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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot? |
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"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?"
All the time buddy!! Even add them to my hotlist thinking some day I'll message them.....who am I fooling haha |
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"No one is out of anyone's league.
We all have different preferences  "
Exactly this. I might be bottom of the lowest amateur league on looks, charm, charisma, body, cock, stamina, and basic human decency, but top of the Premier League on...some category I've yet to think of.
(I'm not bottom on all those, as it happens. My bum is at least Isthmian First Division.) |
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"No ones league apparantly cus every one thinks there better than me when they aint "
The whole entire site has said it to many fakes on here plus i have better ego than most dont judge on looks like some do maybe not the best looking but have a nice personality but yet to much ask for to meet some one genuine |
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"Yup. I very rarely send messages anyway, but there is a certain profile who is on my hotlist & well well well out of my league.
I won’t be firing my shot
Mrs  "
Lucky u im on no oned as to ugly for anybody so giving up on here to many judgemental people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have days when I’m feeling pretty confident others when I’m not. So I guess sone days I’m thinking some guy is out of my league another day I’ll be thinking yeah that’s just what I like |
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"I have days when I’m feeling pretty confident others when I’m not. So I guess sone days I’m thinking some guy is out of my league another day I’ll be thinking yeah that’s just what I like "
How can u be confident spending to much time on ur own and to many idiots blocking u for no reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have days when I’m feeling pretty confident others when I’m not. So I guess sone days I’m thinking some guy is out of my league another day I’ll be thinking yeah that’s just what I like
How can u be confident spending to much time on ur own and to many idiots blocking u for no reason "
Based on your status you’ll get blocked often wtf |
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Never, as everyone has their own tastes and I might be exactly what they are looking for.
With the boot on the other foot, if someone messages, first thing I do is evaluate if they’ve read my bio or just block and delete if they haven’t without even looking at pictures |
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"Never, as everyone has their own tastes and I might be exactly what they are looking for.
With the boot on the other foot, if someone messages, first thing I do is evaluate if they’ve read my bio or just block and delete if they haven’t without even looking at pictures"
Lucky to even get 1 message tbh |
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"I have days when I’m feeling pretty confident others when I’m not. So I guess sone days I’m thinking some guy is out of my league another day I’ll be thinking yeah that’s just what I like
How can u be confident spending to much time on ur own and to many idiots blocking u for no reason
Based on your status you’ll get blocked often wtf "
What happens when people tell u ur ugly and no one liked u even with out having a status still get blockrd by idiots |
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"Seems to me like 99% are out of my league here, not by my estimation, but by theirs. I simply console myself by knowing I'm in a league of my own."
Welcome to the world of people who think there better than u lol |
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"I have days when I’m feeling pretty confident others when I’m not. So I guess sone days I’m thinking some guy is out of my league another day I’ll be thinking yeah that’s just what I like
How can u be confident spending to much time on ur own and to many idiots blocking u for no reason
Based on your status you’ll get blocked often wtf "
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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago
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"Nobody is out of anyone's league. You're either attracted to one another or you're not"
I don't think that's true. I think there's a hierarchy here. I think it's largely matriarchal. I don't think shit happens without their approval. All the real business happens in the clubs and socials. |
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"Nobody is out of anyone's league. You're either attracted to one another or you're not
I don't think that's true. I think there's a hierarchy here. I think it's largely matriarchal. I don't think shit happens without their approval. All the real business happens in the clubs and socials. "
Everybody should be given a chance no matter how they look its people havent grown up from school and still judging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t refer to it as league but surely people should be realistic to avoid potential disappointment?
If your normal attire is a dirty pair of joggers and you rarely shave or wash your hair should you be expecting much success with the lady wearing a channel club dress?
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I sometimes think like that and close the profile if they've got loads of verifications from muscley guys! But that's more about knowing when someone won't be into me, rather than just assuming she's better than me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t refer to it as league but surely people should be realistic to avoid potential disappointment?
If your normal attire is a dirty pair of joggers and you rarely shave or wash your hair should you be expecting much success with the lady wearing a channel club dress?
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Can’t always be judged on appearance, some men could be dressed like a million £ but in terms of their physical attraction the could be lacking.. men with big chisled muscles will have more success than Dave the friendly receptionist who doesn’t put in as much effort into him self.. that’s where people become categorised, ladies like effort in a man, invest time into your self and it’ll pay off. You might not be the most attractive guy but atleast you’ll have some muscle behind ya |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?"
Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s all about chemistry for us. We are happy to message people we think may be “our kind of people” but understand we may not be their kind of people and that’s fine.
You’ve got to cross the white line to get in the game though …. |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
No.. There are no leagues... If you fancy someone why make their mind up for them? They might actually fancy the arse off of you but unless you ask, you won't know... A no isn't a big deal so ya might aswell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with being pragmatic. I wouldn't message someone who I thought was out of my league."
I’ll take it as a compliment since you haven’t message me yet lol |
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"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?
Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?"
How can u get self confidencr if u put a pic up and no one likes u and just blocks u cus of the wsy u look then ur never gonna be happy in ur self or like ur self if no one else likes u or gives u a chance |
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"No one is ever out of my league and if you don’t send a message, you never know right. But that doesn’t mean I like everybody.  "
Bet u wouldnt date a uglier person Than u with a low ego who looks worse than shrek so doubt thats a lie lol |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?
Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?
How can u get self confidencr if u put a pic up and no one likes u and just blocks u cus of the wsy u look then ur never gonna be happy in ur self or like ur self if no one else likes u or gives u a chance "
Why would you just assume that's the only reason nobody is interested? |
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"No.. There are no leagues... If you fancy someone why make their mind up for them? They might actually fancy the arse off of you but unless you ask, you won't know... A no isn't a big deal so ya might aswell "
I’m going to copy this & read it whenever I’m unsure of myself. You’re bloody right!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No.. There are no leagues... If you fancy someone why make their mind up for them? They might actually fancy the arse off of you but unless you ask, you won't know... A no isn't a big deal so ya might aswell
I’m going to copy this & read it whenever I’m unsure of myself. You’re bloody right!!!"
I agree, gave me the kick up the arse I needed |
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"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?
Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?
How can u get self confidencr if u put a pic up and no one likes u and just blocks u cus of the wsy u look then ur never gonna be happy in ur self or like ur self if no one else likes u or gives u a chance
Why would you just assume that's the only reason nobody is interested? "
Well ur never gonna get confidence then lol |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"No.. There are no leagues... If you fancy someone why make their mind up for them? They might actually fancy the arse off of you but unless you ask, you won't know... A no isn't a big deal so ya might aswell
I’m going to copy this & read it whenever I’m unsure of myself. You’re bloody right!!!"
My life would be very different if I had come to this conclusion earlier... And definitely very different if I hadn't |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?
Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?
How can u get self confidencr if u put a pic up and no one likes u and just blocks u cus of the wsy u look then ur never gonna be happy in ur self or like ur self if no one else likes u or gives u a chance
Why would you just assume that's the only reason nobody is interested?
Well ur never gonna get confidence then lol "
You can only help yourself with that, I'm afraid |
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"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?
Does that say something about the other person, or about your own self-confidence/ self-esteem?
How can u get self confidencr if u put a pic up and no one likes u and just blocks u cus of the wsy u look then ur never gonna be happy in ur self or like ur self if no one else likes u or gives u a chance
Why would you just assume that's the only reason nobody is interested?
Well ur never gonna get confidence then lol
You can only help yourself with that, I'm afraid "
Well never gonna get any where then lol |
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"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?"
Leagues do not register in my neurodivergent brain. I look for something to connect to more than their body....but I'm a weird woman. I'm kind of a bohemian in lifestyle so I float around all types. |
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and my own view is men view women very differently to how women view other women (and themselves). Men probably see other men differently to how women see them.
So, no in answer to OP.
I also know that I’m not for everyone. No one is, no matter how hot they may think they are.
TLT |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely, I feel there are people out of my league and there's no chance they would have sex with me and while I mostly admire from afar, I have messaged them to say I like their pics and had some really nice responses and conversations off the back of it. Unlikely they would end in a meet but nice to know we can be equal on a human level  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We tend not to message if we feel like they are out of our league. We also look at people’s verifications and if they aren’t meeting with people with similar body types/look as us we just move on. No shame in it.  |
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"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x
You shouldn’t be from your pics
Unfortunately it has nothing to do with how others see you but how you see yourself "
Absolutely but no harm in paying a compliment where it’s due  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We aren't all the same level of attractiveness. Not everyone is physically beautiful and that matters to most people on the site. It's a pretty superficial place. So yes, I think there are leagues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x
You shouldn’t be from your pics
Unfortunately it has nothing to do with how others see you but how you see yourself "
So true. And outside influences x |
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"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x
You shouldn’t be from your pics
Unfortunately it has nothing to do with how others see you but how you see yourself
So true. And outside influences x"
You’re beautiful and don’t ever forget that  |
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My experience with this site has made me realise that _everyone_ thinks someone else is in a higher league and that often two people think each other are in “higher” leagues.
I don’t bother with that “league” stuff - just say hi and see where it goes. |
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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago
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The ratio of women to men on here means "leagues" are a reality for most men, and there's plenty of women i have on my hotlist who i'd never in my most d*unk and horny moments have the confidence to message. |
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"The ratio of women to men on here means "leagues" are a reality for most men, and there's plenty of women i have on my hotlist who i'd never in my most d*unk and horny moments have the confidence to message."
You might be surprised if you do. |
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More than I'd like to admit . I'm pish poor at constructing a first message. If I don't ask I don't get rejection. Granted I'll never get to know either way ....maybe I should just go for it and to hl with the league  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?"
Plenty of times!!
And yeah it’s stopped me messaging many times. Even if they replied I think I’d be too nervous to meet them. |
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As a sporting analogy as opposed to using leagues, the old rugby club system prior to professionalism and leagues were introduced.
Where as you had first class and junior...those that were first class or deemed themselves first class only played amongst themselves..junior always played just themselves..
Occasionally first class clubs would invite junior clubs to play them..however should they lose they often were honoured bound to keep the fixture...
End of the day there is posh totty out there that does like a bit of rough... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve slays been very insecure about my body and looks x
You shouldn’t be from your pics
Unfortunately it has nothing to do with how others see you but how you see yourself
So true. And outside influences x
You’re beautiful and don’t ever forget that "
That’s so kind xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This thread has been a bigger source if debate than I thought it would! Its been really intersection reading people's viewpoints and interactions.
I suppose the source of it did stem from my own insecurities. In my career, I have to come across ad confident and charming otherwise I never get the buy in I require from people. So I find it easy to continue portraying that in person. It seems much harder when doing it in text.
Thanks all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn't know what league to put ourselves in. We do state on our profile, we're average looking. Whatever league we're in, we do like to think we're no better than most out there but do have preferences. |
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It’s not a great turn of phrase but I know what the OP is saying. I think before approaching someone you look at a host of things, age preferences and what is in there bio, and of course looks come into it too. You have to be realistic and say has this lady or couple out enough information on there profile that suggests they definitely may be interested in me. |
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By *elloWoman
over a year ago
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"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?"
Yep, this happens all the time, I see profiles with pictures of really hot men and women with great bodies and think 'nah what's the point' although if their photos are particularly well done I might send a message saying how much I liked the pictures, but I'd not continue chatting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone ever open a profile, have a read, look at the pics and think "Wow, this person is WAY out of my league".
Does it stop you sending a message, or do you still shoot your shot?
Yep, this happens all the time, I see profiles with pictures of really hot men and women with great bodies and think 'nah what's the point' although if their photos are particularly well done I might send a message saying how much I liked the pictures, but I'd not continue chatting "
Same here. I'm already at a disadvantage being one of many men who are likely messaging.
Clubs and in person are a different matter though. Much easier for personality to shine through. |
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