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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We've been part of the scene for a couple of months now. We've had a few successful meets and are loving all that comes with them.
We've had two cancellations and someone just not turn up. This despite all the guys showing a lot of interest.
I'm thinking that these are married guys or do they just bottle it at the last minute.
Do other people get lots of timewasters and late cancellations? |
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I had one yesterday. Chatting for a good few days. Very keen. Seemed genuine. Was supposed to meet at 1 for a walk. I messaged at 1 saying I was here. He deleted the message. I just met another friend and I didn't go out my way to meet him but he didn't know that. I've not given it any thought and it very rarely happens but it must be annoying if it happens to someone repeatedly  |
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"Do you chat to them about sex or send pics before you've met them? "
It puts me right off when messages are mainly about sex. Seems to me they just after wank material, so I don't continue with those chats |
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Happened twice with couples. The first time, we had arranged a meet for the next evening after seeing each other on cam. Got a message early the next morning with them cancelling, saying they were both p*ssed the night before and were suffering hangovers!
The second time, I had arranged a meeting with a couple for nearly two weeks. They cancelled by phone AN HOUR before the meet. |
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By *spotjimMan
over a year ago
London, Midlands & the South |
Well, it happens to men too.
I've had two recently.
One was a woman with, possibly, a genuine emergency, we will find out on the 16th as we've rearranged.
The other was a couple who messaged on the morning of the meet, after I'd booked and paid for the hotel and couldn't cancel, to say that they'd decided "I wasn't for them".
The latter was an instant unfriend, block, delete.
The former, I'm working on the basis of the saying quoted to James Bond by Auric Goldfinger when he says:
"Mr Bond, they have a saying in Chicago: 'Once is happenstance. Twice is coincidence. The third time it's enemy action'."
In this case there won't be a third time. Unfriend! Block! Delete! Next!
To put it another way "fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me"
Meaning after being tricked once, one should learn from one's mistakes and avoid being tricked in the same way again.
Easier said than done. |
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"I had one yesterday. Chatting for a good few days. Very keen. Seemed genuine. Was supposed to meet at 1 for a walk. I messaged at 1 saying I was here. He deleted the message. I just met another friend and I didn't go out my way to meet him but he didn't know that. I've not given it any thought and it very rarely happens but it must be annoying if it happens to someone repeatedly "
Crikey, this doesn't bode well for the Glasgow wank group |
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"We've been part of the scene for a couple of months now. We've had a few successful meets and are loving all that comes with them.
We've had two cancellations and someone just not turn up. This despite all the guys showing a lot of interest.
I'm thinking that these are married guys or do they just bottle it at the last minute.
Do other people get lots of timewasters and late cancellations? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve had a few ( singletons) who have bailed but more couples acting as chancers . So what we do now is to borrow a husband with permission to play alone or meet other couples in a club environment. I’m afraid time wasters etc goes with territory |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some guys want pictures and sexy chats and that's all when it comes to meeting that's all.
I had a guy cancel last minute because "his card was cancelled and he couldn't get petrol." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you chat to them about sex or send pics before you've met them?
It puts me right off when messages are mainly about sex. Seems to me they just after wank material, so I don't continue with those chats "
Yep. They just want wank material but people give it to them then wonder why they don't meet... |
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"Some guys want pictures and sexy chats and that's all when it comes to meeting that's all.
I had a guy cancel last minute because "his card was cancelled and he couldn't get petrol.""
Well his loss you are very hot, BTW. I am always fully fuelled and even keep extra in the boot  |
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"We've been part of the scene for a couple of months now. We've had a few successful meets and are loving all that comes with them.
We've had two cancellations and someone just not turn up. This despite all the guys showing a lot of interest.
I'm thinking that these are married guys or do they just bottle it at the last minute.
Do other people get lots of timewasters and late cancellations? "
perhaps it's the Spanish inquisition? |
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It's alright for you singletons and couples who live together. I do the admin for our little group and because some work shifts, some work weekends, some are contractors etc. it takes a lot of effort to arrange to meet, especially if we are hosting. Too much effort to give people second chances! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cancelled with a single man twice for genuine reasons, we finally met up last night and had a brilliant social.
Not all people cancelling are time wasters ...life can be unpredictable sometimes x |
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I don’t meet guys on my own, preferring to go to clubs and spas although I used to arrange meets with my partner but we’ve now taken the same approach on our couples profile.
People can be very flaky and it takes time and effort to arrange things. There’s always the chance you end up in an awkward situation where you don’t want to play, or they don’t either.
I’m sure sometimes it is for genuine reasons but we are both very busy so don’t get the opportunity that often so we like to make the most of that time by going to the beach or a club. We share when and where we are going and we are fortunate that we are rarely short of playmates |
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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago
plymouth/chesterfield |
"I’ve had quite a few short notice cancellations for social meets, but never for a play meet.
I have socials first now every time, and I think it’s helped me to find some great Fab friends "
Yes great to have socials first, saves any disappointments, especially when photo's are from yester year or even someone else and you get there personality |
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"I’ve had quite a few short notice cancellations for social meets, but never for a play meet.
I have socials first now every time, and I think it’s helped me to find some great Fab friends
Yes great to have socials first, saves any disappointments, especially when photo's are from yester year or even someone else and you get there personality "
If you get them to turn up  |
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"It’s a huge disappointment when it happens
Pussy shaved
Body showered
Make up applied
Perfume on
The Stunt Dick cancels!"
I know that feeling it's just such bad karma. Did you do video chat with them before hand? |
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"I've been here 5 years and never had a no show and never been one so it's never been part of my fab experience.
So what's your strategy to not get timewasters? "
I don't meet straight away. I'll chat to someone for a few weeks or even months and get to know them because if we aren't on the same wavelength to start with there's no point in meeting.
I've no interest in meeting just for the sake of it but it has never failed once so I won't be changing my approach. That doesn't suit everyone but it's fine for me.
The more often you prefer to meet and the shorter the time between first chatting and meeting the greater chance there is of a no show. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s a huge disappointment when it happens
Pussy shaved
Body showered
Make up applied
Perfume on
The Stunt Dick cancels!"
Perhaps he decided he wanted to be treated as a human being, with respect. And not just a 'stunt dick'.  |
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"I've been here 5 years and never had a no show and never been one so it's never been part of my fab experience.
So what's your strategy to not get timewasters?
I don't meet straight away. I'll chat to someone for a few weeks or even months and get to know them because if we aren't on the same wavelength to start with there's no point in meeting.
I've no interest in meeting just for the sake of it but it has never failed once so I won't be changing my approach. That doesn't suit everyone but it's fine for me.
The more often you prefer to meet and the shorter the time between first chatting and meeting the greater chance there is of a no show. "
You put some effort in?
That'll never catch on |
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"We've been part of the scene for a couple of months now. We've had a few successful meets and are loving all that comes with them.
We've had two cancellations and someone just not turn up. This despite all the guys showing a lot of interest.
If you interested in meeting weekdays afternoons I’m up to play
I'm thinking that these are married guys or do they just bottle it at the last minute.
Do other people get lots of timewasters and late cancellations? "
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Life is complex for all of us! We decided long ago that we would happily meet arrange to meet people at Clubs and if they didn’t show or we didn’t show then other options were available. Once we have met it is then much easier to arrange subsequent Hotel meets. We understand not everyone can get to Clubs, but it works everytime for us  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes constantly. I pretty much given up now and just stay on here for forum chats "
Yes, we're getting to a point where we've almost given up.
So much time and effort in getting ready for a meet then cancelling last minute. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Half of the single guys we arrange meets with either don't show up and we never hear from again, or make an excuse when we message the day/morning before and ask if they're still coming.
We don't do pic swaps or sex messaging and we avoid anyone without meet verifications, but it still happens. We think lots just like the chase and being wanted, others can't get away from wives and more than a few just bottle it - threesomes can be daunting.
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"Half of the single guys we arrange meets with either don't show up and we never hear from again, or make an excuse when we message the day/morning before and ask if they're still coming.
We don't do pic swaps or sex messaging and we avoid anyone without meet verifications, but it still happens. We think lots just like the chase and being wanted, others can't get away from wives and more than a few just bottle it - threesomes can be daunting.
(Bry)"
I think a lot of it is also to do with home working.
A lot of guys are trying to have the sneaky fun they used to have, but so many of their partners are now hybrid working they end up caught out with her working from home.
People are much less reliable since lockdown we’ve found.
J |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Wouldn't be so bad if they were honest. Had a guy lined up a few weeks back who mysteriously got Covid the night before our meet. Benefit of the doubt and re-arranged for this evening (my birthday fun) and he's apparently now stuck in Newcastle....even though his Fab shows he's 7-10 miles away from us in Peterborough!
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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago
plymouth/chesterfield |
"Wouldn't be so bad if they were honest. Had a guy lined up a few weeks back who mysteriously got Covid the night before our meet. Benefit of the doubt and re-arranged for this evening (my birthday fun) and he's apparently now stuck in Newcastle....even though his Fab shows he's 7-10 miles away from us in Peterborough!
(Bry)"
He might have left his personal phone at home |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"He might have left his personal phone at home "
That was what I was expecting his reply to be when I picked him up on it. But he fessed up - nerves get the better of him when meeting couples, apparently.
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When we had our couples profile, admittedly we didn't have many "No shows" but we had a lot meets arranges for, E.g. 8pm and some would message, "I/we are running a bit late, I/we will be there by 10pm".
Yeah, well if you expect us to wait in our hotel room for your arrival 2 hours later then forget about it.
It's just bad manners. |
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"When we had our couples profile, admittedly we didn't have many "No shows" but we had a lot meets arranges for, E.g. 8pm and some would message, "I/we are running a bit late, I/we will be there by 10pm".
Yeah, well if you expect us to wait in our hotel room for your arrival 2 hours later then forget about it.
It's just bad manners. "
People’s concept of time can be very loose on here. They just seem to think you’ll sit and wait. On my single profile I had a guy have a pop at me because I stood him up. He was two hours late and was genuinely pissed off I hadn’t waited!
I’m organising a bukkake on Thursday at 12 noon. I’ve had four people tell me they’re free at 2pm. And one who is helpfully free on Friday evening… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a ‘ wonderful ‘ couple for cuck Hotwife fun.
After weeks of chatting as she was nervous, she changed her mind & they both came around to mine.
She enjoys dressing up, which she did after she relaxed & when both started to enjoy each other’s company, whilst hubby watched & wanked .
He shot his load in about 10 minutes & ordered his wife to dress & they both left !!!
WTF |
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"We've been part of the scene for a couple of months now. We've had a few successful meets and are loving all that comes with them.
We've had two cancellations and someone just not turn up. This despite all the guys showing a lot of interest.
I'm thinking that these are married guys or do they just bottle it at the last minute.
Do other people get lots of timewasters and late cancellations? "
We prefer meeting at clubs to avoid timewasters and last minute cancellations |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Yeah, well if you expect us to wait in our hotel room for your arrival 2 hours later then forget about it."
We had a hotel in York last year and arranged for two guys at 22:30. At 23:00, we messaged both. One had family suddenly turn up, the other was "still out with the lads, just booking a taxi now". At 1am he messaged to say he was free to pop round!
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I think it down to nerves. The notion of its safe when messaging on here but.when reality hit you.
I’ve had those kind of nerves before but I just said to myself fuck this I worked this hard to get to this point I’m going through it |
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By *8v3nCouple
over a year ago
Coventry |
Happens. The reason is because there are plenty of guys who live in fantasy land. Either they think they can live the lifestyle, but actually they have their wife's or girlfriends whom they can't work around or they are outright catfish, who call quits as soon as things get real. |
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hmm probably BS haha.
I've had a lady cancel saying "sorry going home couldn't find parking down your street" 
could have called & would shown her where to park.
Had couples cancel & see new veri from someone else on their profile next day 
, be sceptical, in other words '80% prepare for cancellation, 20% chance they show up'
