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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol |
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"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol "
I always try and arrange a coffee/drink then just go with the flow  |
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"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol "
There's two.types on here. Those who want a quick jolly and to then bugger off ASAP and those who want to have at least some sort of social connection.
Outside of a club if someones not interest in our personality or personalitys (depending if we are solo.or.together), they're not interested in us.and we won't meet.
Even in a club, we have only once been in a position where a complete stranger joined in (or tried to) which was purely down to me not having my glasses on and piss poor lighting (a mistake that's never been made since).
Ypu gotta.do what suits you, not them and I feel a lot on here forget that. It's not about getting what you want per se, but finding a balance that you both or all enjoy otherwise its just one selfish party and another being disappointed.
But yeah..to give the quick.answer, we like to be sociable with people and if we can't sit and chat for a little.before hand, it ain't happening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol "
Half wrong.
Some people want to chat about normal things and find some mutual chemistry. Some people just want to turn up and fuck.
Neither types are wrong, they're just not compatible with each other. Better to find out straight away so no time wasted.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol
Half wrong.
Some people want to chat about normal things and find some mutual chemistry. Some people just want to turn up and fuck.
Neither types are wrong, they're just not compatible with each other. Better to find out straight away so no time wasted. "
Yes I suppose you're right
I just find it strange when people pretty much just say they don't want to speak to me before trying to arrange to have sex with me lol |
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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago
Stourbridge (West-Mids) |
"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol "
You are definitely not wrong!
If we can't enjoy a bit of back and forth messaging, how are we going to manage chatting in real life? Personality is very important to us, we aren't looking for "fuck and goes", we like to make connections.
At the end of the day, if a guy can't be bothered with a bit of chat, I hate to think how little effort he would put into a meet! |
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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago
Oo err Devon |
It depends on the individual?
For me personality is vital.. I love the excitement of meeting someone.. if we can natter ans get on.. then the anticipation of the meet is so much better..
I certainly do not want a relationship... but some sort of personality connection and good convo does alot for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol "
Thats one of the most important things, personality!
Its seems like a lot of people dont want to be bothered with personality and think they should just get a shag because. |
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"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol
Thats one of the most important things, personality!
Its seems like a lot of people dont want to be bothered with personality and think they should just get a shag because."
if those people meet each other then everyone's happy surely. In clubs people rarely get to know personality, it simply isn't possible in the time you spend chatting under those circumstances.
No way of playing is better than another in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol "
I've got a great personality, but hardly ever get any replies or messages to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone couldn't be arsed getting to know me a bit then they wouldn't get a meet.
Personality is a big factor for me when deciding if I'd meet someone.
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Definitely this!! I much prefer someone I can joke around with and establish some rapport. Otherwise, why meet really… you could just have a w*** |
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I like to have a laugh and feel comfy with someone. Click/connection are important to actually 'feel' the sex for me (as stupid as that sounds). If I want to get lost in the moment, chemistry is a must. |
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Half wrong.
Some people want to chat about normal things and find some mutual chemistry. Some people just want to turn up and fuck.
Neither types are wrong, they're just not compatible with each other. Better to find out straight away so no time wasted. "
100% I’m happy to those people out - that’s fine for them but we aren’t compatible. I def want the connection first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting. M2M are much more easier to arrange. No real chat needed. Doesn't mean it's wrong just shows how different people think.   "
It certainly shows how men and women are wired differently when it comes sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personality is VITAL. That doesn't need to mean loads of socialising, but finding each other fun or exciting or interesting...nothing worth doing is going to happen without that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting. M2M are much more easier to arrange. No real chat needed. Doesn't mean it's wrong just shows how different people think.
It certainly shows how men and women are wired differently when it comes sex. "
To an extent, however I find M2M do not need the chase/mind/validation/entitlement game that F seem to like. Just my view. |
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"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol "
This is the exact reason we haven't yet swapped with a other couple, I can chat normal, have a little flirt with the Mrs, when it comes to Mr joining the chat it seems to be non stop sex talk, cock pics, I can't wait for you to do this/that etc.... Huge put off for me. I need to know if I even like you before thinking about what I want to do.
I thought I was just a little wierd.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol
This is the exact reason we haven't yet swapped with a other couple, I can chat normal, have a little flirt with the Mrs, when it comes to Mr joining the chat it seems to be non stop sex talk, cock pics, I can't wait for you to do this/that etc.... Huge put off for me. I need to know if I even like you before thinking about what I want to do.
I thought I was just a little wierd.
Mrs "
Far from it! |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
Wombwell, Barnsley |
"If someone couldn't be arsed getting to know me a bit then they wouldn't get a meet.
Personality is a big factor for me when deciding if I'd meet someone.
Definitely this!! I much prefer someone I can joke around with and establish some rapport. Otherwise, why meet really… you could just have a w***"
This. Except in my case I'll use my toys! |
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"Interesting. M2M are much more easier to arrange. No real chat needed. Doesn't mean it's wrong just shows how different people think.
It certainly shows how men and women are wired differently when it comes sex.
To an extent, however I find M2M do not need the chase/mind/validation/entitlement game that F seem to like. Just my view. "
That's because women's sexuality has been judged and curtailed through the ages. |
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"Theres been a few times where ive tried to have a 'normal' conversation with men on here and I've been told various different variations of "I'm not interested in your personality"
As if I will meet them and immediately strip off and have sex without speaking to them at all
Am I mistaken? Surely you have to at least get on with the person you're meeting and been compatible personality wise and sexually in order to enjoy your self or have I got the site all wrong? Lol "
you are so right, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've found guys pushing for a meet without even knowing what I look like, nor me them, and not having any conversation.
I just see it as us not being compatible because I am highly attracted to how a person is, and if they're gonna be as shallow as I like your pics, I will be as equally as shallow as I don't like what I see on you black silhouette either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting. M2M are much more easier to arrange. No real chat needed. Doesn't mean it's wrong just shows how different people think.
It certainly shows how men and women are wired differently when it comes sex. "
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What about the women who enjoy being blindfolded for a meet and never seeing the guy? Sitting in the club afterwards enjoying the thrill of thinking it could be any of the men walking past. No connection or personality there, just erotic thrill. |
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We're definitely in the personality camp, here at least. Life means all our planning is a long way in the future and if we're making plans to involve other people specifically they're going to need to have a bit more about them. The bodies may be nice but they probably aren't going to hold interest for a month.
There does seem to be a group of people who don't think beyond the initial message and shock of getting a reply makes them fall apart, which is a shame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about the women who enjoy being blindfolded for a meet and never seeing the guy? Sitting in the club afterwards enjoying the thrill of thinking it could be any of the men walking past. No connection or personality there, just erotic thrill. "
Ah yes, but unless it's been arranged by her OH (which wouldn't work for me at all) there will still have been the planning and getting to know each other doing that... |
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"What about the women who enjoy being blindfolded for a meet and never seeing the guy? Sitting in the club afterwards enjoying the thrill of thinking it could be any of the men walking past. No connection or personality there, just erotic thrill.
Ah yes, but unless it's been arranged by her OH (which wouldn't work for me at all) there will still have been the planning and getting to know each other doing that..."
Would there? Not in the scenario I've described.
People do this swinging stuff differently. Some need a connection, some don't.
Gangbangs? Do the participants all meet socially first, dark rooms at clubs? |
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GBs and darkrooms? You win the point!
But as neither of them do it for me, I was commenting on how it works for me..."
They don't do it for me either. I'm not point scoring just saying in my own clumsy way, that swinging isn't about point scoring either. If people don't bother about the personality of the people they're meeting and it's mutual, good for them I say |
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"some people like to get to know their fab meets and some don't. There's room for everyone. "
Yep totally agree and some people like both depending on their mood and what they want at that particular time. We are a bit of both. And at times we have been put off of people because they want to know too much about us. |
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