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"Prefer married men. No dramas"
You're not alone in that way of thinking...
....I've been told more than once that I was picked/selected/chosen precisely because - as a married man 'playing away' - I could be relied upon to be discreet, and there was far less chance of any emotional involvement or romantic attachment developing...  |
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If married men want to swing that's their business, not ours, and we don't judge them.
Always wonder though why people are surprised, or even offended, to find married men on a swingers site.
Married men have needs too  and they may not be having all of their needs catered for.
We always suggest these men talk to their wives openly about their desires, because their wives may also be harbouring desires.
And if you're really not a sexually compatible pair - perhaps you need to ask why you are still in the relationship. |
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"Prefer married men. No dramas"
Agree with this - they are much less likely to stalk and pester or do public reveals. We had a single guy do this, plastering pictures up where he knew family would see them! This was after he asked Miniskirt out behind my back and got rejected. Never had this problem with a married guy because they have much more to lose. |
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over a year ago
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"If married men want to swing that's their business, not ours, and we don't judge them.
Always wonder though why people are surprised, or even offended, to find married men on a swingers site.
Married men have needs too and they may not be having all of their needs catered for.
We always suggest these men talk to their wives openly about their desires, because their wives may also be harbouring desires.
And if you're really not a sexually compatible pair - perhaps you need to ask why you are still in the relationship. "
Because most of them aren’t open about it and a lot of us don’t wish to be part of helping someone cheat! |
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For Christ's sake, less of the "holier-than-thou" hypocrisy, and the scapegoating of single men! In case it has escaped your mind, there are also married women on Fab, and married women who go to clubs behind their husbands' backs. But of course, they don't really exist in your world, do they?
Before I carry on, let me make a few things straight for the record:
- I have a partner who doesn't swing.
- She knows what I do, and what I have been doing for over 30 years, because I was upfront from the start and told her.
- She is more than happy for me to have my fun, but is not interested in the scene in any way.
- I don't hide the fact I have a partner on here, or at clubs or meets.
- I honestly don't give a shit what anyone thinks of me in that respect.
It used to make me laugh whenever I read the narrow-minded double-standards on here from those very quick to vilify married men who are on here as single males, whilst condoning the married single women on here. It doesn't make me laugh anymore - there's nothing funny about hypocrisy or pretention.
So before you moan about lack of morals from us guys who are in a relationship outside of the scene, it's about time that those of you who are so critical about it woke up to the fact that it works both ways. |
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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"For Christ's sake, less of the "holier-than-thou" hypocrisy, and the scapegoating of single men! In case it has escaped your mind, there are also married women on Fab, and married women who go to clubs behind their husbands' backs. But of course, they don't really exist in your world, do they?
Before I carry on, let me make a few things straight for the record:
- I have a partner who doesn't swing.
- She knows what I do, and what I have been doing for over 30 years, because I was upfront from the start and told her.
- She is more than happy for me to have my fun, but is not interested in the scene in any way.
- I don't hide the fact I have a partner on here, or at clubs or meets.
- I honestly don't give a shit what anyone thinks of me in that respect.
It used to make me laugh whenever I read the narrow-minded double-standards on here from those very quick to vilify married men who are on here as single males, whilst condoning the married single women on here. It doesn't make me laugh anymore - there's nothing funny about hypocrisy or pretention.
So before you moan about lack of morals from us guys who are in a relationship outside of the scene, it's about time that those of you who are so critical about it woke up to the fact that it works both ways."
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"For Christ's sake, less of the "holier-than-thou" hypocrisy, and the scapegoating of single men! In case it has escaped your mind, there are also married women on Fab, and married women who go to clubs behind their husbands' backs. But of course, they don't really exist in your world, do they?
Before I carry on, let me make a few things straight for the record:
- I have a partner who doesn't swing.
- She knows what I do, and what I have been doing for over 30 years, because I was upfront from the start and told her.
- She is more than happy for me to have my fun, but is not interested in the scene in any way.
- I don't hide the fact I have a partner on here, or at clubs or meets.
- I honestly don't give a shit what anyone thinks of me in that respect.
It used to make me laugh whenever I read the narrow-minded double-standards on here from those very quick to vilify married men who are on here as single males, whilst condoning the married single women on here. It doesn't make me laugh anymore - there's nothing funny about hypocrisy or pretention.
So before you moan about lack of morals from us guys who are in a relationship outside of the scene, it's about time that those of you who are so critical about it woke up to the fact that it works both ways."
Likely because it’s very rare for a woman to be in the forums publicising their married state and worth remembering that many men on here will say or do anything to get a fuck!
There’s a huge difference imo to playing with permission and cheating. The problem is because so many men on here will do anything to get a fuck including being dishonest it makes it much more difficult for those playing with permission! |
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By *anddXXXCouple
over a year ago
London |
"For Christ's sake, less of the "holier-than-thou" hypocrisy, and the scapegoating of single men! In case it has escaped your mind, there are also married women on Fab, and married women who go to clubs behind their husbands' backs. But of course, they don't really exist in your world, do they?
Before I carry on, let me make a few things straight for the record:
- I have a partner who doesn't swing.
- She knows what I do, and what I have been doing for over 30 years, because I was upfront from the start and told her.
- She is more than happy for me to have my fun, but is not interested in the scene in any way.
- I don't hide the fact I have a partner on here, or at clubs or meets.
- I honestly don't give a shit what anyone thinks of me in that respect.
It used to make me laugh whenever I read the narrow-minded double-standards on here from those very quick to vilify married men who are on here as single males, whilst condoning the married single women on here. It doesn't make me laugh anymore - there's nothing funny about hypocrisy or pretention.
So before you moan about lack of morals from us guys who are in a relationship outside of the scene, it's about time that those of you who are so critical about it woke up to the fact that it works both ways."
Yeah. For Christ Sake.
Not enough mid 20th Century Language being used on here, respect for your attempt at re introducing it.
Looking forwards to a fiddlesticks or bugger. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
Any couples who add Dogging into their interests are undoubtedly meeting quite a few married men.
Last time I went dogging, nobody asked my marital status, star sign or three digit code on the back of my credit card.
(Just for future reference: Single;Wedgeatarius;666)
Same goes for meeting guys in clubs. You might like the look of them, you might like how they talk to you, but you probably won't know any answers to the three above questions.
I'm happy to meet married women (as if anyone cares what I'm happy about!!).
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"Prefer married men. No dramas
Agree with this - they are much less likely to stalk and pester or do public reveals. We had a single guy do this, plastering pictures up where he knew family would see them! This was after he asked Miniskirt out behind my back and got rejected. Never had this problem with a married guy because they have much more to lose."
What a terrible thing to do, what a low life he was |
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In a way I feel sorry for those that don’t have the balls to sit down and talk to their SO about their desire to explore the lifestyle because they might actually get to enjoy the scene freely rather than having to ‘sneak about’.
That said it comes down to the ‘swingers Vs shaggers’ thing doesn’t it - if they are just looking to purely get their end away and not involve themselves in any other aspect of the lifestyle then that’s just the same as vanilla world cheating and could be got off of other websites.
I’m with Duchess tho - I’d rather not sit on a ‘cheaters’ Willy as I’m not here to hurt anyone, I’m here for the freedom, honesty and hedonism the swinging life gives. I’d rather be a total #girlcode and ask a wife if I can borrow her man for the night than have her sat at home cooking his tea, looking like an absolute clown to him whilst he’s out ‘playing pool with his friend’. She deserves her fun too.
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" She deserves her fun too.
GG xx"
She may well be getting her fun too. That's the tragedy of these situations - half the time they are BOTH at it. If only they could communicate and be honest about wanting variety - or particular kinks. |
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"Prefer married men. No dramas
There's none either way, surely? "
Yes there are dramas. Read our post. Genuinely single guys can become pests or stalkers. They are much more likely to ask your lady out behind your back. They are also more likely to perform public outings - again, read our post. |
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" She deserves her fun too.
GG xx
She may well be getting her fun too. That's the tragedy of these situations - half the time they are BOTH at it. If only they could communicate and be honest about wanting variety - or particular kinks. "
That’s exactly it!  |
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"For Christ's sake, less of the "holier-than-thou" hypocrisy, and the scapegoating of single men! In case it has escaped your mind, there are also married women on Fab, and married women who go to clubs behind their husbands' backs. But of course, they don't really exist in your world, do they?
Before I carry on, let me make a few things straight for the record:
- I have a partner who doesn't swing.
- She knows what I do, and what I have been doing for over 30 years, because I was upfront from the start and told her.
- She is more than happy for me to have my fun, but is not interested in the scene in any way.
- I don't hide the fact I have a partner on here, or at clubs or meets.
- I honestly don't give a shit what anyone thinks of me in that respect.
It used to make me laugh whenever I read the narrow-minded double-standards on here from those very quick to vilify married men who are on here as single males, whilst condoning the married single women on here. It doesn't make me laugh anymore - there's nothing funny about hypocrisy or pretention.
So before you moan about lack of morals from us guys who are in a relationship outside of the scene, it's about time that those of you who are so critical about it woke up to the fact that it works both ways."
Why are you ranting ? I got the impression the Op was asking because she liked married men.
Everyone’s choice to play with whoever they want. I wouldn’t knowingly play with married men, too much drama if he gets caught and I don’t want to be part of someone cheating.
I’m sure there are plenty married women on here and I feel exactly the same about them. |
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By *halMan
over a year ago
North West |
"For Christ's sake, less of the "holier-than-thou" hypocrisy, and the scapegoating of single men! In case it has escaped your mind, there are also married women on Fab, and married women who go to clubs behind their husbands' backs. But of course, they don't really exist in your world, do they?
Before I carry on, let me make a few things straight for the record:
- I have a partner who doesn't swing.
- She knows what I do, and what I have been doing for over 30 years, because I was upfront from the start and told her.
- She is more than happy for me to have my fun, but is not interested in the scene in any way.
- I don't hide the fact I have a partner on here, or at clubs or meets.
- I honestly don't give a shit what anyone thinks of me in that respect.
It used to make me laugh whenever I read the narrow-minded double-standards on here from those very quick to vilify married men who are on here as single males, whilst condoning the married single women on here. It doesn't make me laugh anymore - there's nothing funny about hypocrisy or pretention.
So before you moan about lack of morals from us guys who are in a relationship outside of the scene, it's about time that those of you who are so critical about it woke up to the fact that it works both ways.
Why are you ranting ? I got the impression the Op was asking because she liked married men.
Everyone’s choice to play with whoever they want. I wouldn’t knowingly play with married men, too much drama if he gets caught and I don’t want to be part of someone cheating.
I’m sure there are plenty married women on here and I feel exactly the same about them. "
The OP is a Man…..not a lady……  |
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I’m married, happily. She’s knows I’m here as she is too. General normal life and family stuff got in the way of playing together (as it does) so we fly solo and enjoy telling each other about it. |
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"For Christ's sake, less of the "holier-than-thou" hypocrisy, and the scapegoating of single men! In case it has escaped your mind, there are also married women on Fab, and married women who go to clubs behind their husbands' backs. But of course, they don't really exist in your world, do they?
Before I carry on, let me make a few things straight for the record:
- I have a partner who doesn't swing.
- She knows what I do, and what I have been doing for over 30 years, because I was upfront from the start and told her.
- She is more than happy for me to have my fun, but is not interested in the scene in any way.
- I don't hide the fact I have a partner on here, or at clubs or meets.
- I honestly don't give a shit what anyone thinks of me in that respect.
It used to make me laugh whenever I read the narrow-minded double-standards on here from those very quick to vilify married men who are on here as single males, whilst condoning the married single women on here. It doesn't make me laugh anymore - there's nothing funny about hypocrisy or pretention.
So before you moan about lack of morals from us guys who are in a relationship outside of the scene, it's about time that those of you who are so critical about it woke up to the fact that it works both ways."
Whooo no one has condoned married women at all, married women tend to not post as much as the males do, generally complaining about their lack of sex at home while on a swingers site showing their cock to anyone who will take a look, hmmmm wonder why the Mrs isn't interested!
No hypocrisy on the thread people's opinions on a public forum are allowed this is what it's for.
Men/women cheats aren't for us (does that make it better)
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"Prefer married men. No dramas
You're not alone in that way of thinking...
....I've been told more than once that I was picked/selected/chosen precisely because - as a married man 'playing away' - I could be relied upon to be discreet, and there was far less chance of any emotional involvement or romantic attachment developing... "
Think it’s completely the opposite.
10 x more drama, much more needy, always want it on their terms, more attachment than single guys… and have to be pretty heartless to not think about the other partner at home.
There’s loads on here, each to their own. I Just ask people to be honest about it and everyone can make an informed decision x |
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"For Christ's sake, less of the "holier-than-thou" hypocrisy, and the scapegoating of single men! In case it has escaped your mind, there are also married women on Fab, and married women who go to clubs behind their husbands' backs. But of course, they don't really exist in your world, do they?
Before I carry on, let me make a few things straight for the record:
- I have a partner who doesn't swing.
- She knows what I do, and what I have been doing for over 30 years, because I was upfront from the start and told her.
- She is more than happy for me to have my fun, but is not interested in the scene in any way.
- I don't hide the fact I have a partner on here, or at clubs or meets.
- I honestly don't give a shit what anyone thinks of me in that respect.
It used to make me laugh whenever I read the narrow-minded double-standards on here from those very quick to vilify married men who are on here as single males, whilst condoning the married single women on here. It doesn't make me laugh anymore - there's nothing funny about hypocrisy or pretention.
So before you moan about lack of morals from us guys who are in a relationship outside of the scene, it's about time that those of you who are so critical about it woke up to the fact that it works both ways."
Having permission to play from your wife as you do is totally acceptable with every swinger we know.
At the same time there was a recent thread of a married woman cheating as she got just as much heat as they married guys here to cheat. We wouldn't meet a cheater male or female.
We know swinging couples who were lied to when a single guy lied about been single. His wife found his fab account logged in on his mobile and saw the couples photos and meet verification for her cheating hubby. In her hurt and pain she turned all her hatred and anger towards the equally innocent couple whom her hubby had meet. She had there address and details from his fab messages. She plastered there pictures on social media, she informed the couples family of what they do and went as far as turning up screaming at the lady of the couples workplace which was a small dentist practise. The police got involved and it ended in the courts. The best bit is still with cheating hubby who is still on fab to this day trying to meet people. Why the hell any sane couple who trust and love each other with total honestly would openly risk getting caught up in that type of drama is beyond me.
The cheating hubby told the couple he was single so they definitely didn't deserve the nightmare that unfolded. Now if he had told them he was married and looking to cheat would they have then deserved what happened?
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