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Some people look great in pics but in reality !!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just curious if others have had similar experiences. I know it's quite normal to build up the fantasy in your head before meeting someone. By looking at their pics and chatting to them, you conjure an image in your head of what could happen. Then when you meet them it all deflates in a matter of seconds. Then you have to plan your exit strategy so you don't offend them. I've had this happen to me a few times over the years. But occasionally it's the other way round! where someone looks so much better than their pics, It's true a personality can't be caught in a photo. But some people just come across so much better in person. I'm wondering if others have had similar experiences?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also some pics could have been an accurate match to the real life person at some point but as some pics were taken years+ ago, people leave them on the profile. You can see when they were taken so not really being tricked. |
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"Also some pics could have been an accurate match to the real life person at some point but as some pics were taken years+ ago, people leave them on the profile. You can see when they were taken so not really being tricked. "
But I could post today a pic of me aged 30. That would be deceitful and what some people do. |
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As per earlier posters this is why an initial social is advisable
Also I try and ensure prior to meeting they’ve seen an honest full length pic so no claims of “I didn’t think you looked like that” and I’m honest on profile about size/shape I know I’m not for everyone - nobody is - so good to do all you can before meeting to make compatibility more likely |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"As per earlier posters this is why an initial social is advisable
Also I try and ensure prior to meeting they’ve seen an honest full length pic so no claims of “I didn’t think you looked like that” and I’m honest on profile about size/shape I know I’m not for everyone - nobody is - so good to do all you can before meeting to make compatibility more likely "
I do pre warn about the fatness... And my profile has always said large too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always a social with a potential meet first, people can come across totally different in pics and text, might be no spark in person etc.
I'm very open that I'm curvy from the start, have met one or 2 guys that definitely lied about their age. One guy met me for coffee, came into coffee shop looked me up and down, walked straight back.out.  |
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"A few full body pics usually give a good idea, close ups of just boobs or cock can be very misleading
I would never ever send full body pics"
Think they meen a full picture showing yourself fully dressed or naked except face ov course unless your happy to do that x |
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"Always a social with a potential meet first, people can come across totally different in pics and text, might be no spark in person etc.
I'm very open that I'm curvy from the start, have met one or 2 guys that definitely lied about their age. One guy met me for coffee, came into coffee shop looked me up and down, walked straight back.out. "
That's rude he could ov least said hello and had a coffee jesus didn't have to do anything else x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always a social with a potential meet first, people can come across totally different in pics and text, might be no spark in person etc.
I'm very open that I'm curvy from the start, have met one or 2 guys that definitely lied about their age. One guy met me for coffee, came into coffee shop looked me up and down, walked straight back.out.
That's rude he could ov least said hello and had a coffee jesus didn't have to do anything else x "
He said " oh god no your not for me" and left |
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"Always a social with a potential meet first, people can come across totally different in pics and text, might be no spark in person etc.
I'm very open that I'm curvy from the start, have met one or 2 guys that definitely lied about their age. One guy met me for coffee, came into coffee shop looked me up and down, walked straight back.out.
That's rude he could ov least said hello and had a coffee jesus didn't have to do anything else x
He said " oh god no your not for me" and left"
Oh my days he could have been more tactful that's shocking ... I would have replied likewise mate haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. It's why we always meet socially first. "
Exactly, we agree with that 100%! On a couple of occasions, we've actually been sat in a bar/coffee shop and when the said person/people have come in, we didn't know it was them because they/he looked nothing like the photos on the profile? It can be awkward! |
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I dont "picturegate" any of my pics apart from colour, and sometimes use the blurr function to hover the carpet.
If we are meeting i always slip in 1 or 2 of my worst ish pics in a messages before hand...lol |
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This is why my pic are all from the last year and from different angles. I've only met one person from online that looked like their picture. Another I'd actually known for over 20 years and didn't recognise them from the pictures they sent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am much fatter than I look in my pics but I hate pics of my gut, so I don't post em"
Same as this. I always thought the camera added 10 pounds. In my case its subtracted 2 stone  |
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"Also some pics could have been an accurate match to the real life person at some point but as some pics were taken years+ ago, people leave them on the profile. You can see when they were taken so not really being tricked.
But I could post today a pic of me aged 30. That would be deceitful and what some people do."
As if you’d need to! |
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"Just curious if others have had similar experiences. I know it's quite normal to build up the fantasy in your head before meeting someone. By looking at their pics and chatting to them, you conjure an image in your head of what could happen. Then when you meet them it all deflates in a matter of seconds. Then you have to plan your exit strategy so you don't offend them. I've had this happen to me a few times over the years. But occasionally it's the other way round! where someone looks so much better than their pics, It's true a personality can't be caught in a photo. But some people just come across so much better in person. I'm wondering if others have had similar experiences??"
I'm a total catfish.
Put on a tonne of weight in last six months (chemo can go either way, mine went the wrong way).
Facial peach fuzz and moustache seem to be resilient af while the eyebrows and lashes fucked off on a holiday.
Only one tit to my name and one I have left... well, it's facing south lol
I do love good camera angles and lighting, I only post photos of myself where I look good to my own standards.
All that said...
I am completely honest with people who I intend to meet about everything that has happened and that is happening right now and I would never meet anyone for sex without meeting them socially first.
Missus |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a girl who was insecure of herself only sending pics of a certain angle, when we met she was a nervous wreck bless her..pretty girl and hell of a character but would never let the camera see it 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. It's why we always meet socially first. "
I agree, some people flat out catfish you and some just don't look that great in person despite how many pics they send (especially when they have terrible teeth) |
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My photos are mostly flattering, and my face is better than my body.
I hated the thought of misleading someone so took a nude that shows the hideous bits.
I do always have a social first though anyway. |
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By *3xDECouple
over a year ago
nottingham |
"I am much fatter than I look in my pics but I hate pics of my gut, so I don't post em"
Mrs is the same, she is very tactful with her angles and admittedly filters some of her pictures.
We also state in our bio that we don’t have slim figures so if that’s not what people are looking for that we aren’t for them!  |
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We are ugly in pictures and in real life, so not an issue. 
In reality a lot of people are self conscious about aspects of their body and won't be very forthcoming in "showing off" but it takes only a minute or so to read a profile and body type is there for all to read. Loads of people will explain in their bio's that they are one thing or another have these bits and such. Social meets and club meets help people decide on physical attraction and the personality of the person. And through experience some of the best times have been with people we subjectively wouldn't say were "perfect" looking (they weren't "ugly" by the way) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always worry about this for myself. I don't use filters etc though and been told many times I look like my pics.
I do always expect a little difference, I generally put the best photos of myself up so expect others to do the same. There's been no huge discrepancies so far lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A few full body pics usually give a good idea, close ups of just boobs or cock can be very misleading
I would never ever send full body pics
Think they meen a full picture showing yourself fully dressed or naked except face ov course unless your happy to do that x "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often wonder about this. I’m always concerned my stretch marks or my cellulite will put them off. I’d be mortified if a guy met me and was disappointed yet at the same time I only post my most flattering angles! I like to be transparent in my profile though…I’m chubbier IRL for sure! Pahahaha x |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"I often wonder about this. I’m always concerned my stretch marks or my cellulite will put them off. I’d be mortified if a guy met me and was disappointed yet at the same time I only post my most flattering angles! I like to be transparent in my profile though…I’m chubbier IRL for sure! Pahahaha x "
You def take a great photo  |
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I have seen some profile pics of gorgeous girls then I read their profile I see in bio saying they are a size 18 yet the profile pic certainly does not look anything like that of a size 18 and some pics you can even tell they are breathing in .. do people actually realise when you breathe in just at top of i think is ribcage ( I don't know the name of the bone lol ) it sticks right out does make me giggle x |
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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"I often wonder about this. I’m always concerned my stretch marks or my cellulite will put them off. I’d be mortified if a guy met me and was disappointed yet at the same time I only post my most flattering angles! I like to be transparent in my profile though…I’m chubbier IRL for sure! Pahahaha x "
Cellulite and stretch marks make a woman, shows she has lived. Beautiful profile pics btw |
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"Sorry im new to all this, how do you get invited to a group social please. I'd be very interseted in going to one. Sorry i know its not relevent to the question that was asked. Sorry. "
They are always advertised on forum hun feel free to pm me if you unsure x |
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. With all that sass I though surely she must be a super model then & her pics were alright good angles & stuff (no full length though! I missed that clue). Let's just say when we meet for the date 
yeah . What was portrayed & what was delivered 
if she was a meal iwould have sent back to the kitchen & asked for a refund lol. But I wasn't mean we stayed for our date even paid & politely said 'you are lovely but just not for me thanks' 
