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In our podcast, out today, we answered some listener questions - one of which was about telling other play partners about clingy people or warning them about possible poor behaviour. Should you warn others? Do you have a moral duty to let people know if someone is likely to be really clingy or behave poorly? Or is it none of your business? |
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Bloody amazing pictures, great to see folk happy in their lives, re telling g???? I'd say if you suspect they are in danger or the meet is a nutter then yes but otherwise I'd tell only if asked.
Everyone has different standards ,tastes, wants, etc etc. |
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"Bloody amazing pictures, great to see folk happy in their lives, re telling g???? I'd say if you suspect they are in danger or the meet is a nutter then yes but otherwise I'd tell only if asked.
Everyone has different standards ,tastes, wants, etc etc. "
Thanks! Definitely should tell if there’s risk or danger. Wouldn’t want to put anyones safety at risk. |
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In 25 years of swinging we've had "mostly" good experiances.
We've met a few overly pushy people early on and a couple of people who where not as they advertised (and it went no where) but beyond that, not really had an issue.
The only dodgy stories we've ever been told involved single guys (that we don't meet) and the odd couple we would never have met anyway due to different tastes in what we want. So perhaps we never got put in that position (not saying couples or ladies are incapable), just saying we havnt really experienced it.
So dangerous is one thing but it is a he said, she said situation. Clingy is another thing though. What we consider clingy another party may just consider freindly. Not really something we would talk about unless we felt we had to....but again, never happened and hopefully never will. |
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"In 25 years of swinging we've had "mostly" good experiances.
We've met a few overly pushy people early on and a couple of people who where not as they advertised (and it went no where) but beyond that, not really had an issue.
The only dodgy stories we've ever been told involved single guys (that we don't meet) and the odd couple we would never have met anyway due to different tastes in what we want. So perhaps we never got put in that position (not saying couples or ladies are incapable), just saying we havnt really experienced it.
So dangerous is one thing but it is a he said, she said situation. Clingy is another thing though. What we consider clingy another party may just consider freindly. Not really something we would talk about unless we felt we had to....but again, never happened and hopefully never will."
Thanks for the reply. We’ve definitely had our share of dodgy - and seen more than our share of bad behaviour. In our early days we probably threw ourselves into situations trying to find our tribe. Some of those folks were bloody awful. We’d warn friends about them - or give them something of a heads up. |
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"In 25 years of swinging we've had "mostly" good experiances.
We've met a few overly pushy people early on and a couple of people who where not as they advertised (and it went no where) but beyond that, not really had an issue.
The only dodgy stories we've ever been told involved single guys (that we don't meet) and the odd couple we would never have met anyway due to different tastes in what we want. So perhaps we never got put in that position (not saying couples or ladies are incapable), just saying we havnt really experienced it.
So dangerous is one thing but it is a he said, she said situation. Clingy is another thing though. What we consider clingy another party may just consider freindly. Not really something we would talk about unless we felt we had to....but again, never happened and hopefully never will.
Thanks for the reply. We’ve definitely had our share of dodgy - and seen more than our share of bad behaviour. In our early days we probably threw ourselves into situations trying to find our tribe. Some of those folks were bloody awful. We’d warn friends about them - or give them something of a heads up. "
To be fair, there has been a handful of names pop up over the years that related to a pushy meet we had. That was always the other party mentioning them negatively rather than us but yeah..it happens. People do talk on the scene. |
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I wouldn't believe it anyway if someone said people were clingy/ dodgy. People talk absolute bullshit about other people. Some really quite slanderous stuff. Weird. |
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We got to the stage a few years back where we no longer engage much with single guys due to clingy behaviours.
Not all single guys are like this but you quite often can't tell. We had one guy who spoke to us in a club and seemed to think, we were somehow going to spend all night with him. We left, but next day he appeared on the beach and started to place his towel etc next to us. We let him finish, then got up and packed our stuff and moved 100 yard away. We came over asking why we moved, and I just told him bluntly to take a hint and piss off.
We find also in here responding to some guys message in here get wearing, as many after think one response means they can keep messaging and asking stuff that we can't be bothered with. |
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So dangerous is one thing but it is a he said, she said situation. Clingy is another thing though. What we consider clingy another party may just consider freindly. Not really something we would talk about unless we felt we had to....but again, never happened and hopefully never will."
Danger yes, we'd always say. However what is clingy to one person might be borderline unfriendly to another so very subjective. |
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there are friendship groups away from fab that work very well with warning others we used to ignor them so to find out for our selves sady they all turn true so now we will just pre block those names doing the rounds ... people just need to set up groups of friends outside of fab ..but there is alway the danger that a few names should not be on those list |
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We don't see it as an issue warning others of badly behaved people. I (Mr) named and shamed on the forums once and got a few abusive messages, but did receive more messages from others to tell us they'd also had issues with that person and messages from people who had received messages from him in which they were thankful of the warning. |
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We have named some time wasters on our profile. Feel it’s only right that after organising a social meet, confirming this by fab messages earlier on that day, using our only evening together, paying a babysitter and taxis etc people decide to then not to turn up. They clearly didn’t leave their town based upon Fab data. I get that people get cold feet so a simple message would suffice. The following morning they read but did not bother responding to messages checking they are okay. We never heard from them again. Think warning others of their behaviour is justified. |
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"We have named some time wasters on our profile. Feel it’s only right that after organising a social meet, confirming this by fab messages earlier on that day, using our only evening together, paying a babysitter and taxis etc people decide to then not to turn up. They clearly didn’t leave their town based upon Fab data. I get that people get cold feet so a simple message would suffice. The following morning they read but did not bother responding to messages checking they are okay. We never heard from them again. Think warning others of their behaviour is justified. "
That’s frustrating. We did a similar thing and fab removed all of our profile info! |
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