 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Fucking (not my favourite word) or Friendship and Fun.
OK. Opinions wanted and certainly not here to judge anyone but:
I prefer to meet guys more than once as I find the more you get to know someone the further you can push your boundaries.
However, this has it's drawbacks as you start to get attached to the person and start to care maybe more than you should.
I only want fun and friendship but I seem to see more and more profiles where singles have become couples and things like 'I have met the only person I ever want to meet' type of things, even though they are adamant they are never going to leave their partners...
Where and how can you draw the line???
Thank you for your advice xx  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
I got messaged by a guy the other night who at first look seemed my sort of thing, but then his messages started to turn into 'I am looking for a regular fuck buddy' and 'would you ever consider a relationship', neither of which I am looking for.
I have fallen for meets before, so unless they live a long way away I will rarely meet men more than once. I do have regular meets on my friends list but they are the ones who aren't bothered about a relationship either, so can be trusted not to start pining if I meet someone else.
I guess the only way to find out is to meet them, and be strong if they turn out to be in the market for dates. Also make sure your profile reflects your wants clearly so when they accuse you of messing them about you can point at that. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We prefer to get to know people we are going to play with, as we find we get more out of it.... Its not say that we do not have the odd one offs.... but they are usually in clubs, where there is a socail side to the whole fun as well.
We all have our ideals, and it is a question of what you are comfortable with.
S & Mr J xxx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Sometimes I can get confused between 'forming an attatchment' and 'forming a habit' it's easy to get used to having someone around, especially when they're damned good fun, I find putting a bit of distance between us for a while sorts my head out and then I can get back to having fun without misreading anything  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I think you have to decide on some boundaries and stick to them if you don't want things to develop beyond a certain point, i.e. into an emotional relationship.
I prefer to see someone regularly for much the same reasons as you stated above.
So far I haven't fallen for anyone, I suppose it could always happen but I think I reduce the likelihood by having limits - don't sleep over; don't go on dates/other activities together; keep your work/home/family history to yourself; don't meet them too often, about once a month at most...keep it on a fun, shallow level and keep it mainly about the sex. In other words, avoid doing the things that you do when you are really wanting to get into a relationship with someone.
That doesn't mean shag and go - on a typical meet with my last playmate we would have a coffee and a chat for 1/2 hour, spend 3 hours in bed and another hour or so after having a bite and a drink. Um, and a shower of course! Then that would be it for a month or so.
Have to be strict with yourself if they live close by but that wasn't the case for me.
I think once you start sleeping over and going out together you are running the risk of bonding emotionally, it's only natural after all. So if you don't want that, don't do those things. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
i dont see the point of seeing the same person too often when there are others who may be better.
the most i have seen someone is 4 times,
by then i am bored with them.
twice is about right. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
