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By *lirtyAndFun OP Couple over a year ago

Rushden

Which do you find easier with a stranger, going for a drink/lunch or going straight to meet for sex?

I'm actually more anxious about socials, I'm genuinely shy at first & small talk or flirting can be tricky, whereas sex I'm more confident in myself. Am I mad lol?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like a social even only for the kids at the end. A kiss is the key to a sex meet

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By *lirtyAndFun OP Couple over a year ago

Rushden

Ooo yeah, I do like a good kiss.

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By *occerstar579Man over a year ago

Harrogate

"I like a social even only for the kids at the end. A kiss is the key to a sex meet "

That's one hell of a social that ends up with kids?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Which do you find easier with a stranger, going for a drink/lunch or going straight to meet for sex?

I'm actually more anxious about socials, I'm genuinely shy at first & small talk or flirting can be tricky, whereas sex I'm more confident in myself. Am I mad lol?"

You’re not mad at all, I can totally relate to this !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Socials

See if theym confident in the flesh.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS over a year ago

Bristol

I definitely prefer a social, or at the least to have been having a good conversation online. Meeting strangers has it's thrills but I always worry about my safety.

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By *od ThrusterMan over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

"Which do you find easier with a stranger, going for a drink/lunch or going straight to meet for sex?

I'm actually more anxious about socials, I'm genuinely shy at first & small talk or flirting can be tricky, whereas sex I'm more confident in myself. Am I mad lol?"

I'm quite similar, a clothes off meet often goes less awkwardly to my mind. I suppose it depends how much of a rapport you've built up before meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like a social, we can see if we get along and get to know each other’s likes, dislikes and boundaries

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m exactly the same. I’m a swinger who can’t socialise in a group! Now there’s a conundrum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t like socials at all, too datey. Makes me shudder to think of it

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By *rettyflamingoWoman over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I like a social you can never be sure if there is that sexual connection and attraction until you meet face to face.

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By *etro1940sCouple over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

erotic sex please .. we are flirt, touch, kiss and fuck kind of people who enjoy a good conversation as well x Anne

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Socials aren’t for us. We don’t have a lot of free time so we prefer to get straight to the sex.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

I get very nervous for a social and then chat absolute rubbish.

Mrs

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By *roticknotsMan over a year ago

Halifax

Social first all the way born with the Northern gift of the gab and have no issues chatting face to face if anything I prefer it as I struggle to get across what I actually mean in text and end up sounding short or aggressive x

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By *abasaurus RexMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I like a social even only for the kids at the end. A kiss is the key to a sex meet "

Not going to lie, I don’t think I could commit at that level after one social.

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By *roticknotsMan over a year ago

Halifax

It should have been asked extroverts or introverts hahaha

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By *lipandSlide777Couple over a year ago

Bideford

Always have a social now first unless it's someone we know or have met.

Had a bad meet on my single profile, deleted everything till I met J, he gave me my confidence back.

Took me a good 7months to come back to swinging, now we only meet together, my solo days are gone.

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By *abasaurus RexMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Which do you find easier with a stranger, going for a drink/lunch or going straight to meet for sex?

I'm actually more anxious about socials, I'm genuinely shy at first & small talk or flirting can be tricky, whereas sex I'm more confident in myself. Am I mad lol?"

Prefer a social first personally, but if it clicks then rolling into sex is great. People are different in the flesh and when there’s no sexual chemistry the sex isn’t as good.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am the same with both, I get a bit nervous for the first few minutes, then I relax and my true self comes out.

Happy with both

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By *aked2sumCouple over a year ago

Coast

Socials all day long has to be a connection before any fun for us

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By *rad670Man over a year ago

South Lakes

I've done more socials before meets than just a meet and the nerves can be exactly the same, I do prefer the social first with no presumtions, if it then leads to more on that occasion then bonus.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on my mood... sometimes I like a social sometimes I just want to get down to the action

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I cant be arsed with either these days

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Neither ha as can't get either on here.

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By *reat me rightWoman over a year ago

Rotherham

I usually meet for sex get down to business so to speak

Sometimes though I just feel like a social- I've made thar pretty clear recently but judging by the messages coming back the other party isn't convinced that's what I mean

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Both would be challenging nowadays.

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I prefer a social first,if I can't chat to someone and get on with them in person than there is no way I want to take it farther with them.

It's a great way to meet with no pressure of taking it farther if you aren't feeling the attraction or chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like a social but more often than not they end up in bed anyway, both can be awkward in their own way...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the point is that a social is a key component of the "vetting" process, if there's no connection then the sex is probably not going to happen.

That said I much, much, much prefer the sex meets after all the "vetting" is out the way

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By *otBrunetteHimCouple over a year ago

birmingham

"Which do you find easier with a stranger, going for a drink/lunch or going straight to meet for sex?

I'm actually more anxious about socials, I'm genuinely shy at first & small talk or flirting can be tricky, whereas sex I'm more confident in myself. Am I mad lol?"

If we’ve spoken enough before had we’d be happy to skip the social and get in to the fun. But if it was something that the 3rd person insisted on the. It wouldn’t be a problem either

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By * and R cple4Couple over a year ago

swansea

We love socials it’s a great way to have a flirt with people see if theirs a connection..

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By *rettyflamingoWoman over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"We love socials it’s a great way to have a flirt with people see if theirs a connection.."

Same here

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By *JandCMCouple over a year ago

cardiff

We are in the process of sorting our first mmf.

The wife is up for it n she has no interest in meeting the M before had, just wants to meet him on the day n get down to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A purely social meet feels like it has more pressure on it than a meet where we are looking to play. Maybe we are just more awkward with our clothes on lol.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

A social that leads to bit of hanky panky! If the feelings right? I have a new meet tomoz coffee and cake in a t shop and who knows! X

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By *KG12Couple over a year ago

Burnley

Socials are definitely easier, and it's a good way of determining compatability. We have said we will always do a social before it goes further.

Unless we grow some cahonas and visit a club x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a single I've only met one person to jump straight in and it was awkward and I asked him to leave

so yeah, socials are better for me.

When I met as a couple jumping straight in was ok, I think because he was there I felt more comfortable.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS over a year ago

doncaster

"I like a social even only for the kids at the end. A kiss is the key to a sex meet

That's one hell of a social that ends up with kids?"
fast cat eh hahaha

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

I'm not particularly interested in socials. I can have as many of those as I want with my vanilla friends. What I can't have with them is instant, anonymous NSA sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends

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By *romagefraisWoman over a year ago

Sunderland

"I'm not particularly interested in socials. I can have as many of those as I want with my vanilla friends. What I can't have with them is instant, anonymous NSA sex. "

This is exactly it for me.

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By *ustforfun69999Man over a year ago

Telford

Either is good but sometimes just meet and have passionate raw sex is all that is needed

Can always chat afterward before you go again

But agree with previous comments re kissing- that’s the biggest turn on for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just sex is easier as you both there for that reason..

How ever i like a social as a connection can lead to better sex in long run

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

You're certainly not mad. You're just you. We want a social first, but we don't claim sanity.

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By *ustforfun69999Man over a year ago

Telford

Agree with that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We personally wouldn’t mind a social but for us time is precious and it would always have to lead to a meet

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By *r SensualMan over a year ago

London

Social first so we can see if there’s chemistry, whenever this has happened the 2nd meet that has resulted in sex usually has been electric

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to start with a social and if we like each other, end up in bed together

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By *ampWithABrainWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

I like to do a social first as much for the safety aspect as anything else but certainly also to see if we actually click in person. I have found that if that goes well it tends to bode well for the sex. Plus I can’t handle awkward silences so I need to know that won’t be happening!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I definitely prefer a social first!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t like socials at all, too datey. Makes me shudder to think of it

What do you prefer?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Socials are easy, I’m up for a good laugh and chat, that’s far easier then just turning up and taking my clothes off. It’s a social that makes the next sexy bit a lot easier if you get along.

However, getting a social seems to be a lot harder than finding just a meet to fuck on here.

FAF?

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman over a year ago

Wherever

I have ever only done the social part so far and I can’t imagine not having one beforehand.

But I always find it awkward in 1:1 situations because of my insecurities and language barrier, so I stick to fab organised ones and it works the best for me.

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By *lexV16Man over a year ago

Welling

"I like to start with a social and if we like each other, end up in bed together"

Exactly this. Not ruling out sex on the same meet however from experience sex is much better with a bit of knowing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like to start with a social and if we like each other, end up in bed together

Exactly this. Not ruling out sex on the same meet however from experience sex is much better with a bit of knowing "

I'll already have spoken to them a few times before the social so will already know them to a degree. The social is just a way to break the ice on the day and make sure you're both happy to get naked together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely not straight into sex.

Social first, we like chatting, having a few drinks and a flirt and see where it goes, much less pressure this way.

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Social is a must for us jumping straight in to sex has never been for us.

We do enjoy just randomly chatting people on the beach, in swinger bars and clubs and getting to see if there is a connection for all.

Sometime we play sometime we don't.

We have found constant chat on here then a a meet tends not to work, well not in our case. Too many times we arranged to meet and one of the other couple (usually the guy) had an expectation that it was a given that we were all going to fuck.

We will only do that if we both like the other couple and vice versa. Simple as this neither of us will have sex with someone we don't fancy or are attracted too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only socials I sometimes get anxious about are ones with whom you've spoke so much to prior, gotten to know much of their life prior to even meeting that when you do meets, it can sometimes be tough to conjure up initial conversation because you've already spoken about so much prior. But Once that initial hiccup goes, socials are amazing, and definitely lead to much more amazing time together intimately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only socials I sometimes get anxious about are ones with whom you've spoke so much to prior, gotten to know much of their life prior to even meeting that when you do meets....."

We found many couples in this type of situation were also nothing like what their online chat portrayed.... full of chat and ideas online and nothing much to say offline lol

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By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

Socials because that’s all I’ve been on never met for sex

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

We love socials, but jumping straight into sex is certainly ‘easier’. A good social requires rapport, charm and good humour, whereas good sex just requires willingness and enthusiasm.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Meets for sure

Will do a social perhaps after a good meet but time is precious and not wasting it on those who only want to chat and do nothing else

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By *..WillowCouple over a year ago

East Lincs

"Socials aren’t for us. We don’t have a lot of free time so we prefer to get straight to the sex."

Exactly like this. Much prefer to go to a club and have a chat and giggle then down to it if there is a connection.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sex would be nice, don't get enough time for socials

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By *rispyDuckMan over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Was anxious about big group socials till attended my 1st recently

Now feel fine with either just a social or straight into game of 'hide the sausage' haha

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By *asycouple1971Couple over a year ago

midlands

Planning on having a social soon with several men that want to meet for a gang bang in September.

Going to be 3 men and me and my wife in a pub or cafe having a chat then meet for a play next month.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I enjoy flirty socials... Greetings a little tiddly and snogging

Much better than sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why complicate things?! Just meet up...have chat,giggles...if there is attraction,go and enjoy yourselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I enjoy flirty socials... Greetings a little tiddly and snogging

Much better than sex

Much better than sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I enjoy flirty socials... Greetings a little tiddly and snogging

Much better than sex

Much better than sex?

The whole anticipation is much more thrilling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I enjoy flirty socials... Greetings a little tiddly and snogging

Much better than sex

Much better than sex?

The whole anticipation is much more thrilling"

Well...me personally (Liz) I like everything together. Anticipation,giggles,and sex too...

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By *armandwet50Couple over a year ago

Far far away

agree with this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I enjoy flirty socials... Greetings a little tiddly and snogging

Much better than sex

Much better than sex?

The whole anticipation is much more thrilling

Well...me personally (Liz) I like everything together. Anticipation,giggles,and sex too..."

When I used to meet men. They were brilliant at the social and flirting - but lousy in the sexual department.. I've just been unlucky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Which do you find easier with a stranger, going for a drink/lunch or going straight to meet for sex?

I'm actually more anxious about socials, I'm genuinely shy at first & small talk or flirting can be tricky, whereas sex I'm more confident in myself. Am I mad lol?"

No you’re not mad at all. Im the same.

I can do sex but struggle with social lol.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman over a year ago

outside belfast x

Depends really the vibe I get off people determines how I feel about just meeting for a quick bunk up or a social for two just to see if there is an actual connection....but with a bunk up it would definitely be a hit or miss....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not fussed just good company

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I enjoy flirty socials... Greetings a little tiddly and snogging

Much better than sex

Much better than sex?

The whole anticipation is much more thrilling

Well...me personally (Liz) I like everything together. Anticipation,giggles,and sex too...

When I used to meet men. They were brilliant at the social and flirting - but lousy in the sexual department.. I've just been unlucky

It all depends on a company...

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By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

"Planning on having a social soon with several men that want to meet for a gang bang in September.

Going to be 3 men and me and my wife in a pub or cafe having a chat then meet for a play next month."

Lucky buggers

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By *ausage1970Man over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Wow would it not be fun to do it the opposite way around

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