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Should men message first ?
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I wonder if we'd be better off not messaging till we are messaged .
1/ Reason being it would stop women and couples being plagued by unwanted messages.
2/ It would give them more time to look for what they want.
3/ Those that make an effort with their profile might stand more of a chance and not get mixed into the bulk delete.
What are your thoughts ? |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"I wonder if we'd be better off not messaging till we are messaged .
1/ Reason being it would stop women and couples being plagued by unwanted messages.
2/ It would give them more time to look for what they want.
3/ Those that make an effort with their profile might stand more of a chance and not get mixed into the bulk delete.
What are your thoughts ?"
Sounds good. Do it  |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
Get where you are coming from OP few issues might be:
-Some ladies like the man to make the 1st move & take the lead
-Some ladies won't message 1st cause they fear rejection
-Like someone said 'ladies & couples can always change their message filters so they get to message 1st if they fancy'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get where you are coming from OP few issues might be:
-Some ladies like the man to make the 1st move & take the lead
-Some ladies won't message 1st cause they fear rejection
-Like someone said 'ladies & couples can always change their message filters so they get to message 1st if they fancy' "
This |
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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"I wonder if we'd be better off not messaging till we are messaged .
1/ Reason being it would stop women and couples being plagued by unwanted messages.
2/ It would give them more time to look for what they want.
3/ Those that make an effort with their profile might stand more of a chance and not get mixed into the bulk delete.
What are your thoughts ?"
Be alot of men sat with their fingers up their ass waiting to be messaged,me included  |
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"I think it should be if you like and are interested in someone ..message them ..that goes for men and women ..whats the worse that will happen  "
What happens is guys bombard a new female as ‘fresh opportunity’ which most likely scare them off.
Yes in perfect world 100% agree but with the hard truths of there are more guys than women on this site, limiting guys from spamming every female with a pulse, it allows a more enjoying experience for women.
So by having a way to stop guys messaging unless female winks or messages first resolves that.
But I expect nothing will actively change |
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"I do wish more women did message first "
Maybe they do but you might not be what they’re looking for? Lots of guys on here for far fewer ladies to choose from so the odds are stacked against you to begin with. In a way, fab is no different from the real world as women in general wouldn’t make first contact in a bar either, unless you have a different experience? |
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It's not time that stops me messaging first, it's trawling through the search list for even one profile worth messaging.
Sometimes it's worth the boredom and page after page for that one profile that resonates.
We may get 'bombarded' but it takes a lot less time than you'd think to click through their profile and message and delete to allow us to focus on meaningful communication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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op why do you beleive us women dont message first ??? just because you recieved none dont mean we dont
us women are not the reserved little shy things you hope we are ...if i see a profile i like i message its that simple know plenty other women do the same...
i like a full inbox because it gives me a chance to pr block those im defo not interested in |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"It's not time that stops me messaging first, it's trawling through the search list for even one profile worth messaging.
Sometimes it's worth the boredom and page after page for that one profile that resonates.
We may get 'bombarded' but it takes a lot less time than you'd think to click through their profile and message and delete to allow us to focus on meaningful communication. "
Waves to get your attention ....im over here ..no need to troll though profiles   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We just wish guys would read our profile properly first before messaging ... most don't and they send messages that really are not going to result in anything more than the delete button being hit. |
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"It's not time that stops me messaging first, it's trawling through the search list for even one profile worth messaging.
Sometimes it's worth the boredom and page after page for that one profile that resonates.
We may get 'bombarded' but it takes a lot less time than you'd think to click through their profile and message and delete to allow us to focus on meaningful communication. "
Yes when i go hunting, I literally go through pages of unsuitables. It's total mindfield. |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
south east |
"It's not time that stops me messaging first, it's trawling through the search list for even one profile worth messaging.
Sometimes it's worth the boredom and page after page for that one profile that resonates.
We may get 'bombarded' but it takes a lot less time than you'd think to click through their profile and message and delete to allow us to focus on meaningful communication.
Yes when i go hunting, I literally go through pages of unsuitables. It's total mindfield."
WAVESSSS |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"I wonder if we'd be better off not messaging till we are messaged .
1/ Reason being it would stop women and couples being plagued by unwanted messages.
2/ It would give them more time to look for what they want.
3/ Those that make an effort with their profile might stand more of a chance and not get mixed into the bulk delete.
What are your thoughts ?"
Well if you're going to opt out I'll opt in only fair one way to cut the numbers down  |
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