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Kissing on a meet. Yes or no?
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Met a few women now where they don’t want to kiss.
I find it strange. Where do you stand?
For me it just heightens the experience and increases the sexual tension.
Are you one that doesn’t kiss on a meet? Love to know the reason. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
Has to be kissing unless you are bad at it |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
Morden |
Definitely kissing. It's very erotic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has to be kissing unless you are bad at it "
Agree fully. kissing for me is a huge part of the foreplay and such a turn on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No thanks |
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By *entDomMan
over a year ago
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Funny isn't it. A girl/woman would meet a guy on a night out and kiss him but not fuck him, yet they'd fuck him and not kiss him.
Strange logic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A definite yes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No thanks "
How come? Why don’t you kiss on a meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No thanks
How come? Why don’t you kiss on a meet?"
I don’t enjoy it with randoms.
I love it with a partner that I’m in a loving relationship with. I’m not looking for romance and intimacy from a meet, just scratching the occasional itch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m a fan of kissing as foreplay, I’d have trouble having sex without it  |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Met a few women now where they don’t want to kiss.
I find it strange. Where do you stand?
For me it just heightens the experience and increases the sexual tension.
Are you one that doesn’t kiss on a meet? Love to know the reason. "
You find it strange? Do you always find it strange if someone doesn't want the same things as you from sex? Or perhaps strange if they want something that you don't? |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
"No thanks
How come? Why don’t you kiss on a meet?
I don’t enjoy it with randoms.
I love it with a partner that I’m in a loving relationship with. I’m not looking for romance and intimacy from a meet, just scratching the occasional itch. "
Exactly this, although I do admit that I really enjoy kissing other women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would always kiss on a private meet but never in clubs….  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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100% yes. I couldn't meet without kissing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And then I had the worst case of tonsillitis and stopped kissing except for my usual
Partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would meet just for a sexy snog |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No thanks
How come? Why don’t you kiss on a meet?
I don’t enjoy it with randoms.
I love it with a partner that I’m in a loving relationship with. I’m not looking for romance and intimacy from a meet, just scratching the occasional itch. "
Do you not think it heightens the meet, even if its only an itch? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing is a must for us.
We know it's not for some and that's cool but if we know in advance there's no kissing, there's no meet. Oh and what's that all about, ok for f/f to kiss but no m/f kissing. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No thanks
How come? Why don’t you kiss on a meet?
I don’t enjoy it with randoms.
I love it with a partner that I’m in a loving relationship with. I’m not looking for romance and intimacy from a meet, just scratching the occasional itch.
Do you not think it heightens the meet, even if its only an itch?"
No because it’s not something that enjoy unless I’m emotionally attached to the person or even better, deeply in love. |
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Not worried either way tbh. Kissing is alright but not essential for me |
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Yes but only if the connection is right |
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"Met a few women now where they don’t want to kiss.
I find it strange. Where do you stand?
For me it just heightens the experience and increases the sexual tension.
Are you one that doesn’t kiss on a meet? Love to know the reason. "
We don't kiss on a meet.
It's not something we want to do with our casual partners.
Why do you want to know the reason? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, love to be kissed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us, if the other party/parties have a rule for no kissing we don't meet.
We accept everyone has their boundaries but for us kissing is a massive part of sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find kissing intimate…..all sex play is fine but kissing is for me and my partner. Strange I know…. |
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"Met a few women now where they don’t want to kiss.
I find it strange. Where do you stand?
For me it just heightens the experience and increases the sexual tension.
Are you one that doesn’t kiss on a meet? Love to know the reason. "
It's not for me, I really don't like it. Not that that's just the case for meets, I just don't like it in general. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing is a big part of sex for us, we've met couples that don't kiss and it just doesn't feel right. I (Mr) love giving oral too and theres nothing better than going down on a woman and then she taste's herself from your mouth and face 
Without kissing I feel it takes half the fun away |
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I find there can be an added air of sexual excitement in dates where it's just sex and no kissing. However other in other situations kissing adds to the overall experience.
For me it depends on the expectations of the meet. |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
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Yes! If I can't kiss or there's bad kissing, I am out! |
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Kissing is really important to me.
I love passion, and kissing to me is one of the most passionate acts, and is also the act that turns me on the most. Without it, sex would lose it's passion and be too mechanical. At that point I may as well just stay at home and have a wank. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn’t meet anybody whom doesn’t kiss. Hell if folk can insert/ accept another persons genitalia in whatever orifice….. can’t see why they can’t kiss!
The O’s |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t kiss. Some won’t like that but that’s our boundaries. |
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Never on a first meet
Second meet blow a kiss
Third meet kiss hand
Fourth kiss cheek
Only then if your entirely sure you like them should kiss on lips |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We wouldn’t meet anybody whom doesn’t kiss. Hell if folk can insert/ accept another persons genitalia in whatever orifice….. can’t see why they can’t kiss!
The O’s"
Maybe they don’t enjoy kissing but they do enjoy having something in whatever orifice? |
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Definitely kissing
Lots of kissing |
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No kissing means no meet for me.
I can't imagine sex without kisses it would just be wrong. |
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No kissing no sex for us. But everyone’s different- that’s what makes us all unique |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to kiss… it builds passion xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kissing is really important to me.
I love passion, and kissing to me is one of the most passionate acts, and is also the act that turns me on the most. Without it, sex would lose it's passion and be too mechanical. At that point I may as well just stay at home and have a wank."
This totally agree.
Yes it's not for you, but meeting without kissing does nothing for me.
I suppose like alot of sexual acts it's the person's personal choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d need good chemistry & connection to want to kiss any way. But if any kissing wasn’t good I’d never go further. Kissing always seems a good indicator of any spark and how good the rest may be. Great kissing usually equals great sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We wouldn’t meet anybody whom doesn’t kiss. Hell if folk can insert/ accept another persons genitalia in whatever orifice….. can’t see why they can’t kiss!
The O’s
Maybe they don’t enjoy kissing but they do enjoy having something in whatever orifice? "
Absolutely and each to their own. We get that, but our ‘own’ is ……. Snoggers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally yes but completely respect other’s boundaries and certainly wouldn’t simply expect to.
It’s not a deal breaker either way x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do. |
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Kissing is very important for me personally.. so it is a deal breaker. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing has to be involved
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing and lots of it for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do. "
Hahaha…..’a sex act’
So I carry out a sex act on the mother in law every Sunday morning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do. "
We don’t do it because we feel sex is just sex and kissing is more intimate so we keep that for us.
We’ve only ever had one person say it was a deal breaker so I don’t think it’s as big a problem as some on here make out. |
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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago
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"No kissing no meet "
Absolutely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Hahaha…..’a sex act’
So I carry out a sex act on the mother in law every Sunday morning. "
Do you tongue your mother?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No kissing no meet for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do. "
Kissing is not a sex act lol you can’t perform sex acts in the street!
It’s preference. If kissing is a deal breaker that’s entirely up for each person to decide! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the female/couple. Some people want full in seduction, snogging passion and kissing. Others want a good hard fucking without the intimacy of kissing.
Everyone draws their own line between love and sex and kissing comes down on either side of it depending on who you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely, we love kissing
xxx |
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do. "
It's not unique to kissing. When I said I don't really care about oral and think it's overrated, plenty of people asked why or said it's because I hadn't had a good BJ.
People just seem to struggle with the idea that not everyone is the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Hahaha…..’a sex act’
So I carry out a sex act on the mother in law every Sunday morning. "
You snog your mother in law? Each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on the female/couple. Some people want full in seduction, snogging passion and kissing. Others want a good hard fucking without the intimacy of kissing.
Everyone draws their own line between love and sex and kissing comes down on either side of it depending on who you are. "
Exactamundo  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Kissing is not a sex act lol you can’t perform sex acts in the street!
It’s preference. If kissing is a deal breaker that’s entirely up for each person to decide! "
Snogging is sexual. It’s grim but slightly acceptable to wed it on the street but it’s still sexual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Kissing is not a sex act lol you can’t perform sex acts in the street!
It’s preference. If kissing is a deal breaker that’s entirely up for each person to decide!
Snogging is sexual. It’s grim but slightly acceptable to wed it on the street but it’s still sexual. "
*see |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Hahaha…..’a sex act’
So I carry out a sex act on the mother in law every Sunday morning.
You snog your mother in law? Each to their own "
Twenty years ago I would’ve love to  |
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Kissing is not a sex act lol you can’t perform sex acts in the street!
It’s preference. If kissing is a deal breaker that’s entirely up for each person to decide!
Snogging is sexual. It’s grim but slightly acceptable to wed it on the street but it’s still sexual. "
Grim? That's a bit harsh.
I'd say beautiful, but everyone is different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Kissing is not a sex act lol you can’t perform sex acts in the street!
It’s preference. If kissing is a deal breaker that’s entirely up for each person to decide!
Snogging is sexual. It’s grim but slightly acceptable to wed it on the street but it’s still sexual.
Grim? That's a bit harsh.
I'd say beautiful, but everyone is different. "
I personally don’t enjoy seeing full on snogging in the street but I just look the other way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Kissing is not a sex act lol you can’t perform sex acts in the street!
It’s preference. If kissing is a deal breaker that’s entirely up for each person to decide!
Snogging is sexual. It’s grim but slightly acceptable to wed it on the street but it’s still sexual.
Grim? That's a bit harsh.
I'd say beautiful, but everyone is different.
I personally don’t enjoy seeing full on snogging in the street but I just look the other way. "
Saying that, I’ve only ever seen d*unken people snogging outside clubs at night and even then only a handful of times. If they were stood snogging in the middle of Asda, I think it may cause a reaction. |
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I don’t understand why people just can’t accept that everyone is different we kiss but we would never ask someone to explain their reasons as to why they don’t kiss .
We hardly see any kissing in group play and have never seen anyone walk out due to no kissing .I call bullshit on the amount of men that would supposedly turn down a meet due to no kissing.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Kissing is not a sex act lol you can’t perform sex acts in the street!
It’s preference. If kissing is a deal breaker that’s entirely up for each person to decide!
Snogging is sexual. It’s grim but slightly acceptable to wed it on the street but it’s still sexual.
*see"
Sexual and sex act are not interchangeable. They are NOT the same thing. You specifically said kissing was a sex act. Stroking someone’s thigh is sexual but it isn’t a sex act. You could argue that kissing is sexual but that doesn’t make it a sex act. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t understand why people just can’t accept that everyone is different we kiss but we would never ask someone to explain their reasons as to why they don’t kiss .
We hardly see any kissing in group play and have never seen anyone walk out due to no kissing .I call bullshit on the amount of men that would supposedly turn down a meet due to no kissing.."
It’s ALWAYS the way on these threads. As if there’s something wrong with people who don’t enjoy it. As I was trying to say, the same lack of acceptance isn’t applied to other activities that you’d carry out with a sexual partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Kissing is not a sex act lol you can’t perform sex acts in the street!
It’s preference. If kissing is a deal breaker that’s entirely up for each person to decide!
Snogging is sexual. It’s grim but slightly acceptable to wed it on the street but it’s still sexual.
*see
Sexual and sex act are not interchangeable. They are NOT the same thing. You specifically said kissing was a sex act. Stroking someone’s thigh is sexual but it isn’t a sex act. You could argue that kissing is sexual but that doesn’t make it a sex act. "
Ok, it’s an act that is sexual, better?
It’s a sexual activity, better?
The point remains even if you don’t agree with the terminology,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Met a few women now where they don’t want to kiss.
I find it strange. Where do you stand?
For me it just heightens the experience and increases the sexual tension.
Are you one that doesn’t kiss on a meet? Love to know the reason. "
I’ll be honest, as newbies to the scene it’s not something we’d thought about. However I (F, Mrs) can’t imagine being intimate with anyone without kissing them? It’s interesting reading everyone else’s thoughts on this actually |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Much prefer to kiss but always respectful of couples boundaries if they don't. Would never refuse to play if it's non kiss meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely into kissing, but not essential for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely if there is a connection |
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Hahaha…..’a sex act’
So I carry out a sex act on the mother in law every Sunday morning. "
In the context of this discussion it's a sex act. I'm assuming you don't kiss your mother in law as a prelude to sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Hahaha…..’a sex act’
So I carry out a sex act on the mother in law every Sunday morning.
In the context of this discussion it's a sex act. I'm assuming you don't kiss your mother in law as a prelude to sex"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No thanks
How come? Why don’t you kiss on a meet?
I don’t enjoy it with randoms.
I love it with a partner that I’m in a loving relationship with. I’m not looking for romance and intimacy from a meet, just scratching the occasional itch. "
This !!! |
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100% I’m kissing my meet, if I feel a connection obviously. Otherwise I make my excuses and leave. I won’t have sex with someone without kissing them first. Kissing is the ultimate foreplay in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think any man would realistically turn down a hot women because they can't kiss utter bollocks . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Hahaha…..’a sex act’
So I carry out a sex act on the mother in law every Sunday morning.
In the context of this discussion it's a sex act. I'm assuming you don't kiss your mother in law as a prelude to sex"
I’m quite sure that you know I wasn’t actually being serious |
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Hahaha…..’a sex act’
So I carry out a sex act on the mother in law every Sunday morning.
In the context of this discussion it's a sex act. I'm assuming you don't kiss your mother in law as a prelude to sex
I’m quite sure that you know I wasn’t actually being serious"
I do know that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have on mine,husband was ok with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a must for me but unfortunately lots don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In all honesty, it should be in the interest check list, along with anal, water sports etc
So people can see from the off and make their choice, whether to pursue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In all honesty, it should be in the interest check list, along with anal, water sports etc
So people can see from the off and make their choice, whether to pursue."
Agree |
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I didn't know not kissing someone was a thing until I came on here. It's the question I'm asked most by blokes on here I'm talking to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In all honesty, it should be in the interest check list, along with anal, water sports etc
So people can see from the off and make their choice, whether to pursue.
Agree "
Also Agree, best cleared up sooner rather than later. |
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By *o30Woman
over a year ago
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Kissing is a big turn on for me so its a must |
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Definitely yes, kissing tells you so much x |
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Is a yes from us both, wouldn't really enjoy sex with someone the same without kissing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a different perspective, why on earth would complete strangers want to kiss??
Some say its passionate etc, but surely people only get that great feeling of passion if there is at least some sort of attraction.
To have kissing as a Given is something we can't understand.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find kissing intimate…..all sex play is fine but kissing is for me and my partner. Strange I know…. "
Not strange, that's exactly how we feel about kissing. It's intimate and we prefer it to be
Between us.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find kissing intimate…..all sex play is fine but kissing is for me and my partner. Strange I know….
Not strange, that's exactly how we feel about kissing. It's intimate and we prefer it to be
Between us. "
Completely agree |
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I love kissing. I do know one lady in a couple that won’t. |
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Have to kiss on a meet sex feels weird and robotic when you don't kiss, appreciate it's not for everyone but I probably wouldn't want to meet if kissing was off the table |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From a different perspective, why on earth would complete strangers want to kiss??
Some say its passionate etc, but surely people only get that great feeling of passion if there is at least some sort of attraction.
To have kissing as a Given is something we can't understand. "
I’d never fuck someone unless there was attraction though! I get those who don’t like to kiss, they’re the ones I’d avoid though!
At the end of the day, different people need different things to be sexually stimulated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thank goodness everyone is different. It'd make this website socially acceptable & boring and noone wants that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the kissing demonstrates a personal attraction which I think makes for a better meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We both prefer if kissing is part of a meet with another couple.
We also understand the flip side because when we are alone kissing is one of the most important parts of our private/sex life.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We both prefer if kissing is part of a meet with another couple.
We also understand the flip side because when we are alone kissing is one of the most important parts of our private/sex life.
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And I’m 100% convinced that I’d want kissing to be a thing here ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Greatest honour is if in a first meet there is no kissing but on a second meet the rules are changed - sign of acceptance and enjoyment |
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over a year ago
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"I think the kissing demonstrates a personal attraction which I think makes for a better meet "
Get what you saying but to have it as a potential deal breaker of meeting someone of they say they don't, implies that kissing has to be a forgone conclusion as a must, before even setting eyes on eachother.?! |
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By *arvest 84Man
over a year ago
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kissing is a must, how can you have any kind of passion, fun and not kiss ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" kissing is a must, how can you have any kind of passion, fun and not kiss ? "
Very, very easily |
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Always hope too, I personally find kissing a huge turn on, really gets things, sexy and sensual, helps to stop it all feeling somewhat mechanical and just going through the actions but you have to respect boundaries, and if it’s off limits them’s the rules… |
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over a year ago
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Kissing my Beau is one of the most intense, intimate experiences & it always brings us into an emotionally loving moment. For this reason I/we are not big on intense snogging sessions with others. That said, we don't have a no kiss rule, as it's a natural foreplay & we love gentle kisses that start on the lips, flow down the neck & all over the body. We can easily go without too, substituting kisses with stroking/ teasing/ roaming hands, so we accommodate who we are playing with. Very much an 'each to their own preference' mindset, here. |
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over a year ago
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Understand that kissing is obviously great when there's sexual attraction BUT how can you be determined that you want to kiss, Before even arranging the meet..? |
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"Kissing my Beau is one of the most intense, intimate experiences & it always brings us into an emotionally loving moment. For this reason I/we are not big on intense snogging sessions with others. That said, we don't have a no kiss rule, as it's a natural foreplay & we love gentle kisses that start on the lips, flow down the neck & all over the body. We can easily go without too, substituting kisses with stroking/ teasing/ roaming hands, so we accommodate who we are playing with. Very much an 'each to their own preference' mindset, here. "
That’s a mega outlook, not too personal but sensual enough to get everyone heated up and turned on |
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Probably just want you for your dick ,but ain’t all bad |
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Love kissing, massive turn on for us x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the kissing demonstrates a personal attraction which I think makes for a better meet
Get what you saying but to have it as a potential deal breaker of meeting someone of they say they don't, implies that kissing has to be a forgone conclusion as a must, before even setting eyes on eachother.?! "
If I don’t feel enough attraction to kiss them, I certainly won’t fuck them! |
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over a year ago
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Some people just don't like it.
It's a huge turn off for me and I make it clear to anyone I play with that it is a hard limit. I don't find it intimate or sexual at all. I've found it to be awkward and unpleasant with everyone.
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"I think the kissing demonstrates a personal attraction which I think makes for a better meet
Get what you saying but to have it as a potential deal breaker of meeting someone of they say they don't, implies that kissing has to be a forgone conclusion as a must, before even setting eyes on eachother.?!
If I don’t feel enough attraction to kiss them, I certainly won’t fuck them! "
This, no sure I could get into it in a meet if I didn’t want to kiss (no attraction etc), though I’d respect if couples said they don’t. Some club scenarios might be different but then the whole vibe and situation often is too… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's just it - an organic, sensual, play experience but equally, preserving the emotional bonds we have as a couple. We didn't decide/ choose kissing to be so emotionally intense, it just IS between us, so it's something that's hard to want to share to a large extent with others. Light, flowing kisses are an *optional* compromise for keeping play natural & kinky...
I wonder, is kissing like a language though, with different people preferring different things from a kiss. So if your kiss style is in sync, then the implication is that your kink style is more likely to follow in sync too.. Though might not always be the case. Equally, no kissing is better than 'bad' kissing, due to not being in sync. A total turn off! |
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"Funny isn't it. A girl/woman would meet a guy on a night out and kiss him but not fuck him, yet they'd fuck him and not kiss him.
Strange logic"
Only if you think kissing and fucking feel the same and mean the same. |
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Yes. Kissing is everything!! If you can’t kiss you won’t have the passion!! |
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Girl on girl kissing is a must for us but personally, I have zero interest in kissing another guy and I know N has no interest in kissing other women. We’re not full swap either.
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For me personally swinging is about shared intimacies, so kissing is important. |
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"Met a few women now where they don’t want to kiss.
I find it strange. Where do you stand?
For me it just heightens the experience and increases the sexual tension.
Are you one that doesn’t kiss on a meet? Love to know the reason. "
I don't tend to kiss on majority of meets..reason being I have to really feel comfortable with someone to do so... and that's unlikely on a meet. To be fair I do tend to just do group sex where no kissing is required. Its partly why I don't meet 121 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course x"
Me too good comment x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing is great - I find it heightens the horn x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes"
Yes, absolutely yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s got to be yes. The kids can in itself set the whole tone and dynamic for the intimacy ahead and I love to kiss anyway |
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over a year ago
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Yes absolutely intimacy at its best |
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I didn’t realise this would cause so much debate. Clearly it is a dividing topic.
In response to the why do I want to know.
Curious I guess. I always like to know reasons behind decisions purely from a psychological perspective. |
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By *s2walesCouple
over a year ago
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A big yes from us it definitely adds to the atmosphere....xx |
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Kissing is a yes for us as long as your personal hygiene is good! If you smell its a no haha! |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Kissing is not a sex act lol you can’t perform sex acts in the street!
It’s preference. If kissing is a deal breaker that’s entirely up for each person to decide!
Snogging is sexual. It’s grim but slightly acceptable to wed it on the street but it’s still sexual.
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Sexual and sex act are not interchangeable. They are NOT the same thing. You specifically said kissing was a sex act. Stroking someone’s thigh is sexual but it isn’t a sex act. You could argue that kissing is sexual but that doesn’t make it a sex act. "
So if it isn't a sex act why is is so necessary during sex? Kissing is an intimate act, and I'm not looking for intimacy with the strangers I fuck. And, surprisingly after reading this thread, no man has ever refused to fuck me given the opportunity. |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
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Not on a social meet, definitely on a physical one though |
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"What’s the big deal about people who don’t like kissing?
No one kicks up a fuss and says “I don’t understand it” etc etc when people say they don’t enjoy oral, or anal, or missionary, or anything else actually.
It’s just another sex act, some don’t like it, some do.
Kissing is not a sex act lol you can’t perform sex acts in the street!
It’s preference. If kissing is a deal breaker that’s entirely up for each person to decide!
Snogging is sexual. It’s grim but slightly acceptable to wed it on the street but it’s still sexual.
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Sexual and sex act are not interchangeable. They are NOT the same thing. You specifically said kissing was a sex act. Stroking someone’s thigh is sexual but it isn’t a sex act. You could argue that kissing is sexual but that doesn’t make it a sex act.
So if it isn't a sex act why is is so necessary during sex? Kissing is an intimate act, and I'm not looking for intimacy with the strangers I fuck. And, surprisingly after reading this thread, no man has ever refused to fuck me given the opportunity. "
Isn't fucking an intimate act? 
It is to me. Much more so than kissing. I can't just fuck someone for the sake of it.
I'm intimate and passionate with everyone I have a meet with (intimacy and passion for me does not relate to love and feelings), and to me kissing is a big part of that. |
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I wouldn't turn down a meet if there was no kissing, but it would interest me less and I'm much less likely to accept the offer. |
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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago
New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies |
I will kiss women on a meet (if they are into it), but not men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve said this often. I like to kiss a woman o find desirable. If I fancy her, I want a snog.
Imagine not having a snog and then we meet up and get sexy and she wouldn’t kiss me….that’s something that would be jarring for me. So I’ve not sure I can go for all that.
I make it pretty clear from the start of I fancy someone, I’m 40 odd years old, ‘are we smoochin’ or what? |
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By *zlakMan
over a year ago
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Kissing is all part of the build up for me. But fresh breath is a must! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes please.
I get why some won't kiss.
Really, I do.
But having someone kiss you as their fingers softly trace your skin?
Or *that* kiss, the gentle, explorative one as I can feel their cock slowly sliding inside of me and then the tempo changes and the kissing is almost frenzied and you can't get enough of every sensation?
I couldn't not have that. |
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"Yes please.
I get why some won't kiss.
Really, I do.
But having someone kiss you as their fingers softly trace your skin?
Or *that* kiss, the gentle, explorative one as I can feel their cock slowly sliding inside of me and then the tempo changes and the kissing is almost frenzied and you can't get enough of every sensation?
I couldn't not have that."
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Totally yes for us, whilst respecting those who don't it's part of the intimacy of being with the other person..
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"Totally yes for us, whilst respecting those who don't it's part of the intimacy of being with the other person..
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A very big part I should add, something so very erotic and arousing.. |
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over a year ago
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"Yes please.
I get why some won't kiss.
Really, I do.
But having someone kiss you as their fingers softly trace your skin?
Or *that* kiss, the gentle, explorative one as I can feel their cock slowly sliding inside of me and then the tempo changes and the kissing is almost frenzied and you can't get enough of every sensation?
I couldn't not have that."
…or having the the start of their climax in your hands as they stare into your eyes, and then you pull in for that kiss losing yourself in their moans of pleasure all of your lips as they enjoy wave after wave of an orgasm all over your fingers.
I couldn’t not have that. |
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over a year ago
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Have to admit I really don’t like kissing men. Let’s be honest, half of them have halitosis and the other half have faces like pan scourers even after they claim to have shaved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes please  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love to kiss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy a kiss, especially in foreplay. But I suppose it all depends on the other person, and their likes/dislikes. |
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Woulndt meet knowing they would t want kissing. Have had a meet where it wasnt discussed but became obvious they didnt want kissing. Kinda runied kt for me. |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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There has to be kissing, or no meet! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In all honesty, it should be in the interest check list, along with anal, water sports etc
So people can see from the off and make their choice, whether to pursue.
Agree "
Having read so many different preferences on this, I agree with you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing is the upper persuasion to a lower invasion
I couldn't contemplate meeting anyone who didn't want to kiss on a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the lady is happy to..
HELL YES. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes please.
I get why some won't kiss.
Really, I do.
But having someone kiss you as their fingers softly trace your skin?
Or *that* kiss, the gentle, explorative one as I can feel their cock slowly sliding inside of me and then the tempo changes and the kissing is almost frenzied and you can't get enough of every sensation?
I couldn't not have that.
…or having the the start of their climax in your hands as they stare into your eyes, and then you pull in for that kiss losing yourself in their moans of pleasure all of your lips as they enjoy wave after wave of an orgasm all over your fingers.
I couldn’t not have that. "
Agreed but this scenario is not best with a stranger. The real power of what u describe is created when there is an emotional bond, not just physical. |
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over a year ago
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Yes for me |
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For us it's a absolute must or I don't think that partner would be for us |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Had a three way kiss in a club, it was stunning.
Think there is a big difference between a sexual kiss and a loving kiss.
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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago
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I love kissing a woman, especially if her husband is watching |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes please.
I get why some won't kiss.
Really, I do.
But having someone kiss you as their fingers softly trace your skin?
Or *that* kiss, the gentle, explorative one as I can feel their cock slowly sliding inside of me and then the tempo changes and the kissing is almost frenzied and you can't get enough of every sensation?
I couldn't not have that.
…or having the the start of their climax in your hands as they stare into your eyes, and then you pull in for that kiss losing yourself in their moans of pleasure all of your lips as they enjoy wave after wave of an orgasm all over your fingers.
I couldn’t not have that.
Agreed but this scenario is not best with a stranger. The real power of what u describe is created when there is an emotional bond, not just physical. "
I don’t meet strangers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not kissing is like having a cherry bakewell without the cherry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only kissing we do is between the ladies ... I won't kiss her partner ( Mrs) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not kissing is like having a cherry bakewell without the cherry"
For others it's like finding a bug where the cherry is supposed to be. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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Definitely kissing for sure.. a lot can be found out in that first kiss alone |
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over a year ago
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I absolutely adore deep kissing in a bi mmf |
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"I absolutely adore deep kissing in a bi mmf "
There's no meet without kissing. It's what gets me hard |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If nothing else happened it would certainly be enough for me to have a soft, slow kiss at the end |
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"Not kissing is like having a cherry bakewell without the cherry
For others it's like finding a bug where the cherry is supposed to be. "
this... it seems to be the one thing people don't understand someone not doing. I don't need people to understand it.. just respect that its unlikely to happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I kissed a guy at the end of a social once (he was very hot).
It made me really excited to fuck him but then sadly I quit my job and no longer spent any time in London.
*insert crying emoji here* |
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Depends on the chemistry but generally I meet people that I reckon I’ll get along with so usually it’s a big yes from me! Love a good kiss  |
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