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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Could you stay in a long term relationship that has very little oral sex or would the lack of oral be something that would you make consider ending a relationship?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good forum question.. Be interesting to see what various responses are?
Previous to the relationship we're in (6yrs now approx) there was no real interest in oral when you'd been together 10yrs +.
Currently this hasn't not happened between us yet.. (Let's see what happens in 4 yrs time hahah) |
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"I think if the lack of oral was a deal breaker for the relationship then the relationship has bigger problems. "
This. There’s always a cause for lack of intimacy and not dealing with that causes far bigger issues. If it’s as simple as they don’t like giving oral then you shouldn’t expect it and your attitude to them saying they don’t want to give it will ultimately be what does or doesn’t cause a problem long term. We’ve been together 18 years and oral has always been a part of our physical relationship but if he decided tomorrow that he never wanted to go down on me again, it wouldn’t change anything between us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It might be worth talking with your/ the partner. There might be a reason that you are not aware of.
She may have had a bad experience in the past, bad personal hygiene, just not find it is there thing, or any other reason. If you are only in a relationship for a BJ, then there are other problems first |
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My wife has always hated recieving it, due to hang ups about the size of her labia. Early in our relationship BJs were part of foreplay rather than a stand alone act to completion. As the frequency became less (at one point we had no sexual contact for 18 months or so, when we finally did have sex, it stopped including any oral at all. I never asked or pressurized for anything as I didn't want to add to my wife's mental burden, she no doubt felt guilty about our sex life (she feels guilty at the drop of a hat). When oral was then performed on me, I felt it was done out of a sense of "duty" rather than a genuine wanting to do it. I might have been wrong. But this led me to stop enjoying it anywhere as much as I had in the past.
So I've pretty much put a line through any idea of oral, if and when our sex life was to ever recommence. But if that's the case, I can certainly live without it. |
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I love giving oral stimulation and pleasure !!! To be fair it’s a craft I consider myself extremely good at!!! “Well I’ve been told often enough”!!! But for me appreciating the pleasure your receiving is always soooo important!!! either party male or female will gain confidence in their ability if they know it’s been enjoyed! Mrs C |
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Been there tried that. Whilst blowjobs are awesome, it’s not the end of the world as long as plenty of other choices still grace the menu.
If the desire not to perform oral stems from a broader lack of interest in sex though, you’re probably in trouble. |
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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago
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If you're having other sexual relations with each other then I don't see the problem with going without oral.
If I'm giving but never receiving then there might be cause for conversation but as long as the sex is great then I see no problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really enjoy both giving and receiving...possibly enjoy giving more so would definitely miss it. It's almost always involved in any sexual interaction with my partner.
Would it be a deal breaker? I'd just need to live with it I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't stay in a sexually unsatisfied relationship. I've done it way too often. If we couldn't open it up or change it I'd leave because I know I'd end up cheating and that's not me. |
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