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"Good luck dont fancy your chances. Women can get asked alot to go to clubs. As its harder and more expensive for a single fella going to clubs it can feel abit like just want an easey in. Also Id have no idea how someone would behave once inside. Your best putting your big boy pants on for this one. "May have to I might just leave it lol Figure I'll try it out.... Its debatable x | |||
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"Like the above poster I think you will be lucky to find a volunteer. But no harm in asking, good luck. What I did want to say is just go for it. You will be absolutely fine, I mean whats the worst that can happen? I know its daunting, but take the plunge and you will at least know. Many guys have been here before you. Once you are in be friendly and respectful and you will find people on the whole with be the same. Go there with sensible expectations. All the best and have fun!" Thank you God know what I'm gonna walk into Have to try it!! | |||
"Like the above poster I think you will be lucky to find a volunteer. But no harm in asking, good luck. What I did want to say is just go for it. You will be absolutely fine, I mean whats the worst that can happen? I know its daunting, but take the plunge and you will at least know. Many guys have been here before you. Once you are in be friendly and respectful and you will find people on the whole with be the same. Go there with sensible expectations. All the best and have fun! Thank you God know what I'm gonna walk into Have to try it!! " Hope you do. Cant say for them all but check the site of the place your thinking of visiting in advance though to see if/what any requirements are needed. Im sure some of the clubs entry is pre paid and Im guessing if so the single guys spaces go quicker. Let us know how it goes. | |||
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"Pick a club and a date. Put a post up in here. Make connections. Chat to people Then you'll know people there on the night to chat to. I would never go with a stranger to a club but I'd definitely connect on here and chat at the club. " Its such a bloody obvious thing to do, why the flipityflip did that not occur to me when i went for the first time lol | |||
"Like the above poster I think you will be lucky to find a volunteer. But no harm in asking, good luck. What I did want to say is just go for it. You will be absolutely fine, I mean whats the worst that can happen? I know its daunting, but take the plunge and you will at least know. Many guys have been here before you. Once you are in be friendly and respectful and you will find people on the whole with be the same. Go there with sensible expectations. All the best and have fun! Thank you God know what I'm gonna walk into Have to try it!! " What do you think you are going to walk in to ? It depends on what type of club you are visiting...but it won't be a naked orgy  . Why not contact the club and ask about what to expect. As a newbie you would be given a tour of the club and chance to ask questions about how you should behave or any tips. Be polite, friendly and stick to the rules and you'll have a great night. | |||
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"Confidence is attractive. Men don’t need their hand holding. " It’s surprising how lacking in real confidence many guys are. | |||
"Confidence is attractive. Men don’t need their hand holding. It’s surprising how lacking in real confidence many guys are. " Yep. I am. Learning to suck it up and fake confidence now. If people believe I'm confident, they act differently to me, which makes me feel confident. It's hard though. | |||
"Confidence is attractive. Men don’t need their hand holding. It’s surprising how lacking in real confidence many guys are. Yep. I am. Learning to suck it up and fake confidence now. If people believe I'm confident, they act differently to me, which makes me feel confident. It's hard though. " All the worlds a stage and all the men and women on it merely players. Believe it and be it. | |||
"Confidence is attractive. Men don’t need their hand holding. It’s surprising how lacking in real confidence many guys are. " I don’t lack confidence in the ‘real world’, but I found the club scene to be extremely hard work as a single guy, to the point that I gave up on it. Possibly I could have been more forward to others, but it’s difficult to approach strangers when most of the time they hang out in their little groups. Wandering around a club, you have to walk a line between being curious to see what is going on, in a friendly, but not letchy way, fully aware you do look like ‘Billy no mates’ because you made that step to visit by yourself, not knowing a soul inside. Club hosts tend to look after the single ladies and couples, and just keep an eye on single guys to ensure they’re not offending others, rather than including them. I’ve always enjoyed club visits with a female playmate though, for some reason I appear to have more appeal as part of a couple…… | |||
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"Think you’ll be very lucky to get any response but having just done my first club visit on my own as a single guy I’ll give you a few tips..: 1) Don’t have any expectations to play, think you actually won’t and just enjoy the atmosphere 2) Let the staff know, they’ll show you round and talk to you 3) Introduce yourself to people - They have gone to meet others, be polite, get talking 4) Don’t sit on your own, don’t follow people about and most of all don’t be a cock zombie, couples hate it, women too My first experience was loads of nerves, tentative, but gut talking, relaxed and afterwards I thought why was I pressuring myself…" All of this | |||
"Think you’ll be very lucky to get any response but having just done my first club visit on my own as a single guy I’ll give you a few tips..: 1) Don’t have any expectations to play, think you actually won’t and just enjoy the atmosphere 2) Let the staff know, they’ll show you round and talk to you 3) Introduce yourself to people - They have gone to meet others, be polite, get talking 4) Don’t sit on your own, don’t follow people about and most of all don’t be a cock zombie, couples hate it, women too My first experience was loads of nerves, tentative, but gut talking, relaxed and afterwards I thought why was I pressuring myself…" Well said. | |||
"Think you’ll be very lucky to get any response but having just done my first club visit on my own as a single guy I’ll give you a few tips..: 1) Don’t have any expectations to play, think you actually won’t and just enjoy the atmosphere 2) Let the staff know, they’ll show you round and talk to you 3) Introduce yourself to people - They have gone to meet others, be polite, get talking 4) Don’t sit on your own, don’t follow people about and most of all don’t be a cock zombie, couples hate it, women too My first experience was loads of nerves, tentative, but gut talking, relaxed and afterwards I thought why was I pressuring myself…" Hi mate, really pleased to hear you had such a positive first time club visit! Whether you're lucky enough to be invited to play or not, feeling welcome as a single guy is the very least I 'expect' from any club visit  | |||
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"Confidence is attractive. Men don’t need their hand holding. It’s surprising how lacking in real confidence many guys are. Yep. I am. Learning to suck it up and fake confidence now. If people believe I'm confident, they act differently to me, which makes me feel confident. It's hard though. All the worlds a stage and all the men and women on it merely players. Believe it and be it. " this for me too... fake it till you make it | |||
"Think you’ll be very lucky to get any response but having just done my first club visit on my own as a single guy I’ll give you a few tips..: 1) Don’t have any expectations to play, think you actually won’t and just enjoy the atmosphere 2) Let the staff know, they’ll show you round and talk to you 3) Introduce yourself to people - They have gone to meet others, be polite, get talking 4) Don’t sit on your own, don’t follow people about and most of all don’t be a cock zombie, couples hate it, women too My first experience was loads of nerves, tentative, but gut talking, relaxed and afterwards I thought why was I pressuring myself… Hi mate, really pleased to hear you had such a positive first time club visit! Whether you're lucky enough to be invited to play or not, feeling welcome as a single guy is the very least I 'expect' from any club visit "Best advice I got was to look for a club night that’s an event in the forums, pop yourself on the list and speak politely to others going, you maybe won’t feel so isolated when you walk in… | |||
"Think you’ll be very lucky to get any response but having just done my first club visit on my own as a single guy I’ll give you a few tips..: 1) Don’t have any expectations to play, think you actually won’t and just enjoy the atmosphere 2) Let the staff know, they’ll show you round and talk to you 3) Introduce yourself to people - They have gone to meet others, be polite, get talking 4) Don’t sit on your own, don’t follow people about and most of all don’t be a cock zombie, couples hate it, women too My first experience was loads of nerves, tentative, but gut talking, relaxed and afterwards I thought why was I pressuring myself… Hi mate, really pleased to hear you had such a positive first time club visit! Whether you're lucky enough to be invited to play or not, feeling welcome as a single guy is the very least I 'expect' from any club visit
Best advice I got was to look for a club night that’s an event in the forums, pop yourself on the list and speak politely to others going, you maybe won’t feel so isolated when you walk in…"I did try that for my last club visit, which was to Club Play in December. I got my name on their guestlist, posted on their forum thread for the event that it was the first time I was going there, and hoped to meet some friendly locals? Advertised on my profile that I was attending the event etc, and also kept updating my profile status to the effect that I was looking forward to my first visit there. All to no avail! I'll look for a single, straight, white guy friendly event at Cupids though, now that the club has had an overhaul | |||
"Think you’ll be very lucky to get any response but having just done my first club visit on my own as a single guy I’ll give you a few tips..: 1) Don’t have any expectations to play, think you actually won’t and just enjoy the atmosphere 2) Let the staff know, they’ll show you round and talk to you 3) Introduce yourself to people - They have gone to meet others, be polite, get talking 4) Don’t sit on your own, don’t follow people about and most of all don’t be a cock zombie, couples hate it, women too My first experience was loads of nerves, tentative, but gut talking, relaxed and afterwards I thought why was I pressuring myself… Hi mate, really pleased to hear you had such a positive first time club visit! Whether you're lucky enough to be invited to play or not, feeling welcome as a single guy is the very least I 'expect' from any club visit
Best advice I got was to look for a club night that’s an event in the forums, pop yourself on the list and speak politely to others going, you maybe won’t feel so isolated when you walk in…
I did try that for my last club visit, which was to Club Play in December. I got my name on their guestlist, posted on their forum thread for the event that it was the first time I was going there, and hoped to meet some friendly locals? Advertised on my profile that I was attending the event etc, and also kept updating my profile status to the effect that I was looking forward to my first visit there. All to no avail! I'll look for a single, straight, white guy friendly event at Cupids though, now that the club has had an overhaul "Ahh that's shit. Glad it didn't stop you. | |||
"Think you’ll be very lucky to get any response but having just done my first club visit on my own as a single guy I’ll give you a few tips..: 1) Don’t have any expectations to play, think you actually won’t and just enjoy the atmosphere 2) Let the staff know, they’ll show you round and talk to you 3) Introduce yourself to people - They have gone to meet others, be polite, get talking 4) Don’t sit on your own, don’t follow people about and most of all don’t be a cock zombie, couples hate it, women too My first experience was loads of nerves, tentative, but gut talking, relaxed and afterwards I thought why was I pressuring myself… Hi mate, really pleased to hear you had such a positive first time club visit! Whether you're lucky enough to be invited to play or not, feeling welcome as a single guy is the very least I 'expect' from any club visit
Best advice I got was to look for a club night that’s an event in the forums, pop yourself on the list and speak politely to others going, you maybe won’t feel so isolated when you walk in…
I did try that for my last club visit, which was to Club Play in December. I got my name on their guestlist, posted on their forum thread for the event that it was the first time I was going there, and hoped to meet some friendly locals? Advertised on my profile that I was attending the event etc, and also kept updating my profile status to the effect that I was looking forward to my first visit there. All to no avail! I'll look for a single, straight, white guy friendly event at Cupids though, now that the club has had an overhaul "Maybe just how it goes some nights, still need to try politely get talking whilst being respectful, pic events you might think single guys are more welcome or clubs that are more accommodating, there’s plenty to choose from… | |||
"Think you’ll be very lucky to get any response but having just done my first club visit on my own as a single guy I’ll give you a few tips..: 1) Don’t have any expectations to play, think you actually won’t and just enjoy the atmosphere 2) Let the staff know, they’ll show you round and talk to you 3) Introduce yourself to people - They have gone to meet others, be polite, get talking 4) Don’t sit on your own, don’t follow people about and most of all don’t be a cock zombie, couples hate it, women too My first experience was loads of nerves, tentative, but gut talking, relaxed and afterwards I thought why was I pressuring myself… Hi mate, really pleased to hear you had such a positive first time club visit! Whether you're lucky enough to be invited to play or not, feeling welcome as a single guy is the very least I 'expect' from any club visit
Best advice I got was to look for a club night that’s an event in the forums, pop yourself on the list and speak politely to others going, you maybe won’t feel so isolated when you walk in…
I did try that for my last club visit, which was to Club Play in December. I got my name on their guestlist, posted on their forum thread for the event that it was the first time I was going there, and hoped to meet some friendly locals? Advertised on my profile that I was attending the event etc, and also kept updating my profile status to the effect that I was looking forward to my first visit there. All to no avail! I'll look for a single, straight, white guy friendly event at Cupids though, now that the club has had an overhaul
Ahh that's shit. Glad it didn't stop you. "I gave it a go, just wasn't the night for me | |||
"Think you’ll be very lucky to get any response but having just done my first club visit on my own as a single guy I’ll give you a few tips..: 1) Don’t have any expectations to play, think you actually won’t and just enjoy the atmosphere 2) Let the staff know, they’ll show you round and talk to you 3) Introduce yourself to people - They have gone to meet others, be polite, get talking 4) Don’t sit on your own, don’t follow people about and most of all don’t be a cock zombie, couples hate it, women too My first experience was loads of nerves, tentative, but gut talking, relaxed and afterwards I thought why was I pressuring myself… Hi mate, really pleased to hear you had such a positive first time club visit! Whether you're lucky enough to be invited to play or not, feeling welcome as a single guy is the very least I 'expect' from any club visit
Best advice I got was to look for a club night that’s an event in the forums, pop yourself on the list and speak politely to others going, you maybe won’t feel so isolated when you walk in…
I did try that for my last club visit, which was to Club Play in December. I got my name on their guestlist, posted on their forum thread for the event that it was the first time I was going there, and hoped to meet some friendly locals? Advertised on my profile that I was attending the event etc, and also kept updating my profile status to the effect that I was looking forward to my first visit there. All to no avail! I'll look for a single, straight, white guy friendly event at Cupids though, now that the club has had an overhaul
Maybe just how it goes some nights, still need to try politely get talking whilst being respectful, pic events you might think single guys are more welcome or clubs that are more accommodating, there’s plenty to choose from…"It wasn't a busy night mate, there weren't many in (whatever the guest list had 'promised'), and I did chat with two couples and a couple of single guys. I just got bored and left | |||
" What do you think you are going to walk in to ? It depends on what type of club you are visiting...but it won't be a naked orgy . "....unless you're really lucky | |||
"Think you’ll be very lucky to get any response but having just done my first club visit on my own as a single guy I’ll give you a few tips..: 1) Don’t have any expectations to play, think you actually won’t and just enjoy the atmosphere 2) Let the staff know, they’ll show you round and talk to you 3) Introduce yourself to people - They have gone to meet others, be polite, get talking 4) Don’t sit on your own, don’t follow people about and most of all don’t be a cock zombie, couples hate it, women too My first experience was loads of nerves, tentative, but gut talking, relaxed and afterwards I thought why was I pressuring myself… Hi mate, really pleased to hear you had such a positive first time club visit! Whether you're lucky enough to be invited to play or not, feeling welcome as a single guy is the very least I 'expect' from any club visit
Best advice I got was to look for a club night that’s an event in the forums, pop yourself on the list and speak politely to others going, you maybe won’t feel so isolated when you walk in…
I did try that for my last club visit, which was to Club Play in December. I got my name on their guestlist, posted on their forum thread for the event that it was the first time I was going there, and hoped to meet some friendly locals? Advertised on my profile that I was attending the event etc, and also kept updating my profile status to the effect that I was looking forward to my first visit there. All to no avail! I'll look for a single, straight, white guy friendly event at Cupids though, now that the club has had an overhaul
Maybe just how it goes some nights, still need to try politely get talking whilst being respectful, pic events you might think single guys are more welcome or clubs that are more accommodating, there’s plenty to choose from…
It wasn't a busy night mate, there weren't many in (whatever the guest list had 'promised'), and I did chat with two couples and a couple of single guys. I just got bored and left "You spoke to a few couples so as single bloke nights go that’s not a disaster by any stretch | |||
