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Does this site depress you ?
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I know i will probably get all the haters saying the site is what you make it but if we are all honest, does anyone else sometimes find yourself actually feeling really down after a day of rejection on here ? Especially when you have sent kind respectful messages and just get knock back after knock back or even worse the dreaded you have been blocked from viewing this profile message 
As i said i know its a sex site and i shouldn't take it seriously but somedays it really does effect my moods 
Anyone else or just me ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No.
Sometimes it can frustrate me and sometimes I think I spend too much time here when I could be doing something more productive.
Maybe take a break or freshen up your profile if it’s getting you down x |
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Remember OP it's a swingers site, not a sex site. If you are messaging purely to get sex and it comes across like that you may well get a fair amount of rejection. Relax, chat and have fun but also, as others have said, take a break if you need to. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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Wasn't it Friedrich Nietzsche who suggested lowering your expectations, then you won't be disappointed...
Reframe Fab.
It's just a bit of harmless fun and if you're taking it too seriously, like others have said, take a break from here. |
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I think an activity where you're putting yourself forward like we do here has the potential to lower your mood.
I'm huge advocate of protecting your self esteem where possible. Even the most secure of us need to realise when we need to temporarily remove ourselves from the arena.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As other have said it sounds like you need to take a break.
You’re also looking for a very specific thing which limits your chances on here. I’m not saying change what you’re looking for but maybe lower expectations a bit because what you are looking for will only appeal to a very small number of people. |
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"Thank you all for your comments,your all saying what i know myself really i just wanted to know i wasn't alone in how i feel "
Definitely not alone!
As others have said, when I find this place impacting my sense of self then I take a break and come back to it when I can treat it as a bit of entertainment once more. |
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"As other have said it sounds like you need to take a break.
You’re also looking for a very specific thing which limits your chances on here. I’m not saying change what you’re looking for but maybe lower expectations a bit because what you are looking for will only appeal to a very small number of people."
This, very much so, OP. Also, out of that small group of people, some may not like that you are married and playing away.
Anyway, good luck to you, OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP your profile is okay and you explain what you’re looking for unfortunately, and this will be the case for many, it’s not what we want. Don’t take it as a rejection but rather a mismatch. |
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Yes – it's massively, gigantically depressing. There's only so much rejection anyone can take. It would grind anyone down eventually.
If it's affecting you too badly, take a break. You can always come back when you're feeling more equipped to deal with what it does to your self-esteem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I first started on this site two years ago it was very frustrating at the Covid thing kicked in. I've had a few meets in the interval and I've learnt to not take it too seriously. The ladies are getting bombarded with messages so they can pick and choose whom to respond to. My self-esteem is good so I don't worry about rejection. It can be somewhat frustrating when messages don't even get read. But this is a no-strings, no-obligation site and it's best to be regarded as a bit of an exploration into the possibility of meeting a suitable playmate rather than an absolute guarantee. I have left the site several times in frustration but now choose to not get frustrated and simply step back from it and then return a few weeks later. |
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Sorry you're feeling that way, OP. This place can be tough, but try not to take it to heart (easier said than done, I know)
Remember there's a great big wide world out there beyond Fab to meet people in too! |
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