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We dont seem.to be like too many other couples..
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Given the amount of profiles we have read on Fab, people we have met and talked to at clubs and socials and just straight up meets we have had, we have yet to really meet a couple like ourselves.
For some back story, we met 27 years ago, started swinging 25 years ago and long ago.evolved into an a open marriage. Not in romantic terms per se but for swinging purposes (not that we are against anything going into poly territory..weve just never had it happen). We have rules in place we follow for ourselves that work for our marriage and how we do things but beyond that we are a happy loved up pair who feels completely at ease on the scene. We both always know who the other is talking to and where they are (if doing solo meets) and it's all worked, completely drama and jealousy free for a long long time now. In fact to be fair, its honest to say more than a few people have been surprised by our story over recent years.
In contrast, we rarely see profiles or meet people who have been enjoying the scene as long as we have. I think.12 years on the scene was the longest from a couple we spoke to a few years back. We also meet a lot of couples have a whole different rules set to how they approach things. They don't meet seperetly, they won't do seperate room or full swap or whatever. Thats fine and you should.inly.do.what you are comfy.with. we are simply saying it's not that common we meet couples whove been doing this for so.many years and / or where they both play seperatly for their own reasons either.
Now none of that is any sort of judgement, its just an observation. We do our thing and others do theirs as it rightly should be.
But thats meeting in the flesh where we can talk to people face to face. It susrprises some but its just not important in the grand scheme of things.
On here however we tend to meet a level of skepticism that is, quite frankly, undeserved in our opinion but hey, it's fab. Some people can and will say any old shit for a.meet or lie about their situation because they can. We get why some folk feel that way but I just wish some folk would accept we are all different and all enjoy different things.
So are their any other couples who've been on the scene as long as us or have a completely open marrige on here? Or are we just a just a single raisin floating in the giant ice cream tub flavours that is swinging?
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
west midlands |
Myself and my partner are in a similar situation, we meet couples together and we meet separately, we did have a couples profile on here, but I made it really clear I'm not bi or bi curious on our profile, we had I think it was 4 meets in a row with couples from here who all contacted us first assured me my not being bi was not a problem, went to meet them and nearly straight away everytime they tried to persuade me to give it a go or told me I should try it I'd love it, I got sick of it I don't like telling someone my boundaries and then have them try to change my mind, so we have our own profiles on here now and meet couples in clubs. |
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"Myself and my partner are in a similar situation, we meet couples together and we meet separately, we did have a couples profile on here, but I made it really clear I'm not bi or bi curious on our profile, we had I think it was 4 meets in a row with couples from here who all contacted us first assured me my not being bi was not a problem, went to meet them and nearly straight away everytime they tried to persuade me to give it a go or told me I should try it I'd love it, I got sick of it I don't like telling someone my boundaries and then have them try to change my mind, so we have our own profiles on here now and meet couples in clubs."
Wr wont ever understand that mindset. Why try to get someone to do something they dont want to?
My wife is bi and years and years ago had a a guy try to coerce his wife into " giving it a go". It was unpleasant to say the least.
I'm straight and wouldn't tolerate a guy trying to convince me to.give it a go so why should you?
People should only do what they want to. Simple as that. |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
south east |
We have a couples profile we NEVER use anymore as we both have our own profiles, we have and do meet couples but usually for sep room full swap but mostly meet solo and always drama free lol we have been on the scene about 18/19 years  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can understand why this might not be something couples do for as long as 20 odd years "
I’ve been on and off scene for over 20 years but fairly new to these sites |
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I'm half a couple and we meet separately too.
Like Scarlett said,so many couples just want the girl fun & I too am straight.We've chatted from our couple account and made clear it would be straight swaps only & then they've still brought up fem play.so it's rare we meet together & will try and get to a club if we want to.plus so many profiles are full of pics of the lady and none of him that it does get disheartening to try & meet together .
Jack has had more meets than me,that's fine & I'm happy for him to meet & come back with al the details for me.
You do what works for you ,we've been together almost 7 years and met here.We have been on here as a couple for 6.5 . |
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