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"Each to their own
But not for me if the wife doesn’t know "
This really. I’m the guardian of my own morals - no-one else’s - but there’ve been several occasions when I’ve met or exchanged WhatsApp messages with someone supposedly single - only to receive a phone call from a very pissed off wife or girlfriend.
It’s not for me - there are plenty of highly fanciable genuine single guys out there - and I’ve also had marvellous meets with the guy from a couple with full permission to play. Again - all fun with no drama.  |
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Same position as for married women. For the most part we prefer playmates not to be cheating (don't mind at all if they are in an open thing) but it's not a hard and fast rule.
We've played with attached playmates with permission, and attached playmates without. It's a preference we make no bones about being prepared to bend for the right playmate because ultimately it's their promise to break, not ours. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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We are married, we swing, it would be hypocritical for us to say married men and married women do not turn us on.
Do we meet married men, yes, but unless we are meeting a couple the question never arises. We meet men.
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
We only swing in clubs, and I particularly enjoy sex with strangers so I never find out enough about the single guys I'm fucking to know whether they are married or not. However I wouldn't choose to meet a married man outside the club environment. |
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Makes no difference to us. A man being married doesn’t automatically mean he is cheating. And even if he is, that’s his choice and he has to live with the consequences and his conscience.
I’m sure some of the “single” men we have met have not been single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbf if you've been to clubs and met people 95% chance you've played with a married man. You didn't know because you didn't ask.
If you didn't ask in the club why do you need to ask out of a club situation?? If it's ok to fuck with them and to not know in the club why isn't it out of club situation?
I'll leave these two questions here for you to think about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbf if you've been to clubs and met people 95% chance you've played with a married man. You didn't know because you didn't ask.
If you didn't ask in the club why do you need to ask out of a club situation?? If it's ok to fuck with them and to not know in the club why isn't it out of club situation?
I'll leave these two questions here for you to think about "
I dont play with random guys in clubs, all my club meets have been and will continue to be pre-arranged! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dam it, so there are people that meet married men with permission, I'm going to have to start blaming the lack of meets on something else then "
make sure you get a note from ya wife and some will meet!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Turn off.
Karma exists. Plus you don't know the damage you can cause if someone finds out.
On top of that, if they cheat on the person they supposedly love, what dregs are you getting? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbf if you've been to clubs and met people 95% chance you've played with a married man. You didn't know because you didn't ask.
If you didn't ask in the club why do you need to ask out of a club situation?? If it's ok to fuck with them and to not know in the club why isn't it out of club situation?
I'll leave these two questions here for you to think about "
I always ask in clubs. I'm not cake |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People just having fun man dont judge other peoples situations. We only live once."
People judge that’s human nature and nothing wrong with people not wanting to be a party to hurting someone else! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Chances are this married mans wife has already cheated on him"
And so what if she has? You or I don’t know that and I still wouldn’t go near a married man! But keeps making justifications. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Duchessb go away you misery we get it you wont go with a married guy your loss no one cares "
You realise if you had just said turn on there would be no further comment! You’re the one who wants to justify stuff or accuse others of being judgemental.
And no it really isn’t my loss! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Each to their own
But not for me if the wife doesn’t know
This really. I’m the guardian of my own morals - no-one else’s - but there’ve been several occasions when I’ve met or exchanged WhatsApp messages with someone supposedly single - only to receive a phone call from a very pissed off wife or girlfriend.
It’s not for me - there are plenty of highly fanciable genuine single guys out there - and I’ve also had marvellous meets with the guy from a couple with full permission to play. Again - all fun with no drama. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Duchessb your no ones hero just miserable women type who spoil fab for everyone else"
You're mirroring her messages. If life is short, Don't make vows to one person. Fuck your way thru the world without having a victim not knowing your dick is being shoved in anything and everything.
Sounds like you need approval
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind either way, if the guy's married or not it's his business, but a married guy is probably safer and cleaner as he couldn't afford to take anything home to his wife, |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"People just having fun man dont judge other peoples situations. We only live once.
People judge that’s human nature and nothing wrong with people not wanting to be a party to hurting someone else! "
Yes and lynch mobs hanged people withouth a trail, judging people without knowing all the facts is simply wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Off. I have my own reasons and I don’t want to hear any more justifications from people not being honest with their partners. I’ve heard them all.
Do not send me abuse on this view, I’ve had that before also. Multiple times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People just having fun man dont judge other peoples situations. We only live once.
People judge that’s human nature and nothing wrong with people not wanting to be a party to hurting someone else!
Yes and lynch mobs hanged people withouth a trail, judging people without knowing all the facts is simply wrong."
Great false equivalency! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Off. I have my own reasons and I don’t want to hear any more justifications from people not being honest with their partners. I’ve heard them all.
Do not send me abuse on this view, I’ve had that before also. Multiple times."
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"People just having fun man dont judge other peoples situations. We only live once.
People judge that’s human nature and nothing wrong with people not wanting to be a party to hurting someone else!
Yes and lynch mobs hanged people withouth a trail, judging people without knowing all the facts is simply wrong.
Great false equivalency! "
Have to agree. A cheat is a cheat. There is no judgement to be made. You may have reasons to cheat, but it doesn't make it morally right. |
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Indifferent, but find a lot just want to turn up, have a quick fuck and go which is a turn off. I wouldn't meet anyone too local who was taken either as don't want to be bumping into them together in the high street. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I genuinely wonder how anyone would know if someone was married though? Someone could say they can accomadate but favour hotel meets due to kid commitments at home. Not everyone wears a wedding ring for the tell tale tan line. People can easy face time from work/home alone. Maybe their partner works nights so they can chat all hours. Some folk use works phone, or hide notification pop ups so still chat on telegram/whatsapp. Some people prefer kik anyways... |
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A married man who is cheating = turn off
A married man who had permission = turn on
I will never knowingly help myself to someone else’s man if it’ll hurt someone. It doesn’t matter how seriously they’re attached, it could be a wife, girlfriend, FWB, anything. If a man has any kind of relationship and playing with me is out of bounds, then I don’t want to. Me getting some dick will never be more important than another woman’s feelings. |
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"Tbf if you've been to clubs and met people 95% chance you've played with a married man. You didn't know because you didn't ask.
If you didn't ask in the club why do you need to ask out of a club situation?? If it's ok to fuck with them and to not know in the club why isn't it out of club situation?
I'll leave these two questions here for you to think about "
We always ask here and if we met someone in a club we'd ask too ,as some FB couples are married to others.
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If you didn't ask in the club why do you need to ask out of a club situation?? If it's ok to fuck with them and to not know in the club why isn't it out of club situation?
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Because in club they don't know where you live. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"An angry woman banging on a hotel door would be a proper turn off so it’s a no from us. "
This. Or finding your address on sat nav then having to explain a black eye. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I genuinely wonder how anyone would know if someone was married though? Someone could say they can accomadate but favour hotel meets due to kid commitments at home. Not everyone wears a wedding ring for the tell tale tan line. People can easy face time from work/home alone. Maybe their partner works nights so they can chat all hours. Some folk use works phone, or hide notification pop ups so still chat on telegram/whatsapp. Some people prefer kik anyways... "
It's different asking and someone lying. For me it's about Karna and mutual respect. I think you get out what you give. If I ask and they lie, I'm not responsible but if I'm meeting a partner or boyf knowingly, it's my bad.
I genuinely think if someone is cheating on their partner who they lie to every day, what kind of person am I spending time with. |
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Me & my partner live separate lives she knows that i was in a threesum we live to gether because I can't afford to move same for her I still won't say anything to her about it tho that's my own life now |
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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago
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So, basically guys, lie. Out of sight is out of mind. I'm up front about my marital status and my reasons for why I'm acting as I am but, obviously, it doesn't do you any good.
So, just lie. Start lying and don't stop until you get what you want. We'll see how clever some of these self congratulatory women really are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care if he's married or not. Same with married women. As long as you don't bring me drama, I don't care what your marital status is. "
Agree with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, basically guys, lie. Out of sight is out of mind. I'm up front about my marital status and my reasons for why I'm acting as I am but, obviously, it doesn't do you any good.
So, just lie. Start lying and don't stop until you get what you want. We'll see how clever some of these self congratulatory women really are."
I can usually tell when someone is lying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I genuinely wonder how anyone would know if someone was married though? Someone could say they can accomadate but favour hotel meets due to kid commitments at home. Not everyone wears a wedding ring for the tell tale tan line. People can easy face time from work/home alone. Maybe their partner works nights so they can chat all hours. Some folk use works phone, or hide notification pop ups so still chat on telegram/whatsapp. Some people prefer kik anyways... "
I only meet guys who accom in their own homes so I don’t have any flexibility on that front for any excuse whether it genuine or not. I’ve met married/attached guys in the past and the whole situation is just boring to me. Aswell as the risk of being the target of a hate campaign and I don’t really want to hurt anyone if I can help it. |
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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago
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"So, basically guys, lie. Out of sight is out of mind. I'm up front about my marital status and my reasons for why I'm acting as I am but, obviously, it doesn't do you any good.
So, just lie. Start lying and don't stop until you get what you want. We'll see how clever some of these self congratulatory women really are.
I can usually tell when someone is lying. "
Are you sure? |
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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago
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"Absolute turn off! I do not need nor want their baggage nor heartbroken wives again"
And you don't think there's a load of women hauling a ton of their own baggage? I've yet to meet a single one without a whole shopping list of issues of their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolute turn off! I do not need nor want their baggage nor heartbroken wives again
And you don't think there's a load of women hauling a ton of their own baggage? I've yet to meet a single one without a whole shopping list of issues of their own."
Not quite sure that was what the question was about but nice response sweetie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I genuinely wonder how anyone would know if someone was married though? Someone could say they can accomadate but favour hotel meets due to kid commitments at home. Not everyone wears a wedding ring for the tell tale tan line. People can easy face time from work/home alone. Maybe their partner works nights so they can chat all hours. Some folk use works phone, or hide notification pop ups so still chat on telegram/whatsapp. Some people prefer kik anyways...
I only meet guys who accom in their own homes so I don’t have any flexibility on that front for any excuse whether it genuine or not. I’ve met married/attached guys in the past and the whole situation is just boring to me. Aswell as the risk of being the target of a hate campaign and I don’t really want to hurt anyone if I can help it. "
Exactly this for me too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I genuinely wonder how anyone would know if someone was married though? Someone could say they can accomadate but favour hotel meets due to kid commitments at home. Not everyone wears a wedding ring for the tell tale tan line. People can easy face time from work/home alone. Maybe their partner works nights so they can chat all hours. Some folk use works phone, or hide notification pop ups so still chat on telegram/whatsapp. Some people prefer kik anyways...
I only meet guys who accom in their own homes so I don’t have any flexibility on that front for any excuse whether it genuine or not. I’ve met married/attached guys in the past and the whole situation is just boring to me. Aswell as the risk of being the target of a hate campaign and I don’t really want to hurt anyone if I can help it.
Exactly this for me too! "
Spot on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I genuinely wonder how anyone would know if someone was married though? Someone could say they can accomadate but favour hotel meets due to kid commitments at home. Not everyone wears a wedding ring for the tell tale tan line. People can easy face time from work/home alone. Maybe their partner works nights so they can chat all hours. Some folk use works phone, or hide notification pop ups so still chat on telegram/whatsapp. Some people prefer kik anyways...
I only meet guys who accom in their own homes so I don’t have any flexibility on that front for any excuse whether it genuine or not. I’ve met married/attached guys in the past and the whole situation is just boring to me. Aswell as the risk of being the target of a hate campaign and I don’t really want to hurt anyone if I can help it.
Exactly this for me too!
Spot on!"
That makes a lot of sense not wanting to hurt anybody and is why I steer clear of women that are cheating, but say the guy has permission but before he can accommodate his wife would like to meet you would you be willing to say go for a coffee with them both before the actual meet when the wife was not home, I know it's a little off topic just wanting others take on it |
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"I genuinely wonder how anyone would know if someone was married though? Someone could say they can accomadate but favour hotel meets due to kid commitments at home. Not everyone wears a wedding ring for the tell tale tan line. People can easy face time from work/home alone. Maybe their partner works nights so they can chat all hours. Some folk use works phone, or hide notification pop ups so still chat on telegram/whatsapp. Some people prefer kik anyways...
I only meet guys who accom in their own homes so I don’t have any flexibility on that front for any excuse whether it genuine or not. I’ve met married/attached guys in the past and the whole situation is just boring to me. Aswell as the risk of being the target of a hate campaign and I don’t really want to hurt anyone if I can help it.
Exactly this for me too!
Spot on!
That makes a lot of sense not wanting to hurt anybody and is why I steer clear of women that are cheating, but say the guy has permission but before he can accommodate his wife would like to meet you would you be willing to say go for a coffee with them both before the actual meet when the wife was not home, I know it's a little off topic just wanting others take on it "
I don’t willingly meet attached guys even those playing with permission! |
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"I genuinely wonder how anyone would know if someone was married though? Someone could say they can accomadate but favour hotel meets due to kid commitments at home. Not everyone wears a wedding ring for the tell tale tan line. People can easy face time from work/home alone. Maybe their partner works nights so they can chat all hours. Some folk use works phone, or hide notification pop ups so still chat on telegram/whatsapp. Some people prefer kik anyways...
I only meet guys who accom in their own homes so I don’t have any flexibility on that front for any excuse whether it genuine or not. I’ve met married/attached guys in the past and the whole situation is just boring to me. Aswell as the risk of being the target of a hate campaign and I don’t really want to hurt anyone if I can help it.
Exactly this for me too!
Spot on!
That makes a lot of sense not wanting to hurt anybody and is why I steer clear of women that are cheating, but say the guy has permission but before he can accommodate his wife would like to meet you would you be willing to say go for a coffee with them both before the actual meet when the wife was not home, I know it's a little off topic just wanting others take on it
I don’t willingly meet attached guys even those playing with permission! "
I think I've seen you say that in the past and is one of the reasons I let people know I'm married weather that be on here or if I'm at a club, but would like some ones take on it that does play with the likes of guys like me |
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Otherwise, no. No one needs to be a party to a break up.
