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By *ob.Skye OP Man
over a year ago
Wisbech |
So after a work night out last week, a colleague let me know how much she fancied me. We did a lot of flirting over text and sent each other a few pics. We met up today for a quick fumble which I was super excited for.
She was rubbing my cock and eventually got on her knees and started sucking. I was really disappointed! It was so soft and lame I could barely feel it. She sucked me off for a good 20 minutes but I was nowhere near close to cumming. I had to make excuses and left without an orgasm.
She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice? |
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Give her constructive guidance. I had a girlfriend that was bad at it but she enjoyed doing it. I told her things I liked as she was doing it and before long she gave incredible bjs.
Just don’t tell her she’s bad at it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So after a work night out last week, a colleague let me know how much she fancied me. We did a lot of flirting over text and sent each other a few pics. We met up today for a quick fumble which I was super excited for.
She was rubbing my cock and eventually got on her knees and started sucking. I was really disappointed! It was so soft and lame I could barely feel it. She sucked me off for a good 20 minutes but I was nowhere near close to cumming. I had to make excuses and left without an orgasm.
She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?"
Try telling her how you like it, I expect she was doing what she thought you would like |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Give her constructive guidance. I had a girlfriend that was bad at it but she enjoyed doing it. I told her things I liked as she was doing it and before long she gave incredible bjs.
Just don’t tell her she’s bad at it "
This! Give her some guidance after all not all men like it the same way! |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"So after a work night out last week, a colleague let me know how much she fancied me. We did a lot of flirting over text and sent each other a few pics. We met up today for a quick fumble which I was super excited for.
She was rubbing my cock and eventually got on her knees and started sucking. I was really disappointed! It was so soft and lame I could barely feel it. She sucked me off for a good 20 minutes but I was nowhere near close to cumming. I had to make excuses and left without an orgasm.
She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?"
I don’t understand why you couldn’t just ask for what you needed to make it good for you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t have gone 20 minutes or not saying anything if I wasn’t enjoying it and surely there were other things you could have done? Did you do anything for her as it seems selfish to me what you did if not!
Personally I’ve never been told I give a bad bj quite the opposite in fact I know what I’m doing but sometimes even when I think that I still get guidance because some men don’t like it hard, deep or rough  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Give me her number and I’ll train her up like the good little cock sucker she was meant to be "
Then she probably realise that he isn’t worth her skills then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP.. how was it left? Are you likely to be arranging to see her again?
How old was she?
Yes you definitely need to guide & help her know how to do it better. It's easier if younger as it could be a bit trickier if she's used to doing it a certain way hasn't realised not every guy likes it the same way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbf I heard most women don't like giving bjs let alone doing it for over 20 minutes lol"
That does seem to be the case. I actually really enjoy giving BJ's and easily longer than 20mins but I hear from guys thats unusual? |
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Just ask her to do it the way that brings you pleasure.
I have to tell loads of guys how I prefer them to play with me.
Although most guys like to think they are expert lovers my experience tends to show otherwise.
Some are happy to oblige some just get the hump.  |
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"So after a work night out last week, a colleague let me know how much she fancied me. We did a lot of flirting over text and sent each other a few pics. We met up today for a quick fumble which I was super excited for.
She was rubbing my cock and eventually got on her knees and started sucking. I was really disappointed! It was so soft and lame I could barely feel it. She sucked me off for a good 20 minutes but I was nowhere near close to cumming. I had to make excuses and left without an orgasm.
She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?"
This is the point I usually say “I really need to fuck you now”, to move things on without any awkwardness, or potentially hurting her feelings. I rarely cum from a bj, 2017 was the last time, but I do enjoy my cock being sucked! It’s just not that often a woman will take me over that edge.
Definitely ask to meet your friend again though, she sounds like fun….. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What didn’t work for you may work for someone else. She’s not a mind reader. It’s like women we all don’t like to be licked the same. "
TLDR version communication is key op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you just sit there for 20 minutes while she sucked you off? Had she had much to drink? Why didn't you stop her and give her some oral?"
Someone had to man the phones and reply to work emails |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not even that big a fan of blow jobs. I mean don't get me wrong, I don't dislike them, but I always find my thoughts wandering. I don't know why I do this, because I don't ever do it with any other sexual act. I know many women enjoy giving them, so if they get turned on by them, then in turn, I'm turned on by the woman being turned on, but not the specific act of it.
Not even sure what my point is lol, except I can take them or leave them.
Probably should be a different thread this comment |
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By *ob.Skye OP Man
over a year ago
Wisbech |
Why so much hate?! So many assumptions here regarding whether she wanted to do it for so long etc. I’m not here to justify what happened; just wanted a bit of advice.
For the record, sucking me off is all she wanted to do! |
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"Advice-Save her 10 minutes of shite sex and don't go back there. I can imagine what she's telling her mates about you after the experience. "
I even wrote a story about my bad experience...wonder if she go that far to do that lol |
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"Why so much hate?! So many assumptions here regarding whether she wanted to do it for so long etc. I’m not here to justify what happened; just wanted a bit of advice.
For the record, sucking me off is all she wanted to do!"
Pathetic people like to troll threads to make themselves sound more superior than others, just ignore the hate posts and take the good advice which some decent fabbers will give you. Personally I would just tell her how you like it done, if you guys don't have sexual chemistry, call it a day. Plenty fish in the sea. As she might be a great lover for someone else. Vice versa |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Give her constructive guidance. I had a girlfriend that was bad at it but she enjoyed doing it. I told her things I liked as she was doing it and before long she gave incredible bjs.
Just don’t tell her she’s bad at it "
Exactly this.
What might have worked for a previous partner, doesn't work for you.
The way you describe it, I think I may well enjoy.
Make some sounds of pleasure, then guide her, oh gawd yeah, a little more suction please.
Nobody is born an expert. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had the same met a girl bj and sex was terrible not sure why I met her again and bj and sex was better this time first time she hardly had her mouth around my cock second time she sucked it properly |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
"So after a work night out last week, a colleague let me know how much she fancied me. We did a lot of flirting over text and sent each other a few pics. We met up today for a quick fumble which I was super excited for.
She was rubbing my cock and eventually got on her knees and started sucking. I was really disappointed! It was so soft and lame I could barely feel it. She sucked me off for a good 20 minutes but I was nowhere near close to cumming. I had to make excuses and left without an orgasm.
She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?"
Just be grateful she put your cock in her mouth. It's more than most men get. |
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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago
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I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.
I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x |
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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.
I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x"
It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask? |
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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago
Where the flamboyance of flamingos live |
"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.
I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x
It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?"
It’s all about licking and not sucking of the clit x |
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"So after a work night out last week, a colleague let me know how much she fancied me. We did a lot of flirting over text and sent each other a few pics. We met up today for a quick fumble which I was super excited for.
She was rubbing my cock and eventually got on her knees and started sucking. I was really disappointed! It was so soft and lame I could barely feel it. She sucked me off for a good 20 minutes but I was nowhere near close to cumming. I had to make excuses and left without an orgasm.
She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?
This is the point I usually say “I really need to fuck you now”, to move things on without any awkwardness, or potentially hurting her feelings. I rarely cum from a bj, 2017 was the last time, but I do enjoy my cock being sucked! It’s just not that often a woman will take me over that edge.
Definitely ask to meet your friend again though, she sounds like fun….. "
You sound like a challenge to try and make cum he he |
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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.
I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x
It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?
It’s all about licking and not sucking of the clit x "
Flicking the clit! |
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"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.
I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x
It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?
It’s all about licking and not sucking of the clit x "
In my experience some women like both  |
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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago
Where the flamboyance of flamingos live |
"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.
I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x
It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?
It’s all about licking and not sucking of the clit x
In my experience some women like both "
True but I’m not some woman I’m me x |
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"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.
I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x
It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?
It’s all about licking and not sucking of the clit x
In my experience some women like both
True but I’m not some woman I’m me x"
Well I can’t dispute that can I? |
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