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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
Is it only me or over the years arranging meets has become a lottery, you message and either get deleted or get a response with sorry not interested but the same person will arrange a meet with someone else that will stand them up or not even respond after arranging then you read the status been messed around or person blocked me. For me it’s become entertaining to read now. The demands, them thinking everyone is desperate, the pictures collectors that demand your pics but will never show you theirs. I have meet some really nice people on here over the years and some really nasty people.
I just feel if you want respect then don’t demand it get it by showing respect, if someone messages respect fully without being nasty to you then there is no need to be nasty to them.
Don’t know how you guys feel about that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not arsed if someone makes ‘demands’. Those things are important to them so who am I to say they shouldn’t.
I can choose whether or not to meet those demands. |
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"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen … 
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep.  "
He was recharging ready in anticipation of a long session |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
It's not nice being rejected, it's not nice being messed aroundd. I don't think it is any better or worse than it was 10 years ago.
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
Wombwell, Barnsley |
"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
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Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
If not compatible, it's taking the hint fine and respect their wishes people can continue to meet who they like as it's no bodies business and if people do get annoyed by it clearly you have some issues to consider |
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Doesn't bother me in the slightest if someone has particular "demands" on their profile.
I keep a copy and paste two word reply for when they send an introductory message that doesn't contain the words "hello" or "hi" but just gives instructions as to what I must do to be added to their prospective meet list.
Facepic and phone number now!
Phone number and address now!
Shave off your beard or you haven't a chance with us!
Stop pretending to be straight and agree to play bi and we might consider you!
All from extremely well verified fabbers with 100+ veries so their approach obviously works.
Apparently it's then my loss when I send my standard response which contains the words "off" and "fuck". |
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
Guys sorry if it didn’t come across right, I didn’t mean it in a bad or disrespectful way at all, I am not tracking what happens it just comes up on the updates when people put up updated, why I find it funny with some people is because I know how nasty that person is and how rude that person is so when they are spoken to or responded in the same way they get offended because they like to do it others and but can’t handle it when someone gives the same treatment to them. I don’t care if they delete my messages or don’t respond because I know it’s not easy to respond to everyone. All I was trying to say was you are only going to be treated the way you treat someone so don’t get aggressive or upset when someone treats you the same.
I don’t think I am wrong it saying that and if you feel that you can treat someone in a bad way but when they do the same to you is wrong then I may be wrong |
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
It’s part of the process and there is nothing wrong in it as everyone has preferences so I don’t see it as a rejection and I agree either delete the message or just say sorry not interested, but then you have responses that are rude for no reason at all like “F Off” “you are a Fing Paki even though I am not” and so on the response is endless with a lot of imagination |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guys sorry if it didn’t come across right, I didn’t mean it in a bad or disrespectful way at all, I am not tracking what happens it just comes up on the updates when people put up updated, why I find it funny with some people is because I know how nasty that person is and how rude that person is so when they are spoken to or responded in the same way they get offended because they like to do it others and but can’t handle it when someone gives the same treatment to them. I don’t care if they delete my messages or don’t respond because I know it’s not easy to respond to everyone. All I was trying to say was you are only going to be treated the way you treat someone so don’t get aggressive or upset when someone treats you the same.
I don’t think I am wrong it saying that and if you feel that you can treat someone in a bad way but when they do the same to you is wrong then I may be wrong "
Yeah, if they are being twats and then someone is a twat to them then it does feel a bit like they earned it!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep. "
We shouldn’t laugh.
But that was the reason someone stood me up!!! (I didn’t leave the house, I don’t if I’m not sure). But afterwards that was her reason.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just demand that they’re awake* when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
*optional extra.. "
Maybe they should have a nap, keep their energy up for what to unfold  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s part of the process and there is nothing wrong in it as everyone has preferences so I don’t see it as a rejection and I agree either delete the message or just say sorry not interested, but then you have responses that are rude for no reason at all like “F Off” “you are a Fing Paki even though I am not” and so on the response is endless with a lot of imagination "
I hope you report them. That’s unacceptable. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep.
We shouldn’t laugh.
But that was the reason someone stood me up!!! (I didn’t leave the house, I don’t if I’m not sure). But afterwards that was her reason.
*no names, but she was an old forum user. "
Not guilty! |
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"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep. "
"Bring out the Gimp.
Gimp's sleeping.
Well, I guess you're gonna have to go wake him up now, won't you?" |
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
As I said I am not tracking them at all, it just comes up on my updates like it would ok your updates in your area, I don’t need to track anyone and that would be just idiotic if you keep checking someone’s profile after they have rejected you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep.
"Bring out the Gimp.
Gimp's sleeping.
Well, I guess you're gonna have to go wake him up now, won't you?" "
this paints so many pictures. Nice couple. Is this what happened? |
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
I am not taking this site that seriously, I have been on this site for over 8 years and I know what to expect, you can’t take everything seriously on this site but I was only just saying that serious or not there is no need to be abusive to anyone for no reason at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So just because someone doesn't want to meet you, you think it's entertaining that they get messed around? Don't you think that's what's nasty? "
THIS! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me."
This was my take away from OP’s post, very scary  |
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me."
As I said I am not tracking them it comes up on the update tab just like when you write an update and it shows up for everyone to read, why would I track what they are doing or meeting I am not that desperate or obsessed when turned down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am not taking this site that seriously, I have been on this site for over 8 years and I know what to expect, you can’t take everything seriously on this site but I was only just saying that serious or not **there is no need to be abusive to anyone for no reason at all** "
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"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me.
This was my take away from OP’s post, very scary "
Oh behave...the guy explained himself |
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
"I am not taking this site that seriously, I have been on this site for over 8 years and I know what to expect, you can’t take everything seriously on this site but I was only just saying that serious or not **there is no need to be abusive to anyone for no reason at all**
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If you use the Reply + quote button we will know who you are replying to. "
Just realised that thanks |
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"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me.
This was my take away from OP’s post, very scary "
Couldn’t agree more. A guy looking at the updates page is a terrifying thought |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am not taking this site that seriously, I have been on this site for over 8 years and I know what to expect, you can’t take everything seriously on this site but I was only just saying that serious or not **there is no need to be abusive to anyone for no reason at all**
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If you use the Reply + quote button we will know who you are replying to.
Just realised that thanks "
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me.
This was my take away from OP’s post, very scary
Couldn’t agree more. A guy looking at the updates page is a terrifying thought "
Doesn’t everyone look at the updates page to see what’s happening in your area, I haven’t come across anyone that doesn’t go on the page, I put updates up saying hey all or good morning and so on and it comes up for everyone to read. However everyone has an opinion so I can’t argue against it if you feel that it’s unacceptable for someone to read the update page |
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"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me.
This was my take away from OP’s post, very scary
Couldn’t agree more. A guy looking at the updates page is a terrifying thought
Doesn’t everyone look at the updates page to see what’s happening in your area, I haven’t come across anyone that doesn’t go on the page, I put updates up saying hey all or good morning and so on and it comes up for everyone to read. However everyone has an opinion so I can’t argue against it if you feel that it’s unacceptable for someone to read the update page "
I think that reply was sarcasm. |
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"Guys sorry if it didn’t come across right, I didn’t mean it in a bad or disrespectful way at all, I am not tracking what happens it just comes up on the updates when people put up updated, why I find it funny with some people is because I know how nasty that person is and how rude that person is so when they are spoken to or responded in the same way they get offended because they like to do it others and but can’t handle it when someone gives the same treatment to them. I don’t care if they delete my messages or don’t respond because I know it’s not easy to respond to everyone. All I was trying to say was you are only going to be treated the way you treat someone so don’t get aggressive or upset when someone treats you the same.
I don’t think I am wrong it saying that and if you feel that you can treat someone in a bad way but when they do the same to you is wrong then I may be wrong "
So let me see if I understand you.
If you message me and i
1. Ignore and delete your message
2. Reply, no you're not for me
That's me being me nasty
If i then arrange to meet a. N. Other get stood up and post about it
You think its karma paying me back
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
"Guys sorry if it didn’t come across right, I didn’t mean it in a bad or disrespectful way at all, I am not tracking what happens it just comes up on the updates when people put up updated, why I find it funny with some people is because I know how nasty that person is and how rude that person is so when they are spoken to or responded in the same way they get offended because they like to do it others and but can’t handle it when someone gives the same treatment to them. I don’t care if they delete my messages or don’t respond because I know it’s not easy to respond to everyone. All I was trying to say was you are only going to be treated the way you treat someone so don’t get aggressive or upset when someone treats you the same.
I don’t think I am wrong it saying that and if you feel that you can treat someone in a bad way but when they do the same to you is wrong then I may be wrong
So let me see if I understand you.
If you message me and i
1. Ignore and delete your message
2. Reply, no you're not for me
That's me being me nasty
If i then arrange to meet a. N. Other get stood up and post about it
You think its karma paying me back
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I am talking about people who are abusive to people when they respond, I think I have already said that earlier, I don’t care if my message is deleted or ignored or anything like that but when you chose to send an abusive response instead I don’t think it’s the right thing to do, I was with a friend earlier and she is on here as well, while she was here she messaged someone and instead of just deleting or ignoring she got a response back saying “F Off you fat bitch”, that’s the only reason why I wrote the forum |
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I reported 2 people this week
Both abusive back
1 because i deleted and didn't block fast enough ( that made me fat ugly and desperate)
2 because I was honest that life is a priority and sometimes days get away from me so yes while the aim is to meet people I can be slow getting round to it (that got me called out fir being on a meeting site and i must be a retard)
The truth is
That no matter what way we go about things someone at some point gets pissed off by the way people run their own accounts
It is what it is
You just let it run over you
Focus on your own business
If it really winds you up then report it if its directly to you
Fab isn't going to change
Same now as it was when I first came here
Just get on with your life, your profile and let everyone else do the same
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
"I reported 2 people this week
Both abusive back
1 because i deleted and didn't block fast enough ( that made me fat ugly and desperate)
2 because I was honest that life is a priority and sometimes days get away from me so yes while the aim is to meet people I can be slow getting round to it (that got me called out fir being on a meeting site and i must be a retard)
The truth is
That no matter what way we go about things someone at some point gets pissed off by the way people run their own accounts
It is what it is
You just let it run over you
Focus on your own business
If it really winds you up then report it if its directly to you
Fab isn't going to change
Same now as it was when I first came here
Just get on with your life, your profile and let everyone else do the same
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I totally and agree with you, I am the same but I just felt bad for her because not everyone thinks that way and i could see that she got upset by that comment. She just left after that because she took it to heart even after I told her ignore it as some people are just stupid |
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"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me.
This was my take away from OP’s post, very scary
Couldn’t agree more. A guy looking at the updates page is a terrifying thought "
Maybe they should make the updates page only viewable by women.. Oh as couples.. Those pesky men. |
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me.
This was my take away from OP’s post, very scary
Couldn’t agree more. A guy looking at the updates page is a terrifying thought
Maybe they should make the updates page only viewable by women.. Oh as couples.. Those pesky men."
I realised that today as well, I shall stop looking at the update page as off today I don’t want to terrify anyone or make anyone feel like all the people around them are stalking them by reading the update they have written and posted |
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
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"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me.
This was my take away from OP’s post, very scary
Couldn’t agree more. A guy looking at the updates page is a terrifying thought
Doesn’t everyone look at the updates page to see what’s happening in your area, I haven’t come across anyone that doesn’t go on the page, I put updates up saying hey all or good morning and so on and it comes up for everyone to read. However everyone has an opinion so I can’t argue against it if you feel that it’s unacceptable for someone to read the update page
I think that reply was sarcasm. "
Light bulb went on a bit late after I had already responded lol |
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"OP, why are you tracking what happens with people that have said no to you? It was their choice to agree to meet the person who messed them around.
I don't use the updates page x
Exactly. It's their choice. And why are you tracking their next meet just because they rejected you? It seems a bit stalkerish to me.
This was my take away from OP’s post, very scary
Couldn’t agree more. A guy looking at the updates page is a terrifying thought
Doesn’t everyone look at the updates page to see what’s happening in your area, I haven’t come across anyone that doesn’t go on the page, I put updates up saying hey all or good morning and so on and it comes up for everyone to read. However everyone has an opinion so I can’t argue against it if you feel that it’s unacceptable for someone to read the update page "
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"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep.
He was recharging ready in anticipation of a long session "
he also fell asleep during... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Given that some people will be interested in you and others won't, hasn't it always been a lottery?
Agreed and as I said everyone has a preference and you can’t force anyone "
A lottery? Where can I buy myself a ticket?
3 lucky dips please |
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"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep.
Was he exhausted when you left ?"
he seemed to be permanently exhausted |
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"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep.
We shouldn’t laugh.
But that was the reason someone stood me up!!! (I didn’t leave the house, I don’t if I’m not sure). But afterwards that was her reason.
*no names, but she was an old forum user. "
life is very tiring |
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"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep.
"Bring out the Gimp.
Gimp's sleeping.
Well, I guess you're gonna have to go wake him up now, won't you?"
this paints so many pictures. Nice couple. Is this what happened? "
that's a Pulp Fiction reference isn't it? I'm the only person over 12 in the known universe who hasn't seem it so I can't answer  |
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"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep.
We shouldn’t laugh.
But that was the reason someone stood me up!!! (I didn’t leave the house, I don’t if I’m not sure). But afterwards that was her reason.
*no names, but she was an old forum user.
Not guilty!"
You're not that old.
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By *anpat OP Man
over a year ago
ilford |
"So... You enjoy it when people that don't want to fuck you, get stood up by people they do, possibly, want to fuck? Nice! "
I didn’t mean it in the way you have understood it, if you read the rest of the messages it will be clear as to what I ment, I realise it didn’t come across well but I have explained in the forum why I made that comment |
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"I just demand that they’re awake when we are due to meet. Sometimes that doesn’t happen …
You may joke. We turned up at a blokes house and he was asleep.
"Bring out the Gimp.
Gimp's sleeping.
Well, I guess you're gonna have to go wake him up now, won't you?"
this paints so many pictures. Nice couple. Is this what happened?
that's a Pulp Fiction reference isn't it? I'm the only person over 12 in the known universe who hasn't seem it so I can't answer "
It is.. Not quentins finest but some great one liners. |
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