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By *isser36Man
over a year ago
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Have done before and would do again with a trusted partner. I've been on and off fab for over ten years and despite what the forums might have you belive there's alot more bareback going on than you think. In those 10 years I'd say at least 70 - 80% of the woman and couples I've spoken to were willing to go bare. At the end of the day an honest upfront conversion is all it takes to establish the rules of engagement and if all are clean/tested and happy about it then why bloody not I say! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With singles, Always hats on! But, for that one regular who we get to know we went bare and our mmf’s were sooooo much better!
Couples, pretty much the same, if we stay in contact and meet regularly, depending on what we know about them (regular swingers or, like us, once in a blue moon!)
It’s been said a billion times on here but the only real “safe sex” is no sex at all   |
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We're always surprised by how trusting people are and how many believe that couples are safe. Of course we understand that there's no such thing as 100% safe sex but in swinging 100% trustworthy is no guarantee either. |
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Do people change the condoms between partners in a MFMF meet or engage in unprotected oral sex in a group scenario? This all poses an almost equal risk. If Mr goes with another woman while using a condom, then uses the same condom on his actual partner any potential infection will still carry on the condom. |
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"What are you thoughts around safe sex, would you go without condom?? xxx  "
I'd be more inclined to wear safety shoes, if you drop that bad boy on your foot you'll know about it. But each to their own  |
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"Do people change the condoms between partners in a MFMF meet or engage in unprotected oral sex in a group scenario? This all poses an almost equal risk. If Mr goes with another woman while using a condom, then uses the same condom on his actual partner any potential infection will still carry on the condom. "
If a man does not change his condom between partners there is a risk to the women involved. However it is not true to say that unprotected oral has the same risk factor |
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This kind of thread makes me pmsl evry time I see it
So many say no not for oral but yes when it penetrative sex. So can you suddenly not catch any sti from licking and sucking but only from full sex |
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I always assumed condoms protected against pregnancy and std`s but not always the case.
I`m ok bare if everyone involved is washed and douched learn`t that in basic sex education.
I use water,anti semenal based lubes.
Know your sex playmates help too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This kind of thread makes me pmsl evry time I see it
So many say no not for oral but yes when it penetrative sex. So can you suddenly not catch any sti from licking and sucking but only from full sex "
STIs can be passed on through oral sex but the risk is much lower than through penetrative sex (vaginal or anal). Also, the STIs that are the most problematic to health (hiv, syphallis) are not commonly passed on this way.
However, there is still a risk with oral, so it is worth having an STI conversation to discuss risk with partners before playing. Some people may find the risk acceptable, others not.
My own STI rules are very strict, but I will allow unprotected oral if I feel (after a frank conversation) that everyone is low risk.
Research, research, research folks!
Fay |
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"This kind of thread makes me pmsl evry time I see it
So many say no not for oral but yes when it penetrative sex. So can you suddenly not catch any sti from licking and sucking but only from full sex
STIs can be passed on through oral sex but the risk is much lower than through penetrative sex (vaginal or anal). Also, the STIs that are the most problematic to health (hiv, syphallis) are not commonly passed on this way.
However, there is still a risk with oral, so it is worth having an STI conversation to discuss risk with partners before playing. Some people may find the risk acceptable, others not.
My own STI rules are very strict, but I will allow unprotected oral if I feel (after a frank conversation) that everyone is low risk.
Research, research, research folks!
Fay "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always assumed condoms protected against pregnancy and std`s but not always the case.
I`m ok bare if everyone involved is washed and douched learn`t that in basic sex education.
I use water,anti semenal based lubes.
Know your sex playmates help too.
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I never knew that water washes away STI's. No more condoms for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always assumed condoms protected against pregnancy and std`s but not always the case.
I`m ok bare if everyone involved is washed and douched learn`t that in basic sex education.
I use water,anti semenal based lubes.
Know your sex playmates help too.
I never knew that water washes away STI's. No more condoms for me. "
Water does not wash away sti's. Please dont dispose of your condoms.
Vaginal douching actually increases the risk of getting infections including STIs (your risk of catch hiv almost doubles). Thats because douching changes the delicate balance that your vagina achieves when its left alone.
The vagina is actually incredible at taking care of itself. Leave it well alone - just clean the outside (vulva) with a little soap and water.
And use condoms.
Fay x  |
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Condoms for both oral and full sex for moi. Protected sex has become far more enjoyable after road testing a whole range of different condoms to find the perfect fit. Each to their own though it’s all down to personal choice |
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Yes risk management although not sexy is vital to protect myself and my partner. It's about a balance of risk vs enjoyment. For us that is penetrative sex with other people condom's are vital. But oral is fine without. We also get tested. It's not 100% risk free but for me/us it's the best ballance of safety Vs enjoyment of sex with other. Obviously between ourselves there are no precautions. |
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Tbh the amount of people who have safe sex only on profiles but have a lot of pictures of unprotected sex with numerous partners does surprise us still on here.
It’s as if people don’t want to admit they do bareback incase of being black listed by others  |
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By *3xDECouple
over a year ago
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"Tbh the amount of people who have safe sex only on profiles but have a lot of pictures of unprotected sex with numerous partners does surprise us still on here.
It’s as if people don’t want to admit they do bareback incase of being black listed by others "
We also noticed this. It’s a huge red flag in our eyes. Honesty is what we look for when asking people about ensuring we have safe sex.
I dont think it’s too much to ask for other to be more responsible for there actions |
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