FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > Not my situation but what do guys do when there partner ain't into the same idea of swinging ?
Not my situation but what do guys do when there partner ain't into the same idea of swinging ?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Luckily for me my wife loves the idea and it's all we do and role-play .
I see alot of guys on here saying their wife's aren't into it at all that must be gutting but then again I suppose you know no different? If my wife didn't take to my fantasy and shut me off straight away I suppose I'd still keep it a fantasy for myself but is there men who generally go off their partner because she isn't into your fantasy or ideas ? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I think sexual compatibility is something that should be discussed and reviewed all the way through a partnership/marriage. Rosie and I have been together for almost 20 years and our sexual interests have developed, but its not essential to us that we like the same things. Some things stay fantasy and that’s okay. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
A very difficult situation. Not sure there is a real solution.
Years ago we encountered an Asian couple in a club. The female was stunning and dressed in the skimpiest see thru lingerie. The guy had eyes for every female in the club but his partner sat in tears and was clearly uncomfortable being there dressed like that in full view.
Pushing or forcing a reluctant partner to participate really doesn’t work too well in our view. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"A very difficult situation. Not sure there is a real solution.
Years ago we encountered an Asian couple in a club. The female was stunning and dressed in the skimpiest see thru lingerie. The guy had eyes for every female in the club but his partner sat in tears and was clearly uncomfortable being there dressed like that in full view.
Pushing or forcing a reluctant partner to participate really doesn’t work too well in our view."
That’s horrific |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"A very difficult situation. Not sure there is a real solution.
Years ago we encountered an Asian couple in a club. The female was stunning and dressed in the skimpiest see thru lingerie. The guy had eyes for every female in the club but his partner sat in tears and was clearly uncomfortable being there dressed like that in full view.
Pushing or forcing a reluctant partner to participate really doesn’t work too well in our view.
That’s horrific "
It was. The girl was stunning but the whole club gave them a wide berth.
We think it’s obvious when one or the other are not entirely happy being involved and there is some coercion taking place |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
For us swinging is entirely about sharing each other's enjoyment. If one of us stopped enjoying it we would both stop. Conversely if one of us had not liked the idea in the first place we would never have started. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"For us swinging is entirely about sharing each other's enjoyment. If one of us stopped enjoying it we would both stop. Conversely if one of us had not liked the idea in the first place we would never have started."
That's it spot on |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"For us swinging is entirely about sharing each other's enjoyment. If one of us stopped enjoying it we would both stop. Conversely if one of us had not liked the idea in the first place we would never have started.
That's it spot on"
This. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
My wife and I have an Ethically Non Monogamous relationship and if one of us isn’t interested in doing something we can find someone who is so neither of us feel like we are missing out or pressured into doing something that we have no interest in. It works great for us. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"A very difficult situation. Not sure there is a real solution.
Years ago we encountered an Asian couple in a club. The female was stunning and dressed in the skimpiest see thru lingerie. The guy had eyes for every female in the club but his partner sat in tears and was clearly uncomfortable being there dressed like that in full view.
Pushing or forcing a reluctant partner to participate really doesn’t work too well in our view."
. I came across a similar situation many years ago the lady was very quiet and didn’t feel comfortable and would not make eye contact with me.The male was more talkative.They left after about a hour.They too we’re also Asian |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Talk them and find a compromise "
 talking is the hard bit as well as keeping both parties involved. If one party still seeking encounters outside of the so called swinging partnership behind the others back even after they’ve tried to be open and encouraging about it all you have to question whether it’s time to part company and move on elsewhere….? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
This is why my wife and I play separately and have a non monogamous relationship we have different ideas on what we want from swinging but are absolutely devoted to each other. This way we win all round |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"This is why my wife and I play separately and have a non monogamous relationship we have different ideas on what we want from swinging but are absolutely devoted to each other. This way we win all round "
Works well if all parties agree, too often one rule for one and not the other  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
