So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.
We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.
“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.
Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?
Didn’t think it would be this difficult 
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"So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.
We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.
“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.
No I wouldn’t say so I think it’s just hard work in general. I’ve been stood up cancelled on last min the lot but I keep trying haha. Genuine male here if I’m your type x
Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?
Didn’t think it would be this difficult
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"When it comes to single men in my opinion the verifications are a good guide."
Even the ones with verifications have been let downs 
Hey ho… maybe one evening we’ll find someone to play  it’s just annoying because I get ready and all that for ages for like nothing. |
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"So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.
We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.
“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.
Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?
Didn’t think it would be this difficult
T"
It's just as frustrating for some couples.
Years ago we was either very lucky or fab has now gone shit, we stopped trying to get meets from the site and found clubs a lot more fun and far less time consuming.. |
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Pretty much why when we do meet singles, it's always (at least the first time) in a club. That way, if they can't make it for whatever reason on the Big List Of Excuses, we'll be at a club and have plenty of fun. |
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"When it comes to single men in my opinion the verifications are a good guide.
Even the ones with verifications have been let downs
Hey ho… maybe one evening we’ll find someone to play it’s just annoying because I get ready and all that for ages for like nothing."
We have had the same but just have to grateful we can play with each other if it all does not work out. |
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A lot of men are very insecure, worried that they won't be able to get to an erection when required or will cum too quickly.
They like the idea of a meet but can't follow it through.
To compound the issue they lack the good manners to say they can't make it. |
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"So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.
We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.
“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.
Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?
Didn’t think it would be this difficult
T"
This has happened to us on several occasions. This is why we now borrow a husband with permission. It works for us |
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"So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.
We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.
“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.
Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?
Didn’t think it would be this difficult
T"
The best solution for is to just go to a club. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
It must be you as the simple amount of guys on here, you could scroll and random stop on any bloke in you your area, ask them to meet and they'd be like a dog with two dick to meet whenever you liked, 9 times out of 10.
If you keep doing the same thing and keep getting the same results then change what you are doing. |
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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago
Stourbridge (West-Mids) |
I'd recommend trying a club or organised group social. That way you can check them out in person and get a feel for whether or not you'd be a good fit.
Also, if they have made the effort to attend a social or get a membership at a club they are more likely to actually get off there sofa and show up to a meet!
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"So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.
We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.
“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.
Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?
Didn’t think it would be this difficult
T"
As a couple we don't meet single guys. Not our thing. Wife decided to try it once and it was just a stream of time wasters. Stuck to verified guys and even the one we agreed to meet decided at the last moment that he wasn't coming. So we dont bother.
We also run social events from time to time. It's a given for us now that if 15 single guys put their name on the list, you're lucky if three of them turn up.
Now that sounds like a blanket statement that single guys are unreliable. Truth is, many are not. There is simply so many men on here now that there's just a lot of dreamers, time wasters and most of all cheats on here. People who never intend to meet or are sneaking about hoping they can get away from their spouse for a quickie.
On the flip side though we do "try" to meet single women on here and guess what. Similar story with a lot of them as well.
It's just how Fab is.
So our suggestions are this.
Firstly, clubs and / or social events are your friend. This is where you find the folk who are not messing about. You can meet couples and singles at those with ease.
Secondly, stick to either well verified singles who show interest OR find a reasonably well verified couple who play separately. We, for example play separately and are well verified (no, not putting myself forward here). I'm more than happy to join other couples in certain dynamics but for some reason many other couples on here insist on "single guys" and wont meet married guys (which completely defeats the purpose of swinging imo). Just use some common sense basically.
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We have had very similar experiences and has like yourselves resulted in us being on and off here.
Very simply would like to meet a couple of reliable chilled guys and couples for repeat fun. That shouldn't be that hard. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
As others have said, try a club.
Alternatively browse other local couples and see if you can spot who they've met and work out if there's any local guys that seem more reliable. Often you'll see patterns develop (and I say that as an ex-single guy myself). I used to get messages saying 'so and so has recommended you' which in conjunction with frequent club visits meant I was generally busy with meets weekly.
One other option is to see if you can borrow someone's husband. There are many couples who also play separately after all.
Happy hunting.
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I don't think it is impossible but it is simply timing and finding the right person.
I for one would love to meet you both but I need to be free at the right time which is why I did not get in touch.
Don't give up and keep looking.
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