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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Is there anybody that could give me some advice as to why I'm not having any luck on this site. Could really do with some tips to help me change what I'm doing wrong with my profile. Be as honest as you like! |
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Completely get that even as I was writing it I thought it sounded stupid. I just never know what to write without sounding ridiculous. You've seen the proof! Lol!
I do say on my profile that I'm up for just meeting and not necessarily sex. I genuinely would like to meet a girl, wine and dine her and see what happens. I'm very outgoing, got a good sense of humour and generally am a positive happy go lucky bloke. If I put that in a status people are just gonna think I'm full of myself though, don't you think? |
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"Completely get that even as I was writing it I thought it sounded stupid. I just never know what to write without sounding ridiculous. You've seen the proof! Lol!
I do say on my profile that I'm up for just meeting and not necessarily sex. I genuinely would like to meet a girl, wine and dine her and see what happens. I'm very outgoing, got a good sense of humour and generally am a positive happy go lucky bloke. If I put that in a status people are just gonna think I'm full of myself though, don't you think?"
Why not put that in your profile?
Mind you I'm not your intended target so you shouldn't take too much notice of me  |
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You have to sell yourself, as you're in an incredibly competitive market place. Thousands of single men after sex.
Your photos are a bit samey. We like to feel attraction to all of a guy. Show your physique too.
Sell why you should be fucking and getting to know us.  |
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
I've thought of doing that but then I thought a lot of women would find it vulgar. In any messages I've sent I've offered to send private pics if they wanted. Thought it best not to have it on profile page |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your never going to please everyone on fab , personally our preference like many is to see what’s on offer , show off your body , but be tasteful no one likes a deodorant can next to a cock haha. If your concerned that some may find it vulgar don’t set it as your profile pic but have it as public. You’ll find the right balance in terms of your profile. Give it time |
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"Your never going to please everyone on fab , personally our preference like many is to see what’s on offer , show off your body , but be tasteful no one likes a deodorant can next to a cock haha. If your concerned that some may find it vulgar don’t set it as your profile pic but have it as public. You’ll find the right balance in terms of your profile. Give it time "
Keep experimenting OP, you'll get to find what works well, step by step. Don't pressure yourself. Things are slow for all single men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t put to much pressure on yourself , you need to put effort into fab to get the most out of it , you’ll never please everyone or attract everyone Relax and enjoy the experience |
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By *afksedMan
over a year ago
Birmingham |
I don’t mean to sound patronising but maybe have a look at the profile of a man who has had success and see how his profile looks?
And, err, you need to remember that you are offering something and not asking for something.
None of us are entitled. |
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Your never going to please everyone on fab , personally our preference like many is to see what’s on offer , show off your body , but be tasteful no one likes a deodorant can next to a cock haha. If your concerned that some may find it vulgar don’t set it as your profile pic but have it as public. You’ll find the right balance in terms of your profile. Give it time
Keep experimenting OP, you'll get to find what works well, step by step. Don't pressure yourself. Things are slow for all single men. "
Thank you all of you genuinely taking all your advice on board. Proper appreciate it! By the way at the risk of sounding even more stupid than I already do what does OP stand for? |
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I'd have a think about your opening message.
Sounds like most opening messages are crude, offensive or lazy one liners so make yours a bit off beat, amusing and stand out a bit. Oh, and read the profile carefully before sending the message
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"I don’t mean to sound patronising but maybe have a look at the profile of a man who has had success and see how his profile looks?
And, err, you need to remember that you are offering something and not asking for something.
None of us are entitled."
Very true. Hadn't thought of it like that. |
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"I'd have a think about your opening message.
Sounds like most opening messages are crude, offensive or lazy one liners so make yours a bit off beat, amusing and stand out a bit. Oh, and read the profile carefully before sending the message
Top man thank you! You're bang on right about reading profiles properly I've made that mistake a couple of times
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"Your never going to please everyone on fab , personally our preference like many is to see what’s on offer , show off your body , but be tasteful no one likes a deodorant can next to a cock haha. If your concerned that some may find it vulgar don’t set it as your profile pic but have it as public. You’ll find the right balance in terms of your profile. Give it time
Keep experimenting OP, you'll get to find what works well, step by step. Don't pressure yourself. Things are slow for all single men. Thank you all of you genuinely taking all your advice on board. Proper appreciate it! By the way at the risk of sounding even more stupid than I already do what does OP stand for? "
‘OP’ stands for ‘Original Poster’ - meaning yourself.
If you prefer not to show any cock pictures on your profile, a hard cock under briefs can be intriguing. Keep any cock pictures in your private gallery.
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Try look for a social in your area, once you meet a few people at one of these it can put a rocket up the arse of your sexy meets.
Some single blokes are on here for ages before finding someone to meet, mainly cos there's thousands to choose from so getting out there as above can work for some. |
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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago
Glasgow/London |
Your profile is fairly limited. You have a basic paragraph that sounds more like Tinder, then reams of mad shit about Facebook and whatever...it's all junk, so get rid of it and talk about you. The lifestyle isn't just shagging anyone based on a picture or the fact they happen to have a dick. People want a connection, regardless, so let them see if there is one. |
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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago
Glasgow/London |
"Try look for a social in your area, once you meet a few people at one of these it can put a rocket up the arse of your sexy meets.
Some single blokes are on here for ages before finding someone to meet, mainly cos there's thousands to choose from so getting out there as above can work for some."
Sorry we made a mistake and managed to message you with our post! Sorry! |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"Sorry I don't know what you mean? Please explain"
The "legal" bit on your profile means nothing and definitely puts quite a few off... Especially when there is more of that than anything about you |
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"Sorry I don't know what you mean? Please explain
The "legal" bit on your profile means nothing and definitely puts quite a few off... Especially when there is more of that than anything about you"
This....... There's more useless legal crap on your profile than there is info on yourself. This isn't Facebook so why put a Facebook legal disclaimer on your profile here? Tbh I'd bin the lot it won't protect you in any way shape or form if someone is going to use your info from here they will. |
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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago
Glasgow/London |
"Sorry I don't know what you mean? Please explain"
What does this shit mean? Facebook? You've put it on so has some relevance to you I assume? It's all junk
"For those of you who do not understand the reasoning behind this posting, Facebook is now a publicly traded entity. Unless you state otherwise, anyone can infringe on your right to privacy once you post to this site. If you do not post such a statement once, then you are indirectly allowing public use of items such as your photos and the information contained in your status updates." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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remove this crap it is meaningless
To whom it may concern, You are hereby notified that you are strictly prohibited from disclosing, copying, distributing, disseminating, or taking any other action against me with regard to this profile and the contents herein, including, but not limited to my photos, and/or the comments made about my photos or any other "picture" art posted on my profile. The foregoing prohibitions also apply to your employee, agent, student or any personnel under your direction or control. The contents of this profile are private and legally privileged and confidential information, and the violation of my personal privacy is punishable by law. UCC 1-103 1-308 ALL RIGHTS RESERVED WITHOUT PREJUDICE
For those of you who do not understand the reasoning behind this posting, Facebook is now a publicly traded entity. Unless you state otherwise, anyone can infringe on your right to privacy once you post to this site. If you do not post such a statement once, then you are indirectly allowing public use of items such as your photos and the information contained in your status updates.
Any insitution or person using this site or any of its associated sites for study or projects. YOU DO NOT HAVE MY PERMISSION to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current or future. If you have or do it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy & will be subject to legal ramifications.
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Your profile is your shop window if you want people to do more than window shop you need to give them reason to do so. Try get in a cam room and ask someone after you've chatted with them to verify you, or get to a social event and get yourself noticed things will change if you are respectful towards others there. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
My best advise would be is to look at your profile and ask yourself.. would you meet you? Looking at your profile, I would suggest a more selection of pics... they don't have to be full on mind, could be a body shot,just to give people an idea of what you look like overall. Description wise.. its good but its very generic.. I would add a bit of your personality here.
I get how tough it can be for a single guy on here but also your best bet to get yourself out there is visiting more group socials or clubs. It's definitely a great way to network and meet new people.
Good luck though bud |
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I always find it hard to sort out a meet, plenty look but don't act due to my situation I guess, but it is honest and I don't hide anything. But then every now and again you do get a diamond pop up to restore your faith. |
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"My best advise would be is to look at your profile and ask yourself.. would you meet you? Looking at your profile, I would suggest a more selection of pics... they don't have to be full on mind, could be a body shot,just to give people an idea of what you look like overall. Description wise.. its good but its very generic.. I would add a bit of your personality here.
I get how tough it can be for a single guy on here but also your best bet to get yourself out there is visiting more group socials or clubs. It's definitely a great way to network and meet new people.
Good luck though bud "
Thank you pal. |
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"I always find it hard to sort out a meet, plenty look but don't act due to my situation I guess, but it is honest and I don't hide anything. But then every now and again you do get a diamond pop up to restore your faith. "
Top man mate thank you. I'll keep trying. Hope you get what you are looking for pal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mate, if you’re single. (Your own business if you are or not) I wouldn’t worry about your profile. Go to a club… the thought can be quite nerving but I can assure you if you get as far as turning up in the car park you will have a blast and then you will without doubt network with people from there. |
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If I was you buddy, just be yourself. If that’s not good enough for the people on here, then maybe you’re on the wrong site. Would you really want to be someone you’re not just to get laid? Would be even worse if your ‘meet’ finds you’re nothing like what your profile suggests. You can’t please everyone on here. Be patient. There are some fantastic women on here. |
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Your profile appears to be only 2 months old. As a single guy, that's way too soon to be concerned about a lack of meets.
It took me 11 months before I got my first meet.
Almost 9 years later, I can tell you that it doesn't get easier.
You have to put in the effort and have thick skinned. Your ego and confidence will get hammered and you'll have a rejection rate over 99%.
ITS NOT EASY......
Roll the dice, be polite, be professional and most of all be yourself. Take everything with a pinch of salt, Expect Nothing and anything that comes your way is a bonus.
That's how I treat Fab
Good luck |
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"Your profile appears to be only 2 months old. As a single guy, that's way too soon to be concerned about a lack of meets.
It took me 11 months before I got my first meet.
Almost 9 years later, I can tell you that it doesn't get easier.
You have to put in the effort and have thick skinned. Your ego and confidence will get hammered and you'll have a rejection rate over 99%.
ITS NOT EASY......
Roll the dice, be polite, be professional and most of all be yourself. Take everything with a pinch of salt, Expect Nothing and anything that comes your way is a bonus.
That's how I treat Fab
Good luck"
Cracking advice.
Should be sent to every new fabber.
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"Your profile appears to be only 2 months old. As a single guy, that's way too soon to be concerned about a lack of meets.
It took me 11 months before I got my first meet.
Almost 9 years later, I can tell you that it doesn't get easier.
You have to put in the effort and have thick skinned. Your ego and confidence will get hammered and you'll have a rejection rate over 99%.
ITS NOT EASY......
Roll the dice, be polite, be professional and most of all be yourself. Take everything with a pinch of salt, Expect Nothing and anything that comes your way is a bonus.
That's how I treat Fab
Good luck
Cracking advice.
Should be sent to every new fabber.
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Why thank you .  |
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"For me personally, I like to see what's on offer. One cock picture wouldn't go a miss"
I ageee I won't get involved in a conversation unless I've seen a cock pic, some people like them, many hate them but I think providing it's not explicit or taken over a loo (as many on here are) one or two scattered amongst other photos shouldn't really offend anyone (if you add one, add a anither pic after so it's not the first pic they'll see when they click on your photos)
As all your photos are of a similar date and some show the beard some don't, I'd mention in your bio whether it's there or not at the moment as facial hair is like marmite. some love it, for some it's an instant no & as there are plenty of guys in here to choose from people are unlikely to take the time to ask so might ignore a message from you if they aren't a beard fan just incase it's currently present |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Change some of your photos .
No one is interested in you playing a guitar .
Cock photo and some nudes would help .
Go to a club and meet people .
1000s of men on here looking and i mean 1000s . only a handful of women here .
Couples mainly meet at clubs .  |
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Just constructive feedback
* get new pictures which are happier looking
* you profile is more like you would find on a dating site you mention long term relationships twice which will put a lot of people off
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Your profile appears to be only 2 months old. As a single guy, that's way too soon to be concerned about a lack of meets.
It took me 11 months before I got my first meet.
Almost 9 years later, I can tell you that it doesn't get easier.
You have to put in the effort and have thick skinned. Your ego and confidence will get hammered and you'll have a rejection rate over 99%.
ITS NOT EASY......
Roll the dice, be polite, be professional and most of all be yourself. Take everything with a pinch of salt, Expect Nothing and anything that comes your way is a bonus.
That's how I treat Fab
Good luck"
Top man mate. Thank you for the advice. |
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Just constructive feedback
* get new pictures which are happier looking
* you profile is more like you would find on a dating site you mention long term relationships twice which will put a lot of people off
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Thank you pal. I completely see what you mean. I've just updated my profile. Cut a lot of the shit out! |
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Change some of your photos .
No one is interested in you playing a guitar .
Cock photo and some nudes would help .
Go to a club and meet people .
1000s of men on here looking and i mean 1000s . only a handful of women here .
Couples mainly meet at clubs . "
Thanks mate. I thought they were a bit stupid to put up. Removing them. Thanks again pal |
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By *acknick OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"For me personally, I like to see what's on offer. One cock picture wouldn't go a miss
I ageee I won't get involved in a conversation unless I've seen a cock pic, some people like them, many hate them but I think providing it's not explicit or taken over a loo (as many on here are) one or two scattered amongst other photos shouldn't really offend anyone (if you add one, add a anither pic after so it's not the first pic they'll see when they click on your photos)
As all your photos are of a similar date and some show the beard some don't, I'd mention in your bio whether it's there or not at the moment as facial hair is like marmite. some love it, for some it's an instant no & as there are plenty of guys in here to choose from people are unlikely to take the time to ask so might ignore a message from you if they aren't a beard fan just incase it's currently present "
Thank you babe. |
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