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Finding it impossible to find the right guys..
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We're a slim, fit(ish) attractive couple, we'd class ourselves as 'non-scene' but we aren't newbies.
Maybe we're asking too much but can we find even ONE guy locally who fits the bill?
We're professional, educated people, we don't want to spend the evening with a guy who can hardly string a sentence together.. They don't read ONE WORD of our profile. Please tell us this isn't how it is before we give up altogether.
Sensible suggestions gratefully received
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I think your just to picky in who you are looking for. I am not saying that is a bad thing because lord knows I am the same. I live a few miles away from you and have seen your profile but as it appears I do not fit what you are looking for age wise I have not tried to contact you. Maybe you need to lower your expectations a little. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dunno...everything seems so unfriendly really upon reading...
I'd term u's a beck n call cpl..and I probably wouldnt be that interested
it doesnt really matter how attractive the portrayal is from the pics
Many will jump at the chance I always imagine...but there are lots to choose from anyway..regardless of whether its a single male...not all of us are particularly desperate to jump through hoops.I hate one way respect...as its always expected from the males and often not given by the cpls/females
hope I havent offended on my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read the first paragraph.
That was enough !
I am not local so whether I fit the bill or not is irrelevant, but I bet some guys who do fit the bill switched off after the opening statement too.
I am sure it may be borne out of frustration, but you may find a friendlier approach attracts a better response.
Also, rather than sitting and waiting, go out, seek and find the guys who MAY fit.
A message from you may be better received and prompt a better outcome than any initial message to you could ever warrant.
Used in conjunction with your filters and your block button, it could make things easier for you.
You'll never escape the chancers, the fakes, the liars and the one line wonders, but you can le a few out by helping yourselves.
Good Luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We're a slim, fit(ish) attractive couple, we'd class ourselves as 'non-scene' but we aren't newbies.
Maybe we're asking too much but can we find even ONE guy locally who fits the bill?
We're professional, educated people, we don't want to spend the evening with a guy who can hardly string a sentence together.. They don't read ONE WORD of our profile. Please tell us this isn't how it is before we give up altogether.
Sensible suggestions gratefully received
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Sorry OP but after reading this and just a bit of your profile, I hardly find it surprising that any decent single guys would contact you, I personally find it a bit intimidating. But good luck with your search  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've actually read ALL your profile now.
What I don't like is how it suggests / intimates that single males would be treated differently to how you would treat a couple.
If I was meeting either a single or a couple, or even participating in a moresome, EVERYONE would be treated with the same level of respect and courtesy.
You talk about single men like they have just shit on your living room carpet - unless of course they are 'a catch'
I can see why your profile is attracting the wrong sort - because, in the main, the right sort have the intelligence to spot 'demanding' when they see it.
Stick to couples. |
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"We're a slim, fit(ish) attractive couple, we'd class ourselves as 'non-scene' but we aren't newbies.
Maybe we're asking too much but can we find even ONE guy locally who fits the bill?
We're professional, educated people, we don't want to spend the evening with a guy who can hardly string a sentence together.. They don't read ONE WORD of our profile. Please tell us this isn't how it is before we give up altogether.
Sensible suggestions gratefully received
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You look good in the photos - but your profile comes across as quite aggressive. Maybe you have reason to have written it like that - but it's not a welcoming/enticing profile.
There is a lot about your rules and requirements - but little about what you like, what you offer.
Why have you included 'feedback' when this profile has none? I could have made something up for my profile to show I'm a shit hot lover (wish I was - but I'm just honestly average IMHO).
In my _iew - it is all about enticing or wooing someone. Maybe as this a couples profile you can have the luxury of leaving it the way it is.
Then again - as you say - you are finding it hard to meet people.
Food for thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you are obviously after quality rather than quantity
thats ok as far as we are concerned.
we have also posted meets looking for muscular men and i suppose some may think they are and muscular men arent as common as you may think.
if you have standards,keep to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you are obviously after quality rather than quantity
thats ok as far as we are concerned.
we have also posted meets looking for muscular men and i suppose some may think they are and muscular men arent as common as you may think.
if you have standards,keep to them"
But your profile is far friendlier than the OP's.
I agree that having standards is no bad thing, but the way the OP talks is very unfriendly and comes across as pompous and demanding.
I think what is forgotten is that 'the chosen ones' might actually be really nice guys and could be easily put off by the approach the OP has in their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it hard to believe you guys cant find suitable guys with a profile like you have
I dont think u read a word! lololol it was said tongue in cheek obviously  "
Phew! lol
Well many have echoed what I've said.I know about standards and preferences.However I tend to think of the psychology of it more.
The profile is likely to attract those that sound like the profile(ie arrogant)...and these are the men u are saying that u dont want to attract(I'm basing that on the fact u want conversationalists)-what U are attracting is those with an arrogant nature who think they are better than other people on the site.More often than not, we call them pricks.
This isnt about me saying u should shag wee skinny brown scotsmen,or indeed those outwith the weight category who have advanced degrees in quantum dynamics.Its more about what ur profile IS attracting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Re write profile and wind you're ego in a bit , that's my advice
Having intellect and trying to find respectful, polite guys has nothing to do with Ego chap.."
"Respectful and polite" should surely be reciprocal. Unfortunately the way your profile has been constructed implies the opposite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the problem is there are so many waste of space profiles and people who quite frankly most people will stay away from on here. These long profiles stating needs and wants are often a good way to eliminate prospective time wasters.
Unfortunately though the people you try to put off wont even read the profile and will still message anyway. |
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Upon reflection, we think you're all correct, it seems you simply cannot dictate what you require in a profile. Doing so has made us sound like we're demanding, we're not, we're actually very friendly.
It's now been changed.
Let's see if it makes any difference?
80% of the guys on here are simply woeful in their ability to communicate well.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you are obviously after quality rather than quantity
thats ok as far as we are concerned.
we have also posted meets looking for muscular men and i suppose some may think they are and muscular men arent as common as you may think.
if you have standards,keep to them
But your profile is far friendlier than the OP's.
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thanks,well try and be friendly ,even though we dont get that many messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably not my place to say
Have you tried looking at profiles and contacting them?
If you know what you are looking for, find them and ask for pics..
I do think the new look profile is much better ... again Im not the target audience its just my Point of _iew |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Upon reflection, we think you're all correct, it seems you simply cannot dictate what you require in a profile. Doing so has made us sound like we're demanding, we're not, we're actually very friendly.
It's now been changed.
Let's see if it makes any difference?
80% of the guys on here are simply woeful in their ability to communicate well. "
Your profile is much too short, you need to put in loads more text (sorry, couldn't resist!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The changes make a BIG difference OP.
You state your preferences now without being demanding about them.
Well done the both of you for taking the constructive criticism on the chin rather than kicking back and assuming your approach was right and we were all wrong.
I do hope you can make this profile work as well for you as your 'couples only' one appears to do.
I think you may need to add the odd line or statement about the types of meets you seek- you mention the guys you like, but not what you seek from a meet.
Good Luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its a vast improvement on the previous...most should add up what slim,fit and polite means
and I'm really glad I gave the best advice  "
and you didn't mention jizzing on tits once |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its a vast improvement on the previous...most should add up what slim,fit and polite means
and I'm really glad I gave the best advice
and you didn't mention jizzing on tits once "
its was the fear of lashback..oops..splashback |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We're a slim, fit(ish) attractive couple, we'd class ourselves as 'non-scene' but we aren't newbies.
Maybe we're asking too much but can we find even ONE guy locally who fits the bill?
We're professional, educated people, we don't want to spend the evening with a guy who can hardly string a sentence together.. They don't read ONE WORD of our profile. Please tell us this isn't how it is before we give up altogether.
Sensible suggestions gratefully received
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You have only been here a week so give it some time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP - Your profile comes across as a bit one-sided. It has nothing about who you are, what you like and what you want from a play session - or a potential meet.
Just a few lines expecting any prospective meet to do all the work on contacting you with no real information. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Upon reflection, we think you're all correct, it seems you simply cannot dictate what you require in a profile. Doing so has made us sound like we're demanding, we're not, we're actually very friendly.
It's now been changed.
Let's see if it makes any difference?
80% of the guys on here are simply woeful in their ability to communicate well. "
I read your old profile a few times, as I'm local and it appeared on my updates. I was always put off by how it read and even though I fit much of the criteria (possibly) I was reluctant to contact you.
Having read through the revised version, its much better. So I may send you an eloquently phrased message in the near future. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it doesnt matter what you say in your profile, or what you want to meet. Tha VAST majority of single guys here are knuckle dragging mouth breathers who can't type a full sentence, let alone read one. The copy and paste a line and send it out 20 times.
There are some decent people here, but you tend to have to go looking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it doesnt matter what you say in your profile, or what you want to meet. Tha VAST majority of single guys here are knuckle dragging mouth breathers who can't type a full sentence, let alone read one. The copy and paste a line and send it out 20 times.
There are some decent people here, but you tend to have to go looking."
I disagree with your idea that guys cannot type a full |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is entitled to preference - but those that I've met that have been the most successful in finding suitable company have been proactive in their contacts - selecting who to message themselves rather than waiting for the right people to hopefully get in touch!
That goes for whether you're a couple or a single - and severely boosts your chances of finding what you want. I'd also search similar couples and look who they have met and check veri's - I know a few couples local to you who have had no problems finding good guys for fun.
Good luck - and give it time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP - Your profile comes across as a bit one-sided. It has nothing about who you are, what you like and what you want from a play session - or a potential meet.
Just a few lines expecting any prospective meet to do all the work on contacting you with no real information. "
This is what I thought when I read you profile, it still doesn't say enough about you for me to have worked out whether I was the type of single male you were looking for apart from age, so I would have just passed your profile by. Try and give a little more detail about exactly what you are looking for.
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'Gentlemen.. No face pic, no reply'.
To anyone educated and polite this introduction to your profile appears to be an unwelcome instruction.
'Please write a proper message, introduce yourself, those of you that take the time to do this will get noticed'.
To anyone educated and polite this also appears to be an unwelcome instruction.
'Insatiable is slim and very attractive, we're only interested in meeting fit, polite, educated guys'.
And what about Voyeur? Does he have nothing to bring to the party?
'Thank you'.
You're welcome.
Now then...
I've read through the thread and see I've missed the original profile text.
For a second attempt it seems it's not too friendly.
It's rather blunt and unwelcoming.
You don't say anything about what you like and/or dislike - other than the 'interests' list.
If you want polite, intelligent, fit gentlemen please allow me to ask you this:
How would you feel if I sent you a mail asking you to send me a face pic with your first reply (when I may not send you one).
Those who are polite, fit and educated may be meeting those who are fit and educated... and polite. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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To be honest its very unlikely that you will get what you're looking for whatever you put on your profile. Most men scroll right down to the pics, and then will message you anyway. They won't even see the 'no pic no reply' line.
Obihalve is right - you want a type, you need to go looking for it. You might get some knockbacks but you're more likely to get what you want. Having said that I really think you need a bit more details because a polite well educated guy is going to want to know more than what you've got on there at the mo. Good luck! |
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You need to do some leg work as well like many have said on here.
In this world you get nothing for nothing, if the wrong types are messaging you then you go after them, i am sure you will more than likely get alot more satisfaction from searching out the guys you want as opposed to trundling through many messages that are not what you are looking for.
It is hard to find the right guy that you are looking for we have tried in the past and it is not easy, but we do not wait for them to come to us, if we want them we go looking.
same with couples we do the leg work.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"We're a slim, fit(ish) attractive couple, we'd class ourselves as 'non-scene' but we aren't newbies.
Maybe we're asking too much but can we find even ONE guy locally who fits the bill?
We're professional, educated people, we don't want to spend the evening with a guy who can hardly string a sentence together.. They don't read ONE WORD of our profile. Please tell us this isn't how it is before we give up altogether.
Sensible suggestions gratefully received
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something struck me whilst reading your profile....
you say in your update that you don't want "one liners"... but your profile isn't really that much more than that...
for people who are bemoaning not being able to find others with intelligence, yours profile as it stands now doesn't really show that much of it either....
there is very little in it as it stands at the moment that would attract me, no personality in it, nothing that strikes me with "wow I have to meet that couple", nothing that says to me I may be the type of person they would be after......
it just feels like "I am waiting on something to fall into our laps and we expect the other party to do all the work of enticing"...
I think what a lot of people, especially couples, seem to forget is that enticing is very much a two way street....... the numbers may seem to be in your favour, but if everyone is still trying to meet the same types then actually they are probably not....
if they are not coming to you, then you would may well have to go after them... remember a lot of the popular guys will already be having fun, so what do you both have to offer them? |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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There are lots of good single guys on here, it's just a case of putting in some leg work and finding them.
If you know what you are looking for then do a local search and contact those that interest you. Some may not reply, some might say no thanks but you might also find one or two gems.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They don't read ONE WORD of our profile."
To be fair, I've read the whole thing twice and still don't really know anything about you both.
You need to give your target audience something to work with. |
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over a year ago
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well i have met a few lovely couples and singles on this site and been to a few patrys and thoroughly enjoyed my self and so have the others in my compay ,
some single males may be pushy or not show much respect for other people but that also goes for single females and couples ..there are good and bad in all combinations,
please think carefully because some of us guys have manners and feelings too and we do also like a bit of respect ,
so when you write your profiles and show disrespect to the male of the species just remember one of us may actually be the guy that would have been perfect for you .
yes i do send messages to select people i think may have something i crave but then not always do i get a reply ..i just see it as the lick of the draw and some folk just cant be arsed to reply .
buy heyho thats the way it goes and i have never EVER had a bad meet yet or left anyone unsatisfied ..so just food for thought really for all those who are maybe a bit harsh on the single males .
anyone wants to come play with me will always recieve a polite message wether its a thanks but no thanks or a shortly to be followed knock on the door and a fantastic night .
hey look a single male who can read and write |
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It's better than the earlier version. Problem is - now it's *too* brief.
You are interested in Couple and Men - but the profile only deals with Men.
Make it applicable to both: I assume you want face and body part images somewhere along the line.
Terms such as 'fit' are ambiguous: slim/toned or can run a marathon?
Educated? Whilst I understand what you mean - it does sound a bit condescending. Educated to what level: is degree-level good enough? Or PhD?
Your conversation with the prospective partners will satisfy you whether they possess the level of 'education' you seem to want.
Assuming I met your conditions - the body would be very interested - the mind, not sure about that yet...
I'm attracted to the people in the first instance - physical characteristics come second for me.
I'm not sure I would feel completely at-ease meeting you at the moment (not that I'm your type, that is). I want to feel relaxed meeting people... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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just picking up on this one
Having read your profile its hard to see why your getting rubbish messages etc ; but hey ho this site is full of some wonderful people lol ...and not all bad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it doesnt matter what you say in your profile, or what you want to meet. Tha VAST majority of single guys here are knuckle dragging mouth breathers who can't type a full sentence, let alone read one. The copy and paste a line and send it out 20 times.
There are some decent people here, but you tend to have to go looking."
I think thats a bit of a sweeping statement there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hello OP's
Irrespective of the distance between us, I would not contact you as I feel I am not egotistical enough to feel I could match teh standards you are - as is your right to do so - setting for yourselves.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have just read your new profile and to be honest how can you expect the right match then you say zero about yourselves, it's based on what you don't want rather that what you do.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was a guy I would look for a couple whose profile
- dont put guys down
- sounds fun and friendly
- lets me know whats in it for me
You may be better going to a club and meeting people face to face x |
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over a year ago
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"We're a slim, fit(ish) attractive couple, we'd class ourselves as 'non-scene' but we aren't newbies.
Maybe we're asking too much but can we find even ONE guy locally who fits the bill?
We're professional, educated people, we don't want to spend the evening with a guy who can hardly string a sentence together.. They don't read ONE WORD of our profile. Please tell us this isn't how it is before we give up altogether.
Sensible suggestions gratefully received
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You have to be aware that there are a large number of socially inept men around who see this site as their only chance of ever having sex with anyone. You know the ratios of men/women/couples on here. Patience...slowly slowly catchy monkey. Don't let your standards slip by meeting with someone you are unsure about, chances are you WILL be disappointed and I would hate for that to put you off the scene or this site. |
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
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i(fem) was very surprised to read "similar couples,too!"
3 words squizzed in the last 2 sentences......if you REALLY want cpls,too than may be put another paragraph in stating if you want fullswap and some info what Bi-curious means to you........otherwise just take those 3 words out doesn't sound like you want cpls!.........nice body,shame no bodypics of male and shame pussy not fully shaven  |
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"you are obviously after quality rather than quantity
thats ok as far as we are concerned.
we have also posted meets looking for muscular men and i suppose some may think they are and muscular men arent as common as you may think.
if you have standards,keep to them
But your profile is far friendlier than the OP's.
thanks,well try and be friendly ,even though we dont get that many messages"
You've got this completely wrong, we haven;t sought out 'Muscular guys' at all.. strange?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We're a slim, fit(ish) attractive couple, we'd class ourselves as 'non-scene' but we aren't newbies.
Maybe we're asking too much but can we find even ONE guy locally who fits the bill?
We're professional, educated people, we don't want to spend the evening with a guy who can hardly string a sentence together.. They don't read ONE WORD of our profile. Please tell us this isn't how it is before we give up altogether.
Sensible suggestions gratefully received
Sorry OP but after reading this and just a bit of your profile, I hardly find it surprising that any decent single guys would contact you, I personally find it a bit intimidating. But good luck with your search "
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over a year ago
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We have a rule...if the profile states they are 'sexy' 'gorgeous' or 'beautiful' we don't meet them, alot of people have great confidence but no one can say Everyone will find the same person Sexy, i wouldn't approach you if i were male as i don't class myself as attractive or fit, we find those that do are a little too up themselves, maybe look at meeting 'genuine, clean and freindly' people over those that think every women will fall at their knees may work better for you.
Failing that spend a few minutes looking through peoples profiles and find someone you like the look of instead of hoping they will find you?
Good luck on your search, i'm sure you'll find someone suitable soon enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a rule...if the profile states they are 'sexy' 'gorgeous' or 'beautiful' we don't meet them, alot of people have great confidence but no one can say Everyone will find the same person Sexy, i wouldn't approach you if i were male as i don't class myself as attractive or fit, we find those that do are a little too up themselves, maybe look at meeting 'genuine, clean and freindly' people over those that think every women will fall at their knees may work better for you.
Failing that spend a few minutes looking through peoples profiles and find someone you like the look of instead of hoping they will find you?
Good luck on your search, i'm sure you'll find someone suitable soon enough."
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Finding nice people on here often takes time and especially if you're determined to find nice local people. Most of the friends we've made on here live all over the country. Don't worry too much about it. Just have fun and let things develop how they will |
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"I dont think there is a guy that can hold a decent conversation..
Some of us are perfectly able to communicate with flair, panache and eloquence...."
We have flu , pancakes and ignorance..is that any good?? |
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"i(fem) was very surprised to read "similar couples,too!"
3 words squizzed in the last 2 sentences......if you REALLY want cpls,too than may be put another paragraph in stating if you want fullswap and some info what Bi-curious means to you........otherwise just take those 3 words out doesn't sound like you want cpls!.........nice body,shame no bodypics of male and shame pussy not fully shaven "
I'll have you know I trim my partner personally and her wonderful bits are PERFECT, I've been down on the scratchy mess that most women (shaving themselves) have and I can tell you it's not a patch on my partner.
We have a couple profile too, this one's just for single guys....
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"It seems I maybe exactly who they are looking for
Don't post it here - PM them...
I can't they blocked me for not sending face pic x"
No, we blocked you for winking three times, sending a 'friends request' without writing first and then complaining we didn't respond to you, like we're obliged to... |
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"i(fem) was very surprised to read "similar couples,too!"
3 words squizzed in the last 2 sentences......if you REALLY want cpls,too than may be put another paragraph in stating if you want fullswap and some info what Bi-curious means to you........otherwise just take those 3 words out doesn't sound like you want cpls!.........nice body,shame no bodypics of male and shame pussy not fully shaven
I'll have you know I trim my partner personally and her wonderful bits are PERFECT, I've been down on the scratchy mess that most women (shaving themselves) have and I can tell you it's not a patch on my partner.
We have a couple profile too, this one's just for single guys....
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To be honest this post just reinforces my impression of your original profile. Namely that you have a totally overblown sense of your own importance and that you think that you are better than the people that you are meeting.
Not attractive traits. |
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"Is it not against forum rules to use the forum to contact people that have blocked you..."
seems to be happening alot lol...btw did u..oops...delete what i was gonna say! |
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"i(fem) was very surprised to read "similar couples,too!"
3 words squizzed in the last 2 sentences......if you REALLY want cpls,too than may be put another paragraph in stating if you want fullswap and some info what Bi-curious means to you........otherwise just take those 3 words out doesn't sound like you want cpls!.........nice body,shame no bodypics of male and shame pussy not fully shaven
I'll have you know I trim my partner personally and her wonderful bits are PERFECT, I've been down on the scratchy mess that most women (shaving themselves) have and I can tell you it's not a patch on my partner.
We have a couple profile too, this one's just for single guys....
To be honest this post just reinforces my impression of your original profile. Namely that you have a totally overblown sense of your own importance and that you think that you are better than the people that you are meeting.
Not attractive traits."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We're a slim, fit(ish) attractive couple, we'd class ourselves as 'non-scene' but we aren't newbies.
Maybe we're asking too much but can we find even ONE guy locally who fits the bill?
We're professional, educated people, we don't want to spend the evening with a guy who can hardly string a sentence together.. They don't read ONE WORD of our profile. Please tell us this isn't how it is before we give up altogether.
Sensible suggestions gratefully received
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Guys you sound lovely but your profile is quite full on. And i think would put a lot of guys off x |
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The edited version is succinct and to the point without being demanding or rude.
Your pictures are good quality and very good.
All seems fine to me to be honest.
Best of luck finding what you're after |
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"Guys you stick to what you want. Its just unfortunate that no one in your area fits the bill. Persevere and am sure you'll be just fine"
Thanks, I'm sure we will, We've been members more than a year and we do know what we're after.
The average standard of guys and their communication skills is absolutely appalling and a real turn off for us. We're educated people and being written to with messages such as 'Wot u doin tonite' just leaves us cold.
It seems almost 75% of all messages are like this REGARDLESS of what our profile actually says..
We're sorting the wheat from the CHAVS |
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Can only go by the postings.
"you have a totally overblown sense of your own importance and that you think that you are better than the people that you are meeting"
That's the impression we've got |
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"Guys you stick to what you want. Its just unfortunate that no one in your area fits the bill. Persevere and am sure you'll be just fine
Thanks, I'm sure we will, We've been members more than a year and we do know what we're after.
The average standard of guys and their communication skills is absolutely appalling and a real turn off for us. We're educated people and being written to with messages such as 'Wot u doin tonite' just leaves us cold.
It seems almost 75% of all messages are like this REGARDLESS of what our profile actually says..
We're sorting the wheat from the CHAVS"
Then you need to accept that this is the standard of message YOUR profile is attracting.
I get about 90% decent, well written messages and 10% one liners / text speak.
If the majority of your messages are as you describe, then this is what you're attracting. |
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There's an old saying "You'll catch more flies with jam than vinegar".
Once caught, how many you choose to swat is up to you.......try a bit more jam.
XXXX |
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"Guys you stick to what you want. Its just unfortunate that no one in your area fits the bill. Persevere and am sure you'll be just fine
Thanks, I'm sure we will, We've been members more than a year and we do know what we're after.
The average standard of guys and their communication skills is absolutely appalling and a real turn off for us. We're educated people and being written to with messages such as 'Wot u doin tonite' just leaves us cold.
It seems almost 75% of all messages are like this REGARDLESS of what our profile actually says..
We're sorting the wheat from the CHAVS"
Good heavens !
Having kept quiet up until now , it's time to suggest that fab could perhaps help these two out a little .
Why not have all members fill out a list of qualifications they have attained - from GCSE to A level and degrees , plus which educational establishments they have attended ?
Furthermore we could all do an online written test to get a feel for our standard of grammatical awareness .
Upon completing the compulsory educational cv and the grammatical assessment we could all be put into categories which would save these two an awful lot of time and effort in their search .
Simple really and I can't believe fab have not come up with obvious idea before now !
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"We're a slim, fit(ish) attractive couple, we'd class ourselves as 'non-scene' but we aren't newbies.
Maybe we're asking too much but can we find even ONE guy locally who fits the bill?
We're professional, educated people, we don't want to spend the evening with a guy who can hardly string a sentence together.. They don't read ONE WORD of our profile. Please tell us this isn't how it is before we give up altogether.
Sensible suggestions gratefully received
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You have a great profile and photos are a 10 out of 10, so I wish you luck in your search |
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We're sorting the wheat from the CHAVS"
Respect your preferences etc, however using that sort of term speaks volumes tbh..
it does contradict your claim to be 'educated', and is a bit lacking in class..
good luck with your search.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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2 week old profile, moaning about unable to get meets! If it was a single guy saying that he would be told be patient and keep trying.
Personally I think if they want to find something special they should be doing the looking and mailing. |
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"i(fem) was very surprised to read "similar couples,too!"
3 words squizzed in the last 2 sentences......if you REALLY want cpls,too than may be put another paragraph in stating if you want fullswap and some info what Bi-curious means to you........otherwise just take those 3 words out doesn't sound like you want cpls!.........nice body,shame no bodypics of male and shame pussy not fully shaven
I'll have you know I trim my partner personally and her wonderful bits are PERFECT, I've been down on the scratchy mess that most women (shaving themselves) have and I can tell you it's not a patch on my partner.
We have a couple profile too, this one's just for single guys....
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Wow!! Are you for real? How far up yourselves can you be? Perfect, wonderful, modest?? Sounds like anybody you meet would have to sit a suitability exam first. Have you tried brad and Angelina, or are they not perfect enough? |
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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago
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"Guys you stick to what you want. Its just unfortunate that no one in your area fits the bill. Persevere and am sure you'll be just fine
Thanks, I'm sure we will, We've been members more than a year and we do know what we're after.
The average standard of guys and their communication skills is absolutely appalling and a real turn off for us. We're educated people and being written to with messages such as 'Wot u doin tonite' just leaves us cold.
It seems almost 75% of all messages are like this REGARDLESS of what our profile actually says..
We're sorting the wheat from the CHAVS"
I know there is value in thinking highly of yourself but you guys are really taking the biscuit. I mean, what do you think this is? Downton Abbey? The standard & communication skills of 75% of guys on the site appal you?
Maybe there is something else you guys are offering apart from a pussy and a cock that you haven't mentioned yet. A map to the fountain of youth perhaps? Or maybe you hold the keys to eternal life. Or better still maybe you're the ones that decide which lottery numbers come up.
If you're not offering any of the above or something similar, but then have such an attitude, then you need to slap yourself awake and get back to reality.
In case it has escaped your notice, the site is full of people that have pussies and cocks as well, so you're nothing special. Look around you and you'll find thousands of pictures of them.
Having & requiring standards in potential playmates does not excuse you from showing due regard for people. And there is no mystery in why you're not having any luck. It is because the type of single guys you hope to attract aren't attracted to you. They'd rather spend their time with people who value them as equal contributors to a play session that would be mutually enjoyed. Or you think any hole is a goal for every single guy on this site?
Nobody dragged you unto the site kicking & screaming. So if you hope to meet anyone half decent, you better take a very generous dose of humility & tell people why they should choose to spend their time with you rather than someone else. Because if you think you're the only ones that need to do the picking & choosing then you're gravely mistaken. |
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"Quick question
On this 'men only profile' your ages are 40 & 42. Yet on your looking for couples profile, your ages are 43 & 44.
So my question is, which is nearer to the mark, age wise ?
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Lol.. the second one is right. |
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"Guys you stick to what you want. Its just unfortunate that no one in your area fits the bill. Persevere and am sure you'll be just fine
Thanks, I'm sure we will, We've been members more than a year and we do know what we're after.
The average standard of guys and their communication skills is absolutely appalling and a real turn off for us. We're educated people and being written to with messages such as 'Wot u doin tonite' just leaves us cold.
It seems almost 75% of all messages are like this REGARDLESS of what our profile actually says..
We're sorting the wheat from the CHAVS
I know there is value in thinking highly of yourself but you guys are really taking the biscuit. I mean, what do you think this is? Downton Abbey? The standard & communication skills of 75% of guys on the site appal you?
Maybe there is something else you guys are offering apart from a pussy and a cock that you haven't mentioned yet. A map to the fountain of youth perhaps? Or maybe you hold the keys to eternal life. Or better still maybe you're the ones that decide which lottery numbers come up.
If you're not offering any of the above or something similar, but then have such an attitude, then you need to slap yourself awake and get back to reality.
In case it has escaped your notice, the site is full of people that have pussies and cocks as well, so you're nothing special. Look around you and you'll find thousands of pictures of them.
Having & requiring standards in potential playmates does not excuse you from showing due regard for people. And there is no mystery in why you're not having any luck. It is because the type of single guys you hope to attract aren't attracted to you. They'd rather spend their time with people who value them as equal contributors to a play session that would be mutually enjoyed. Or you think any hole is a goal for every single guy on this site?
Nobody dragged you unto the site kicking & screaming. So if you hope to meet anyone half decent, you better take a very generous dose of humility & tell people why they should choose to spend their time with you rather than someone else. Because if you think you're the only ones that need to do the picking & choosing then you're gravely mistaken."
Thanks for your fount of wisdom chap.. We have standards to maintain, we get plenty of mails from guys who obviously haven't. We're just making sure we don't waste our precious playing time with them.
Enough said. |
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"i(fem) was very surprised to read "similar couples,too!"
3 words squizzed in the last 2 sentences......if you REALLY want cpls,too than may be put another paragraph in stating if you want fullswap and some info what Bi-curious means to you........otherwise just take those 3 words out doesn't sound like you want cpls!.........nice body,shame no bodypics of male and shame pussy not fully shaven
I'll have you know I trim my partner personally and her wonderful bits are PERFECT, I've been down on the scratchy mess that most women (shaving themselves) have and I can tell you it's not a patch on my partner.
We have a couple profile too, this one's just for single guys....
Wow!! Are you for real? How far up yourselves can you be? Perfect, wonderful, modest?? Sounds like anybody you meet would have to sit a suitability exam first. Have you tried brad and Angelina, or are they not perfect enough? "
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"Quick question
On this 'men only profile' your ages are 40 & 42. Yet on your looking for couples profile, your ages are 43 & 44.
So my question is, which is nearer to the mark, age wise ?
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Lol.. the second one is right. "
Someone with such high standards admitting lying about their age... What would your _iew be on a singlemales lying about their age to get round your preferences? |
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over a year ago
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some couples are lovely people but some just love treating single guys like shit and that is a fact.
and then they wonder why all they attract are bad ones.
some need to take a good look at themselves.
they are not as special as they make out and need a reality check.
try replying to mail instead or being ignorant and have some manners when addressing people.
ok, you are not interested in some but manners cost nothing. |
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Right, we've finished with this topic..
It's been an education, what more can we say?
We have standards, in life and in swinging and we won't stoop below them, surely this is understandable? How this topic has turned into a load of 'mud slinging' against us really isn't very fair.
We're nothing special, we are a normal happy couple, we've learnt we're going about this in completely the wrong way in demanding certain 'attributes' in single guys from the outset in our profile. We now feel that us seeking out the right guys is the best way to find a good one..
One thing has become very apparent, we came to this forum for some advice and a different perspective, we didn't expect the sort of response we have received.
We aren't 'better' than anyone, this misses the point completely, we're maintaining the standards we live by every day as a couple.
We tried through the 'blunt instrument' of a profile text to seek out guys who might match us, so we might start from the 'same place' (call it what you will, social ability, 'switched-on' mentally, engaging) please note this isn't qualifications or education per se.
In as much as we have made a mistake, so have many of you. |
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"Right, we've finished with this topic..
It's been an education, what more can we say?
We have standards, in life and in swinging and we won't stoop below them, surely this is understandable? How this topic has turned into a load of 'mud slinging' against us really isn't very fair.
We're nothing special, we are a normal happy couple, we've learnt we're going about this in completely the wrong way in demanding certain 'attributes' in single guys from the outset in our profile. We now feel that us seeking out the right guys is the best way to find a good one..
One thing has become very apparent, we came to this forum for some advice and a different perspective, we didn't expect the sort of response we have received.
We aren't 'better' than anyone, this misses the point completely, we're maintaining the standards we live by every day as a couple.
We tried through the 'blunt instrument' of a profile text to seek out guys who might match us, so we might start from the 'same place' (call it what you will, social ability, 'switched-on' mentally, engaging) please note this isn't qualifications or education per se.
In as much as we have made a mistake, so have many of you."
you came here looking for answers and got them.
what else can anyone say? in a forum you will get various responses from alsorts of people.
im sure your nice people in person so anything you see here i wouldnt take personally unless its from someone you have actually met and they know you.
we all get answers to questions we dont like.
i have been blocked by some beautiful woman and couples because i have upset them at one time or another.
and im sure youve done the same.
no point worrying about it as you cannot change it.
good luck finding what your after and when you do you'll know.
good luck. |
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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago
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"I dunno...everything seems so unfriendly really upon reading...
I'd term u's a beck n call cpl..and I probably wouldnt be that interested
it doesnt really matter how attractive the portrayal is from the pics
Many will jump at the chance I always imagine...but there are lots to choose from anyway..regardless of whether its a single male...not all of us are particularly desperate to jump through hoops.I hate one way respect...as its always expected from the males and often not given by the cpls/females
hope I havent offended on my opinion"
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"It seems I maybe exactly who they are looking for
Don't post it here - PM them...
I can't they blocked me for not sending face pic x
No, we blocked you for winking three times, sending a 'friends request' without writing first and then complaining we didn't respond to you, like we're obliged to..."
no you did not .I did not send a friend request nor did I wink , as for the three times rubbish the site only permits one wink per month and you had been on only a week x
I did not complain either ,I sent a message informing you I had a face pic x
lieing is unattractive x
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"I dunno...everything seems so unfriendly really upon reading...
I'd term u's a beck n call cpl..and I probably wouldnt be that interested
it doesnt really matter how attractive the portrayal is from the pics
Many will jump at the chance I always imagine...but there are lots to choose from anyway..regardless of whether its a single male...not all of us are particularly desperate to jump through hoops.I hate one way respect...as its always expected from the males and often not given by the cpls/females
hope I havent offended on my opinion
Talking sense again I see keen. "
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over a year ago
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"I dunno...everything seems so unfriendly really upon reading...
I'd term u's a beck n call cpl..and I probably wouldnt be that interested
it doesnt really matter how attractive the portrayal is from the pics
Many will jump at the chance I always imagine...but there are lots to choose from anyway..regardless of whether its a single male...not all of us are particularly desperate to jump through hoops.I hate one way respect...as its always expected from the males and often not given by the cpls/females
hope I havent offended on my opinion
Talking sense again I see keen.
I'd still try for a shag...have u seen her fanny!!!!!!"
Hahaha..... Yes I have mate..... And she is Fit!
And yes I have mailed them seeing as I'm quite close to them. Now I have a good grasp of english. I can string a sentence or two together. But apparently not profusely enough for this pair. Let's just say that they're not on my hotlist anymore (as a rapper would say) ni**a! |
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I'd still try for a shag...have u seen her fanny!!!!!!
think the whole sites seen her fanny now .. if u aint .. where were u ?? "
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"It seems I maybe exactly who they are looking for
Don't post it here - PM them...
I can't they blocked me for not sending face pic x
No, we blocked you for winking three times, sending a 'friends request' without writing first and then complaining we didn't respond to you, like we're obliged to...
no you did not .I did not send a friend request nor did I wink , as for the three times rubbish the site only permits one wink per month and you had been on only a week x
I did not complain either ,I sent a message informing you I had a face pic x
lieing is unattractive x
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"Right, we've finished with this topic..
It's been an education, what more can we say?
We have standards, in life and in swinging and we won't stoop below them, surely this is understandable? How this topic has turned into a load of 'mud slinging' against us really isn't very fair.
We're nothing special, we are a normal happy couple, we've learnt we're going about this in completely the wrong way in demanding certain 'attributes' in single guys from the outset in our profile. We now feel that us seeking out the right guys is the best way to find a good one..
One thing has become very apparent, we came to this forum for some advice and a different perspective, we didn't expect the sort of response we have received.
We aren't 'better' than anyone, this misses the point completely, we're maintaining the standards we live by every day as a couple.
We tried through the 'blunt instrument' of a profile text to seek out guys who might match us, so we might start from the 'same place' (call it what you will, social ability, 'switched-on' mentally, engaging) please note this isn't qualifications or education per se.
In as much as we have made a mistake, so have many of you."
The problem is that you asked an open forum a question and everyone has a right to say what they want; if you have perused the forums before posting, you would know what people are like and know how a thread can end up. Fair play to you standing up for what you believe is right though, lots buckle and disappear without a trace |
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"Right, we've finished with this topic..
It's been an education, what more can we say?
We have standards, in life and in swinging and we won't stoop below them, surely this is understandable? How this topic has turned into a load of 'mud slinging' against us really isn't very fair.
We're nothing special, we are a normal happy couple, we've learnt we're going about this in completely the wrong way in demanding certain 'attributes' in single guys from the outset in our profile. We now feel that us seeking out the right guys is the best way to find a good one..
One thing has become very apparent, we came to this forum for some advice and a different perspective, we didn't expect the sort of response we have received.
We aren't 'better' than anyone, this misses the point completely, we're maintaining the standards we live by every day as a couple.
We tried through the 'blunt instrument' of a profile text to seek out guys who might match us, so we might start from the 'same place' (call it what you will, social ability, 'switched-on' mentally, engaging) please note this isn't qualifications or education per se.
In as much as we have made a mistake, so have many of you.
The problem is that you asked an open forum a question and everyone has a right to say what they want; if you have perused the forums before posting, you would know what people are like and know how a thread can end up. Fair play to you standing up for what you believe is right though, lots buckle and disappear without a trace"
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i hope your well xxx |
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"Right, we've finished with this topic..
It's been an education, what more can we say?
We have standards, in life and in swinging and we won't stoop below them, surely this is understandable? How this topic has turned into a load of 'mud slinging' against us really isn't very fair.
We're nothing special, we are a normal happy couple, we've learnt we're going about this in completely the wrong way in demanding certain 'attributes' in single guys from the outset in our profile. We now feel that us seeking out the right guys is the best way to find a good one..
One thing has become very apparent, we came to this forum for some advice and a different perspective, we didn't expect the sort of response we have received.
We aren't 'better' than anyone, this misses the point completely, we're maintaining the standards we live by every day as a couple.
We tried through the 'blunt instrument' of a profile text to seek out guys who might match us, so we might start from the 'same place' (call it what you will, social ability, 'switched-on' mentally, engaging) please note this isn't qualifications or education per se.
In as much as we have made a mistake, so have many of you.
The problem is that you asked an open forum a question and everyone has a right to say what they want; if you have perused the forums before posting, you would know what people are like and know how a thread can end up. Fair play to you standing up for what you believe is right though, lots buckle and disappear without a trace
morning kitten.
i hope your well xxx"
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"Right, we've finished with this topic..
It's been an education, what more can we say?
We have standards, in life and in swinging and we won't stoop below them, surely this is understandable? How this topic has turned into a load of 'mud slinging' against us really isn't very fair.
We're nothing special, we are a normal happy couple, we've learnt we're going about this in completely the wrong way in demanding certain 'attributes' in single guys from the outset in our profile. We now feel that us seeking out the right guys is the best way to find a good one..
One thing has become very apparent, we came to this forum for some advice and a different perspective, we didn't expect the sort of response we have received.
We aren't 'better' than anyone, this misses the point completely, we're maintaining the standards we live by every day as a couple.
We tried through the 'blunt instrument' of a profile text to seek out guys who might match us, so we might start from the 'same place' (call it what you will, social ability, 'switched-on' mentally, engaging) please note this isn't qualifications or education per se.
In as much as we have made a mistake, so have many of you.
The problem is that you asked an open forum a question and everyone has a right to say what they want; if you have perused the forums before posting, you would know what people are like and know how a thread can end up. Fair play to you standing up for what you believe is right though, lots buckle and disappear without a trace
morning kitten.
i hope your well xxx
Very cold but fine thanks, you? x"
im fine sweetheart.
hope your still lovely as i remember xxx |
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You just not found him and when you do loads will b perfect at same time same as how i was when 1,st joined site but lots of pics can b decieving on the eye and in person they look alot btr than i pics on here iv bn told that few times unfortuanatly  |
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