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Hi all, just wondered whether any couples on here have long term arrangements, friendships, relationships - whatever you want to call it - with a regular third?
Mmf, particularly bi mmf, is my favourite way to play and I have enjoyed many over the years. But they have usually been one-offs, and I can’t help but think it would be nice to have repeat performances - in my experience sex usually gets better when you build a connection and understanding, learn what turns your partners on and how to push their buttons. Plus repeat performances give you more time to explore all the delightfully dirty acts and scenarios your naught hearts desire! And frankly finding new people takes time and effort.
I’m sure there will be a few couples on here who have ‘regulars’. If anyone is happy to share it would be very interesting to hear your experiences and how you fell into something regular.
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Although it’s not exactly what you asked in this thread we’ve had long term female partners that have been exactly what you’re describing.
If we ever stumble across the right male to welcome into our sexual hobbies in this way then we’d love to have that.
It’s been quite a surprise since we started welcoming males into our dynamic in that the genuinely respectful and suitable men a very hard to find.
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I was in a long bi mmf relationship with a fantastic couple
And it lasted for 6 years
Unfortunately they split up 2 years ago
I am still in touch with both of them
Still looking for a similar bi couple the fun was unbelievable
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I enjoyed a fantastic long term relationship with a married couple where I was the 3rd person in their sex life. It lasted about 2.5 / 3 years but then their eldest child got too old to be sent off to babysitters and the fun had to end. |
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"Although it’s not exactly what you asked in this thread we’ve had long term female partners that have been exactly what you’re describing.
If we ever stumble across the right male to welcome into our sexual hobbies in this way then we’d love to have that.
It’s been quite a surprise since we started welcoming males into our dynamic in that the genuinely respectful and suitable men a very hard to find.
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Thanks for sharing. It is surprising how often I hear that comment from couples and see it in the forums. It’s pretty frustrating for the good guys out here that there seem to be so many idiots out there giving us a bad name and making people wary. |
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"I enjoyed a fantastic long term relationship with a married couple where I was the 3rd person in their sex life. It lasted about 2.5 / 3 years but then their eldest child got too old to be sent off to babysitters and the fun had to end."
Shame! Fun while it lasted though. |
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"Hi there, again not exactly what you are asking but I would love a long term sexual relationship with two mature guys.
How wonderful and fulfilling that would be.  "
How wonderful indeed! If I find a second I will let you know! ?? |
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We like the idea of becoming friends with someone for regular meets but we've always found it never works in reality
Well he getting messages everyday asking when we are next meeting despite us having said it will be a monthly thing
Or they moan if we advertise a meet, because we should have asked them first if they were free etc
People always seem to want more that we want to offer so we stick to one offs |
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"We like the idea of becoming friends with someone for regular meets but we've always found it never works in reality
Well he getting messages everyday asking when we are next meeting despite us having said it will be a monthly thing
Or they moan if we advertise a meet, because we should have asked them first if they were free etc
People always seem to want more that we want to offer so we stick to one offs "
Yeah there need to be simple rules that are respected by all parties but it’s not much to ask is it. |
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We have been on fab for about 18 months and over that time we have worked out that what you have described is exactly what we are looking for, hence changing our profile to explain we are a polyamorous couple.
The idea of having a third male and/or female excites us immensely but unfortunately most guys just don't get that we are looking for friends we can socialise with and spend time with both in and out of the bedroom.
We get that people have a life outside of this lifestyle and we are not looking at being in someone's pocket but fun with long term friends is so so much better.
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Don't you think that the male joining the couple gets more out of it than the couple though.. I mean, as a mfcouple it's quite fun to vary who joins us. It could become samey otherwise..??? |
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"Don't you think that the male joining the couple gets more out of it than the couple though.. I mean, as a mfcouple it's quite fun to vary who joins us. It could become samey otherwise..??? "
I see your point. Although if you find the right person and you all feel free to explore all your kinks, I feel like it should take quite a number of meets before you get bored! |
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We have had a few long term males over the years. Initially they started off as one off's and if we found they weren't to needy then invited back for a second session. With our life outside of FAB and family we would always make sure they would fit and work around that. As already mentioned these males are quite hard to find combined with a hot wife makes our selection quite tricky. On the positive with the already mentioned previous males we have had some amazing times. |
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that’s interesting point - i was going to start a thread just on this topic. I have been playing MFM with a couple for at least 8 years !
Your point is really well made - as the sex has got better and better because we have all become such good friends. We have great chat at bar/dinner and are always texting each other.
And the sex is fantastic as i know what their kinks are and they know what mine are… you lose all sense of shyness -
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"that’s interesting point - i was going to start a thread just on this topic. I have been playing MFM with a couple for at least 8 years !
Your point is really well made - as the sex has got better and better because we have all become such good friends. We have great chat at bar/dinner and are always texting each other.
Exactly my findings with the right playmates / friends
And the sex is fantastic as i know what their kinks are and they know what mine are… you lose all sense of shyness -
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"I enjoyed a fantastic long term relationship with a married couple where I was the 3rd person in their sex life. It lasted about 2.5 / 3 years but then their eldest child got too old to be sent off to babysitters and the fun had to end."
Sounds perfect |
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"I enjoyed a fantastic long term relationship with a married couple where I was the 3rd person in their sex life. It lasted about 2.5 / 3 years but then their eldest child got too old to be sent off to babysitters and the fun had to end.
Sounds perfect"
It was, they were a great couple |
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We’ve had regular males over the years that have become good friends as well as lovers. They do take a lot of finding and it’s something all parties have to work at; however the rewards are worth it ! |
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"We’ve had regular males over the years that have become good friends as well as lovers. They do take a lot of finding and it’s something all parties have to work at; however the rewards are worth it !"
Totally agree…. |
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"Don't you think that the male joining the couple gets more out of it than the couple though.. I mean, as a mfcouple it's quite fun to vary who joins us. It could become samey otherwise..??? "
Precisely which is why when we've had the conversations with guys we've always said meets would me once a month at most but we will still get a txt on a few days later saying I'm free tonight if you'd like me to pop over then even you politely do no they ask if your free at the weekend etc
It makes you not want to see people more than once & you end up wanting to block people you actually had a decent first meet with because they start becoming a pest |
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"Don't you think that the male joining the couple gets more out of it than the couple though.. I mean, as a mfcouple it's quite fun to vary who joins us. It could become samey otherwise..???
Precisely which is why when we've had the conversations with guys we've always said meets would me once a month at most but we will still get a txt on a few days later saying I'm free tonight if you'd like me to pop over then even you politely do no they ask if your free at the weekend etc
It makes you not want to see people more than once & you end up wanting to block people you actually had a decent first meet with because they start becoming a pest "
That must be annoying - also dont these guys have other things to do …like chores/shopping at the weekend…most weekends i am busy at Waitrose (posh i know!) |
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"Don't you think that the male joining the couple gets more out of it than the couple though.. I mean, as a mfcouple it's quite fun to vary who joins us. It could become samey otherwise..???
Precisely which is why when we've had the conversations with guys we've always said meets would me once a month at most but we will still get a txt on a few days later saying I'm free tonight if you'd like me to pop over then even you politely do no they ask if your free at the weekend etc
It makes you not want to see people more than once & you end up wanting to block people you actually had a decent first meet with because they start becoming a pest
That must be annoying - also dont these guys have other things to do …like chores/shopping at the weekend…most weekends i am busy at Waitrose (posh i know!)"
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Waitrose anywhere near me |
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When we’ve thought about it we conclude that a “regular” would necessarily become a part of our “real” lives.
Obviously you have to chat right?
The more you chat the more you learn about each other and the more involved you become in each other’s lives.
There is therefore a definite divide for us and it the price of this is less understanding of particular sexual needs then so be it.
For us the sex is enhanced by having a third join us and we’re confident enough to get what we want out of the encounters.
We always make sure though that our guest leaves happy too. |
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When we’ve thought about it we conclude that a “regular” would necessarily become a part of our “real” lives.
Obviously you have to chat right?
The more you chat the more you learn about each other and the more involved you become in each other’s lives.
There is therefore a definite divide for us and it the price of this is less understanding of particular sexual needs then so be it.
For us the sex is enhanced by having a third join us and we’re confident enough to get what we want out of the encounters.
We always make sure though that our guest leaves happy too. "
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We enjoyed a MMF relationship for 10+ years - great fun whilst it lasted,
Now looking for another buddy, but really struggling to find any male that fits the bill and willing to make the effort. |
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"We enjoyed a MMF relationship for 10+ years - great fun whilst it lasted,
Now looking for another buddy, but really struggling to find any male that fits the bill and willing to make the effort."
Too bad you are looking for white guy! Would love a long tern friendship with couple like you! |
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I was in an mfm situation for a few years and it formed by having two boyfriends whom I met separately and together. Pretty amazing experience really and lots of fond memories but unfortunately could not maintain long term. Also sadly the men weren't bi enough / didn't fancy each other! So bi mmf still on my poor bucket list |
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I've been meeting the same couple for three and a half years now and can identify with those posters above who have emphasised how a long term relationship can build up trust and exploration of boundaries in a way that you can't in one-offs.
We've progressed from very vanilla stuff to DVP and husband has discovered a bi side he never knew he had and wife is happy with for us to indulge that when we are together.
I think I'm very lucky and don't intend to do anything to rock the boat, so the few other meets I've had have been with their OK. |
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We have a regular "extra" Bi male friend who joins us when we are all up for it. This has been an arrangement we have all enjoyed for some years. We also have another Bi male friend who joins us slightly les frequently. Occasionally its a MMFM arrangement.
We are still looking for a mature lady to join in either a FMF FMMF or FMMMF
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I’ve couples I meet a few times a year. Our meets normally next include food and good conversation as well as ….
I have a hot wife friend I see now and again too. Same as above. Far more to meeting people than just sex. |
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Our MMF friend was a friend of ours before we went to bed, our arrangement lasted just under 19 years but even though we don't fuck as a 3 anymore we all still get on well and remain really good friends. |
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"Hi all, just wondered whether any couples on here have long term arrangements, friendships, relationships - whatever you want to call it - with a regular third?
Mmf, particularly bi mmf, is my favourite way to play and I have enjoyed many over the years. But they have usually been one-offs, and I can’t help but think it would be nice to have repeat performances - in my experience sex usually gets better when you build a connection and understanding, learn what turns your partners on and how to push their buttons. Plus repeat performances give you more time to explore all the delightfully dirty acts and scenarios your naught hearts desire! And frankly finding new people takes time and effort.
I’m sure there will be a few couples on here who have ‘regulars’. If anyone is happy to share it would be very interesting to hear your experiences and how you fell into something regular.
Thanks in advance! "
We would love to find a guy for regular mmf fun  trouble is you have to find a decent guy out of all the ones that are just after one offs  and when you do find one all 3 of you have to like each other  |
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"Although it’s not exactly what you asked in this thread we’ve had long term female partners that have been exactly what you’re describing.
If we ever stumble across the right male to welcome into our sexual hobbies in this way then we’d love to have that.
It’s been quite a surprise since we started welcoming males into our dynamic in that the genuinely respectful and suitable men a very hard to find.
Thanks for sharing. It is surprising how often I hear that comment from couples and see it in the forums. It’s pretty frustrating for the good guys out here that there seem to be so many idiots out there giving us a bad name and making people wary."
The last line ..I feel you mate,same tought here. |
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over 28yrs of swinging and mainly meeting guys on here we have 5 long term friends whom i play with regular so thats how hard it can be to find someone who fits to what your looking for ..its not a case of just looking for a shag there has to be attraction and getting on but there has to always be that drama free or guys who get clingy or want what they cant have ...many have been cut loose for becoming clingy or try to get too involved cant be having any of that crap ....very good friends with benifits we call it so hard to find even harder to keep as many many will tell you ..
as for couples we know loads and have some very good friends including those we first met 28 years ago ...women well thats harder again as i play with women who are mainly gay who love the fact im married and and can be open in front of hubs whom they love too .. |
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bad guys give themselves a bad name they do not ruin it for others ....you are responsible for yourself so dont blame others for you getting nowhere thats purely down to you .... guys only have one major problem on here and that is that there are far to many men 100 to 200 men per woman/couple thats alot of guys getting nowhere anytime soon |
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This is a really interesting thread. For me personally I feel balanced when I have at least two regular friends/lovers. It keeps things fresh and exciting too. I'm a solo-poly and up until a few months ago that's exactly the situation that I was in. However both were single ladies so I was still always on the look out for a regular bicurious or cuckold couple to have fun with. I agree that with couples when you factor in kids busy lives etc once a month is a nice balance to go for. Although twice a month would be nice too its not something I'd ever push for. I agree that needy is soooo not sexy, yuk!! |
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Yes I've had some great long term relationships and friendships with couple's.
Tends to more than sex to really work though. If you don't enjoy each others company enough to not have sex together, then it probably won't last the test of time. |
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"Don't you think that the male joining the couple gets more out of it than the couple though.. I mean, as a mfcouple it's quite fun to vary who joins us. It could become samey otherwise..???
I see your point. Although if you find the right person and you all feel free to explore all your kinks, I feel like it should take quite a number of meets before you get bored! "
Then why don’t you find a female partner and offer that relationship to her and another male? It seems you want your cake and eat it without really investing in what real couples do to strengthen and develop their relationship. What I see from you is, you want your jollies without putting in the work and now complaining like a spoiled little child. You want it little boy then you build it!! I have no doubt you probably think you are the better lover in this relationship also. Come and go as you please cause all kinds of issues then disappear back to your safe haven and then return when you feel fit and well. All I see is you floating around like fairy dust, talking about right dynamics. There’s plenty of people in Poly relationships so what’s stopping you. All of the above |
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Assuming that’s you and your long term partner and not you being invited into a couples relationship. Because if it’s the later it’s no wonder you don’t understand why. Obviously two people in this relationship are fully committed and trust and protect each other whilst the third doesn’t really respect their dynamic and is most probably more interested in their own satisfaction or bragging rights. That’s why they have been left out the communication. They never put the work nor effort and risk into the other peoples bond and this was recognised by the couple. And now your on own. Poetic , and yet you still don’t understand why |
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