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If everyone involved agrees to it, then bt definition it's acceptable. We wouldn't generally do it ourselves, although M did once meet a single guy for a coffee social, ahead of a planned meet with him.
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"If a couple wish to meet another couple or single, Is it acceptable for just one of them to meet socially first, almost like a vetting process?
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Nope, you may meet at a public place to check the chemistry but if I'm meeting one half of the couple then it's not a couple. |
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"If a couple wish to meet another couple or single, Is it acceptable for just one of them to meet socially first, almost like a vetting process?
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If only the guy turned up for a social meet I would assume there is no other half.
A fair few single men pretend to be a couple. They hope on the day of a meet they can say the wife is ill, the wife's mother is ill and she is looking after her, etc. They hope the meet will still go ahead. |
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over a year ago
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"If a couple wish to meet another couple or single, Is it acceptable for just one of them to meet socially first, almost like a vetting process?
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We wouldn’t we always go together , anyhow that’s the joy of socials they can be great fun with chat and giggles |
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over a year ago
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"If a couple wish to meet another couple or single, Is it acceptable for just one of them to meet socially first, almost like a vetting process?
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No way. There are too many guys pretending to be a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many of the comments from couples above would honestly still apply if it was the female half that wanted to meet socially with you first?
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Still it would be a no |
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"How many of the comments from couples above would honestly still apply if it was the female half that wanted to meet socially with you first?
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Still no. It's rude to expect both of us to turn up while only one of the other couple does. The exception to this in my opinion is if the dynamic is that one partner chooses for the other and that's agreed between everyone |
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Normally we would say no but lately we have considered it as childcare is so rare for us we’d like a social if unsure and then both available on the child free night. Obviously group chats and everyone views already agreed. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I'm half a couple and no I wouldn't want to do this
We always all meet socially to check there's attraction for all 4 of us .I'm a picky bugger anyway so would have to see someone face to face myself & decide if they're for me.
I would never presume I could just meet a couple or half a couple and not have jack's input either . |
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over a year ago
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"If a couple wish to meet another couple or single, Is it acceptable for just one of them to meet socially first, almost like a vetting process?
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Please can you elaborate on why the question?
For example, is there something which has prompted this situation for you two?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (Mrs) have met the female half of the couple socially before and I would again. It worked out well, a couple of drinks, bit of a chat, was a nice afternoon  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It surely depends on how much one partner trusts the others judgement?
I can see the benefit of perhaps one partner meeting up to see how they would click and if they do (and they feel their partner would get on with them) then have a second.
The couple would need to both click with the third (and fourth?) and via versa. |
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Once one half has met us and we've passed the vetting process (whatever that is and I have a pretty good idea  ) what happens if we eventually get to meet the other half and *we* don't want to go ahead? |
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"If a couple wish to meet another couple or single, Is it acceptable for just one of them to meet socially first, almost like a vetting process?
Please can you elaborate on why the question?
For example, is there something which has prompted this situation for you two?
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It was a suggestion put forward to us, as due to shift work we can’t always be available for a social together.
Although I’ve probably not worded the question exactly as it was proposed, or very well it would seem. |
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"Once one half has met us and we've passed the vetting process (whatever that is and I have a pretty good idea ) what happens if we eventually get to meet the other half and *we* don't want to go ahead?"
Same as any other possible meet if not all getting on/ don’t fancy. Don’t think there was ever a plan to sign contracts binding the agreement  |
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"Once one half has met us and we've passed the vetting process (whatever that is and I have a pretty good idea ) what happens if we eventually get to meet the other half and *we* don't want to go ahead?
Same as any other possible meet if not all getting on/ don’t fancy. Don’t think there was ever a plan to sign contracts binding the agreement "
Ok. It would just be a bit awkward from our point of view if we'd met one half agreed to go ahead then on the day changed our mind.
You said just now that due to shift work you're not available at the same time for a social. How about socials where play is an option? Could you both be available for that maybe,?
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"Which one of you would be doing the vetting op?"
Either/ or
It shouldn’t matter, as a couple we both know what we’re looking for and like, as we communicate with each other before any thing happens. |
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"Once one half has met us and we've passed the vetting process (whatever that is and I have a pretty good idea ) what happens if we eventually get to meet the other half and *we* don't want to go ahead?
Same as any other possible meet if not all getting on/ don’t fancy. Don’t think there was ever a plan to sign contracts binding the agreement
Ok. It would just be a bit awkward from our point of view if we'd met one half agreed to go ahead then on the day changed our mind.
You said just now that due to shift work you're not available at the same time for a social. How about socials where play is an option? Could you both be available for that maybe,?
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Not having much experience, we’d class a social as a social evening (other times may suit) getting to know whoever in a relaxed situation. A play meet would be totally different, and something we’d only do together |
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"Once one half has met us and we've passed the vetting process (whatever that is and I have a pretty good idea ) what happens if we eventually get to meet the other half and *we* don't want to go ahead?
Same as any other possible meet if not all getting on/ don’t fancy. Don’t think there was ever a plan to sign contracts binding the agreement
Ok. It would just be a bit awkward from our point of view if we'd met one half agreed to go ahead then on the day changed our mind.
You said just now that due to shift work you're not available at the same time for a social. How about socials where play is an option? Could you both be available for that maybe,?
Not having much experience, we’d class a social as a social evening (other times may suit) getting to know whoever in a relaxed situation. A play meet would be totally different, and something we’d only do together "
Ok. I'm a strong believer that people must do this swinging stuff in the way that suits them but how can the person/people you meet individually get to know the absent partner in a relaxed way? Or have I misunderstood and you'd do two socials, one each so to speak? |
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It depends on the dynamic of the couple if they meet separately then that would be fine.
We only meet as a couple and we only meet couples so we wouldn’t want to be vetted by only one half of the couple.We have to have a 4 way connection or we won’t take things any further. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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"If a couple wish to meet another couple or single, Is it acceptable for just one of them to meet socially first, almost like a vetting process?
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That would very much seem to be a one way vetting process!
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We all have busy lives and can be difficult to arrange meets let alone socials where all are free lol. In any situation most would like to have some attraction to all parties involved so a meeting by only 2 or 3 as opposed to all of you would not achieve this end. |
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over a year ago
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Not the first time meeting but Sooz has met both couples and guys by herself both socially and for fun. But we had got to know them well and never had any problems. |
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"If a couple wish to meet another couple or single, Is it acceptable for just one of them to meet socially first, almost like a vetting process?
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No at all.
We meet as both a couple and seperatly.
If we where going out together as a couple or even as seperate singles to meet a couple then we expect to meet a couple not just one half.
We certainly would not advertise ourselves as a couple / arrange a couples meet just for me "Mr" to show up with some bollocks story about why my wife's not there.
Been on here long enough to have heard this story as well. We once arranged to meet a couple who at the last moment said only he was coming to "vett" us both.
Instant red flag and told them.where to go.
Assuming for a moment it wasnt a single guy pretending to be a couple, pardon my French but who the fuck did he think was? Why do we have to be vetted by one half of a couple but we don't get to vett them both? Smells of horseshit because it is horseshit.
We have however certainly had meets where I (male half) have met a couple for them to meet my wife at a later time...but in those cases it was the couple looking for a single guy and I joined them in a single capacity...and then later as a couple in a couple capacity.
So no...not acceptable unless the parties in question are looking to meet one half of a couple to begin with.
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