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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Myself and Tom are just getting back into the scene after Covid.... Within our first week, I've been reminded of how much I HATE people not reading our profile before messaging us!
So we've specifically said we are keen on single females (yeah I know how sparse unicorns are), and we've blocked single blokes from messaging us as we were shocked at the number of messages when we first did fab.
We never blocked couples as we enjoy meeting them in clubs, but clearly communicate that we don't play in couples.
We don't want to block them as we have made some friends in the scene. But our first week back in nearly 2.5 years and we have couples messaging us, then stating how disappointed they are when we say we don't play with couples.
Why can't people read profiles?
If you could, would you read our profile and let us know how to change this to make it clearer? Or should we just block couples? We've not said NO COUPLES in our profile, just set settings and blurb for females only.
We'd be so grateful for your feedback, and we continue to want to socialise with couples in the lifestyle as you are all awesome!
xx
Niki
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m with you, mine says no married men but guess what, yep they message saying they are discreet, use your filters, that’s honest advise  "
This is the thing - if I use the filters, we can't speak to genuine couples that are respectful of our choices and just want a social.
Just wish people weren't chancers on here.
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Just put it at the top of the blurb. If people get offended then you likely don't want to hear from them anyway.
And tbh i didn't read it all even as a single fem
I know we complain when people write nothing but I looked at it and came back to your post.
It's a fine line between enough clear information and having the essential hidden to far within..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Myself and Tom are just getting back into the scene after Covid.... Within our first week, I've been reminded of how much I HATE people not reading our profile before messaging us!
So we've specifically said we are keen on single females (yeah I know how sparse unicorns are), and we've blocked single blokes from messaging us as we were shocked at the number of messages when we first did fab.
We never blocked couples as we enjoy meeting them in clubs, but clearly communicate that we don't play in couples.
We don't want to block them as we have made some friends in the scene. But our first week back in nearly 2.5 years and we have couples messaging us, then stating how disappointed they are when we say we don't play with couples.
Why can't people read profiles?
If you could, would you read our profile and let us know how to change this to make it clearer? Or should we just block couples? We've not said NO COUPLES in our profile, just set settings and blurb for females only.
We'd be so grateful for your feedback, and we continue to want to socialise with couples in the lifestyle as you are all awesome!
xx
Niki
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I can answer this in 2 words 
Lazy Cnuts   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Myself and Tom are just getting back into the scene after Covid.... Within our first week, I've been reminded of how much I HATE people not reading our profile before messaging us!
So we've specifically said we are keen on single females (yeah I know how sparse unicorns are), and we've blocked single blokes from messaging us as we were shocked at the number of messages when we first did fab.
We never blocked couples as we enjoy meeting them in clubs, but clearly communicate that we don't play in couples.
We don't want to block them as we have made some friends in the scene. But our first week back in nearly 2.5 years and we have couples messaging us, then stating how disappointed they are when we say we don't play with couples.
Why can't people read profiles?
If you could, would you read our profile and let us know how to change this to make it clearer? Or should we just block couples? We've not said NO COUPLES in our profile, just set settings and blurb for females only.
We'd be so grateful for your feedback, and we continue to want to socialise with couples in the lifestyle as you are all awesome!
xx
Niki
I can answer this in 2 words
Lazy Cnuts "
Wow!!! xN |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just put it at the top of the blurb. If people get offended then you likely don't want to hear from them anyway.
And tbh i didn't read it all even as a single fem
I know we complain when people write nothing but I looked at it and came back to your post.
It's a fine line between enough clear information and having the essential hidden to far within..
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Fair feedback, thank you so much - i'll shorten it!
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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago
Leicestershire |
I am TOTALLY with you on this. My profile clearly states I want to see a face pic and I am anal only. I dont do pussy sex. The amount of guys who send one liners saying "I want to fuck your pussy" is just intolerable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately, there are so many that are just out for a quick fuck .and message everyone near them them same sort message without even reading anything on your profile, we get it all the time .
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Thank goodness it's not just us then! xN |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am TOTALLY with you on this. My profile clearly states I want to see a face pic and I am anal only. I dont do pussy sex. The amount of guys who send one liners saying "I want to fuck your pussy" is just intolerable "
Thank you, and yes, it is when you get a message back saying how disappointed they are...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I get it all the time too. It’s so frustrating. Most of the time I delete but occasionally I’ll tell them to read my profile
I don’t think there is a foolproof way to stop it. "
Tom replied in a really polite manner. I would have probably asked them to read our profile....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Myself and Tom are just getting back into the scene after Covid.... Within our first week, I've been reminded of how much I HATE people not reading our profile before messaging us!
So we've specifically said we are keen on single females (yeah I know how sparse unicorns are), and we've blocked single blokes from messaging us as we were shocked at the number of messages when we first did fab.
We never blocked couples as we enjoy meeting them in clubs, but clearly communicate that we don't play in couples.
We don't want to block them as we have made some friends in the scene. But our first week back in nearly 2.5 years and we have couples messaging us, then stating how disappointed they are when we say we don't play with couples.
Why can't people read profiles?
If you could, would you read our profile and let us know how to change this to make it clearer? Or should we just block couples? We've not said NO COUPLES in our profile, just set settings and blurb for females only.
We'd be so grateful for your feedback, and we continue to want to socialise with couples in the lifestyle as you are all awesome!
xx
Niki
I can answer this in 2 words
Lazy Cnuts
Wow!!! xN"
I'm not wrong, sad reality is that most look at pics and message 
Gent x |
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Happens all the time on fab. We get messaged from people who are looking for the exact opposite of what we are. No amount of "well we had to ask" is going to change our preference. Been like this for a while on fab now. Easier to go to a club these days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another one we have noticed of late is that there are a lot of couple profiles that are actually single men too .
You just have to ignore the bad "
There's a lot of female profiles that are men too 
The shame of it 
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"Another one we have noticed of late is that there are a lot of couple profiles that are actually single men too .
You just have to ignore the bad
There's a lot of female profiles that are men too
The shame of it
Gent"
Yeap there sure is ,one good way to avoid is check there verifications out prior to replying to any .
Unfortunately thete is no way of stopping the unwanted messages though |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
Wirral |
I try and reply to anybody/everybody who writes to us - whether it's to deliver good news or bad.
If its blatantly clear that the writer has just been lazy and not read our profile then they just get deleted, simple as!
Lazy in messaging will probably indicate laziness in 'other' aread too |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Just add one line.
"Not looking to meet couples."
Simple as that. Our profile is pretty clear on our situation at the moment but we still get messages asking to meet. They just get deleted.
It's part of online life that you'll get chancers and folk who just skip the all important job of reading and who just go straight to the pictures. Such is life.
Best advice is to do what we do when actively looking for meets. Be proactive, browse profiles, block those you'll never be interested in and send messages yourself to those you take a fancy to.
You're far more likely to find the right people that way rather than waiting for them to seek you out.
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"Another one we have noticed of late is that there are a lot of couple profiles that are actually single men too .
You just have to ignore the bad
There's a lot of female profiles that are men too
The shame of it
Gent"
There are a lot of single male profiles that are actually women who use them to keep an eye on their competition and various other reasons so some of those male profiles that don't turn up to meets aren't actually male.
Just as there are a number of couples profiles where the male half is no longer involved and the woman continues to meet using their previous veries.
I don't send messages so every conversation is started by women and couples who contact me. In 5 years here 90 percent of those couples have been female led and I've only ever spoken to her and never him.
Many times when I ask about him they either admit that he is no longer meeting or they end the conversation.
My profile is worded as it is because of the number of people who can't be arsed reading so if they get in touch I know straight away if they have read it or not and it's often a short conversation.
If you don't want to meet couples op you need to make that very clear in the first paragraph. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another one we have noticed of late is that there are a lot of couple profiles that are actually single men too .
You just have to ignore the bad
There's a lot of female profiles that are men too
The shame of it
Gent
Yeap there sure is ,one good way to avoid is check there verifications out prior to replying to any .
Unfortunately thete is no way of stopping the unwanted messages though "
Verifications don't always give a clear picture, we've met couples where it seemed like they were great through the messaging etc, but in actual fact they were hard work
Fab should only have a few things hard for everyone's enjoyment |
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"Myself and Tom are just getting back into the scene after Covid.... Within our first week, I've been reminded of how much I HATE people not reading our profile before messaging us!
So we've specifically said we are keen on single females (yeah I know how sparse unicorns are), and we've blocked single blokes from messaging us as we were shocked at the number of messages when we first did fab.
We never blocked couples as we enjoy meeting them in clubs, but clearly communicate that we don't play in couples.
We don't want to block them as we have made some friends in the scene. But our first week back in nearly 2.5 years and we have couples messaging us, then stating how disappointed they are when we say we don't play with couples.
Why can't people read profiles?
If you could, would you read our profile and let us know how to change this to make it clearer? Or should we just block couples? We've not said NO COUPLES in our profile, just set settings and blurb for females only.
We'd be so grateful for your feedback, and we continue to want to socialise with couples in the lifestyle as you are all awesome!
xx
Niki
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Just put at the top of your profile in capitals that you're not looking for couples. Then delete their messages. I didn't make it to the end of your profile I'm sorry because it's really long. Well written though x |
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I can’t stand people not reading my profile, I find it rude. If they cannot afford me time to read my profile and get to know me then I don’t believe you’re actually interested in me therefore I cannot afford them my time |
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Sometimes I’m polite, sometimes I’m sarcastic it depends what mood I’m in.
Some of them are actually quite apologetic.
You’d think tho that if they wanted the best chance of success they’d read the profile and try to understand the person/people they are writing to.
Mostly I think they’re just lazy or get excited by the pictures lol |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Couples don't always read profiles I agree and I have them blocked .
I'm straight ,so not interested in meeting them ,but still got chancers asking me to meet them cos he wants to see her with another woman.
Maybe block them and look for any you find appealing for socials etc
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone in the forum recommended I change my Looking For to ages 98-99 so it stops the unwanted messages, then you can still see who’s viewed your profile. If you end up seeing a couples profile has viewed you, and the woman meets alone, for example, you can message them and start a convo. You could always block and hide, too, but that’s not as much fun! |
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"Someone in the forum recommended I change my Looking For to ages 98-99 so it stops the unwanted messages, then you can still see who’s viewed your profile. If you end up seeing a couples profile has viewed you, and the woman meets alone, for example, you can message them and start a convo. You could always block and hide, too, but that’s not as much fun! "
that solve loads of problems..easy fix |
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"Myself and Tom are just getting back into the scene after Covid.... Within our first week, I've been reminded of how much I HATE people not reading our profile before messaging us!
So we've specifically said we are keen on single females (yeah I know how sparse unicorns are), and we've blocked single blokes from messaging us as we were shocked at the number of messages when we first did fab.
We never blocked couples as we enjoy meeting them in clubs, but clearly communicate that we don't play in couples.
We don't want to block them as we have made some friends in the scene. But our first week back in nearly 2.5 years and we have couples messaging us, then stating how disappointed they are when we say we don't play with couples.
Why can't people read profiles?
If you could, would you read our profile and let us know how to change this to make it clearer? Or should we just block couples? We've not said NO COUPLES in our profile, just set settings and blurb for females only.
We'd be so grateful for your feedback, and we continue to want to socialise with couples in the lifestyle as you are all awesome!
xx
Niki
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Profiles are hard to do. We have changed ours several times to reflect our changing interests and to deflect messages.
Your profile is very well written but it is almost confusing. Your wish for Females only is hidden mid sentence. Make it stand out. You have 5 published verifications from couples. If they were only Social meets, do you need them?
Many couples are fab couples where the Female may meet alone, so trying to stop couples messaging, seems to reduce the chances of finding your elusive 'unicorn'?
B&D xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Another one we have noticed of late is that there are a lot of couple profiles that are actually single men too .
You just have to ignore the bad
There's a lot of female profiles that are men too
The shame of it
Gent
There are a lot of single male profiles that are actually women who use them to keep an eye on their competition and various other reasons so some of those male profiles that don't turn up to meets aren't actually male.
Just as there are a number of couples profiles where the male half is no longer involved and the woman continues to meet using their previous veries.
I don't send messages so every conversation is started by women and couples who contact me. In 5 years here 90 percent of those couples have been female led and I've only ever spoken to her and never him.
Many times when I ask about him they either admit that he is no longer meeting or they end the conversation.
My profile is worded as it is because of the number of people who can't be arsed reading so if they get in touch I know straight away if they have read it or not and it's often a short conversation.
If you don't want to meet couples op you need to make that very clear in the first paragraph. "
Thank you for your feedback and great profile! xN |
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By *he SmithsCouple
over a year ago
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Our profile might be considered blunt but if it’s not read before we’re messaged we have no hesitation with the delete or block key.
Mrs Smith is seriously hacked off with the constant dross we receive on Fab but it does make an engaging reply stand out.
Fab is cheap and I guess you get what you pay for. It’s a bit like a junk shop. Lots of tat but occasionally you’ll find a gem… |
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"Finding your profile even harder to read now….
If that’s your way of saying you blocked him that’s petty
Isis"
I mean, it's probably because they're UNLOS. But assume the worst and judge away if you like  |
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I always read profiles before chatting whether starting a chat or replying. Been swinging for many years both as married and now as a single male. Have learnt how to find the fakes, and there are many lol, mostly single females and couples lol but also many men. But to be honest there are so many profiles with very little information. Sadly many people will skip through reading a profile and know there is many suggesting one thing and turns out to be different so not surprising so many will say hi in the hope of getting some good responses. I dont think the problem is that people don't read a profile but more that most profiles are inadequately written. |
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