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Hotel Meets. Yay or nay?
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We don't mind hotel meets on occasions, especially when accommodation is an issue.
But spoken to a few lately who wont entertain hotels as an option at all. No idea why.
Are you for or against hotel meets...and if against, why?
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over a year ago
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Generally nay. A club allows one to show off, a house call is intimate. And I don't like hotels in the first place, except very expensive ones I can't afford.. |
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over a year ago
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"We don't mind hotel meets on occasions, especially when accommodation is an issue.
But spoken to a few lately who wont entertain hotels as an option at all. No idea why.
Are you for or against hotel meets...and if against, why?
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Like you I don't mind hotel meets it can make the whole business a bit naughtier but I also don't get the "won't do hotel meets"... |
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over a year ago
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"We will consider it again but every single person who has suggested a hotel meet with has ghosted us before the meet.
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Can't understand why they'd ghost you!!! Absolutely gorgeous pics  |
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over a year ago
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Love hotel meets, neutral territory - I feel awkward in another’s home not knowing where the kettle, bathroom etc is. Also feel safer in a hotel tbh Don’t meet men from Fab in my home just incase they come back n murder me |
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over a year ago
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"We will consider it again but every single person who has suggested a hotel meet with has ghosted us before the meet.
Can't understand why they'd ghost you!!! Absolutely gorgeous pics "
One I’m 99% sure we were their backup and the other that I can remember just went silent and didn’t log back on. He was well verified so god knows what happened. |
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"We will consider it again but every single person who has suggested a hotel meet with has ghosted us before the meet.
Can't understand why they'd ghost you!!! Absolutely gorgeous pics
One I’m 99% sure we were their backup and the other that I can remember just went silent and didn’t log back on. He was well verified so god knows what happened."
Thats just shitty behaviour!!! |
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over a year ago
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"We don't mind hotel meets on occasions, especially when accommodation is an issue.
But spoken to a few lately who wont entertain hotels as an option at all. No idea why.
Are you for or against hotel meets...and if against, why?
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We don't mind... but if there is an option home or hotel I would go for home...  |
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over a year ago
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"We will consider it again but every single person who has suggested a hotel meet with has ghosted us before the meet.
Can't understand why they'd ghost you!!! Absolutely gorgeous pics
One I’m 99% sure we were their backup and the other that I can remember just went silent and didn’t log back on. He was well verified so god knows what happened.
Thats just shitty behaviour!!!"
That’s why we mostly stick to clubs. At least you can’t be let down at a club. |
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"We will consider it again but every single person who has suggested a hotel meet with has ghosted us before the meet.
Can't understand why they'd ghost you!!! Absolutely gorgeous pics
One I’m 99% sure we were their backup and the other that I can remember just went silent and didn’t log back on. He was well verified so god knows what happened.
Thats just shitty behaviour!!!
That’s why we mostly stick to clubs. At least you can’t be let down at a club."
You guys ever go to club f? |
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over a year ago
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"We will consider it again but every single person who has suggested a hotel meet with has ghosted us before the meet.
Can't understand why they'd ghost you!!! Absolutely gorgeous pics
One I’m 99% sure we were their backup and the other that I can remember just went silent and didn’t log back on. He was well verified so god knows what happened.
Thats just shitty behaviour!!!
That’s why we mostly stick to clubs. At least you can’t be let down at a club.
You guys ever go to club f?"
Unfortunately not. A relative lives right next to it and we’re too scared they’ll see us |
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"We will consider it again but every single person who has suggested a hotel meet with has ghosted us before the meet.
Can't understand why they'd ghost you!!! Absolutely gorgeous pics
One I’m 99% sure we were their backup and the other that I can remember just went silent and didn’t log back on. He was well verified so god knows what happened.
Thats just shitty behaviour!!!
That’s why we mostly stick to clubs. At least you can’t be let down at a club.
You guys ever go to club f?
Unfortunately not. A relative lives right next to it and we’re too scared they’ll see us "
Well thats a fair reason lol |
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"Used to love hotel meets with couple, relax chat I would leave roomcard on table and if ladies picks it up we head to room, if not we part friends having had a good laugh.
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Thats...not a bad way to do it. Takes the pressure off. I'll remember that one. |
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Hotel meets are our preferred, we get the room and if ever the other party didn't show then we'd still have an evening to ourselves with no interruptions, so win win!
I haven't tried going to a club yet, tbh I'm too nervous.
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over a year ago
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"Love a hotel meet + you haven't got to clean up either "
Thats a big bit.
Also if you've younger family theres less chance of 'indidents' if you're away for a day or two with the OH... etc. |
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"Love a hotel meet + you haven't got to clean up either
Thats a big bit.
Also if you've younger family theres less chance of 'indidents' if you're away for a day or two with the OH... etc."
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I frequently use hotels for meets. It's a fairly simple proposition, everything ship-shape to start with, until it gets messed up.
Security is very high, can use the safe, CCTV records visitors, your safety buddy can alert front desk, if they don't get the right response, etc.
No home distractions
And you can enjoy a night away, into the bargain, perhaps exploring and enjoying things unconnected to the sex |
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"Given the number of timewasters on here it is hardly surprising that many people are wary of booking a hotel, getting child-minders and then being let down."
I get the sentiment and I agree there is a lot of timewasting on here but we are at a point where you can book a hotel room in the bar on your phone whilst on the meet now. Finnish your drinks and go check in. We've done that numerous times now. |
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I have no problem with hotel meets. It usually depends on the distance between us. I have hooked up with a few women who are quite some distance from me, so a hotel roughly halfway was a good compromise for both of us.
For info, there is a site with cheap day use rooms too, and in decent hotels, I used that sometimes and was very impressed with it. |
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over a year ago
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"I love them.
Feels like a little getaway treat, and means I can go to some new areas.
It can become expensive though. "
Did this in Camridge with the OH at one stage.
Was actually a nice weekend break, meet aside. It can be very relaxing. |
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"I love them.
Feels like a little getaway treat, and means I can go to some new areas.
It can become expensive though.
Did this in Camridge with the OH at one stage.
Was actually a nice weekend break, meet aside. It can be very relaxing."
Exactly. Make it as much about the getting out and seeing somewhere new, and it doesn't matter if the meet drops out, you'll still have a great time. |
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"I love them.
Feels like a little getaway treat, and means I can go to some new areas.
It can become expensive though.
Did this in Camridge with the OH at one stage.
Was actually a nice weekend break, meet aside. It can be very relaxing.
Exactly. Make it as much about the getting out and seeing somewhere new, and it doesn't matter if the meet drops out, you'll still have a great time. "
It does matter if ypu have other expenses on top of the room and only have so much time free. |
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My only worry with hotel meets is if someone lets you down last minute and you’ve wasted the money. Not an issue if you are away anyway but if you’ve booked local solely for that purpose.
We have found the meets we have done in peoples homes have felt more relaxed but we are probably lucky that we haven’t had any bad experiences with doing that yet.
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I like hotel meets but I find they usually work best if it is a bit spontaneous and people happen to already be travelling and so have not booked it specifically for a meet.
If you have booked it for a meet then there is a serious chance of the meet not happening and someone is going to be left with an unwanted bill to pay. |
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"We don't mind hotel meets on occasions, especially when accommodation is an issue.
But spoken to a few lately who wont entertain hotels as an option at all. No idea why.
Are you for or against hotel meets...and if against, why?
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Some people are worried about noise and having staff knock on the room door. Some people are worried about getting caught going to the room and being asked if they have a room at the hotel. |
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"I love them.
Feels like a little getaway treat, and means I can go to some new areas.
It can become expensive though.
Did this in Camridge with the OH at one stage.
Was actually a nice weekend break, meet aside. It can be very relaxing.
Exactly. Make it as much about the getting out and seeing somewhere new, and it doesn't matter if the meet drops out, you'll still have a great time.
It does matter if ypu have other expenses on top of the room and only have so much time free."
Yes, but what I mean is you factor all that in to you going out and having a nice night away. Treat the meet as a nice bonus if it happens, that way it doesn't matter if it doesn't. |
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over a year ago
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I love the neutral ground of hotel meets and just feeling like you are really away indulging yourself in what you enjoy. A little escapism of indulgence. |
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over a year ago
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That's what we've always wondered about. Surely the hotel doesn't permit extra people staying in a room?.. Or do they?
Easier if you're all staying and just pile into one of rooms for a few hours then return to your own.
But could be embarrassing as hell to be leaving the hotel looking like you've been doing exactly what you have been.
Or when the people that joined you want to crash out in your room after and they stay till morning. Ugh |
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over a year ago
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I would never meet in a hotel, I might play the roll of a slut but I will not walk into a hotel and advertise the fact.
Having worked in many hotels I can I assure you all the staff know what you're up to. |
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"I would never meet in a hotel, I might play the roll of a slut but I will not walk into a hotel and advertise the fact.
Having worked in many hotels I can I assure you all the staff know what you're up to. "
What's sluttish about meeting someone in a hotel and having sex?
I'm sure plenty of regular couples have sex in hotels. |
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"That's what we've always wondered about. Surely the hotel doesn't permit extra people staying in a room?.. Or do they?
Easier if you're all staying and just pile into one of rooms for a few hours then return to your own.
But could be embarrassing as hell to be leaving the hotel looking like you've been doing exactly what you have been.
Or when the people that joined you want to crash out in your room after and they stay till morning. Ugh "
We've never had an issue taking people back to our room. Never been stopped or questioned by staff. Go.to a chain hotel like premier Inn or travel lodge and they give zero tosses. Half the time there is no one on the desk anyway. You just come and go as you please. If you need a room for a few hours then they do fine. As long as ypu don't make loads of noise or disturb any other guest they don't seem to care.
Of course it could be an issue if you have more than a single or couple following you in and smaller or private hotels may be an issue but just check the hotels policy's if in doubt.
I know multiple people who work or have worked in various hotel chains and most cases nothing phases them. They know it happens.
They just work there, why would they care what you use it for. It's really smaller private hotels you have to pay attention to but again, not had an issue yet (but have only used them for one on one meets and proper overnights).
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not for me. As a couple we meet in clubs or maybe accommodate depending on who and when etc.
If I'm meeting on my own, it's at home. I feel a lot safer in my own home than anywhere else.
Pxx |
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over a year ago
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"Does anyone have any advice on paying for a hotel without a card? Thanks in advance "
Most chains will do so if you have a passport. But it all depends who you get on the day really tbh |
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My only concern with a hotel meet would be splitting the cost. Not because I’m tight, but because people don’t turn up sometimes/ghost you and then you’re sat with your dick in your hand *and* a hole in your wallet.
Also just feels more likely that someone would turn up and or have a legit reason for cancelling if they’ve out their money where their mouth is.
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"My only concern with a hotel meet would be splitting the cost. Not because I’m tight, but because people don’t turn up sometimes/ghost you and then you’re sat with your dick in your hand *and* a hole in your wallet.
Also just feels more likely that someone would turn up and or have a legit reason for cancelling if they’ve out their money where their mouth is.
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Best way we thought about this is if the meet is near us we pay, if near them then they pay. But we're also open to splitting the bill |
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"My only concern with a hotel meet would be splitting the cost. Not because I’m tight, but because people don’t turn up sometimes/ghost you and then you’re sat with your dick in your hand *and* a hole in your wallet.
Also just feels more likely that someone would turn up and or have a legit reason for cancelling if they’ve out their money where their mouth is.
Best way we thought about this is if the meet is near us we pay, if near them then they pay. But we're also open to splitting the bill "
Makes sense, but can’t see you guys getting many no shows anyway  |
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We like them... and never really came across a girl that has been against a hotel as of yet we would be more than happy to accommodate should the situation arrive if she wasn't comfortable with a hotel |
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"My only concern with a hotel meet would be splitting the cost. Not because I’m tight, but because people don’t turn up sometimes/ghost you and then you’re sat with your dick in your hand *and* a hole in your wallet.
Also just feels more likely that someone would turn up and or have a legit reason for cancelling if they’ve out their money where their mouth is.
Best way we thought about this is if the meet is near us we pay, if near them then they pay. But we're also open to splitting the bill
Makes sense, but can’t see you guys getting many no shows anyway "
Awwww thank you. Think most are put of us in the early chatting phase because we're poly so won't just shag anything that moves lol |
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Got a hotel booked in West Country .I think it’s more respectful to both parties.
Iam Seeing family. I travel on my own . Room All paid for. Can’t see what’s wrong with that . Free open invite, can meet in the bar 1st, go from there. Your home is private , stays that way , I would only invite someone to my home after meeting somewhere else 1st. It’s great for role play, your not straight in the room pants down doing it, nice building up . Off course they could turn up and walk away wasting everyone’s time. No more than on this site and meeting blind. |
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We love a hotel meet. Done it a few times, split the costs and have a bloody good time in the privacy of a hotel room.
We catch up for a drink in the bar first and then move off to the room. It’s great fun |
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"We will consider it again but every single person who has suggested a hotel meet with has ghosted us before the meet.
Can't understand why they'd ghost you!!! Absolutely gorgeous pics "
Probably the Newcastle United shirts put them off - they’re quite obviously mental from that evidence alone Now retake some of those pics wearing a Liverpool shirt and you’ll be slapping them off left right and centre!!! |
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"We will consider it again but every single person who has suggested a hotel meet with has ghosted us before the meet.
Can't understand why they'd ghost you!!! Absolutely gorgeous pics
Probably the Newcastle United shirts put them off - they’re quite obviously mental from that evidence alone Now retake some of those pics wearing a Liverpool shirt and you’ll be slapping them off left right and centre!!! "
I'd agree with that statement  |
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I got one due soon but yes it's the fear of spending money and time then to be ghosted. Where if it's in your own home or your car, not too much is lost...however, I couldn't give out my address for safety reasons as you only met them online |
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"We don't mind hotel meets on occasions, especially when accommodation is an issue.
But spoken to a few lately who wont entertain hotels as an option at all. No idea why.
Are you for or against hotel meets...and if against, why?
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Yay |
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"Hotel meets are our preferred, we get the room and if ever the other party didn't show then we'd still have an evening to ourselves with no interruptions, so win win!
I haven't tried going to a club yet, tbh I'm too nervous.
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That's what i thought exactly. Still get a nice evening away regardless with the wife so nothings wasted |
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I mostly do hotels. It’s cheap to book. It’s not my personal home It’s walking distance to my home if I want to bounce out for any reason
Parking is usually easy for others as well. Has a bar downstairs |
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"Given the number of timewasters on here it is hardly surprising that many people are wary of booking a hotel, getting child-minders and then being let down.
I get the sentiment and I agree there is a lot of timewasting on here but we are at a point where you can book a hotel room in the bar on your phone whilst on the meet now. Finnish your drinks and go check in. We've done that numerous times now. "
Exactly this! Plus, you can book a room for minimum deposit (usually only £5), and if you need to cancel for any reason, it’s not a great loss |
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Most of my meets are in hotels. I love the anonymity, and intimacy of a hotel room, with no cleaning up afterwards! Plus, the main one I use for day rate fun includes use of the pool/sauna/jacuzzi. Great for a ‘rest’ between play sessions…… |
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We prefer hotel meets (although we’ve only actually had one). As others have said, it’s neutral ground and more relaxing than ‘hosting’ at home. Plus, we would really need to know and trust someone to take them to our home.
The anticipation of going to a hotel for fun is exciting too. Packing the toys and lingerie etc. knowing what’s to come/cum.
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"I love the neutral ground of hotel meets and just feeling like you are really away indulging yourself in what you enjoy. A little escapism of indulgence. "
shall i getting booking the hotel then? |
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over a year ago
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It's something that we haven't tried before but would definitely be open to.
It would work especially well if the hotel has a bar so we could have a no pressure social first and book a room if we all want to move things along.
The only time we have booked a hotel with play in mind was the night of a big social. Trouble was by the end of the event most people were d*unk so we decided to go back alone, still had lots of fun though |
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Been fortunate to enjoy a few hotel meets, allows nice neutral ground for any of those concerns, lots of play time, maybe over night even.
Apparthotels or serviced appartments are another great choice
Ultimately the company, chemistry and vibe make it wherever you may meet |
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Swingers that we've met who've told us about thier experiences with hotel meets always seem to have said there's been an awkwardness when the fun has reached its end. The visitor/s don't always seem to get the hint its time for them to leave. Sometimes asking to stay in the room when all you want is to have some calm down private time. |
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