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Verifying after repeated meets - do you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn’t unless we hadn’t met with them in a long time.
I’ve read repeat veris that can sometimes come across as slightly possessive and ‘hands off’
Very off putting.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We might do a second one if we meet others in a new environment or different club. Definitely won't be doing a veri every time we bump into the same people at chams I just cba ha
Kitty
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would probably do one for a social and then another if there were a play meet. Not necessarily for every time we met up though.
LvM"
This is what I would do too.
Verify for a social and then again for a sexual meet xx
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By *shyaWoman
over a year ago
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I would verify after initial social meet - just to show the person turned up. If it is followed by a physical meet - I will also verify (first one only). I think it helps others, giving more dimension to the person's profile.
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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago
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"I would probably do one for a social and then another if there were a play meet. Not necessarily for every time we met up though.
LvM
This is what I would do too.
Verify for a social and then again for a sexual meet xx
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Same here. Lots of people verify after a social and say they can’t wait to meet again. I often wonder how many do actually meet up again. That’s why I do the second veri |
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By *edplusone OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Same here. Lots of people verify after a social and say they can’t wait to meet again. I often wonder how many do actually meet up again. That’s why I do the second veri "
That’s an excellent point, as people tend to be quite ‘diplomatic’ with veri’s a second one shows you did actually connect with them, and they are reasonably normal  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wondering what everyone’s thoughts are on verifying after each repeat meet with the same people? Do you?"
If I see someone with many verifications from the same person I assume that’s a fwb or fb. That’s all I take from it.
For me, I’d need to meet someone more than once to have that option….  |
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I always do. Up to people if they want to show them.
As someone who likes repeat meets I like seeing that someone has met people more than once.
It shows that the “met this lovely one for a fun social” wasn’t just polite waffle. They were nice enough to meet again.
Also can be helpful if you only meet 2/3 regular people, as I did previously. People could be wary if it looks like you haven’t met anyone for 6/12 months, but actually it was just that I met the same people for a while. |
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"Not really, and I always wait for a meet rather than the social
Guess we need to impress on the coffee then  
LvM"
Ha ha I didn't mean it's a hard gate to cross, just it's nice to have a little more *ahem* information to guide ones pen |
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I will verify again if something significant has changed/happened, such as first meet being a social and second a hook up. Or if its been a while and we've, say, gone to a club together. Kinda like reverifying under a different circumstance. I wouldn't verify every single time I saw someone cause... why? Unless there's a new situation I'd want to say "yeah cool and safe" for, who is the extra veri helping? I don't need a diary made of fab veris hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I thought the whole point of a veri was to confirm they are in fact who they say they are? Not to give a blow by blow account of their sex life. Also I'd be fucking offended if some guy was running off to write a veri every time we met.
It's
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"I thought the whole point of a veri was to confirm they are in fact who they say they are? Not to give a blow by blow account of their sex life. Also I'd be fucking offended if some guy was running off to write a veri every time we met.
It's
Just
Weird"
Same I'd hate it!! I'd feel like I was being peed on.
Also I like you a lot. |
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No, I wouldn’t. I don’t think it’s necessary.
Although I was part of another thread about veris and someone said something along the lines of ‘we don’t all express our excitement in the same way’ which I hadn’t thought of before.
So whilst I probably wouldn’t do a repeat veri, I realise it’s all part of the experience for some folk. Some really enjoy the veris. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’d give a second because that could be very telling.
For example first was a social and then met again for play would show that the guy is happy to meet for socials first.
A second meet also means they’re probably not a nutter lol.
Wouldn’t bother with any more though.
Looks a bit weird usually. |
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"We’d give a second because that could be very telling.
For example first was a social and then met again for play would show that the guy is happy to meet for socials first.
A second meet also means they’re probably not a nutter lol.
Wouldn’t bother with any more though.
Looks a bit weird usually. "
I think it also depends on if you display all verifications, too. I see them as mementoes and mostly for me, and just display a handful. |
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Don't really see any point in multiple verifications from the same people, it just seems pointless. The only time it might be handy is if you haven't met anyone new in say six month or so, as you do get profiles saying don't bother us, or will be ignored if you haven't any recent verifications. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No.
I'd send them a little personal veri if they really wanted it but no. It's not really for me. I don't tend to write one for people I've had sex with. Maybe if I've met them at a few socials and the first was really naff. |
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"Don't really see any point in multiple verifications from the same people, it just seems pointless. The only time it might be handy is if you haven't met anyone new in say six month or so, as you do get profiles saying don't bother us, or will be ignored if you haven't any recent verifications."
It's called territory marking - how will everyone know you're obsessed with her if you haven't verified her 5 times?! |
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"Don't really see any point in multiple verifications from the same people, it just seems pointless. The only time it might be handy is if you haven't met anyone new in say six month or so, as you do get profiles saying don't bother us, or will be ignored if you haven't any recent verifications.
It's called territory marking - how will everyone know you're obsessed with her if you haven't verified her 5 times?!"
Yep as a single guy verifying a lady multiple times comes over a bit like that. |
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