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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"
We all have to start somewhere, meet him for a social, somewhere public, hopefully you'll know if he's OK, good luck |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"
personally we never meet anyone unverified
that doesn't meant verified by the site, if the person can verify by video call, that's good enough for us  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious 
What do you mean, OP hasn't mentioned any names"
I agree. Just advice. I think every deserves a chance x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"
Provided you do the usual safety checks to verify you are not meeting somebody dangerous why not?
Maybe make the first meeting a social in a very public place like a coffee shop, pub, cafe, etc.
We all start off on fab with no meets. |
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"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"
Yeah. If everyone said that, he'll never get a veri. Has to start somewhere. Meet for a social first and see where that goes |
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"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??
Reverse pic search on google?"
How do you do that |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Reverse image search on a laptop:
Type Tineye into google and upload the image you want to check out.
Google reverse: Click on images on the top right of your screen and then click on the camera icon and upload the image you want to check out.
Quite often you'll find that the person you're chatting to is a pornstar who normally lives in California, but is now in Lancashire and on here looking for meets  |
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"Reverse image search on a laptop:
Type Tineye into google and upload the image you want to check out.
Google reverse: Click on images on the top right of your screen and then click on the camera icon and upload the image you want to check out.
Quite often you'll find that the person you're chatting to is a pornstar who normally lives in California, but is now in Lancashire and on here looking for meets "
Or an American insta star who is now a Birmingham hotwife  |
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"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"
Give him a chance, most Men on here are genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"
I met an unverified guy on an old profile and he actually turned into a really really good FWB of mine before we stopped seeing each other so it depends
I've stopped meeting unverified guys now cause just had too many bad experiences with men to take the risk
But I would say meet for a social first and take things from there if you really like him |
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I was unverified when i came here. Got chatting to a woman local to me, and after a year, we met. You know the rest. Not met any since because of the way i look and peolle can be soo judgemental. I really am a sweetheart |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How old is their profile? If they've been on months and haven't had any meets I'd be concerned about them not showing. There are ways to verify they are real before a meet, like a video call |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious
What do you mean, OP hasn't mentioned any names
She doesn't have to. He'll know "
How so? Only a very small percentage of people on Fab use the forums. |
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It's fine to meet him but there's a higher chance that he's unreliable. I would only meet him after speaking on the phone, possibly further photos exchanged and his being committed to frequently communicating during travel to the meeting, to give extra confirmation that he's who he says he is and that he's travelling to see you.
A social first is sensible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire "
Like any meet after online introduction, thinking safety is a good idea. On here, there are too many who either don't materialise, or expect to fuck just because they turned up. Usually profiles that have been on a year with no veris. It's not hard to get verified on here if you really want to..... |
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"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire
Like any meet after online introduction, thinking safety is a good idea. On here, there are too many who either don't materialise, or expect to fuck just because they turned up. Usually profiles that have been on a year with no veris. It's not hard to get verified on here if you really want to....."
I'm here a good while but unfortunately I'm on the Irish side and unless you are hung like a horse and look like thor being a single fella you don't have much hope of getting verified. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won’t do it anymore. Too many strange people on fab. Really recommend video calling and club meets. Xim ireland its not as easy as that"
I’m sure you could webcam someone on fab if there was mutual attraction. Appreciate there may not be many swinging socials over in Ireland though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won’t do it anymore. Too many strange people on fab. Really recommend video calling and club meets. Xim ireland its not as easy as that
I’m sure you could webcam someone on fab if there was mutual attraction. Appreciate there may not be many swinging socials over in Ireland though "
I’ve had good and bad experiences.
Learned it’s best to try and see face to face first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won’t do it anymore. Too many strange people on fab. Really recommend video calling and club meets. Xim ireland its not as easy as that
I’m sure you could webcam someone on fab if there was mutual attraction. Appreciate there may not be many swinging socials over in Ireland though
I’ve had good and bad experiences.
Learned it’s best to try and see face to face first. "
Did you ever feel unsafe? I feel there’s a safety issue women need to consider, a little more than men do. I have heard bad stories from male friends, too, though. |
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He could do the photo veri on the site but at the very least I would if I were you request a video call and first meet as a social in a bar or cafe. If you both want to take it further you could move on to a club or hotel after that. |
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Everyone starts with no verifications. We were all new and someone gave us a chance.
As a single lady keep yourself safe, ask for a social meet in a cafe or busy public area. You'll know when you meet in person what sort of person he is. |
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"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire
Like any meet after online introduction, thinking safety is a good idea. On here, there are too many who either don't materialise, or expect to fuck just because they turned up. Usually profiles that have been on a year with no veris. It's not hard to get verified on here if you really want to.....I'm here a good while but unfortunately I'm on the Irish side and unless you are hung like a horse and look like thor being a single fella you don't have much hope of getting verified. "
With an attitude like that… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire "
There is an increased element of danger when meeting people of the interest, especially for women.
There's nothing wrong with people wanted to take extra precautions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely start with a video chat- ideally using an app without giving your personal details away too much. Saves you a wasted trip.
Then be very strict about seeing latest STI results. Above all, trust your Instincts.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I've met a few people who hadn't veris. I don't go by veris anyhow. I judge a person by how they are when I chat to them on here and I chat for a good while before I meet them. I've never done a video or phone call first but always met in a public place for a social when I did meet them.
I've only met two guys who were absolute cockwombles and both of them had glowing veris,the unveried men I've met on here have all been nice guys.
If you have doubts then don't meet him it's as simple as that,only you know what he has like you are the one talking to him. If you think veris are important to you don't chat to people who have none to start with and it will solve the problem.Good luck in whatever you decide to do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for all your advice. Can I just state, I don’t have issue with unverified. I’d ask the same question if the person was verified but hadnt met in years. I don’t pay much attention to what veris say. Just more of a safety question as he’s the first unverified I’m meeting. I’ve spoken to unverified and verified a gentleman after a video call. I do believe we all start somewhere. Hopefully I’ll return with a glowing praise for him  |
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"Reverse image search is a wonderful tool to use aswell
I've caught many catfish out with that on here and on dating sites too "
I have had people reverse image me over the years and say. My pics are of a uk trans porn model you fake blah blah . I am replying obviously as that is me then end up getting into why didn’t you say …. I choose not to tell people or they don’t ask.
Be careful with reverse searching as there is alot of adult industry people into swinging but don’t mention that side in here  but using same pics across platforms so flag up .
Though for the blatant rips it’s good at catching out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire
There is an increased element of danger when meeting people of the interest, especially for women.
There's nothing wrong with people wanted to take extra precautions "
I get this.
But I aren't taking the word of a stranger that's verified them, I'll just talk to them myself.
It's not hard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire
There is an increased element of danger when meeting people of the interest, especially for women.
There's nothing wrong with people wanted to take extra precautions
I get this.
But I aren't taking the word of a stranger that's verified them, I'll just talk to them myself.
It's not hard. "
And no one is asking you to
I'm (and everyone who agreed on the thread) just saying it's an extra layer of protection that's all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"
We met one unverified guy and it was perfect, turned out to be an amazing meet.
Remember, everyone was unverified once, and veries don't mean anything really. |
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I just ask if they can send a picture , with something i will request on it like a position , an item in their hands , something written in a paper , etc . There's so many ways to verify someone that is not verified, and that's true we all have been unverified at one point but by precautions i need to verify if are honest profiles  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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He never responded to my message yesterday and made an excuse at the last minute today. Shame as I would have met him. A bit of a two strike situation here |
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"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire
There is an increased element of danger when meeting people of the interest, especially for women.
There's nothing wrong with people wanted to take extra precautions
I get this.
But I aren't taking the word of a stranger that's verified them, I'll just talk to them myself.
It's not hard. "
That and a recent DBS check, 2 forms of photo id and a bank statement should fix it! |
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Only way to get verified is to meet. And everyone needs to start first somewhere.
If you want to be safe. I'd suggest.
Meet social first. Somewhere public.
Do a video call on WhatsApp or Kik first to make sure they are who they say they are.
If you are meeting in private have a face pic and give it and their phone number to a trusted friend. Tell them your having a date and maybe end doing more and want the friend to have the details until they know your are safe? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to have no problems meeting newbies for a social but what changed my mind was the amount of newbies that found social only very difficult to understand! So I ended up blocking them ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meet for a social at a time convenient to you but don’t go too far out of your way.
We broke our own rule last week after an unverified guy begged us for a social jut to get a verification.
As he was local and we had an hour to spare we agreed to meet him for a coffee.
He stood us up.
That’s the last one of those. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??
Reverse pic search on google?"
How does this work. I'm new here and finding it hard to get that first meet verification.
A video chat is also not a problem for me. If you guys don't mind please could I get your opinions on this.
Would you be happy to verify off of a video call or chat room etc?
I'm not asking anyone to do it for me as such I do understand why meeting a first time could be a worry and anything that helps encourage a relaxed atmosphere will help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could ask for a live pic. Something like... Pinky finger on nose to prove he is who he says he is.
I tend to avoid unverified profiles. But if you like him go for it. |
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"Only way to get verified is to meet. And everyone needs to start first somewhere.
If you want to be safe. I'd suggest.
Meet social first. Somewhere public.
Do a video call on WhatsApp or Kik first to make sure they are who they say they are.
If you are meeting in private have a face pic and give it and their phone number to a trusted friend. Tell them your having a date and maybe end doing more and want the friend to have the details until they know your are safe? "
A list of “if you want to be safe” shouldn’t include WhatsApp imo
By the time you find out they’re not who they say they are they have your phone number. Kik, Skype, telegram or the likes are safer options. |
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I don’t meet unverified guys anymore as I’ve found them horrendously unreliable since the end of lockdown.
When I did I met for a strictly social only first. Relatively quickly to suss out if they’re actually around, likely to meet etc. Then had a fair bit of chat between a social meet and play meet.
For the social it is always somewhere public but not too busy (easier to shout for help in a cafe or bar that isn’t rammed busy and loud). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ll add that I don’t care whether someone is verified or not, I’ve never had a no show on this or prev profiles.
I use my gut over Fabs veri system and it’s not failed me yet! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I seen some unverified people done a social but only one turned out ok
But I would definitely say give him a chance you never know just be careful hope that helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious
What do you mean, OP hasn't mentioned any names
She doesn't have to. He'll know
How so? Only a very small percentage of people on Fab use the forums."
Exactly, it could be anyone |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"
Webcam chat to him first. To varify or they won't talk while they are on cam ask them to wave. |
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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago
Newferry, wirral |
I have met both verified and unverified, it can be hit and miss, if you chat long enough you can sort the chaff from the wheat and usualy spot warning signs, me best meat was unverified and said he didnt do veries. |
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