we planning on having couples back to ours which we have not done before- when we have gone to others we have emailed- maybe quick chat on phone and then go to theirs when arranged- this is what we liked to do- some ask for a meet at a pub before hand which we not too sure of any suggestions? or is it a case our house our invite our rules? |
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"we planning on having couples back to ours which we have not done before- when we have gone to others we have emailed- maybe quick chat on phone and then go to theirs when arranged- this is what we liked to do- some ask for a meet at a pub before hand which we not too sure of any suggestions? or is it a case our house our invite our rules?"
Unless both of them are sub, you're likely to put people off if you do adopt the 'our rules' stance. What we say to everyone coming to us, is 'we can meet a nice pub nearby if you like, or you can come here. If you come to us, we have no expectations, if YOU aren't happy then all you have to do is day so, and we can make it just a social evening'. Seems to work, cos we have shagged everyone who's been here so far!
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"we planning on having couples back to ours which we have not done before- when we have gone to others we have emailed- maybe quick chat on phone and then go to theirs when arranged- this is what we liked to do- some ask for a meet at a pub before hand which we not too sure of any suggestions? or is it a case our house our invite our rules?Unless both of them are sub, you're likely to put people off if you do adopt the 'our rules' stance. What we say to everyone coming to us, is 'we can meet a nice pub nearby if you like, or you can come here. If you come to us, we have no expectations, if YOU aren't happy then all you have to do is day so, and we can make it just a social evening'. Seems to work, cos we have shagged everyone who's been here so far!
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"we planning on having couples back to ours which we have not done before- when we have gone to others we have emailed- maybe quick chat on phone and then go to theirs when arranged- this is what we liked to do- some ask for a meet at a pub before hand which we not too sure of any suggestions? or is it a case our house our invite our rules?Unless both of them are sub, you're likely to put people off if you do adopt the 'our rules' stance. What we say to everyone coming to us, is 'we can meet a nice pub nearby if you like, or you can come here. If you come to us, we have no expectations, if YOU aren't happy then all you have to do is day so, and we can make it just a social evening'. Seems to work, cos we have shagged everyone who's been here so far!
Waits for invite...... Guess it's in the post "
;-) .......... Never know what you'll get for Crimbo, do ya.....? 
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what do you mean by your rules, as in your rules in what happens during play?
If I go to people's homes then I obviously treat them with respect as I would my own home. I wouldnt go wandering around etc, or just go into the kitchen and make a drink. That to me is being rude.
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"we planning on having couples back to ours which we have not done before- when we have gone to others we have emailed- maybe quick chat on phone and then go to theirs when arranged- this is what we liked to do- some ask for a meet at a pub before hand which we not too sure of any suggestions? or is it a case our house our invite our rules?"
If you don't want to meet in a public place initially then don't
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It's ok to have your own rules/boundaries, and then to find people who match with you. If you're flexible, then you may change things as you get more experience of trying things out.
Otherwise, I'd really ensure that the people you're meeting are right for you, before you lead them to your home. I don't meet to sound patronising, but there are occasionally some less than honest or fully reputable people about.
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"we planning on having couples back to ours which we have not done before- when we have gone to others we have emailed- maybe quick chat on phone and then go to theirs when arranged- this is what we liked to do- some ask for a meet at a pub before hand which we not too sure of any suggestions? or is it a case our house our invite our rules?"
Your house your rules as long as they are fair and not draconian ones. |
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"we planning on having couples back to ours which we have not done before- when we have gone to others we have emailed- maybe quick chat on phone and then go to theirs when arranged- this is what we liked to do- some ask for a meet at a pub before hand which we not too sure of any suggestions? or is it a case our house our invite our rules?Unless both of them are sub, you're likely to put people off if you do adopt the 'our rules' stance. What we say to everyone coming to us, is 'we can meet a nice pub nearby if you like, or you can come here. If you come to us, we have no expectations, if YOU aren't happy then all you have to do is day so, and we can make it just a social evening'. Seems to work, cos we have shagged everyone who's been here so far!
Oh we want a shag can you invite us please "
If you ask nicely..... Lol!
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