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One of my favourite things to do during sex is to slow things right down, to the point that I'm still inside her, but not moving. I like to do this in missionary, where I have control. I like to tease with sensual kissing and see how long we can go feeling my cock throb and her pussy clench, before one of us breaks and initiates movement again. At that point it usually gets hard and fast, and oh so good!
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"Never done this OP. Well not quite, only when they've first entered me and are almost teasing that moment out for as long as possible. I'm going to try the OP though, sounds really hot! "
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I like this, it’s definitely best in missionary with her legs over her shoulders so you have total control, can lock eyes , grab hair and go in and out of slow motion almost edging her. I like it so I get to put more attention on eye contact & what my hands and mouth are doing. |
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"Never done this OP. Well not quite, only when they've first entered me and are almost teasing that moment out for as long as possible. I'm going to try the OP though, sounds really hot! "
I love it, let me know how it goes! |
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"I like this, it’s definitely best in missionary with her legs over her shoulders so you have total control, can lock eyes , grab hair and go in and out of slow motion almost edging her. I like it so I get to put more attention on eye contact & what my hands and mouth are doing."
Yeah there's a bit of edging involved, and it's fun to play with the control element |
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I would enjoy a lot more of this but have found a surprising number of partners unable to engage at this level of intimacy or vulnerability. I’ve questioned whether it’s tough for some to do if they don’t know you well enough yet. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"How much of it is slowing it down for intimacy and how much of it is slowing it down so you last longer?"
Whenever I've done it, it's usually when you're pretty hot for each other and most positions have been had, it's a cool down, tease, not a straight out of the gate kind of thing.
Depending on her pelvic floor, how aroused you are and if you are relaxed enough, you can come just by her clenching. Though it can turn into a game of who moves first, i.e who wants it more.
I suppose you could use it as a way to hold off coming, though its not something you use as a 'we're fucking' then 'I'm resting in you' type thing, it's more for intimacy and heat build.
Surprised more people haven't as reasonably rude - probably like having a cock grow in your mouth, as you can feel yourself stiffen and relax as the focus is entirely on pussy-cock (can't say I've done it with anal, it's hard enough work as it is).
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"I would enjoy a lot more of this but have found a surprising number of partners unable to engage at this level of intimacy or vulnerability. I’ve questioned whether it’s tough for some to do if they don’t know you well enough yet. "
I guess everyone's different. The first time I did this was on a first meet with a woman from here. We had chatted about it in advance, so neither of us were caught off guard. This is the kind of intimacy I love, but I get that it's not why everyone is here |
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"How much of it is slowing it down for intimacy and how much of it is slowing it down so you last longer?"
I'll be honest, this is such an intense, horny activity that it isn't a technique I use with the intent of lasting longer. In general, if I feel an orgasm building before I'm ready for it, I'll usually switch to giving oral or something. Playing this game of "who can tease the other the most" is unlikely to stave off an orgasm in my experience |
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"This is the kind of content I love to see on here. Intimacy rather than just going at it like a hammer is much more my thing. Connection is my thing "
Good to hear. Jackhammering is probably more popular here on the whole (hole?) though |
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"This is the kind of content I love to see on here. Intimacy rather than just going at it like a hammer is much more my thing. Connection is my thing
Good to hear. Jackhammering is probably more popular here on the whole (hole?) though "
Which is why I barely meet lol intimacy, connection, teasing is lost on so many. I want butterflies when I’m preparing to meet someone and I want tenderness alongside excitement. |
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"This is the kind of content I love to see on here. Intimacy rather than just going at it like a hammer is much more my thing. Connection is my thing
Good to hear. Jackhammering is probably more popular here on the whole (hole?) though
Which is why I barely meet lol intimacy, connection, teasing is lost on so many. I want butterflies when I’m preparing to meet someone and I want tenderness alongside excitement. "
This is it exactly! Fancy a trip down south? |
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"This is the kind of content I love to see on here. Intimacy rather than just going at it like a hammer is much more my thing. Connection is my thing
Good to hear. Jackhammering is probably more popular here on the whole (hole?) though
Which is why I barely meet lol intimacy, connection, teasing is lost on so many. I want butterflies when I’m preparing to meet someone and I want tenderness alongside excitement.
This is it exactly! Fancy a trip down south? "
I’m regularly down your way lol feel free to dm me |
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"Is this just a long winded way of saying you were going to cum too early so slowed down for a few minutes?
Yes. "
At least someone shares my cynical views of the world |
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Its nice to slow down. Kiss, talk, concentrate on how it feels. I ask her to contract and release me.
Hold on and not let me out. Then slide back in as slowly as possible.
It is horny and intimate. Holding back from the thrust...knowing its what we both want...until we start again. Building and edging. Makes me horny to think of it.
But I tell you who can't do it...women. Well those I have met. When they are on top you have Bob Hope of getting them to stop.  |
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"One of my favourite things to do during sex is to slow things right down, to the point that I'm still inside her, but not moving. I like to do this in missionary, where I have control. I like to tease with sensual kissing and see how long we can go feeling my cock throb and her pussy clench, before one of us breaks and initiates movement again. At that point it usually gets hard and fast, and oh so good!
Anyone else like to do this?"
I had a friend do this, I loved it, we would stay like this for age's, just kissing, sadly he's no longer on here, but oh how I wish he was  |
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"This is the kind of content I love to see on here. Intimacy rather than just going at it like a hammer is much more my thing. Connection is my thing
Good to hear. Jackhammering is probably more popular here on the whole (hole?) though
Which is why I barely meet lol intimacy, connection, teasing is lost on so many. I want butterflies when I’m preparing to meet someone and I want tenderness alongside excitement. "
Agree with all of this. I’d love that, OP (and this whole thread is why I think I’m not kinky enough to be on Fab lolololol) |
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"Its nice to slow down. Kiss, talk, concentrate on how it feels. I ask her to contract and release me.
Hold on and not let me out. Then slide back in as slowly as possible.
It is horny and intimate. Holding back from the thrust...knowing its what we both want...until we start again. Building and edging. Makes me horny to think of it.
But I tell you who can't do it...women. Well those I have met. When they are on top you have Bob Hope of getting them to stop. "
This guy gets it. And you may have a point about women - once they're in control its a race to the finish line |
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"This is the kind of content I love to see on here. Intimacy rather than just going at it like a hammer is much more my thing. Connection is my thing
Good to hear. Jackhammering is probably more popular here on the whole (hole?) though
Which is why I barely meet lol intimacy, connection, teasing is lost on so many. I want butterflies when I’m preparing to meet someone and I want tenderness alongside excitement.
Agree with all of this. I’d love that, OP (and this whole thread is why I think I’m not kinky enough to be on Fab lolololol)"
To a lot of people on here, the intimacy involved can be a kink too far.
Its horses for courses and you will find lots of us into the intimacy kink.  |
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"One of my favourite things to do during sex is to slow things right down, to the point that I'm still inside her, but not moving. I like to do this in missionary, where I have control. I like to tease with sensual kissing and see how long we can go feeling my cock throb and her pussy clench, before one of us breaks and initiates movement again. At that point it usually gets hard and fast, and oh so good!
Anyone else like to do this?
I had a friend do this, I loved it, we would stay like this for age's, just kissing, sadly he's no longer on here, but oh how I wish he was "
Sounds like you had some good times! |
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"This is the kind of content I love to see on here. Intimacy rather than just going at it like a hammer is much more my thing. Connection is my thing
Good to hear. Jackhammering is probably more popular here on the whole (hole?) though
Which is why I barely meet lol intimacy, connection, teasing is lost on so many. I want butterflies when I’m preparing to meet someone and I want tenderness alongside excitement.
Agree with all of this. I’d love that, OP (and this whole thread is why I think I’m not kinky enough to be on Fab lolololol)"
Yeah I wonder about myself too sometimes  |
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"Its nice to slow down. Kiss, talk, concentrate on how it feels. I ask her to contract and release me.
Hold on and not let me out. Then slide back in as slowly as possible.
It is horny and intimate. Holding back from the thrust...knowing its what we both want...until we start again. Building and edging. Makes me horny to think of it.
But I tell you who can't do it...women. Well those I have met. When they are on top you have Bob Hope of getting them to stop.
This guy gets it. And you may have a point about women - once they're in control its a race to the finish line "
Thats one race I am happy to lose.  |
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"Its nice to slow down. Kiss, talk, concentrate on how it feels. I ask her to contract and release me.
Hold on and not let me out. Then slide back in as slowly as possible.
It is horny and intimate. Holding back from the thrust...knowing its what we both want...until we start again. Building and edging. Makes me horny to think of it.
But I tell you who can't do it...women. Well those I have met. When they are on top you have Bob Hope of getting them to stop. "
Contract and release you? With that sexy talk I'd be coming in the spot. |
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"Is this just a long winded way of saying you were going to cum too early so slowed down for a few minutes?
Yes.
At least someone shares my cynical views of the world "
You spelt realistic wrong. |
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"One of my favourite things to do during sex is to slow things right down, to the point that I'm still inside her, but not moving. I like to do this in missionary, where I have control. I like to tease with sensual kissing and see how long we can go feeling my cock throb and her pussy clench, before one of us breaks and initiates movement again. At that point it usually gets hard and fast, and oh so good!
Anyone else like to do this?
I had a friend do this, I loved it, we would stay like this for age's, just kissing, sadly he's no longer on here, but oh how I wish he was
Sounds like you had some good times!"
We did, we had that perfect connection, |
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"Is this just a long winded way of saying you were going to cum too early so slowed down for a few minutes?
Yes. "
Agreed! Had guys who have to pull out give it a minute and resume. Or else shoot their load. So yep, definitely maybe less about intimacy, vs them not wanting to get to the finish line too quick?... I do like how you worded it to be more for both parties enjoyment though OP |
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"One of my favourite things to do during sex is to slow things right down, to the point that I'm still inside her, but not moving. I like to do this in missionary, where I have control. I like to tease with sensual kissing and see how long we can go feeling my cock throb and her pussy clench, before one of us breaks and initiates movement again. At that point it usually gets hard and fast, and oh so good!
Anyone else like to do this?"
The Mr does this until im literally pulling him back in, very hot! |
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"This is the kind of content I love to see on here. Intimacy rather than just going at it like a hammer is much more my thing. Connection is my thing "
This worries me (Mrs) about meeting with other men/couples, I'm not into a pounding jackhammer. |
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"This is the kind of content I love to see on here. Intimacy rather than just going at it like a hammer is much more my thing. Connection is my thing
This worries me (Mrs) about meeting with other men/couples, I'm not into a pounding jackhammer."
I think it’s just about finding the right person(s) and why discussion beforehand is vital |
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"Love doing this, certain people are very good at it, the art of the tease is sadly unappreciated by some
I agree, but maybe this isn't the best place to find that kind of stuff?  "
I disagree one simply needs to be discerning in choosing who to meet. I take my time to get to know people and mostly have had a great experience on fab with people who do know what they’re doing |
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"Is this just a long winded way of saying you were going to cum too early so slowed down for a few minutes?
Yes.
Agreed! Had guys who have to pull out give it a minute and resume. Or else shoot their load. So yep, definitely maybe less about intimacy, vs them not wanting to get to the finish line too quick?... I do like how you worded it to be more for both parties enjoyment though OP "
Well that's because it is something I do for both parties enjoyment, I'm sorry you've only been with selfish lovers it seems? But it's fine, I know haters gonna hate  |
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"Is this just a long winded way of saying you were going to cum too early so slowed down for a few minutes?
Yes.
Agreed! Had guys who have to pull out give it a minute and resume. Or else shoot their load. So yep, definitely maybe less about intimacy, vs them not wanting to get to the finish line too quick?... I do like how you worded it to be more for both parties enjoyment though OP
Well that's because it is something I do for both parties enjoyment, I'm sorry you've only been with selfish lovers it seems? But it's fine, I know haters gonna hate "
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"Love doing this, certain people are very good at it, the art of the tease is sadly unappreciated by some
I agree, but maybe this isn't the best place to find that kind of stuff?
I disagree one simply needs to be discerning in choosing who to meet. I take my time to get to know people and mostly have had a great experience on fab with people who do know what they’re doing "
That's good to hear, I guess I just lose hope after seeing so many profiles demanding for VWE BBC or BWC for hard pounding etc  I've always enjoyed a more intimate experience with prolonged foreplay, teasing, edging etc |
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"Never done this OP. Well not quite, only when they've first entered me and are almost teasing that moment out for as long as possible. I'm going to try the OP though, sounds really hot! "
I’d like to volunteer Meli!  |
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"Its nice to slow down. Kiss, talk, concentrate on how it feels. I ask her to contract and release me.
Hold on and not let me out. Then slide back in as slowly as possible.
It is horny and intimate. Holding back from the thrust...knowing its what we both want...until we start again. Building and edging. Makes me horny to think of it.
But I tell you who can't do it...women. Well those I have met. When they are on top you have Bob Hope of getting them to stop. "
You haven’t met me!
I like to control the pace and depth when I’m on top, tease, start to lower down…then raise almost off again and again.
Love to tease that’s my thing |
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"Its nice to slow down. Kiss, talk, concentrate on how it feels. I ask her to contract and release me.
Hold on and not let me out. Then slide back in as slowly as possible.
It is horny and intimate. Holding back from the thrust...knowing its what we both want...until we start again. Building and edging. Makes me horny to think of it.
But I tell you who can't do it...women. Well those I have met. When they are on top you have Bob Hope of getting them to stop. "
You know that saying, the quicker you do it the quicker it's all over?
Yeah that. |
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"Its nice to slow down. Kiss, talk, concentrate on how it feels. I ask her to contract and release me.
Hold on and not let me out. Then slide back in as slowly as possible.
It is horny and intimate. Holding back from the thrust...knowing its what we both want...until we start again. Building and edging. Makes me horny to think of it.
But I tell you who can't do it...women. Well those I have met. When they are on top you have Bob Hope of getting them to stop.
You know that saying, the quicker you do it the quicker it's all over?
Yeah that. "
If you like quick I might know a guy. |
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"Its nice to slow down. Kiss, talk, concentrate on how it feels. I ask her to contract and release me.
Hold on and not let me out. Then slide back in as slowly as possible.
It is horny and intimate. Holding back from the thrust...knowing its what we both want...until we start again. Building and edging. Makes me horny to think of it.
But I tell you who can't do it...women. Well those I have met. When they are on top you have Bob Hope of getting them to stop.
You know that saying, the quicker you do it the quicker it's all over?
Yeah that.
If you like quick I might know a guy."
In and out, that's how I like em. |
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"Its nice to slow down. Kiss, talk, concentrate on how it feels. I ask her to contract and release me.
Hold on and not let me out. Then slide back in as slowly as possible.
It is horny and intimate. Holding back from the thrust...knowing its what we both want...until we start again. Building and edging. Makes me horny to think of it.
But I tell you who can't do it...women. Well those I have met. When they are on top you have Bob Hope of getting them to stop.
You know that saying, the quicker you do it the quicker it's all over?
Yeah that.
If you like quick I might know a guy.
In and out, that's how I like em. "
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By *eliWoman
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"Never done this OP. Well not quite, only when they've first entered me and are almost teasing that moment out for as long as possible. I'm going to try the OP though, sounds really hot!
I’d like to volunteer Meli! "
Oh, you would? Well I was looking for someone to try this with. |
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It's bordering on tantric when you do that and I love it. For us, it wasn't about tease or holding off cumming. It was about connection, being one, silent in that moment, lips locked, sharing breath, intimate parts joined together, but no movement. |
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I love doing this to C…she used to grab my arse and try and make me move as she’d be turned on and wanting that release but I’d hold off giving it to her as I know it’ll build up her orgasm.
She’s now learnt to wait and her orgasms will be so much stronger…
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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago
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"One of my favourite things to do during sex is to slow things right down, to the point that I'm still inside her, but not moving. I like to do this in missionary, where I have control. I like to tease with sensual kissing and see how long we can go feeling my cock throb and her pussy clench, before one of us breaks and initiates movement again. At that point it usually gets hard and fast, and oh so good!
Anyone else like to do this?"
I agree, love to make my cock throb whn I'm inside a woman |
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"One of my favourite things to do during sex is to slow things right down, to the point that I'm still inside her, but not moving. I like to do this in missionary, where I have control. I like to tease with sensual kissing and see how long we can go feeling my cock throb and her pussy clench, before one of us breaks and initiates movement again. At that point it usually gets hard and fast, and oh so good!
Anyone else like to do this?"
Ooooo I love this too...very much so |
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"Never done this OP. Well not quite, only when they've first entered me and are almost teasing that moment out for as long as possible. I'm going to try the OP though, sounds really hot!
I’d like to volunteer Meli!
Oh, you would? Well I was looking for someone to try this with. "
Well, as always, I’m at your service |
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"This is the kind of content I love to see on here. Intimacy rather than just going at it like a hammer is much more my thing. Connection is my thing
This worries me (Mrs) about meeting with other men/couples, I'm not into a pounding jackhammer.
I think it’s just about finding the right person(s) and why discussion beforehand is vital "
Yeah it's during that conversation stage I get put off
I'm yet to meet a male half of a couple I'm comfortable with enough to meet.
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By *JstarsoloWoman
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"One of my favourite things to do during sex is to slow things right down, to the point that I'm still inside her, but not moving. I like to do this in missionary, where I have control. I like to tease with sensual kissing and see how long we can go feeling my cock throb and her pussy clench, before one of us breaks and initiates movement again. At that point it usually gets hard and fast, and oh so good!
Anyone else like to do this?
Ooooo I love this too...very much so "
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"Often when I’m too tired for sex or to cum it’s nice to just spoon her and spend time inside her for the intimacy of it. "
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Funny how everyone sees this completely differently!
I think there's a big difference between just stopping and waiting with a vacant look on your face and hoping she's just going to spontaneously orgasm at such an unexpected manoeuvre...
Versus holding her hands above her head, one hand around her throat and whispering unspeakable things to her ear whilst you're as deep as you can go, just holding there until she begs for more.
But yes... It can be a turn on of you're reading the situation X |
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