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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What’s everyone’s opinion on being randomly called a “slut” in a first message from a stranger?
Turn off, or turn on?
Lately I’ve noticed a lot of men try it as an opening line.
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"What’s everyone’s opinion on being randomly called a “slut” in a first message from a stranger?
Turn off, or turn on?
Lately I’ve noticed a lot of men try it as an opening line.
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Would never use the term in a first message, unless of course it was specifically requested as it is definitely not something everyone sees as a term of endearment. |
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"What’s everyone’s opinion on being randomly called a “slut” in a first message from a stranger?
Turn off, or turn on?
Lately I’ve noticed a lot of men try it as an opening line.
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Great example of natural selection. I'd block & delete without reading their message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s everyone’s opinion on being randomly called a “slut” in a first message from a stranger?
Turn off, or turn on?
Lately I’ve noticed a lot of men try it as an opening line.
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If to my face, im likely to slap a guy, here I can only block |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some of the first messages are awful. Call me anything like that and it’s a block
But more laughable is when you get a message. Don’t reply. And suddenly you’re a slut.
Amazing how people show their true colours so quick |
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Depends on the context and who its coming from.
My wife (and i) would be angry if some random fella sent a message calling her one. But I once had a lady message "You're a bit of a naughty slut aint you. I love it" directly to me and I won't lie, I didn't not like it.
But in general, no, don't want it from a stranger and wouldn't say it to a stranger but once we are not strangers....well that is a different story and down to preference.
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"What’s everyone’s opinion on being randomly called a “slut” in a first message from a stranger?
Turn off, or turn on?
Lately I’ve noticed a lot of men try it as an opening line.
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Yuck yuck yuck... that's my reaction to that  |
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"Some of the first messages are awful. Call me anything like that and it’s a block
But more laughable is when you get a message. Don’t reply. And suddenly you’re a slut.
Amazing how people show their true colours so quick "
No wonder single women hide their profiles, ultra fussy who they want to meet and block single men from sending the first message. Majority of the messages I used to recieve was very demoralising and somewhat abusive. Yuck. |
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"Some of the first messages are awful. Call me anything like that and it’s a block
But more laughable is when you get a message. Don’t reply. And suddenly you’re a slut.
Amazing how people show their true colours so quick "
It's why block is easier than anything else on fab. To.many micky takers. |
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"Some of the first messages are awful. Call me anything like that and it’s a block
But more laughable is when you get a message. Don’t reply. And suddenly you’re a slut.
Amazing how people show their true colours so quick
It's why block is easier than anything else on fab. To.many micky takers."
But I now been forced to do a blanket block on single men because I was sick and tired of the abuse. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've never thought about it before (male privilege), but I'm kind of up for being called a slut by a stranger now I think about it"
I’m sure the novelty will wear off after you get dozens of unattractive men calling you it weekly, along with detailed the things they want to do to you.
All before even saying hello.
It’s gross |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s everyone’s opinion on being randomly called a “slut” in a first message from a stranger?
Turn off, or turn on?
Lately I’ve noticed a lot of men try it as an opening line.
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Yeah if I don't rip them a new arsehole for it then I'm sure chesty would. I'm the only person who's earned the right to degrade my lady.
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In a first message then its not a turn on for me, but when hound calls me a naughty slut when I'm being a naughty slut then it's an absoloute turn on for me.....
but then I am quite submissive and I can be a very naughty slut  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If its a random 1st message then no way would I use that language. You have to earn that kind of trust and respect to be able to call anyone degrading names and even then its only if they like the term. It's like pet names...unless you've built that connection just don't use them. After all it's a person. Treat them as such |
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"If its a random 1st message then no way would I use that language. You have to earn that kind of trust and respect to be able to call anyone degrading names and even then its only if they like the term. It's like pet names...unless you've built that connection just don't use them. After all it's a person. Treat them as such"
Totally this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If its a random 1st message then no way would I use that language. You have to earn that kind of trust and respect to be able to call anyone degrading names and even then its only if they like the term. It's like pet names...unless you've built that connection just don't use them. After all it's a person. Treat them as such
Totally this "
I try my best to be nice when I can lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"First message or long term partner. Makes no difference. I dont like derogatory names plain and simple."
Ditto! I’m utterly submissive but still hate all derogatory name calling! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First message or long term partner. Makes no difference. I dont like derogatory names plain and simple.
Ditto! I’m utterly submissive but still hate all derogatory name calling! "
It's a kink in itself so needs to be approached as such. Some deluded guys have no idea of the nuances of the whole Dom/sub dynamics and the kinks that can go hand in hand with this. I do feel very sorry for anyone who gets called any names without having given consent.
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"First message or long term partner. Makes no difference. I dont like derogatory names plain and simple.
Ditto! I’m utterly submissive but still hate all derogatory name calling!
It's a kink in itself so needs to be approached as such. Some deluded guys have no idea of the nuances of the whole Dom/sub dynamics and the kinks that can go hand in hand with this. I do feel very sorry for anyone who gets called any names without having given consent.
Max"
Couldn't agree more... I love it in the right situation with the right person, but I would never dream of calling/ saying someone's a slut as what works for me may be seriously offensive for someone else.... hound calls me his slut and I'm instantly horny..... a stranger calls me a slut and they're likely to get a slap lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First message or long term partner. Makes no difference. I dont like derogatory names plain and simple.
Ditto! I’m utterly submissive but still hate all derogatory name calling!
It's a kink in itself so needs to be approached as such. Some deluded guys have no idea of the nuances of the whole Dom/sub dynamics and the kinks that can go hand in hand with this. I do feel very sorry for anyone who gets called any names without having given consent.
Max
Couldn't agree more... I love it in the right situation with the right person, but I would never dream of calling/ saying someone's a slut as what works for me may be seriously offensive for someone else.... hound calls me his slut and I'm instantly horny..... a stranger calls me a slut and they're likely to get a slap lol. "
Well chesty is k own as my fuck toy, dirty cum slut, dirty fucking slag and my cock sleeve. But god forbid anyone calls her any of that and we'll there's 17st of me to deal with. And that's if my lovely lady doesn't smack them first.
I wouldnt dream of calling anyone else any derogatory term unless there was a bond and had been told it was ok. Same as I'd never call anyone my sub until they have given me their submission. These things are earned in our lifestyle
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By (user no longer on site)
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Are we not all sluts though - to me slut equates to someone who enjoys great sex with hand picked individuals - all others on here are just grabbing their fleshlight/Vibe and dreaming of the slutty exciting antics we all get upto |
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"Are we not all sluts though - to me slut equates to someone who enjoys great sex with hand picked individuals - all others on here are just grabbing their fleshlight/Vibe and dreaming of the slutty exciting antics we all get upto "
I think like any word it just depends on the context. If you’re trying to use it to offend me then I’m going to take that badly, if you’re using it to dirty talk and I know you’re a respectful bloke then that’s hot. I don’t think we’re sluts for liking sex, if it wasn’t meant to be enjoyed they wouldn’t have made it feel so good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are we not all sluts though - to me slut equates to someone who enjoys great sex with hand picked individuals - all others on here are just grabbing their fleshlight/Vibe and dreaming of the slutty exciting antics we all get upto "
All depends on the context. But as a rule of thumb I wouldn't say anybody on here is a slut. Just Liberal with their sexual desires
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"Are we not all sluts though - to me slut equates to someone who enjoys great sex with hand picked individuals - all others on here are just grabbing their fleshlight/Vibe and dreaming of the slutty exciting antics we all get upto
I think like any word it just depends on the context. If you’re trying to use it to offend me then I’m going to take that badly, if you’re using it to dirty talk and I know you’re a respectful bloke then that’s hot. I don’t think we’re sluts for liking sex, if it wasn’t meant to be enjoyed they wouldn’t have made it feel so good. "
Yes if they mean it in derogatory manner then I believe they are the butt hurt peeps playing with themselves anyone else I believe means it in the delightful manner it expresses on an acceptance of true animalistic sexual desire! I embrace the term from those who can offer true pleasure - I feel it’s best to just ignore the other wannabes |
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"Are we not all sluts though - to me slut equates to someone who enjoys great sex with hand picked individuals - all others on here are just grabbing their fleshlight/Vibe and dreaming of the slutty exciting antics we all get upto
I think like any word it just depends on the context. If you’re trying to use it to offend me then I’m going to take that badly, if you’re using it to dirty talk and I know you’re a respectful bloke then that’s hot. I don’t think we’re sluts for liking sex, if it wasn’t meant to be enjoyed they wouldn’t have made it feel so good.
Yes if they mean it in derogatory manner then I believe they are the butt hurt peeps playing with themselves anyone else I believe means it in the delightful manner it expresses on an acceptance of true animalistic sexual desire! I embrace the term from those who can offer true pleasure - I feel it’s best to just ignore the other wannabes "
100% intent is all that matter regardless of words.
Anyone not comfortable enough to embrace themselves and want they want sexually is missing out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are we not all sluts though - to me slut equates to someone who enjoys great sex with hand picked individuals - all others on here are just grabbing their fleshlight/Vibe and dreaming of the slutty exciting antics we all get upto
I think like any word it just depends on the context. If you’re trying to use it to offend me then I’m going to take that badly, if you’re using it to dirty talk and I know you’re a respectful bloke then that’s hot. I don’t think we’re sluts for liking sex, if it wasn’t meant to be enjoyed they wouldn’t have made it feel so good.
Yes if they mean it in derogatory manner then I believe they are the butt hurt peeps playing with themselves anyone else I believe means it in the delightful manner it expresses on an acceptance of true animalistic sexual desire! I embrace the term from those who can offer true pleasure - I feel it’s best to just ignore the other wannabes
100% intent is all that matter regardless of words.
Anyone not comfortable enough to embrace themselves and want they want sexually is missing out!"
Completely agree prior to finding Fab I would of been offended by this term now I just embrace my sexuality and desires. It’s liberating to admit you enjoy your varied sex life! Im proud to be a girl next door, sweetheart day to day and a ravenous slut on here   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are we not all sluts though - to me slut equates to someone who enjoys great sex with hand picked individuals - all others on here are just grabbing their fleshlight/Vibe and dreaming of the slutty exciting antics we all get upto
I think like any word it just depends on the context. If you’re trying to use it to offend me then I’m going to take that badly, if you’re using it to dirty talk and I know you’re a respectful bloke then that’s hot. I don’t think we’re sluts for liking sex, if it wasn’t meant to be enjoyed they wouldn’t have made it feel so good.
Yes if they mean it in derogatory manner then I believe they are the butt hurt peeps playing with themselves anyone else I believe means it in the delightful manner it expresses on an acceptance of true animalistic sexual desire! I embrace the term from those who can offer true pleasure - I feel it’s best to just ignore the other wannabes
100% intent is all that matter regardless of words.
Anyone not comfortable enough to embrace themselves and want they want sexually is missing out!"
Brilliant comment x totally agree with you x |
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"Are we not all sluts though - to me slut equates to someone who enjoys great sex with hand picked individuals - all others on here are just grabbing their fleshlight/Vibe and dreaming of the slutty exciting antics we all get upto
I think like any word it just depends on the context. If you’re trying to use it to offend me then I’m going to take that badly, if you’re using it to dirty talk and I know you’re a respectful bloke then that’s hot. I don’t think we’re sluts for liking sex, if it wasn’t meant to be enjoyed they wouldn’t have made it feel so good.
Yes if they mean it in derogatory manner then I believe they are the butt hurt peeps playing with themselves anyone else I believe means it in the delightful manner it expresses on an acceptance of true animalistic sexual desire! I embrace the term from those who can offer true pleasure - I feel it’s best to just ignore the other wannabes
100% intent is all that matter regardless of words.
Anyone not comfortable enough to embrace themselves and want they want sexually is missing out!
Completely agree prior to finding Fab I would of been offended by this term now I just embrace my sexuality and desires. It’s liberating to admit you enjoy your varied sex life! Im proud to be a girl next door, sweetheart day to day and a ravenous slut on here "
Yes!! Own that, just makes you hotter in bed, knowing and enjoying what you want. Definitely something to embrace! |
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I will add that you can embrace yourself sexually and still not like being called a slut. Those who want to be called it is fine but no one should be calling that to someone without prior consent.
I don’t necessarily find the word offensive, but I still don’t ever want that word used on me! |
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100% intent is all that matter regardless of words.
Anyone not comfortable enough to embrace themselves and want they want sexually is missing out!
Brilliant comment x totally agree with you x "
Thank you, no shame in embracing you’re sexuality and enjoying yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will add that you can embrace yourself sexually and still not like being called a slut. Those who want to be called it is fine but no one should be calling that to someone without prior consent.
I don’t necessarily find the word offensive, but I still don’t ever want that word used on me! "
Nope its a preference. Definitely not a label all women want used on them
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"I will add that you can embrace yourself sexually and still not like being called a slut. Those who want to be called it is fine but no one should be calling that to someone without prior consent.
I don’t necessarily find the word offensive, but I still don’t ever want that word used on me!
Nope its a preference. Definitely not a label all women want used on them
Max"
And no man (or woman) should presume they can! Everyone has their boundaries and likes and that should be respected regardless. |
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100% intent is all that matter regardless of words.
Anyone not comfortable enough to embrace themselves and want they want sexually is missing out!
Brilliant comment x totally agree with you x
Thank you, no shame in embracing you’re sexuality and enjoying yourself."
Definitely x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will add that you can embrace yourself sexually and still not like being called a slut. Those who want to be called it is fine but no one should be calling that to someone without prior consent.
I don’t necessarily find the word offensive, but I still don’t ever want that word used on me!
Nope its a preference. Definitely not a label all women want used on them
Max
And no man (or woman) should presume they can! Everyone has their boundaries and likes and that should be respected regardless. "
Exactly!! Respect boundaries and you'll find more people receptive to you. The more of an arsehole the more you'll realise that the community as a whole is such a small place and once your names known for the wrong reasons it's hard to undo that damage
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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago
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It doesn't matter to me if it's in a first message or with someone I know well.I personally don't like the term and do not want to be called it.
It's nothing to do with not embracing my sexual desires or not being open minded I just dislike the term and have no intention of owning it or embracing it.Its a turn off for me.In saying that i understand why other women enjoy the term and I guess it's a good thing we all aren't the same or it would get pretty boring. .B. |
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"Are we not all sluts though - to me slut equates to someone who enjoys great sex with hand picked individuals - all others on here are just grabbing their fleshlight/Vibe and dreaming of the slutty exciting antics we all get upto
I think like any word it just depends on the context. If you’re trying to use it to offend me then I’m going to take that badly, if you’re using it to dirty talk and I know you’re a respectful bloke then that’s hot. I don’t think we’re sluts for liking sex, if it wasn’t meant to be enjoyed they wouldn’t have made it feel so good.
Yes if they mean it in derogatory manner then I believe they are the butt hurt peeps playing with themselves anyone else I believe means it in the delightful manner it expresses on an acceptance of true animalistic sexual desire! I embrace the term from those who can offer true pleasure - I feel it’s best to just ignore the other wannabes "
Interesting discussion, for me personally the word will never be reclaimed (in the same way some older folks won't stand the term queer), I have used it in the past during humiliation roleplay but now I don't care even for that.
My observations: 1. those that self-characterise as sluts mean it in an array of different senses; and 2. the majority of people using slut to describe others use it dismissively as OP outlined (I am sorry you have to experience so much of it here OP), or as a straight up insult. Therefore I don't care for it, it's a word still steeped in misogyny, transmisogyny, sex negativity and sexism. What good is it if a minority believe a slut is someone in charge of their sexual power, when the majority think a slut is a low value sexual object? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Instant turn off, I used to message back and have a pop at them but would get an apology and think they have a way in/start of a conversation.... so I just delete/block them now |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I will add that you can embrace yourself sexually and still not like being called a slut. Those who want to be called it is fine but no one should be calling that to someone without prior consent.
I don’t necessarily find the word offensive, but I still don’t ever want that word used on me! "
Exactly - we love the word, and so do most women we meet, but that’s understood through communication. Firing it off on a first message is for people who don’t understand consent. |
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