to find them mostly they are full of shit or expect me to Drop my knickers and please their bf or husbands...
Ain't gonna happen...
We would rather have a social first and figure out the boundaries of all involved
Unfortunately as we don’t have much of an “interesting” profile we are at the bottom of the pile"
And thats how its should work...social,tease..
See if there is even attraction from all parties involved. Its not about pleasing your partner really.ye should make a lady feel welcomed and special.then again..
It's just my honest opinion. |
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We have met a few lovely ladies off fab, we don't proactively seek anyone out, I haven't used the search function in a long time, most are meets from chatting in the forums or socials.
I will add from a woman's point of view there's the safety aspect and a lot of couples seem to seek women out purely for their own fun and seem to forget theirs which isn't what we're about or appealing either.
I'd maybe suggest attending some local socials (listed in the meets and request forum) and just generally get to know people, it's much easier to find chemistry that way than actively seeking out someone (in my experience anyway)
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"I’m not quite there yet but it’s on my list. For me, public pics of both of you would be essential as would face pics with opening messages. Even though I’m not looking yet I get a lot of messages from couples.
There’s a lot of couples looking for single females so it’s pretty competitive. And the male half’s age will also limit options.
How do you get the confidence to show your face on the public profiles ? We struggle to even give the slightest indication of who we are away
Also the age is an issue… some care some don’t, that’s why we like socials first as you can see for yourself what type of person you’d be engaging with "
Those who care likely won’t be swayed by a social! It wouldn’t sway me.
I show my face and it doesn’t particularly bother me. But it’s not for everyone. I show my face because it increases interest, I’m confident in my looks and I don’t really care if people know I’m on here plus my photos aren’t especially explicit.
You don’t have to show your face but I’d consider body shots a necessity! |
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"I’m not quite there yet but it’s on my list. For me, public pics of both of you would be essential as would face pics with opening messages. Even though I’m not looking yet I get a lot of messages from couples.
There’s a lot of couples looking for single females so it’s pretty competitive. And the male half’s age will also limit options.
How do you get the confidence to show your face on the public profiles ? We struggle to even give the slightest indication of who we are away
Also the age is an issue… some care some don’t, that’s why we like socials first as you can see for yourself what type of person you’d be engaging with
Those who care likely won’t be swayed by a social! It wouldn’t sway me.
I show my face and it doesn’t particularly bother me. But it’s not for everyone. I show my face because it increases interest, I’m confident in my looks and I don’t really care if people know I’m on here plus my photos aren’t especially explicit.
You don’t have to show your face but I’d consider body shots a necessity! "
I'm with duchess here, I wouldn't reply to a profile i couldn't see pics of. I want to know I'm at least attracted to the body at a minimum.
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I’m not quite there yet but it’s on my list. For me, public pics of both of you would be essential as would face pics with opening messages. Even though I’m not looking yet I get a lot of messages from couples.
There’s a lot of couples looking for single females so it’s pretty competitive. And the male half’s age will also limit options.
How do you get the confidence to show your face on the public profiles ? We struggle to even give the slightest indication of who we are away
Also the age is an issue… some care some don’t, that’s why we like socials first as you can see for yourself what type of person you’d be engaging with
Those who care likely won’t be swayed by a social! It wouldn’t sway me.
I show my face and it doesn’t particularly bother me. But it’s not for everyone. I show my face because it increases interest, I’m confident in my looks and I don’t really care if people know I’m on here plus my photos aren’t especially explicit.
You don’t have to show your face but I’d consider body shots a necessity! "
Yes you can exchange face pics privately, that’s what we do. |
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"Our profile is “new” and not an awful lot on it. But how does other couples get on here with finding single women ? We are not really messaging many but the ones we do must get so many messages everyday we just seem to get ignored. If we do get a reply back then the possibility of organising a social is seeming to be slim to none.
Any help is appreciated…. "
It's hard! Get yourselves to clubs etc, it is definitely worth it if you succeed, some very good advice has already been given x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi Op.
If you know your profile isn’t very interesting why aren’t you addressing it?
You are looking for one of the most sort after things on Fab, a single female.
You will need some public pics of you both and you can’t expect people to send you a face shot if you’re not prepared to do the same.
The odds are not in your favour. If you are serious about being on Fab and meeting someone then you will need to put the effort in.
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"Hi Op.
If you know your profile isn’t very interesting why aren’t you addressing it?
You are looking for one of the most sort after things on Fab, a single female.
You will need some public pics of you both and you can’t expect people to send you a face shot if you’re not prepared to do the same.
The odds are not in your favour. If you are serious about being on Fab and meeting someone then you will need to put the effort in.
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It’s not about Effort for us. We are both very discreet and personally don’t want to give away our identity. We do not ask for women to send us face pics as we often don’t want to send them either….
We aren’t mega serious about fab it’s more for events and potentially meeting for private socials and also we enjoy the lifestyle and social side. Therefore we do not expected to be flooded by messages from single women. |
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"Hi Op.
If you know your profile isn’t very interesting why aren’t you addressing it?
You are looking for one of the most sort after things on Fab, a single female.
You will need some public pics of you both and you can’t expect people to send you a face shot if you’re not prepared to do the same.
The odds are not in your favour. If you are serious about being on Fab and meeting someone then you will need to put the effort in.
It’s not about Effort for us. We are both very discreet and personally don’t want to give away our identity. We do not ask for women to send us face pics as we often don’t want to send them either….
We aren’t mega serious about fab it’s more for events and potentially meeting for private socials and also we enjoy the lifestyle and social side. Therefore we do not expected to be flooded by messages from single women. "
Sorry I must have misunderstood your original post then.
I thought you were asking for advice on how to have a better chance of meeting single women. |
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"Hi Op.
If you know your profile isn’t very interesting why aren’t you addressing it?
You are looking for one of the most sort after things on Fab, a single female.
You will need some public pics of you both and you can’t expect people to send you a face shot if you’re not prepared to do the same.
The odds are not in your favour. If you are serious about being on Fab and meeting someone then you will need to put the effort in.
It’s not about Effort for us. We are both very discreet and personally don’t want to give away our identity. We do not ask for women to send us face pics as we often don’t want to send them either….
We aren’t mega serious about fab it’s more for events and potentially meeting for private socials and also we enjoy the lifestyle and social side. Therefore we do not expected to be flooded by messages from single women.
Sorry I must have misunderstood your original post then.
I thought you were asking for advice on how to have a better chance of meeting single women."
Yep I’m confused too! |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
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It’s not about Effort for us. We are both very discreet and personally don’t want to give away our identity. We do not ask for women to send us face pics as we often don’t want to send them either….
We aren’t mega serious about fab it’s more for events and potentially meeting for private socials and also we enjoy the lifestyle and social side. Therefore we do not expected to be flooded by messages from single women. "
Meeting women for private socials will take the same amount of effort as arranging meets with women for sex.
If all you are looking for is to attend events that’s different, and you will find it much easier. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Any help is appreciated…. "
Can't really say much as you've not asked for profile advice really, but we can't get replies from single women even though we have public pics and Char is totally bi and not just bi-curious....
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"Any help is appreciated….
Can't really say much as you've not asked for profile advice really, but we can't get replies from single women even though we have public pics and Char is totally bi and not just bi-curious....
(Bry)"
Yes my forum post is quite confusing when I read it back… my apologies.
Yes I was open to some partial advice but overall just putting the feelers out to see if other couples are having the same outcome and how / If they have changed anything |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Yes I was open to some partial advice but overall just putting the feelers out to see if other couples are having the same outcome and how / If they have changed anything "
I'm going to make a lot of generalisations here and accept that these things don't apply to ALL, but I think that women are generally more inclined to go towards something regular whereas men are more inclined to go for variety. So the single bi women on here are likely to already have people that they've got to know and see regularly and probably don't have the time to add more to the mix.
Bi women will also be (understandably) nervous about being used to fulfil the fantasies of couples (well, mostly guys) with their wants/needs being sidelined. And of being used as guinea pigs for the "bi curious".
Just about all of us have been bitten by the "single guy using a couples account" monster at some stage. For couples and guys it's an annoyance. For single women there are more safety concerns. So any tiny little thing that shows doubt about whether you're genuine or not is enough to get them to pass you by.
A couple might agree they fancy a single woman and message her. But then that single woman generally needs to fancy both halves of the couple....and "most people don't fancy most other people"* so the chances of a match are reduced.
We don't have any answers. We've not managed to arrange anything with a single woman from Fab in the three years we've been here. Char has her own solo account just for meeting couples and women ON HER OWN and still has no luck at all.
(Bry)
*Credit is due to another forum regular that I can't recall the name if for that gem of insight. |
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OP, if I was meeting couples, you would be way down the list for me. 1) you have zero public pictures- I'm sorry but I need to know if I'm going to be attracted to who I'm meeting, even if it's just social
2) no mention about how I'd be expected to fit in the (potential) sex. The woman is bi-curious only which tells me she is probably just trying to have mff as it turns her partner on. But I guess this could be sorted via chats.
3) you only do soft play- if I do meet a couple, I do meet them mainly for the woman but if the woman is only bi-curious and may not do much, I'd like to have an option of, potentially, having sex with the guy
4) you want to travel far, whereas I prefer more local meets. I don't meet anyone who is over an hour drive, if I can help it. Unless that happens at a club.
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If you're just dipping your toe in the water then pick a club, Say the Midlands, have a look at the club website and choose a night that suits you both, you could always attend a fab social night at a club as well, No pressure, just putting your face on the scene with people who use fab.
Have a look at the chat rooms, introduce yourselves and when/if you feel confident enough turn your cam on, But I'd stick to the General room for the time being |
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